Zamkati
- 1. Chotsani kulumikiza
- 2. Kusapezeka kumapangitsa mtima kukula
- 3. Tumizani muzowonjezera
- 4. Idyani
- 5. Lankhulani chilankhulo chawo
- 6. Khalani Achangu
Ambiri mwa anthu okwatirana nthawi ina paukwati wawo amadzipeza ali ndi 'malo owuma,' ndipo mukatero, mwina mudzapezeka mukuyang'ana ndikudabwa zomwe mungachite kuti muchitepo kanthu kuchipinda.
Chifukwa chake, kuti tikuthandizireni, tikugawana zinsinsi zisanu ndi ziwiri zabwino zogonana
1. Chotsani kulumikiza
Tonse ndife olakwa pakuika kwambiri mafoni athu ndi zida zathu kotero kuti timaiwala kuti kulumikizana kwenikweni ndi komwe kulipo kunja kwa ukadaulo ngatiwu.
Masiku ano ndikosavuta kuyika 'Ndimakukondani' pa facebook's mnzanu - kunena kuti mumakondana kwambiri pazanema koma mwanjira ina kulengeza kwachikondi kumeneku sikungakupatseni 'inde' kuchipinda.
Nawu lingaliro.
Yesani kulandira wokondedwa wanu kunyumba ndi kumpsompsona ndi kumukumbatira mwachikondi. Afunseni momwe tsiku lawo linayendera. Khalani ndi maola ochepa pomwe mumangoyang'anizana, kumangolankhula. Iwalani dziko lapansi m'mafoni anu ndikuwona dziko lomwe lili patsogolo panu.
Ichi ndi chinthu chimodzi chosavuta chomwe mosakayikira chikuthandizani kuti mugonane.
2. Kusapezeka kumapangitsa mtima kukula
Mukakhala masiku anu ndi mnzanu kwa zaka zambiri, ndizosapeweka kuti nthawi zina, inu ndi mnzanu mumakhalira limodzi.
Mutha kuzindikira kuti mwasandulika wokhala nawo wabwino kwa anzanu ena ofunika. Mwinamwake mwakhala mukukhala nthawi yochuluka kwambiri pamodzi, kuphatikizapo nthawi yanu yaulere, kuti mwina mukusamalirana komanso moyo wanu pamodzi.
Bwanji osawonongera pang'ono kwa wina ndi mnzake? Phunzirani chizolowezi chatsopano, kulembetsa m'makalasi, kulowa nawo mabungwe, kucheza ndi anzanu. Nthawi yomwe mwakhala mukucheperana idzakuthandizani nonse kuyembekezera nthawi yomwe mudzakhale limodzi.
Ngati mukuchita zotsutsana koma osakhala ndi nthawi yochulukirapo ndi mnzanu, khalani ndi nthawi yocheza ndi mnzanu.
Konzani ndikudzipereka kuti mudzakhalepo usiku wamasiku onse (ziribe kanthu zomwe zimachitika m'moyo wanu, kapena kuchuluka kwa momwe simukumvera). Onani kanema, khalani ndi pikiniki paki, khalani ndi chakudya chamadzulo m'nyumba kapena muchite zomwe zaka zikwizikwi zikuchita pakadali pano 'Netflix and chill,' kutanthauza, khalani kunyumba ndikuwonera makanema m'nyumba pomwe nonse mumasangalala ndikusangalala!
Zilibe kanthu kuti ntchitoyo ndi yotani, bola ngati mukungocheza ndi mnzanu-palibe zosokoneza zomwe zimaloledwa ndipo onetsetsani kuti mukuyang'ana pazomwe mumakopeka ndi mnzanu. Pasanapite nthawi, mudzayamba kuzindikira kuti zokopa zimayamba kukhala zokopa ndipo musanadziwe, mudzayamba kugonana.
3. Tumizani muzowonjezera
Kodi mwayesapo kuyambitsa kapena kubweretsanso zopititsa patsogolo zosangalatsa m'chipinda chogona, monga zoseweretsa?
Mwinanso mwayesapo ndi lingaliro loti mugwiritse ntchito zida ngati izi kale kapena mwayesapo kale ndikuzindikira momwe zakuthandizirani inu ndi mnzanu kuti mulowe mumkhalidwe wokonda kwambiri.
Kukhala wololera m'chipinda chogona kungakuthandizeni kuti muwoneke wokonda kugonana komanso kukhala womasuka kufotokoza zakukhosi kwanu kungalimbikitsenso wokondedwa wanu kuti azikhala omasuka kunena zawo, ndipo izi zimalimbikitsa kukhulupirirana komanso kuyanjana m'banja lanu.
4. Idyani
Chinsinsi chachinayi cha momwe mungachitire zogonana m'banja mwanu chagona pa chakudya! Sangalalani ndi chakudya ndi mnzanu - chakudya chomwe chili ndi aphrodisiacs.
Aphrodisiacs ndi zakudya kapena zinthu zilizonse zomwe zimakulitsa zilakolako zogonana. Zina mwazotchuka kwambiri komanso zosavuta kuzifikapo ndi chokoleti chakuda ndi vinyo.
Khalani ndi usiku wamadzulo ndikuziyika pazosankha. Zakudya izi sizingakupangitseni kuti mukhale osangalala, komanso ndizabwino kukupangitsani kuti mukhale ogonana.
5. Lankhulani chilankhulo chawo
Yatsani mnzanu poyesa kulankhula chilankhulo chawo.
Gary Chapman, mlembi wa zilankhulo zotchuka za '5 Love Languages,' akuti kuyankhula ndi wina wanu wofunikira sikungophatikizira mawu koma m'malo mwake, njira zina zambiri zimatumizira mawu okweza kwa mnzanu.
Mukamvetsetsa momwe mnzanu amalankhulira, inunso chitani chimodzimodzi kwa iwo, zomwe zingapangitse kuti mukhale ogwirizana komanso kuthandizana.
Ndikofunikira kudziwa momwe wokondedwa wanu amalankhulira nanu.
Nazi zina mwanjira zomwe makolo kapena anzanu nthawi zambiri amalankhula nanu:
- Mawu otsimikiza
- Machitidwe a ntchito
- Kupereka mphatso
- Kuthera nthawi yabwino nanu
- Kukhudza thupi.
Mnzanuyo amalankhulanso nanu zogonana munjira zosiyanasiyana - ngati muphunzira momwe amalankhulirana mchipinda chogona zingakuthandizeni kuti mukhale ogonana m'banja lanu.
6. Khalani Achangu
Kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi kumatha kuwonjezera libido, chisangalalo chogonana, ndikukhutira.
Sayansi kumbuyo kwake ndikuti kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi kumathandizira kukulitsa magazi kutuluka mthupi lonse. Kuphatikiza apo, kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi kumawonjezera kuchuluka kwama mahomoni monga testosterone, hormone yomwe imathandizira kukulitsa kugonana kwanu kapena libido.
Ndizosatsutsika kuti mutakolola zabwino zakukondweretsani mnzanuyo zimakupezetsani chidwi chakuchita zogonana ndikupangitsa kuti mukhale ndi mwayi wogonana.
Pali chifukwa chake amati 'maanja omwe amachita masewera olimbitsa thupi limodzi, khalani limodzi.'