Zamkati
- Kusakhulupirika ndi malingaliro anu
- Ganizirani za machiritso
- Pezani malingaliro
- Bweretsani akatswiri
- Kutulutsa kusakhulupirika
- Padzakhala mantha
- Osanyalanyaza kudzisamalira
- Yang'anirani mtsogolo
Kusakhulupirika ndichimodzi mwazinthu zopweteka kwambiri zomwe zimachitika m'banja.
Zimakayikitsa mgwirizano womwe maziko anu amakhala: kukhulupirirana, ulemu, kuwona mtima, ndi chikondi chokhacho chomwe chimalonjezedwa pamene anthu awiri anena kuti "ndimatero."
Nzosadabwitsa kuti kusakhulupirika kumabweretsa chisudzulo.
Ngati ndi momwe ziliri ndi zanu, nazi mfundo zofunika kuziganizira mukamawunika ngati mukuyenera kukhalabe muukwati kapena kupitiliza kulemba chisudzulo.
Kusakhulupirika ndi malingaliro anu
Wokondedwa wanu wakhala wosakhulupirika.
Posakhalitsa pambuyo pake, mutha kukhala ndi malingaliro osiyanasiyana: kumva chisoni, kusakhulupirira, kudzimva wosakwanira, kusinthasintha kwa mkwiyo kupita pachisoni chosapiririka, kubwezera, kufunsa zomwe mukuganiza kuti mumadziwa za mnzanu.
Zonsezi ndizabwinobwino ndipo mutha kuyembekezera kuzimva kwakanthawi mukamamva kuti wokondedwa wanu ndiwosakhulupirika. Osapanga zisankho zazikulu mukamamva choncho. Simungakhulupirire ubongo wanu kuti ugwire bwino ntchito ndipo mutha kuchita zinthu zomwe mudzanong'oneza nazo bondo pambuyo pake.
Dzisamalire munthawi yovutayi: pumirani kwambiri. Fikani kwa anzanu omwe mumawakhulupirira ndikuwalola kuti akusamalireni.
Ngati mungakonze zopuma patchuthi, chitani choncho. (Kapena, ngati kuli kothandiza kuthana ndi kusakhulupirika, pitilizani ntchito yanu ndi zochita zanu za tsiku ndi tsiku.)
Mukamadutsa pamalingaliro amenewo, zinthu zina zimayamba kuwonekera bwino:
Ganizirani za machiritso
Choyamba, dziwitseni nokha kuti chosankha chilichonse chomwe mungasankhe — kaya muthe kapena musathetse — mukufuna mutulukemo mmoyo wathunthu, wathanzi, komanso wathanzi. Mukufuna kuyika malingaliro anu pa machiritso anu.
Pezani malingaliro
Mukazindikira za kubera kwa mnzanu, ndizachilengedwe kunena kuti ichi ndiye chinthu choyipa kwambiri chomwe sichingachitike kwa inu. Ingoganizani? Si choncho. Choyipa chachikulu chingakhale kukhala zaka zambiri ndi mnzanu yemwe amachita zachinyengo, kubisa njira zake zachinyengo ndikugona ndi inu osati munthu wina kapena anthu ena.
Pakadali pano mukudziwa zomwe mukulimbana nazo, m'malo mozipeza patadutsa zaka zambiri.
Bweretsani akatswiri
Mukamaganizira zomwe mungasankhe-khalani kapena pitani - kufikira akatswiri.
Zachidziwikire, abwenzi anu ndi abale anu ndi ma bolodi owopsa ndipo ali nanu, koma sianthu abwino oti mupite kukalandira upangiri. Atha kudana ndi wokondedwa wanu ndipo angakupatseni malingaliro okondera za njira yabwino yopitira patsogolo. Atha kukhala otsutsa-kusudzulana motsimikiza ndikupangitsanso upangiri wawo kukhala wokondera.
Zomwe mukufuna pakadali pano ndiupangiri waukwati; wina yemwe mutha kukhala naye ndikutulutsa zakukhosi kwanu, mafunso ndi nkhawa zanu ndipo amene ali ndi luso lakuthandizani kuti muwamasule m'malo abwinobwino komanso achinsinsi.
Adziwona zonsezi ndipo atha kukupatsani chitsogozo chabwino kwambiri ndi chilimbikitso cham'maganizo kuti muthe kupanga chisankho chabwino mukamaganizira mbali zonse zakusankhaku kudzakhudza tsogolo lanu.
Kutulutsa kusakhulupirika
Mukamagwira ntchito ndi mlangizi wanu, mudzafunika kuwunika mbali zosiyanasiyana za kusakhulupirika.
Izi zikhala zothandiza mukamapanga chisankho choyanjananso kapena kusudzulana. Mafunso oyenera kufunsa akuphatikizapo: kodi aka kanali koyamba kuti akhale wosakhulupirika? Kodi inali malo amodzi usiku umodzi kapena china chanthawi yayitali? Kodi adaulula chinyengo chake mwa iye yekha, kapena adagwidwa?
Kodi panali china chake muukwati chomwe chingayambitse kusakhulupirika, kapena chinali mkhalidwe wambiri (chizolowezi chogonana, kukakamizidwa, kusangalala)?
Padzakhala mantha
Mukamayang'ana njira ziwiri zomwe zili patsogolo panu — chisudzulo kapena kukhalabe m'banja — mudzakhalanso ndi mantha. Izi si zachilendo; Ndi malingaliro anu omwe amakulimbikitsani kuti mukhale tcheru pazomwe zikuchitikazo.
Gwetsani mantha amenewo. Chowopsa chokhala bwanji: abwerezanso? Kuopa kuti simudzayambiranso kukhulupirirana? Kodi chowopsa chani pa chisudzulo: kukhala osakwatiranso? Ndalama zachuma? Kulera ana popanda wokondedwa? Kodi muyenera kuphunzira kuyendetsa nokha?
Izi zonse ndizodetsa nkhawa zomwe mungafune kuti nthawi zina muziwunika, chifukwa zidzakutsogolerani ku chisankho choyenera.
Osanyalanyaza kudzisamalira
Pamene mukugwira ntchito yopanga zisankho, pali chinthu chimodzi chomwe muyenera kupitiliza patsogolo: nokha.
Dzilemekezeni nokha pakudzisamalira. Awa ndi masiku amdima, inde, koma mutha kuthandizira kudutsamo mwa kudzipanga kukhala patsogolo.
Muyenera kuti munanyalanyaza kuchita izi mutakwatirana; mwina mumaika zabwino za ena patsogolo pa zanu. Ino ndi nthawi yoti muzichita zinthu zomwe simunachite mukakhala otanganidwa kusamalira mnzanu.
Nthawi yosinkhasinkha. Nthawi yochita masewera olimbitsa thupi. Nthawi yoti mugulitse pang'ono zovala zanu ndikumverera kukhala okongola komanso achikazi. Nthawi yowonera zomwe mukufuna kuwonera pa Netflix. Chilichonse chomwe chimakukumbutsani kuti ndinu ofunika golide.
Yang'anirani mtsogolo
Chilichonse chomwe mungasankhe, khulupirirani kuti chisankhocho ndicholondola.
Sankhani njira ndikupita patsogolo ndi chiyembekezo komanso chiyembekezo. Ngati mwasankha kusudzulana, onani izi ngati njira yodziyang'anira nokha, ndikudzimasula kwa mnzanu yemwe waswa mgwirizano wokhulupirirana.
Dziwuzeni kuti mudzakondanso, ndipo nthawi ino ndi munthu woyenera inu ndi zonse zomwe mumabweretsa pachibwenzi.