Zamkati
- 1. Khalani othokoza
- 2. Khalani kutali ndi zonenezedwa
- 3. Zinthu zina siziyenera kunenedwa
- 4. Dziwani nthawi
- 5. Gwiritsani ntchito mirroring
- 6. Lumikizanani - kwenikweni
- 7. Onetsani momveka bwino zomwe mukufuna
- 8. Yamikirani kukumbukira kwanu
- 9. Phunzirani chatsopano pamodzi
- 10. Pempherani limodzi
Kodi inu ndi mnzanu mwafika poti ‘mumadziwa’ zomwe winayo anena asananene?
Mwinamwake mumadzipeza nokha mukuyankhula mocheperapo kuposa kale, ndipo mukuwona kuti kuyankhulana kwanu ndi mnzanuyo kungalimbikitse pang'ono.
Ngakhale zabwino kwambiri maukwati atha kupindula ndi kulimbikitsana pang'ono pakulankhulana kwaukwati nthawi ndi nthawi, monga kumwa madzi ozizira tsiku lotentha.
Chifukwa chake, momwe mungalankhulire bwino muubwenzi? Kapena momwe mungalankhulire bwino ndi mnzanu?
Kuti muyankhe mafunso awa, nazi malangizo khumi othandiza komanso odalirika owongolera kulumikizana m'mabanja omwe atha kukuthandizani kuti muzilankhulana momasuka komanso mosangalala ndi mnzanu.
1. Khalani othokoza
Ndi kangati mumakhala ndi nthawi yoti muwone zonse zomwe muyenera kuyamika mu ubale wanu ndi mnzanu? Ndipo mukazindikira, kodi mumayankhula?
Kungoti 'zikomo' kungathandize kwambiri kutsegulira njira zolumikizirana m'banja. Ndipo chachikulu ndichakuti mukamayesetsa kuyamika, mudzafunika kuyamikiranso kwambiri.
Khazikitsani kuthokoza ngati a zolimbitsa thupi Kwa maanja ndipo pangani mfundo yoyamika mnzanu kamodzi tsiku lililonse chifukwa cha zomwe adalimbikitsa moyo wanu.
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2. Khalani kutali ndi zonenezedwa
Pakakhala zokhumudwitsa pang'ono, khalani ndi nthawi yofotokozera momwe mukumvera. Osangokalipira mnzanuyo ndi kumudzudzula ngati kuti 'mumakhala ...' kapena 'simunatero ...'
Zonamizira zingakhudze kuthekera kwanu kolankhulana.
Chofunikira pakuyankhulana kwa awiriwa ndikupewa kuweruza mnzanu zolinga ndi zolinga zake, chifukwa mwina mungakhale mukulakwitsa kwambiri.
M'malo mwake kambiranani bwinobwino kuti mudziwe chifukwa chake nkhani yake ndiyotani. Mwanjira iyi, mutha kulimbikitsa kulumikizana ndikupeza njira yopita patsogolo limodzi.
3. Zinthu zina siziyenera kunenedwa
Transparency ili ndi phindu mu kulankhulana kwa ubale, koma nthawi zina pamafunika kuzindikira ngati mawu anu angawonongeke koposa.
Kuti muthandizire kulumikizana m'banja, musanatchule zolakwika zonse zokhudzana ndi banja la mnzanu, dzifunseni nokha ngati kuli koyenera kunena, kapena muyenera kusunga zina mwazomwe mukuganiza komanso momwe mukumvera.
Chifukwa choti mukufuna 'kuchotsa kena kanu pachifuwa' sizitanthauza kuti muyenera kuchiyika pa mnzanu.
4. Dziwani nthawi
Mukamayankhulana ndi mnzanu, ngati mungalankhule za chinthu choyenera pa nthawi yolakwika, kulumikizana kwanu kungasokonezeke kapena kuchepetsedwa.
Mwina ndinu 'usiku kadzidzi' amene amamva kugona kwambiri madzulo pomwe mnzanu ali 'mbalame yoyambirira' yomwe imalephera kupitirira teni koloko.
Kuti muzitha kulankhulana bwino m'banja, muyenera kutero pezani nthawi yomwe imagwira nonse nonse pamene mungakambirane nkhani zofunika zilizonse.
Ndipo sibwino kuyambitsa nkhani zikuluzikulu monga momwe mnzanu akuthamangira kuntchito. Mukakhala ozindikira komanso osamala kuti musankhe nthawi yoyenera, kulumikizana kwanu kumatha kulimbikitsidwa.
