Zamkati
- Kulimbana kuti muyeso wodziimira payekha ndikukhala mbali ya banja
- Chisoni
- Kuyankhulana kwa zoyembekezera
- Mgwirizano
US ndi dziko lomangidwa pamalingaliro a kudziyimira pawokha komanso kudzikonda.
Anthu ambiri aku America adayamba kukhala ndi ufulu wodziyimira pawokha ndikuchita ntchito zawo asanayambe chibwenzi. Kufunafuna kukhala payekha kumatenga nthawi komanso kuleza mtima.
Tsopano kuposa ndi kale lonse anthu akuyembekezera nthawi yaitali kuti "akhazikike."
Malinga ndi US Census Bureau, zaka zapakati paukwati mwa akazi mu 2017 zinali 27.4, ndipo amuna, 29.5. Ziwerengerozi zikuwonetsa kuti anthu amatha nthawi yambiri akumanga ntchito kapena kuchita zinthu zina m'malo mokwatirana.
Kulimbana kuti muyeso wodziimira payekha ndikukhala mbali ya banja
Popeza kuti anthu akudikirira nthawi yayitali kuti alowe muubwenzi wapamtima, sizosadabwitsa kuti anthu ambiri amawoneka osalimba akamaphunzira momwe angayendetsere ufulu wawo ndikukhala mbali ya banja.
M'mabanja ambiri, kusintha kaganizidwe kawo za kuganiza za "ine" kukhala "ife" kumakhala kovuta kwambiri.
Posachedwa ndinali kugwira ntchito ndi banja lotomerana, onse azaka za makumi atatu zoyambirira pomwe zovuta izi zidachitika mobwerezabwereza muubwenzi wawo. Chochitika chimodzi choterocho chinali chosankha chake chopita kukamwa mowa ndi abwenzi ake madzulo atasamukira ku nyumba yatsopano ndikumusiya kuti ayambe ntchito yovutitsa yekha.
Madzulo a tsiku lomwelo amayenera kumuyamwitsa ataledzera.
Pachigawo chathu, amamutcha kuti ndiwodzikonda komanso wosaganizira ena pomwe amapepesa chifukwa chomwa mowa kwambiri, koma adalephera kuwona chifukwa chomwe adakhumudwira kupita kokacheza ndi abwenzi ake usiku womwewo.
Malinga ndi momwe amawonera, adakhala zaka 30 zapitazi akuchita ndendende zomwe amafuna kuchita koma momwe amafunira. Sanakumanepo nako kufunika kolingalira za mnzake ndi momwe angamverere chifukwa cha zisankho zomwe adapanga.
Malinga ndi malingaliro ake, amadziona kuti ndi wopanda pake ndipo adamasulira machitidwe ake kutanthauza kuti samamuyamikira kapena kugwiritsa ntchito nthawiyo kuti apange moyo wawo limodzi. Funso lidakhala loti aphunzire bwanji kusamalira kusintha kwawo kuchoka pa "ine" kupita ku "ife" komabe kukhalabe ndi malingaliro aumwini?
Imeneyi ndi nkhani yodziwika kwa mabanja ambiri, ndipo mwamwayi, pali maluso ochepa omwe angaphunzire kuti athane ndi vutoli.
Chisoni
Luso lofunikira kwambiri kuti mulidziwe bwino mu ubale uliwonse ndi luso lomvera chisoni.
Chisoni ndikumvetsetsa ndikugawana zomwe wina akumva. Izi ndizomwe ndimagwira ntchito ndi mabanja. Chisoni chimamveka chosavuta koma chimakhala chovuta kwa anthu ambiri.
Mukamayeseza ndi mnzanu, khalani ndi nthawi yomvetsera ndikumvetsetsa zomwe akunena musanayankhe. Imani ndi kudziyerekezera muli m'mavuto awo, ndipo mverani malingaliro omwe amabwera.
Izi zikuthandizani kudziwa komwe mnzanuyo angakhale akuchokera. Ngati simukumvetsa, fotokozerani mnzanu kuti mukuvutika kumvetsetsa momwe akumvera, ndipo pemphani kuti akufotokozereni.
Chizoloŵezi chomvera ena chisoni chimapitilira ndipo chimaphatikizapo kumangoganizira za wokondedwa wanu ndikuyesayesa kuganizira zomwe zitha kuchitika.
Kuyankhulana kwa zoyembekezera
Luso lina lofunika kulidziwitsa ndikulankhula ndi mnzanu zomwe mukuyembekezera.
Ntchito yosavuta imeneyi imathandizanso kulowa mu "ife".
Ngati kasitomala pamwambapa adangouza chibwenzi chake kuti akudziwa kuti akuyembekeza kuti adzafuna kugona usiku woyamba mnyumba yatsopanoyo chifukwa akufuna kusangalala naye nthawiyo, zikadamutsegulira kuti amuganizire amafuna ndi zosowa.
Ngati timvetsetsa zomwe anzathu akuyembekeza, zimatitsogolera kulingalira njira zosiyanasiyana zomwe tingakwaniritsire zosowazo ndikuziika patsogolo paubongo.
Anthu sakonda kuwerenga, ndipo pokhapokha titauza anzathu zomwe tikufuna, sitingayembekezere kuti adziwe kuti tikufuna atichitire zinazake.
Mgwirizano
Njira ina yabwino yoyambira kulingalira za "ife" ndikupanga ntchito limodzi yomwe imakhudza mgwirizano monga kuphika chakudya, kumanga china chake, kapena kuthetsa mavuto.
Zochita zamtunduwu sizimangolimbikitsa kukhulupirirana komanso zimakupangitsani kudalira mnzanu kuti akuthandizireni poyenda njira zosiyanasiyana za momwe mungapezere mapulojekiti ndikupanga njira yanu limodzi.
Monga banja, ndinu othandizana naye ndipo muyenera kudziona kuti ndinu ogwirizana.
M'malo mwake, kukhala wothandizana naye komanso kukhala ndi mnzake wothandizana naye yemwe angamamatire kwa inu mosasamala kanthu za phindu lalikulu lokhala "ife" m'malo mokhala "ine."
Chifukwa chake onetsetsani kuti mwasiya, khulupirirani mnzanu kuti akumvereni chisoni, afunseni zomwe mukufuna, muziyesetsa kuchita zinthu mogwirizana, ndikusangalala kukhala "ife".