Zamkati
- Zoyenera kuchita posachedwa: Yesani
- Mwachibadwa kukumana ndi malingaliro opweteka
- Kuyambira zokambirana
- Njira zodzisamalira pothana ndi chigololo
- Njira yopita kuchipatala ndiyotalika komanso mphepo
Kudziwa kuti mnzanu wakunyengani ndi chimodzi mwazinthu zoyipa zomwe mungapeze m'banja. Kaya mukudziwa chifukwa choti mnzanu amabwera kwa inu ndikuvomereza, kapena mwavumbula zomwe zikukutsogolerani ku chowonadi chosasangalatsa cha kusokera kwake, kuzindikira kuti mwapusitsidwa kumatha kukupangitsani kukhala odandaula, okwiya, odzazidwa ndi kudzidalira, okhumudwa , ndipo koposa zonse, ndikumva kuwawa kwambiri.
Kudziwa kuti amuna anu achita chigololo mwina mungadzifunse mafunso ambiri. Kodi zingatheke bwanji kuti munthu amene amati amandikonda achite zoterezi? Kodi sindinali wokwanira? Mkazi wina ali ndi chiyani chomwe ine ndilibe?
Banja lanu lakhala ndi vuto lalikulu, lokhudza moyo. Nazi zina mwa njira zomwe mungathetsere chigololo:
Zoyenera kuchita posachedwa: Yesani
Mwadziwitsidwa za chinyengo cha mnzanu. Mukukhalabe ndi mantha koma ndikofunikira kuti muzichita mwanzeru. Ngati muli ndi ana, ino ingakhale nthawi yabwino kuti muziwayendera makolo anu kuti inu ndi amuna anu mukambirane momasuka za vutoli. Palibe makolo omwe ali pafupi nanu? Onani ngati bwenzi lingatenge anawo tsiku limodzi kapena awiri.
Ngati ana sachita nawo, dziwitseni nokha za chigololo cha mnzanuyo kwa maola 24 musanayese kukambirana. Mufunika nthawi yolola kuti zomwe zachitikazo zilowerere. Lolani kuti mukhale ndi malingaliro anu musanakambirane chifukwa chake kusakhulupirika kwake. Lirani, fuulani, piritsani pilo ndi zibakera. Lolani mkwiyo ndi kupweteka. Izi zikhonza kukhala zothandiza pokonzekera kukhala pansi ndi mnzanu mukawona kuti mutha kutero.
Mwachibadwa kukumana ndi malingaliro opweteka
Pafupifupi aliyense amene wapeza kuti bwenzi lake lagonana ndi wina wake akuti anali ndi malingaliro otopetsa omwe amayang'ana kwambiri zomwe mnzake wachita ndi mnzakeyo. Iwo amawayerekezera iwo pa tsiku, kuseka ndi kugwirana manja. Ankadabwa za momwe kugonana kumachitikira. Iwo amasinthana pakati pofuna kudziwa chilichonse chokhudza ubalewo, osafuna kumva mawu amodzi za izi.
Kukhala ndi malingaliro owopsawa, obwerezabwereza pazomwe zidachitika panthawi yachiwerewere ndi njira yoti muyesere kuthana ndi vuto lomwe simungathe kulilamulira. Ndipo ngakhale mkazi kapena mwamuna wanu angayese kukutsimikizirani kuti ndibwino kusadziwa chilichonse pazomwe amamuchitira komanso mkazi winayo, alangizi a mabanja samatsutsana. Kuyankha mafunso a wokondedwa wakeyo malinga ngati akuwona kufunika kowafunsa ndi gawo lofunikira kuthekera kwake kuti athane ndi chigololocho, komanso koposa zonse, kumuthandiza kuti apite patsogolo ndi machiritso ake.
