Zamkati
- Izi zimapitanso mbali inayo
- Musaiwale kuti mukukwatira banja lina
- Nonse muyenera kuchita kuti zigwire ntchito
- Khalani okonzekera zodabwitsa
Nthawi yofunika kwambiri yomwe timakumana nayo m'miyoyo yathu ndi pamene tikwatirana, koma ndi m'badwo uti wabwino komanso wotetezeka kwambiri wokwatirana?
Ndizosadabwitsa kuti zaka zomwe mudzakwatirane nthawi zambiri zimaneneratu za kutha kwa chisudzulo. Chikhulupiriro chakuti kukwatiwa msanga kwambiri kumayambitsanso chisudzulo choyambirira chaphunziridwa ndi akatswiri azachikhalidwe pazaka zambiri, ndipo lipoti lochitidwa ndi Organisation for Economic Co-Operation and development likutsimikizira izi.
Mabanja omwe asankha "kumanga mfundo" azaka zopitilira 25 ali ndi mwayi wocheperako 50% wosudzulana, poyerekeza ndi mabanja omwe akwatiwa ali ndi zaka zoyambirira za 20.
Malinga ndi kuwona kwachuma, izi zikuwoneka kuti ndizomveka chifukwa chanzeru pantchito, maanja omwe adapeza kutchuka kale apindulanso ndikukhazikika kwachuma.
Mabwenzi omwe ndi achichepere komanso odziwa zambiri sakhala otetezeka zamtsogolo zamtsogolo, osatinso zaubale momwe amachita.
Achinyamata komanso achinyamata azaka zoyambirira za m'ma 20 nthawi zambiri amatsutsidwa ndi mabanja awo komanso anzawo am'banja chifukwa cha chisankho chachikulu chomwe akufuna kuchita m'miyoyo yawo. Izi zitha kuwapanikiza, komanso kuphatikiza nkhawa za kukhala akadali achichepere komanso osadziwa zambiri, nthawi zambiri ukwati umadzetsa chisudzulo mzaka zikubwerazi.
Izi zimapitanso mbali inayo
Kafukufuku wopangidwa ndi katswiri wazikhalidwe za anthu Nicholas H. Wolfinger wasonyeza kuti maanja omwe amakwatirana mochedwa, azaka zopitilira 35, nawonso amatha kupatukana asanakwane.
Anthu omwe amadikirira motere amakhala ndi chizolowezi cholephera muukwati wawo chifukwa amakhala ndi chizolowezi chocheza ndi anzawo, motero kulephera kuthana ndi akazi awo kwanthawi yayitali ndikupangitsa mikangano m'banja.
Chifukwa maubale ndi anthu ndizovuta, palibe yankho lokhazikika la funsoli.
Zaka zoyenera kuti amuna akwatire ndi zaka 32 ndipo akazi ndi zaka 28, koma izi zimadalira zosintha zambiri, zomwe zimaphatikizapo kuzindikira ndi kusamalirana komwe okwatirana amakhala nako kwa anzawo komanso ntchito.
Zina mwazinthu zomwe tikukulimbikitsani muyenera kuzidziwa ndikuzizindikira musanasankhe zochita ndi:
Musaiwale kuti mukukwatira banja lina
Mukasankha kulumikiza moyo wanu ndi wina mudzalandiranso banja lawo.
Izi zikutanthauza kuti mudzayeneranso kuthana ndi zovuta zawo, zovuta zawo ndi maudindo atsopano omwe angakupatseni mochulukirapo. Ngakhale izi zitha kukhalanso dalitso ndikupeza okondedwa anu atsopano omwe amakhala kumbali yanu, amathanso kubwerera mmbuyo. Pali mabanja ambiri omwe asudzulana chifukwa cha apongozi awo.
Nonse muyenera kuchita kuti zigwire ntchito
Simuli nokha m'banja.
Ganizirani za chibwenzicho ngati chida, ndikuti inu ndi mnzanu ndi ziphuphu zomwe zimayendetsa.
Ngati chimodzi cha ziphuphu chatsekedwa osatembenuka, ndiye kuti palibe chomwe chidzagwire ntchito. Kulankhulana kumathandiza kwambiri m'banja. Kumvetsetsa mnzanuyo ndi malingaliro ake ndi malingaliro ake mwachilengedwe, chisamaliro ndi chikondi ndichinsinsi kuti zinthu zizigwira ntchito limodzi nanu kwa zaka zambiri.
Khalani okonzekera zodabwitsa
Simungadziwane ndi munthu kwathunthu, ndipo ngati mukuganiza zokhala moyo wanu wonse ndi mnzanu, ndiye kuti muyenera kukonzekera zodabwitsa.
Zambiri zitha kukhala zosangalatsa komanso zosayembekezereka, koma zina zimatsutsana ndi zomwe mungayembekezere. Ndizabwino, chifukwa moyo sukhala wachisangalalo chokha, koma muyenera kudziwa kuti mudzayenera kuphunzira kuthana ndi kusangalala ndi zolakwika zina zomwe mungapeze mwa mnzanu pakapita nthawi.
Ukwati ndichinthu chodabwitsa, ndipo tikuganiza kuti nthawi zonse muyenera kuganizira zonse musanapange gawo lalikulu ndikumanga chikhulupiriro chanu limodzi ndi banja lomwe mudzakhale nalo moyo wonse.