5. Gwiritsani ntchito mirroring
Njira ina yosinthira kulumikizana muubwenzi ndikugwiritsa ntchito njira yamagalasi.
Galasi lanu losambira lingakuthandizeni kudziwa momwe nkhope yanu imawonekera komanso ngati mwakonzeka kudziko lapansi kapena ayi. Momwemonso, mnzanu akhoza kukudziwitsani momwe mumalumikizirana.
Nthawi zina zomwe timatanthauza kunena zimamveka ndikumvetsetsa kwa ena munjira ina.
Kotero mirroring atha kukhala luso lothandizira kulumikizana ndi ubale kuti maanja apititse patsogolo ndikumveketsa zokambirana ndi wokondedwa wanu pamene mukufunsa mafunso osavuta monga "Mukutanthauza chiyani pamenepa?" kapena "Zomwe ndimamva ukunena ndi ..."
6. Lumikizanani - kwenikweni
Kulankhulana kwanu kungalimbikitsidwe kwambiri mukamalumikizana mwakuthupi, kugwirana manja, kapena kupumula modekha dzanja lanu paphewa pake dzanja lake lili pa mwendo wanu.
Mukakhala ndi kusamvana kapena mkangano, zomwe mumachita mwachibadwa ndiko kuchoka ndi kuchoka kwa wina ndi mnzake.
Ulendo wina yesani kuyandikira pafupi dala ndipo muwone ngati zingakuthandizeni kulankhulana mwaulemu komanso mwachikondi.
7. Onetsani momveka bwino zomwe mukufuna
Muukwati wabwinobwino wabwinobwino, sikutheka kuti muwerenge malingaliro a mnzanu. Ndikopanda chilungamo kuyembekezera kuti iye adziwe zomwe mukufuna kapena zomwe mukufuna nthawi zonse.
M'malo mwake lankhulani momveka bwino ndipo fotokozani zomwe mukufuna. Nenani za momwe mungagawirere katundu kuti wina wa inu asadzimve kulemedwa.
Ndipo adziwitsane wina ndi mnzake mtundu wamachitidwe kapena maulendo omwe angakupangitseni kuti mumve kukondedwa komanso kusamalidwa. Ndiye mumakhala ndi mwayi wabwino kwambiri wokhutiritsa ziyembekezo za anzanu ndikukhala okhutira muukwati wanu.
8. Yamikirani kukumbukira kwanu
Pezani zithunzi za awiri omwe mudatengedwa patchuthi chapadera kapena patsiku lokondedwa ndipo pezani njira yochitira chikondwererochi.
Mwinamwake muli mu scrapbooking kapena mwinamwake mukungopanga zokumbukira zanu.
Nanga bwanji kuzikulitsa ndi kusindikizidwa pazenera kuti zizipachika pamakoma anu? Kapenanso pamakina, makoswe, kapena maginito a firiji komwe mumatha kuwawona tsiku lililonse.
Kulankhulana kwanu kulimbikitsidwanso, mukamakambirana zakusangalala komwe mudakhala limodzi.
9. Phunzirani chatsopano pamodzi
Mukaphunzira china chatsopano, chimabweretsa chiyembekezo komanso chiyembekezo m'moyo wanu.
Kuchita zinthu zatsopano limodzi ndi mnzanu ndi kopindulitsa kwambiri chifukwa zimakupatsani mafuta atsopano olumikizirana ndipo zimakupatsani mwayi woti muwone mnzanu mwanjira ina.
Ngati nonse nonse muli masewera, nanga bwanji kutenga masewera atsopano limodzi. Kapenanso mutha kuphunzira kuphika ndikusangalala ndi chakudya chomwe mwapanga. Mwinamwake mukumverera mwaluso ndipo mukufuna kuphunzira momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito zojambulajambula kapena zojambulajambula limodzi.
10. Pempherani limodzi
Chimodzi mwazinthu zabwino kwambiri zogwirira ntchito kulumikizana ndi kupemphera limodzi. Mukamabweretsa zosowa zanu kwa Mlengi wanu, mudzazindikira chitetezo ndi mtendere podziwa kuti simukulimbana nokha.
Pamene nonse mukuyang'ana limodzi, mudzatha kupita patsogolo mwanjira yabwinoko, ndikugwirana manja, komanso kulumikizana wina ndi mnzake njira iliyonse.