Zamkati
- 1. Mvetserani mwatcheru ndikuyankha moyenera
- 2. Pewani kunyozedwa kwanu
- 3. Mvetsetsanani
- 4. Gwiritsani ntchito kamvekedwe kolondola
- 5. Funafunani mafotokozedwe
- 6. Gwiritsani ntchito zolembedwazo
- 7. Khalani wodekha ndikukhazikika mumtima mwanu
- 8. Muziyamikira mnzanu
- 9. Vomerezani zochita za mnzanu
Kusiyanitsa pakati pa banja losangalala ndi losasangalala kwakhala kuthekera kolankhulana.
Maluso oyankhulirana bwino kwa maanja ndi chimodzi mwa zinthu zofunika kwambiri kuti banja liziyenda bwino.
Kumbali ina, kusayankhulana pakati pa okwatirana kumatha kubweretsa kulankhulana, mkwiyo, mkwiyo, ndi mkwiyo.
Izi zikamulemetsa mnzanu, zimapangitsa kuti azikhala ndi machitidwe onyansa komanso kulephera kusunga njira zoyankhulirana pothetsa kusamvana.
Alangizi a mabanja amalangiza anthu okwatirana kuti afotokozere anzawo momasuka za malingaliro awo olakwika ndi abwino kuti akhalebe mwamtendere mbanja.
Maluso oyenera komanso oyenera kulumikizana ndi maanja akuphatikizapo kumvetsera, kuyankha, kufotokoza, kumvetsetsa modekha m'malo oyenera.
Osayesa konse kuthana ndi vuto ndi kutengeka, chifukwa malingaliro anu osakhazikika angakulimbikitseni kufuula ndi kufuula. Koma kukulitsa maluso anu olankhulana m'banja kapena maluso olumikizirana ndiosavuta kuposa kuchita.
Onaninso:
Kuyambira pakupikisana wina ndi mnzake, kukhala wotsutsa, kupikisana pamiyala, ndi kusakhululuka, kuti mupeze kulumikizana koyenera kwa maanja, muyenera kupewa misampha yambiri.
Chifukwa chake kukuthandizani kukhala ndi maluso oyankhulirana a maanja kapena kuphunzira njira zatsopano zoyankhulirana kwa maanja, nazi maupangiri ochepa oti maanja akhale ndi maluso oyenera olumikizirana m'banja:
1. Mvetserani mwatcheru ndikuyankha moyenera
Kuyankhulana koyenera kumafuna kutenga mbali zonse ziwiri.
Imodzi mwa malangizo ofunikira kwa maanja ndikulola wokondedwa wanu kuyankhula nanu mvetserani mwatcheru ku madandaulo onse, kuyamikiridwa, ndi nkhawa.
Mwina simukugwirizana ndi nkhani zonsezi, koma mverani chisoni ndi mawu olira kapena onga akuti "Ndikumva kukhumudwa ndi zomwe ndachita, koma kodi mukuzindikira kuti ......."
Si njira yodzitetezera; zimapereka chitsimikizo kwa wokondedwa wanu kuti mumaganizira za nkhawa zawo, koma inunso muli ndi malingaliro anu kapena malingaliro anu.
Mukuwakopa chidwi chawo kuti mukambirane momasuka kuti mupeze yankho lomaliza.
2. Pewani kunyozedwa kwanu
Pewani mtundu uliwonse wakudzudzula pakunyoza, kusalankhula bwino za thupi, kufuula, ndi kulalata.
Mutha kukhala ndi mfundo, koma momwe mumalankhulira zimakhudza momwe mnzanu amatengera chidziwitsocho.
PKunyozedwa kwa ersonal kumalimbikitsa mnzanu kutenga njira zodzitetezera zomwe zimalepheretsa kulumikizana kwanu.
Nthawi zambiri, kunyozedwa kwanu kumathandizira kuti pakhale mikangano pakati pa abwenzi.
Muyenera kuwongolera thupi lanu, nkhope yanu, ndi kamvekedwe kanu moyenera kuti mupewe kupereka malingaliro olakwika kwa mnzanu.
Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa maluso ofunikira oyankhulirana omwe maanja ayenera kukulitsa ngati akufuna kukambirana mwamtendere nthawi zonse.
3. Mvetsetsanani
Funani mnzanu kuti akumvereni osakuweruzani. Akatswiri azamisala amalimbikitsa kuyamikiridwa koyamba poyeserera kuti abweretse mfundo kunyumba.
