Zamkati
- 1. Tengani uphungu wa a Stephen Covey
- 2. Poyambirira osati mochedwa
- 3. Perekani njira zothetsera mavuto, osati mavuto
- 4. Onetsani zoyembekezera
- 5. Musamapite kokagonera mnzanu
Pali magawo ambiri osuntha muukwati wautali komanso wokhutiritsa. Pamafunika kukondana ndi kulemekezana wina ndi mnzake. Kuti chikondi chikhalebe chamoyo, kuwona mtima ndi kudaliranso ndizofunikanso.
Ngati mutha kukhala moyo wanu ndi munthu wina, payenera kukhala malo azinthu zonse zomwe zili pachibwenzi chanu.
Koma popanda kulumikizana mokwanira muubwenzi, banja lanu likhoza kulephera zomwe mumayembekezera.
Kulankhulana bwino mu maubwenzi ndi guluu lomwe limasunga chilichonse m'malo mwake, kulola kuti chikondi chikule ndikudalirana.
Ngati simungathe kufotokoza za chikondi chanu kwa wina, angadziwe bwanji? Ngati simungathe kulumikizana momasuka komanso moona mtima ndi wokondedwa wanu, zingatheke bwanji kuti pakhale chidaliro?
Ichi ndichifukwa chake kukonza maluso olumikizirana ndizofunikira kuti banja lanu liziyenda bwino. Pogwirira ntchito momwe mungayankhulirane ndi mnzanu, ubale wanu umakula.
Chifukwa chake ngati mukudabwa momwe mungalankhulirane bwino muubwenzi? Kapena mungatani kuti muzilankhulana bwino m'banja?
Tiyeni titenge nthawi kuti tiwone maluso 5 oyankhulirana kwa maanja omwe muyenera kuyamba lero omwe angasinthe momwe inu ndi mnzanu mumalankhulirana.
Gwiritsani ntchito malangizo othandizirawa tsiku ndi tsiku, ndipo zotsatira zake ziziyimira zokha.
1. Tengani uphungu wa a Stephen Covey
Covey, mlembi wa The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, akuti pankhani yolumikizana, muyenera kufunafuna kaye kuti mumvetsetse kenako kuti mumveke.
Izi zitha kugwiranso ntchito momwe mumalumikizirana ndi aliyense, koma potengera momwe mumagwirira ntchito m'banja mwanu komanso momwe mungayankhulirane muubwenzi, malangizowa ndiabwino.
Tonsefe tili ndi chizolowezi chocheza nthawi yathu yochuluka “kumvera” wina akuganizira momwe tingachitire.
M'malo mokhala pansi ndikutenga zonse zomwe tikufuna, timapeza liwu limodzi, chiganizo, kapena chidule cha zokambirana zawo ndikupanga zisankho pazomwe tibwerera.
Chifukwa cha izi, sitimva zonse zomwe zanenedwa. Ngati ndi choncho, ndiye kuti sitiyankha bwino.
Nthawi ina mukadzakhala pakati pa zokambirana zabwino ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu, pewani kulingalira kuti mungayankhe bwanji asanamalize kulankhula.
Ingokhala pansi, mvetserani, ndipo mvetserani zomwe akunena. Mukachita izi, yankhani mogwirizana.
2. Poyambirira osati mochedwa
Osazengereza kukambirana momasuka. Chifukwa chomwe samakhalira ndi chifukwa mwina ayenera kuchitika.
Ngati amuna anu sakulemerera monga bambo, fotokozerani zakukhosi kwanu m'njira yomangirira. Ngati mkazi wanu sanakhaleko posachedwapa, ndipo zikusokoneza ubale wanu, lankhulani.
Mukalola kuti zokambiranazi zizikhala pashelefu, mavutowo amafalikira. Mukazindikira vuto, ndikuwona kuti likuyenera kuthetsedwa, samalirani bizinesi.
3. Perekani njira zothetsera mavuto, osati mavuto
Pali njira zambiri zolumikizirana, ndipo mutasankha kuti muyenera kumalankhula mozama ndi mnzanu, onetsetsani kuti mumayankhula ndi njira yothetsera yankho.
Mukayamba kukambirana nawo powauza momwe iwo aliri opanda nkhawa kapena momwe akhala akuchitira nkhanza koma osapereka yankho lililonse, mukuwanyalanyaza onsewa.
