Zamkati
- Palibe amene amalembetsa kuti athetse banja
- Ana Akuluakulu Akuthetsa Banja - ACODs
- Nkhani zodalira
- Kuledzera
- Kudalira
- Kusunga chakukhosi
- Momwe mungapirire banja lanu likatha
Ndi zisudzulo zambiri zomwe zikuchitika, pomwe banja limodzi mwa awiriwo limatha ndi chisudzulo, ziwerengero za ana osudzulana ndizokhumudwitsa.
Sam adasudzula Vivian pomwe ana awo anali ndi zaka 7, 5, ndi 3. Mabwalo amilandu, pozindikira kuti nkhanza zakuthupi zidali gawo limodzi kumapeto kwa ukwati wazaka khumi, adapatsa anawo Sam kukhumudwitsa Vivian. Kwa zaka khumi zikubwerazi, nkhondo yanthawi zonse yoyimilira ana asungitsa banjali pamilandu yokhazikika.
Ma ACOD, kapena ana achikulire osudzulana, mwachidziwikire adakhudzidwa ndi chipwirikiti chomwe makolo sakanatha kuthana nacho.
Atasunthidwa kunyumba ndi nyumba, mlangizi kupita kwa phungu, ana adakumana ndi zovuta zazikulu m'mene amayenda ali mwana.
Mwanjira zambiri, ana a makolo osudzulidwa amatha kumva ngati ataya zaka za moyo wawo.
Pambuyo pake, masuti omaliza adathetsedwa, ndipo banja lidapitiliza moyo. Zaka zingapo pambuyo pake, ana a Sam ndi Vivian adakumbukiranso zowawa zomwe makolo awo adasudzulana. Mukakhala ndikulowa m'malo operekera upangiri, "ana akulu" adazindikira kuti kukula kwawo kowawa kumabweretsa mavuto ambiri.
Palibe amene amalembetsa kuti athetse banja
Palibe amene amalowa m'banja akuyembekeza kuti litha posachedwa.
Koma zimachitika. Sikuti imangosiya okwatiranawo ali pamavuto komanso osweka, komanso imasiya chizindikiro chosaiwalika kwa ana osudzulana. Ndiye, kodi kusudzulana kumakhudza bwanji ana?
Ndi makolo akusudzulana, akuti, zili ngati kung'amba nyama. Zotsatira zakusudzulana kwa makolo ndi ana ndizopweteka komanso chimafooketsa unansi wa kholo ndi mwana.
Tsoka ilo, kusudzulana kumakhala kovuta kwambiri ana akakhala nawo. Kaya ndi zotsatira za chisudzulo kwa ana kapena akulu akulu, ndi kutayika koopsa ndipo munthawi zotere nthawi zambiri ana amakhala pachiwopsezo cha zovuta zam'mutu ndi thupi.
Ndi ana ang'ono, pomwe amatha kufikira mofanana ndi anzawo m'zaka zochepa, komabe poyamba pali nkhawa yodzipatula, & kulira, kuchedwa kukwaniritsa zochitika zazikulu monga kuphunzira potty, kufotokozera, komanso kutengeka ndi machitidwe ankhanza komanso kupsa mtima.
Ana ang'ono awa a makolo osudzulana amathanso kukhala ndi vuto kugona.
Ngakhale chidziwitso cha chisudzulo cha mwana aliyense chimakhala chosiyana, ana achikulire omwe anthu osudzulana amakhala nawo amakhala ndi zikhalidwe ndi zovuta zina, mbali za umunthu ndi zokumana nazo zomwe zimapanga zisankho komanso mtundu wa "mwana" wapadziko lapansi.
Ana a makolo osudzulana amasintha momwe iwo amagwirira ntchito, kuganiza, komanso kupanga zisankho.
Ana Akuluakulu Akuthetsa Banja - ACODs
M'chigawo ichi chokhudza ana omwe ali ndi makolo osudzulana, timayang'ana ana achikulire osudzulana komanso zoyipa zakusudzulana kwa ana.
Mwina mukuwerenga nkhaniyi chifukwa mumadziona kuti ndinu m'gulu la ana achikulire omwe banja lawo litha chifukwa cha kusudzulana.
Ngati ndi choncho, zindikirani nkhaniyi ndikuwone ngati mungadziwonere nokha m'mafotokozedwe ena. Ndipo, ngati mumazindikira ena mwa inu, ganizirani njira zomwe mungapitilize kuthana ndi zovuta zina zomwe "ACODs" zimakumana nazo zikamakula.
Nkhani zodalira
Kulimbana ndi chisudzulo cha makolo atakula kumabweretsa nkhawa kwa ana omwe angolowa kumene msinkhu.
Chimodzi mwazomwe zimayambitsa kusudzulana kwa ana ndikuti wamkulu Ana a Kusudzulana nthawi zambiri amalimbana ndi nkhani zakukhulupirirana.
Atapirira zovuta zina m'zaka zofunikira kwambiri zaubwana, ma ACOD atha kukhala ndi vuto kukhala ndiubwenzi wathanzi / kukhulupirirana ndi achikulire ena. Pangozi yakupwetekedwa ndi akulu akulu m'miyoyo yawo, Ma ACOD atha kukhala odekha polola anthu kulowa pagulu lawolo.
Akuluakulu a makolo osudzulidwa nthawi zambiri amakhala odzidalira. Ma ACOD amakhulupirira kuthekera kwawo ndikumvetsetsa kwawo dziko lapansi kuposa wina aliyense. Mavuto a kudalira kwa makolo amawasautsa ndipo amawononga kuthekera kwawo kukhulupirira.
