Kulimbitsa thupi. Ndi mawu omwe amangotanthauza "thanzi" ndipo mutati muwerenge nkhani zaposachedwa kwambiri zokhudzana ndi thanzi la anthu omwe amakhala ku America kokha, mwina mungapeze kuti achikulire awiri mwa atatu amawonedwa kuti ndi onenepa kwambiri kapena onenepa kwambiri . Chodabwitsa pa izi ndi kunenepa kwambiri kumatha kuyambitsa mavuto amtima, matenda ashuga komanso zovuta zina zambiri zathanzi.
Komabe, kukhala wathanzi sikutanthauza kukhala ndi thanzi labwino. Tengani ukwati wanu, mwachitsanzo. Kodi ndi liti pamene munatenga mphindi kuti muganizire za thanzi lake? Popeza akuti 40-50% ya maukwati aku America amathetsa banja, ndikofunikira kuti muchite zonse zomwe mungathe kuti banja lanu likhale lotetezeka, losangalala komanso labwino.
Ngati mungafune malangizo angapo olimbitsira banja omwe angakupangitseni inu ndi anu kukhala okwatirana, nazi zisanu zotsimikizika:
1) Kulankhulana bwino
Kupatula pamavuto azachuma komanso kukondana, chimodzi mwazomwe zimayambitsa kusudzulana ndi kulumikizana bwino. Kuti anthu awiri azitha kuthandizana wina ndi mnzake, onse akuyenera kufotokoza zakukhosi kwawo komanso kumvetsera zomwe wokondedwa wawo akunena. Munthu wanzeru nthawi ina anati "Anthu amasintha amaiwala kuuzana." Ichi mwina ndichimodzi mwazomwe zimayambitsa kusudzulana kwa imvi (maukwati akulu). Ndi zotsatira za zaka za anthu okhala m'nyumba imodzi koma osalumikizana kwenikweni. Ngati mukufuna kukhala ndi banja labwino, kulumikizana ndikofunikira.
2) Uphungu wa maanja
Tsoka ilo, pamakhalabe kusalidwa pokhudzana ndi upangiri waukwati. Komabe, ndichimodzi mwazinthu zabwino kwambiri zomwe mungachite m'banja lanu. Pali maphunziro ochuluka omwe akuwonetsa kuti maanja omwe amawona othandizira kapena othandizira, kangapo pachaka, amakhala ndi mwayi wopambana kuposa maanja omwe satero. Kuwona katswiri woyenerera ndikubwezeretsa ndalama muukwati wanu chifukwa amatha kukupatsani malangizo ndi kuzindikira momwe mungapangire banja lanu kukhala labwino.
3) Chibwenzi chofanana
Nazi zina zomwe mungadabwe nazo. Akuti maukwati pakati pa 15-20 peresenti amawonedwa ngati "osagonana". Izi zikutanthauza kuti maanja omwe ali mkati mwawo amangogonana pafupifupi nthawi khumi (kapena zochepera) pachaka. Kupatula kuchuluka kwakuthupi komwe kumadza chifukwa chokhala ndi moyo wogonana mokhazikika (kuphatikiza kuchepa kwa nkhawa, kuwotcha mafuta ndi mphamvu m'thupi lanu), kuyanjana pafupipafupi kumakulitsanso kulumikizana kwanu kwamalingaliro ndi uzimu. Zimakuthandizani kulumikizana kwambiri ndi mnzanu zomwe zimapindulitsa nthawi zonse.
4) Madeti okhazikika (ndi tchuthi)
Chinanso chomwe chimafunika kukumbukira pankhani yakukhala olimba pabanja ndichoti nthawi yabwino ndiyofunika kwambiri. Izi zati, ndizofunikira zonse zomwe zimachitika pakubwera kuntchito, ana ndi china chilichonse chomwe chingakhale pa nthawi yanu, nthawi yabwino ndichinthu chomwe muyenera kukhala ndicholinga. Konzani masiku sabata iliyonse. Kamodzi pachaka, pitani kutchuthi (popanda achibale ena kapena abwenzi). Zinthu zonsezi zidzakupatsani mwayi kuti musasokonezedwe ndi zomwe zikuchitika pafupi nanu. Mwanjira imeneyi, mutha kumangoyang'ana wina ndi mnzake. Banja lililonse limafunikira. Banja lililonse liyeneranso.
5) Kukonzekera zamtsogolo
Mukafunsa anthu omwe akhala m'banja zaka 30 kapena kupitilira apo pazinthu zomwe amamva chisoni zikafika zaka zawo zoyambirira ali m'banja, atha kunena kuti amalakalaka atakhala ndi nthawi yokwanira pokonzekera tsogolo lawo. Kupsinjika kwachuma kumatha kuchita zambiri paukwati uliwonse. Ichi ndichifukwa chake ndikofunikira kukhazikitsa zolinga zikafika pongotuluka ngongole, kukhazikitsa akaunti yosungira ndikukonzekereranso kupuma pantchito. Mukamakonzekera zambiri zamtsogolo, mudzakhala otetezeka komanso otetezeka pakadali pano. Kukonzekera zamtsogolo ndichimodzi mwazinthu zabwino kwambiri zomwe mungachite kuti banja lanu likhale losangalala, labwino komanso lokwanira.
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