Mnzanu akumva kukhala wamtengo wapatali ngakhale ali ndi zofooka zina. Mwachilengedwe, maubwenzi amtunduwu amatha kugwira ntchito bwino mukadziyika nokha munzanu za mnzanu pomwe mukufuna chidwi chawo chofuna kulumikizana bwino.
4. Gwiritsani ntchito kamvekedwe kolondola
Kodi nonse ndinu olimba mtima mukamakambirana? Mkangano wokhudza nkhani yovuta ukhoza kusanduka tsoka chifukwa choti simunalankhule bwino.
Maanja omwe amalumikizana ndi kukhwima amagwiritsa ntchito mawu oyenera omwe akuwonetsedwa ndi malingaliro okhazikika kuti athane ndi vutoli.
Osatengera chidwi cha mnzanu mu mkwiyo; muyenera kukweza mawu anu mpaka kutseka kwathunthu njira yolankhulirana.
Kulankhula kwabwino kumakupatsani mphatso yodzichepetsa komanso yaulemu, ndikuwongolera kusankha kwanu mawu ndikupangitsa kuti mnzanuyo alowe nawo pazokambirana modzichepetsa.
5. Funafunani mafotokozedwe
Luso lina lolumikizirana lomwe maanja amayeserera ndikufunsa mafunso kuti apeze zenizeni kapena kufunsa kuchokera kwa wokondedwa wawo. Luso limeneli limathandiza maanja kumvetsetsana bwino m'malo mongolingalira.
Nonsenu muli ndi udindo woyang'anira zokambirana. Kugwiritsa ntchito mafunso otseguka m'malo mofunsa mafunso kumapereka mwayi kwa mnzanu wogawana nzeru ndi malingaliro pazomwe zachitika.
Mafunso otsekedwa amagwiritsidwa ntchito nthawi zambiri pamafunso apolisi osati poyankhulana momasuka.
6. Gwiritsani ntchito zolembedwazo
Pamene mukufuna mayankho, khalani mbali yafunsoli, Mwachitsanzo, mukafuna kukambirana momasuka za wokondedwa wanu kupewa zomwe akutumizirani:
Ndikuona kuti mukunyalanyaza udindo wanu chifukwa sindimakusamalirani mokwanira. ”
Tsopano, izi sizingakhale choncho, koma kuvomereza kwanu kukhala nawo pamavuto ngakhale simunatero, kumamupatsa mnzanu zovuta kuti avomereze vutoli ngati gawo limodzi.
7. Khalani wodekha ndikukhazikika mumtima mwanu
Njira yoyenera yolumikizirana kwa maanja ndiyoti khalani odekha nthawi yonse yomwe mumalankhula ndi mnzanu ngakhale mutazindikira kuti mkangano ukuyamba kukhala wopweteka kwambiri pokambirana.
Kudekha kumakupatsani kudziletsa kuti mumvetsetse bwino momwe zinthu ziliri ndipo, nthawi yomweyo, kumathandiza mnzanu kufotokoza zakukhosi ndikupita patsogolo yankho.
Nthawi yabwino yolankhulana ndi pamene mwakhazikika, ndipo mumawongolera malingaliro anu.
8. Muziyamikira mnzanu
Kuyankhulana, komwe kumadzaza ndi zoyipa komanso malingaliro olakwika, sikungakhale kopindulitsa. Wokondedwa wanu ayenera kukhala ndi makhalidwe abwino. Kupanda kutero, mutha kusankha chisudzulo m'malo mongolankhulana, yamikani izi.
Aliyense amafunika kuyamikiridwa ndi mayamikidwe abwino kuti atonthoze mtima kukhala wowona mtima ndi wotseguka- gawo lolumikizirana bwino.
9. Vomerezani zochita za mnzanu
Chizolowezi choyankhulana choyipa ndi pamene m'modzi ali ndi udindo wolamulira mnzake.
Gwirani ntchito limodzi kuti muchepetse ubale wanu kuchokera ku miyambo yotereyi ndipo musalole kuti izi zisokoneze njira yanu yolumikizirana mwamtendere.
Mukamayesetsa kulumikizana bwino ndi mnzanu, ganizirani zachilengedwe, kukhazikika m'maganizo, komanso kufunitsitsa koti mukambirane.
Kuphatikiza apo, mnzanuyo ayenera kuti adziwitsiratu chifukwa cha msonkhanowo. Pewani kutchulidwa za zokumana nazo zam'mbuyomu.
Maluso oyankhulirana kwa maanja ndichimodzi mwamagawo ofunikira omwe aliyense ayenera kuloweza akanena kuti "ndimachita" kwa wina ndi mnzake.