Kuyambira zokambirana
Ngakhale mumamkwiyira mnzanu, muli ndi ngongole kwa wina ndi mnzake kuti mukambirane zachinyengozo ndikuwona komwe mukufuna kupita kuyambira pano. Uku sikuyenera kukhala kukambirana kosavuta kapena kwakanthawi, chifukwa chake khazikikirani: Mutha kukhala mukukambirana za izi kwa milungu ndi miyezi ikubwerayi. Kutengera mtundu wa chibwenzicho, zokambiranazo zitenga imodzi mwanjira ziwiri:
- Nonse mukufuna kugwira ntchito yopulumutsa banja, kapena
- Mmodzi kapena nonse aŵiri mukufuna kusudzulana
Njira iliyonse yomwe zokambiranazo zikuyendera, zingakhale zothandiza kupempha thandizo kwa mlangizi wazokwatirana yemwe ali ndi zilolezo kuti atsogolere zokambiranazo kuti zizikhala zogwira mtima komanso zopindulitsa. Mlangizi wazokwatirana ali ndi zilolezo angakupatseni nonse awiri malo osalowerera ndale komanso otetezeka momwe mungamasulitsire zomwe zachitika ndipo, ngati mungasankhe, yesetsani kuyanjananso ndi kukhulupirirana, kuwona mtima komanso kudzipereka kwatsopano pakukhulupirika.
Njira zodzisamalira pothana ndi chigololo
Mukulankhula, limodzi komanso pamaso pa mlangizi wa mabanja. Mukuyang'ana kwambiri pakuchiritsa ukwati wanu komanso zomwe zidapangitsa kuti banja lanu lisochere. Koma kumbukirani: Ndinu chipani chovulala panthawiyi, ndipo muyenera kusamalira chisamaliro chanu munthawi yovutayi.
- Pezani malire pakati pokumbukira zosintha zazikulu zomwe zachitika muukwati wanu, ndikudzisokoneza ndi zinthu zolimbikitsa. Simukufuna kukhala mu zovulazidwa, koma simukufuna kuyesa kuzinyalanyaza. Pezani nthawi yoganizira momwe banja lanu lilili, ndipo pangani nthawi yofanana yochitira masewera olimbitsa thupi, kucheza, kapena kungokhala chete pamaso pa TV.
- Ganizirani mosamala za omwe mudzauze izi. Mukufuna kuthandizidwa ndi anzanu apamtima munthawi yovutayi m'moyo wanu, koma simukufuna kukhala mitu yazamphepo. Lankhulani ndi anthu omwe mukudziwa kuti atenga izi moyenera, osangofalitsa mphekesera zoipa za inu ndi mnzanu mdera lanu.
- Dzikumbutseni kuti vuto laukwati wa mwamuna wanu silinali vuto lanu ayi. Atha kuyesera kukutsimikizirani mwanjira ina ndikukunenani kuti simukumana ndi zosowa zake, kapena kuti mwadzilola kuti mupite, kapena kuti nthawi zonse mumakhala otanganidwa kwambiri ndi ana kapena mumagwira ntchito kuti mumvetsere. Ngakhale pakhoza kukhala zowona pazomwe akunena, palibe chilichonse mwazinthu izi chifukwa chokwatirana ndi banja lodzipereka. Anthu anzeru amalankhulana zamavuto asanakachite chigololo choopseza banja.
- Kumbukirani mawu akuti "Izi nazonso, zidzachitika." Pambuyo pa chigololo, mudzamva chisoni. Koma khulupirirani kuti kumverera uku kudzasintha pakapita nthawi. Padzakhala masiku oyipa ndi masiku abwino, zokwera ndi zotsika m'maganizo anu. Pamene inu ndi amuna anu mukuyamba kumasula zifukwa zomwe zimapangitsa kusakhulupirika, mudzayamba kukumana ndi masiku abwino kuposa masiku oyipa.
Njira yopita kuchipatala ndiyotalika komanso mphepo
Mukasinthana malumbiro aukwati, simunkaganiza kuti chigololo chikhala choipa "koposa" kapena "choyipa" Dziwani kuti simuli nokha: zikuyerekeza kuti kwinakwake pakati pa 30% ndi 60% ya anthu amakhala ndi zibwenzi nthawi ina muukwati wawo. Ambiri mwa anthuwa amapitiliza kukonza maukwati awo ndikuwapangitsa kukhala olimba kuposa kale. Zimatengera kudzipereka, kulumikizana, kuthandizidwa ndi othandizira, komanso kuleza mtima, koma ndizotheka kutuluka mbali ina ya chibwenzi ndi banja losangalala, lolimba komanso lachikondi.