Zamkati
- 1. Muzidzikonda
- 2. Khalani okondwa kukhala panokha
- 3. Pezani zokumana nazo
- 4. Dziwani makhalidwe omwe mukufuna mwa mnzanu
Kupeza wokwatirana naye kapena mnzanu wangwiro sikuli ngati kupeza munthu wangwiro kuti muzikhala naye yekhayekha chilimwe.
Zimatanthawuza kupeza munthu yemwe ungamukonde ndikukalamba ndi munthu yemwe umadziwona wekha zaka makumi anayi, makumi asanu, komanso kupitilira apo panjira.
Kupeza ndikusankha munthu yemwe mukufuna kukwatirana naye ndikukhala naye moyo ndichisankho chovuta kwambiri, ndipo ndichimodzi chomwe chimafunikira udindo waukulu, kuwona mtima komanso kulingalira mozama.
Koma khama lonse lidzapinduladi mukadzapeza munthu wapadera ndikuyamba kukhala moyo wachimwemwe!
Kupeza wokondedwa wabwino sikumangokhala mwayi, koma zokhala ndi cholinga ndikuyesetsa kuti mukwaniritse.
Malangizo otsatirawa atha kukuthandizani kuti mupeze wokwatirana naye kapena mnzake woyenera
1. Muzidzikonda
Njira imodzi yosavuta yopezera wokwatirana naye ndikuwonetsetsa kuti mwadzipereka kwa munthu woyenera pazifukwa zomveka ndikuti muzidzikonda musanapeze munthu wokhala naye moyo wanu wonse.
Kudzikonda nokha sikukutanthauza kuti muyenera kukhala osangalala ndi zomwe muli, koma ngati simukukhutira ndi inu nokha, mwina mutha kukhala pachibwenzi ndi wina chifukwa choti munthuyo amakupangitsani kuti muzidzisangalatsa .
Zachidziwikire, munthu amene mungasankhe kukhala naye moyo wanu ayenera kukumalizani, kukupangitsani kuti mumve bwino, koma ndikofunikanso kuti muzidzikonda nokha kuti mumvetse bwino pamene munthu amene mukufuna kukwatirana naye akupangitsani kumva bwino !
Mwachidule, ndikofunikira kuti mukhale osangalala ndi zomwe muli, mawonekedwe anu, ndi zomwe mumachita.
Izi sizikulimbikitsa kudzidalira kwanu, kukupangitsani kuti mukhale kosavuta kukopa anthu, komanso kukuthandizani kuti mupeze munthu wodabwitsa mofananamo yemwe angapangitse moyo wanu kukhala wabwinoko komanso wosangalala, osati munthu amene angodzaza mipata mkati mwake moyo wanu wosasangalala, mukakhala paulendo wopeza wokwatirana naye.
2. Khalani okondwa kukhala panokha
Kusakhala mbeta pomwe anzanu onse apabanja ali osangalala m'banja, kapena kukhala pachibwenzi ndichimodzi mwazomwe zimamveketsa padziko lapansi.
Mutha kulakalaka kukondedwa koposa china chilichonse, ndipo ndikwabwino kukhala wokhumudwa komanso kusungulumwa ngati simukupeza. Koma, gawo lofunikira lokonda yemwe inu muli ndikukonda kucheza nanu.
Ndikofunikira kuti mupeze njira zosiyanasiyana ndi zinthu zomwe zimakupangitsani kukhala osangalala komanso kukhala ndi chidwi popanda china.
Izi zikuthandizaninso kuti muzidzimva bwino mukadzabwera munthu wapadera ameneyu!
Anthu ambiri amalakwitsa mosavuta kukhala pachibwenzi chifukwa cha chikondi. Ngati mukumva chisoni komanso kumva chisoni ndi inu nokha, ndiye kuti mutha kutengeka mosavuta ndi aliyense amene alowa m'moyo wanu ndikukupatsani choti muchite.
3. Pezani zokumana nazo
Ngati mutha kupeza chikondi chanu choyamba muli ndi zaka khumi ndi zisanu ndi chimodzi, ndiye kuti ndinu osowa komanso obereka mwayi kwambiri. Komabe, anthu ambiri samakwatirana ndi bwenzi lawo loyamba, lachiwiri, kapenanso bwenzi lachisanu kapena bwenzi lawo lachisanu.
Kuchita zibwenzi ndi anthu angapo kumakuthandizani kumvetsetsa njira zosiyanasiyana zomwe chibwenzi chingagwirire ntchito, komanso kumakuthandizani kumvetsetsa zakapangidwe kosatha ndi mawonekedwe omwe ubale ungakhale nawo.
Izi sizitanthauza kuti muyenera kusiya munthu amene mumamukonda kuti muwone zomwe zilipo kunjaku.
Koma, ngati mukuwona kuti ndinu "wokondwa" ndi mnzanu ndipo simunayambe mwakhalapo ndi wina aliyense, ndibwino kuyesa kucheza ndi anthu ena m'malo mongokhala.
Kuchita zibwenzi ndi anthu angapo kumakuthandizaninso kudziwa momwe mungagonere, ndikupangitsani kukhala otsimikiza kwambiri kuti yemwe mudzakhale naye pachibwenzi ndi 'm'modzi' ndipo zomwe mumawamvera ndizopadera.
Kupeza zachiwerewere sikuyipanso.
Ngati mwakhala ndi anzanu angapo musanakumane ndi munthu wapadera, zidzakuthandizani kukhala otsimikiza kuti umagwirira pakati panu ndichinthu chapadera kwambiri.
Komanso, ngati mungasankhe kudzipereka kwa munthu woyamba yemwe mudakhala naye osakhala wosangalala kwenikweni, mutha kukhala moyo wanu wonse mukuganiza zomwe zikadachitika mukadapanda kutero.
4. Dziwani makhalidwe omwe mukufuna mwa mnzanu
Ngakhale simungadziwe kuti bwenzi lanu ndi ndani mpaka mutatseka nawo maso ndikukumva kuti dziko lanu likuyimilira, mutha kulingalira za mikhalidwe yomwe mukuyang'ana kwambiri pakufunafuna munthu wokwatirana naye.
Zina mwazikhalidwezi zitha kukhala zofunikira kwambiri kotero kuti simungaganizirenso munthu yemwe angakhale wokwatirana naye ngati alibe.