Zamkati
Aliyense amene wakwatiwa angakuuzeni: nthawi zina kulumikizana pakati pa okwatirana kumamveka bwino ngati matope. Nthawi zambiri, zokumana nazozi sizimakhalitsa, makamaka ngati banja latsimikiza mtima kuthana ndi zazing'ono. Koma mavuto olumikizirana amatha kubwera nthawi iliyonse m'banja lililonse ndipo angayambitse mavuto ena ambiri! Otsatirawa ndi ena mwa mavuto omwe banja limakumana nawo pakapita nthawi.
Kumvetsera kuyankha
Ndikosavuta kuuza mnzanu kuti, "Ndakumvani." Koma kodi mumamveradi? Imodzi mwazinthu zoyankhulana kwambiri za aliyense, koma makamaka kwa iwo omwe ali m'banja, kusowa chidwi pakamvetsera. Anthu ambiri amagwa mumsampha womvera zomwe wina akunena ndi cholinga chodziwa momwe angayankhire m'malo momvera mozama ndikuyesera kumvetsetsa zomwe mnzake akunena. Muukwati, izi zimatha kukhala zovuta makamaka ndikupangitsa mavuto amtundu wina. Wokondedwa aliyense ali ndi udindo wokonda mnzakeyo - kudziletsa, kufuna kukhala ndi "mawu omaliza," ndikumamvetsera kokha ndi cholinga chodziwa zomwe munganene ndi njira zotsimikizika zokhalira wokondedwa wanu. M'malo momvera kuti mudziwe choti munene, mverani kuti mumvetse ndikumva zomwe wokondedwa wanu akufuna kukuuzani.
Zosokonezeka mosavuta
Msampha wina wofala ndi zosokoneza. Pambuyo pama foni am'manja, ma laputopu, TV ya chingwe, mapiritsi, ndi zida zina, pali kusokonekera kwakukulu pakulumikizana komwe zimayambitsa izi. Tikamayankhula ndi munthu wina, aliyense wa ife amafuna kuti anthu azimuganizira. Kulankhula ndi munthu yemwe wasokonezedwa mwanjira iliyonse kumatha kukhala kokhumudwitsa ndikupangitsa kuti musalumikizane. Maukwati amagwera pamavuto nthawi zambiri. Anthu awiri omwe azolowera kupezeka wina ndi mnzake, nthawi zambiri amakhala aulesi mosakambirana; m'malo mopatsa chidwi munthu winayo, zododometsa monga foni yam'manja zimapezeka mosavuta ndipo zimayambitsa kusokonekera kwakukulu pakulankhulana. Ndipo ili ndi limodzi mwa mavuto omwe anthu ambiri amalumikizana m'banja omwe amapezeka pakati pa anthu osiyana zaka komanso magulu ena. Yesetsani kupewa vutoli mwa kuyika foni, kuzimitsa phokoso pa TV, kapena kupewa zinthu zosokoneza pamene mnzanu akukambirana.
Chithandizo mwakachetechete
"Kusakhala chete" kumakhala chete, koma koopsa kwambiri kuubwenzi wabwino. Kuperewera kwa kulumikizana kumatha kukhala vuto ngati mmodzi kapena onse awiri m'banjamo asankha kunyalanyaza vutolo (ndi mnzake) m'malo mothana ndi vuto lomwe likupezeka. Kuchita izi pafupipafupi kumatha kuwononga chibwenzi mpaka kalekale ndipo kumalepheretsa anthu awiriwa kuyanjana bwino.
Tsopano kumbukirani: anthu ena amafuna nthawi kuti asonkhanitse malingaliro awo asanayambe kukambirana zavuto. Ena amasankha kuchokapo kwakanthawi kuti aletse mkwiyo wawo ndikubwerera modekha pazokambirana. Mutha kukhala kuti simukufuna kukangana, koma mungatenge nthawi kuti musinthe malingaliro anu ndikubwerera kuzokambiranako ndi malingaliro. Pali kusiyana kwakukulu pakati pamakhalidwe awa ndi kunyalanyaza vutolo. Samalani ndi kulingalira momwe mungasankhire kuchoka pazokambirana; khalani omasuka kwa mnzanu ndikunena china chake chomwe chikuwonetsa kusowa kwanu kwakanthawi kwakanthawi kapena malo.
Kusazindikira
Pomaliza, ndipo mwinanso yowopsa pamayankhulidwe apabanja, ndiko kusowa poyesayesa ngakhale pang'ono kumvetsetsa malingaliro ndi malingaliro a ena. Kuzizira uku kumatha kubwera kuchokera pakuphatikizana kwa zinthu zina kapena kungakhale kuyankha kwakulandila chithandizo chimodzimodzi kuchokera kwa munthu winayo. Khalidweli litha kuyambitsa mavuto m'banja. Popanda kufunitsitsa kumvetsetsa mnzake, kulumikizana kulibe. Ndipo popanda kulankhulana, anthu okwatirana sangayende bwino.
Kusamvana, kusapeza bwino, kusamvetsetsa ndi kuzindikira, zosokoneza - zonsezi zitha kuwononga ubale wabwino. Koma, nawonso, mavutowa amatha kuthana ndi cholinga. Ukwati pakati pa anthu awiri ndi lonjezo lokondana, kulemekezana, ndi kusamalirana. Kuyankhulana kosokonezedwa kumatha kubweretsa kulimbana kwakanthawi, koma omwe amachita malonjezo awo ndi cholinga chothana ndi zovuta zawo, amapanga maziko olimba okula kudzipereka kwawo kwa wina ndi mnzake. Kuthetsa mavuto omwe amalumikizana m'banja ndikofunikira kwambiri pakuwona ndikusunga ubale wabwino pakati pawo.