Yerekezerani izi: banja lili pakati pa mkangano pamene mkazi amauza mwamuna wake ...
“Sikuti ndiwe munthu wokonda zosangalatsa yemwe ndinakwatirana naye.”
Vutoli lafotokozedwa momveka bwino, koma palibe yankho lolankhulapo. Zinthu ziwiri ziyenera kuchitika tsopano.
Mwamunayo angakhumudwe kapena kuteteza. Atha kukalipa ndi zifukwa zomwe sanakhalire choncho, kumadzudzula mkazi wake, ndikuwonjezera poyizoni pazokambirana.
Akhozanso kubwerera ndikudziyandikira, osachita chidwi ndi vutoli.
Pazochitika zonsezi, vuto lomwe lanenedwa silidzathetsedwa. Kuuza nkhani yanu ndi china chake kuli bwino, koma khalani okonzeka ndi zomwe mungachite kuthetsa vutoli.
M'malo mongouza mwamunayo kuti sakukhutira ndi umunthu wake wakuchepa, mwina ayenera kuwalangiza zomwe angachite limodzi kapena kupatsa mwayi mwamunayo kuti apezenso zosangalatsa zakale.
Chifukwa chake china chomwe mungapindule ndi maluso oyankhulirana ndikukhala ndi yankho lomwe lingapezeke kuti mupereke chidwi chatsopano pazokambirana zomwe zili kale zovuta.
Apo ayi, kunena vuto osayesa kupeza yankho ndikungodandaula.
4. Onetsani zoyembekezera
Mukuyembekezera chiyani kuchokera kwa okondedwa wanu komanso kuchokera ku ubale wanu?
Ubwenzi wanu umadalira kwambiri muyeso yazomwe mukuyembekezera. Ena a ife timalakwitsa kuganiza kuti mbali zina za ubale "sizinganene."
Ngati sananene mokweza, ndiye kuti simungakhumudwe ngati mnzanuyo sakwaniritsa zomwe mukuyembekezera.
Ngati mukufuna kukhala ndi ana, dziwitsani. Ngati simukufuna kunyengedwa, uzani mnzanu. Ngati muli ndi zikhulupiriro zina pazaubwenzi wanu, muuzeni mnzanuyo.
Osapusitsidwa poganiza kuti, "Ayenera kudziwa bwino." Ngati simunafotokoze bwino, mulibe chifukwa choti mupirire mukakwiya. Kulankhulana ndichinsinsi cha Kukhazikitsa zoyembekezera muubwenzi uliwonse.
5. Musamapite kokagonera mnzanu
Pali zotsalira zomwe zimatsalira pambuyo pa kusagwirizana. Mukasankha kukhala moyo wanu wonse ndi munthu wina, muyenera kukankhira mabatani nthawi ndi nthawi.
Mukamaliza kukangana pafupi ndi nthawi yogona, onetsetsani kuti mwathetsa kapena kupeza kutsekeka pamutuwo musanadumphe ndikugona.
Ichi ndi chimodzi mwamalangizo ofunikira kwambiri pamaubwenzi omwe muyenera kukumbukira. Osangogona osathetsa mikangano. Simuyenera kusangalala ndi zotsatirazo, komabe, koma simungakhale okwiya.
Kutsekedwa musanayese kutseka, kungapangitse kusiyana kwakukulu m'mene tsiku lotsatira kapena laubwenzi wanu lidzasewera.
Mukafika pamapeto omvera pazokambirana zanu, mudzadzuka muli osakwiya ndipo mutha kubwerera kumalo achikondi tsiku lomwelo.
Ngati simuthetsa kusamvana kwanu musanatseke maso anu, mwina mutha kudzakwiya ndi mnzanu, wokonzeka kuzungulira 2.
Kodi banja lanu ndi labwino ndikulipangira lamulo lothetsa kusamvana kwanu musanagone. Zingachepetse mkwiyo womwe ungatsatire tsiku lotsatira ngati simunafike pamalo otsekera usiku wapitawu.
Maluso asanu oyankhulirana pakati pa abale atha kuthandizira kulimbitsa ubale wa inu nonse. Yesani iwo ndikusangalala ndi kusiyana.
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