Kupereka Uphungu Ana osudzulana ndiyo njira yokhayo yowonetsetsa kuti akuchira ku mavuto obwera chifukwa cha chisudzulo ndipo amatha kupanga maubale okhalitsa komanso osangalatsa.
Kuledzera
Chimodzi mwazovuta zazikulu zakusudzulana ndikuti ana a anthu osudzulana nthawi zambiri amawonongeka.
Pamene makolo akusudzulana, ana a makolo osudzulana amatha kukhala osavuta kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo kuposa anzawo omwe ali m'mabanja achimwemwe.
Kuledzera nthawi zambiri kumakhala pakati pa ziwanda zomwe ma ACOD amakumana nazo ana a banja litatha kuchokera m'mavuto awo aubwana. Mu kuyesa kudzaza zosowa zam'maganizo ndi zauzimu mu moyo, omwe akukumana ndi vuto lakusudzulana ana amatha kumwa mowa kapena / kapena mankhwala osokoneza bongo kuti athandize kapena kumasula.
Zachidziwikire, kuledzera kumatha kubweretsa mavuto ena m'moyo wa ACOD kuphatikiza mavuto kuntchito komanso kusakhutira ndi maubale apamtima. Mwana wamabanja osudzulana amakhala ndi zovuta zambiri muubwenzi kuposa munthu wabwinobwino.
Kudalira
Kudalira modalira ndi nkhawa yomwe ma ACOD angakumane nayo atakula. Ataikidwa kukhala "osamalira" makolo awo kapena makolo awo osalimba, ma ACOD angawoneke ngati "okonza ena" kapena kupereka chisamaliro kwa wina pompano.
Izi zodalira kudalira nthawi zina zimatha kutsogolera ACOD kuti igwirizane ndi munthu wokonda kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo kapena munthu wovutika mumtima yemwe akuyenera "kuleredwa." Ndi ACOD yodziyimira payokha komanso mnzake wovulala mu "gule wodalira," ACOD itha kutaya chidziwitso chakudziwika.
Onaninso:
Kusunga chakukhosi
Kukwiya kwa makolo kumatha kukhala gawo la ubale wa Mwana Wamkulu wa Kutha Kwa banja ndi makolo awo. Ngati makolo a ACOD anali ndi chisudzulo chovuta kwambiri, ACOD itha kupitilirabe amanyansidwa ndi kutaya nthawi, moyo wabwino, chisangalalo, ndi zina zotero.
Pambuyo pa chisudzulo, ACOD itha kukhala ndi mkwiyo waukulu kwa kholo limodzi kapena onse awiri. Mkwiyo, ngati sungaletsedwe ndi kukambirana kopindulitsa komanso / kapena upangiri, zitha kukhala zofooketsa.
Udindo wowasamalira ukhoza kutuluka m'moyo wa ACOD makolo awo kapena makolo awo akadzakalamba. Ngati Mwana Wamkulu Wakusudzulana anali "mwana wobadwira m'banja" m'mbuyomu, ndiye kuti, adayikidwa kuti apereke chilimbikitso chamakolo ovulala zaka zapitazo, atha kukhala ndi udindo wosamalira kholo.
Izi ndizovuta, koma zimachitika pafupipafupi.
Zina mwazovuta kwambiri za ACOD, ndichakuti ataya nyengo za moyo. Tsoka ilo, palibe m'modzi wa ife amene angabwezere masiku omwe timakwiya, kumva chisoni, kuwopsa kwaumoyo, ndi zina zotero. Ma ACOD ambiri amakumbukira kuti nthawi zambiri amakhala osokonezeka komanso kuda nkhawa ali ana.
N'zovuta kunena kuti "ubwana" pamene masiku amakulidwe omwe amayenera kudzazidwa ndi chisangalalo ndi kuseka awonetsedwa ndi "mavuto akulu abanja."
Ma ACOD ambiri omwe ali pamalo owonetsera angauze aphungu, "Ndikumva ngati ndataya zidutswa zazikulu kuyambira ndili mwana."
Momwe mungapirire banja lanu likatha
Chisudzulo chimakhala chomvetsa chisoni komanso chopweteka. Ngakhale kusudzulana kuli kofunikira pathanzi ndi thanzi la onse, kusudzulana kumatha kubweretsera mavuto amoyo kwa onse omwe ali ndi vuto lakukwatiwa.
Ana, ngakhale amatetezedwa kuthekera kokuzunzidwanso m'maganizo / kapena kuzunzidwa pakati pa maphwando, amakhala ndi chisoni ndi nkhawa zomwe zimayambitsidwa ndi kulekana kwa makolo.
Ngati ndinu Mwana Wachikulire Wosudzulana, zindikirani kuti muli nawo mamiliyoni a ena omwe akuyesetsabe kuthana ndi zovuta zomwe zimakhalapo pambuyo pa chisudzulo.
Pezani chithandizo ngati muzindikira kuti mabala akale akupweteka malingaliro anu apano ndi magwiridwe antchito apano. Ngakhale kulekerera sikophweka, upangiri wabwino kwambiri ndi lInunso mumamva momwe mukumvera, lankhulani ndi wodalirika, wophunzitsidwa bwino, kapena kulowa nawo gulu lothandizira ndikudzipatsa nthawi kuti muchiritse.
Tinalengedwa kuti tikule bwino; izi ndizotheka kwa inu. Khulupirirani ndikudzipangira nokha.