Zamkati
- Sinthani zoyembekezera zanu
- Phunzirani zina zomwe mungachite
- Kumbukirani malire anu
- Khalani ndi chidziwitso cholimba chogonana
- Khalani ndi thupi lanu
Pali zovuta zambiri mukatsala pang'ono kugonana.
Mwayi ino ikhala nthawi yoyamba kukhala pachibwenzi komanso osatetezeka ndi winawake - ndichinthu chachikulu. Osachepera ndi nthawiyo.
Komabe, monga mudzaonera, Kugonana koyamba sichinthu chofunikira kwanthawi yayitali, ndipo mudzawonetseratu mwachidwi za nthawi yanu yoseketsa, yosasangalatsa, komanso nthawi yoyamba yogonana.
Chifukwa chake ngati mukufuna kugonana koyamba, kumbukirani kuti ndi chinthu chachilengedwe, ndipo simudzakhala oyenera nthawi yoyamba - koma mutha kuchita zinthu zina kuti muthandize kukulitsa chidaliro komanso chidziwitso.
Nawa ena mwa malangizo abwino kwambiri ogonana koyamba kukuthandizani kuti mumvetsetse momwe mungagonane koyamba.
Onaninso:
Sinthani zoyembekezera zanu
Gawo limodzi la malangizo ofunikira koyamba kugonana ndikuthandizira zomwe mukuyembekezera.
Kuyembekezera zinthu zosatheka nthawi zonse kumatibweretsera mavuto; nthawi zambiri timakhala ndi ziyembekezo zosatheka zomwe zingakondetse kukhala opanda ungwiro kapena zoopsa kwambiri.
Nthawi zambiri, zokumana nazo zathu zambiri pamoyo zimakhala pakatikati! Ndi chimodzimodzi ndi nthawi yoyamba yogonana.
Nawa maupangiri ogonana koyamba kuti zisunge zomwe mukuyembekezera.
- Musanyalanyaze zochitika zachiwerewere zomwe zimawonetsedwa pa TV zomwe zimawononga nthawi yoyamba. Mwayi kuti mutsirize nthawi yanu yoyamba kudabwa kuti 'zinali choncho?', 'Kodi zinali zonse zomwe zinali?'.
- Kugonana kumakhala bwino pakapita nthawi ndikuchita. Zimasinthanso kutengera chikondi ndi kukondana komwe mumakhala nako ndi mnzanu. Chifukwa chake musachedwe ngati kugonana kwanu koyamba sikunayende bwino.
- Kumbukirani kuti wokondedwa wanu, kaya adagonapo kale kapena ayi, sanagonepo nanu ndipo amakukondani mokwanira kuti akufuna kugonana nanu - nawonso azikhala amantha.
- Sizokhudza kusunthika kwambiri panthawi yogonana koyamba; Ndizokhudza chidwi komanso chisangalalo chomwe mumafotokozera. Ngakhale simukusangalala ndi kugonana kwanu koyamba (ambiri satero), chidwi choyesanso ndikuyesanso zina zidzakupangitsani kukhala mulungu kapena mulungu wamkazi m'maso mwa mnzanu.
- Foreplay imapanga kusiyana kwakukulu panthawi iliyonse yogonana - osangogonana koyamba, ndipo izi zimatha kuphatikizana ndikupsompsonana. Simungapeze zokwanira - mozama.
- Simudzakhala ndi luso logonana pano, chifukwa chake kugonana kwanu koyamba kudzakhala kopunthwitsa ndipo sizingafanane ndi momwe mungasangalalire ndi moyo mtsogolo.
- Musazengereze kulankhula za zomwe mwakumana nazo ndi mnzanu. Izi zimapanga zipinda nonse kuti mupange malingaliro pazomwe mumakonda komanso komwe mungakonze.
Mukuda nkhawa ndi momwe mungakonzekerere kugonana koyamba, kumbukirani kuti musangalale nawo - ngati mutero, tikukulonjezani kuti mudzayang'ananso nthawi yanu yoyamba ndikamakumbukira zabwino mukamamwetulira ndikupukusa mutu wanu momwe mumakhalira okongola komanso opanda nzeru anali.
Phunzirani zina zomwe mungachite
Nawa maupangiri ena othandiza ogonana oyamba:
- Zosintha zina zimabwera mwachilengedwe ngati simukudziwa zilizonse mukamagonana koyamba, zili bwino, mwachibadwa mumakhala ndi lingaliro lazomwe mungachite - zokwanira kuti muthe kugonana koyamba.
- Pali zina zambiri zogonana zomwe zingakuthandizeni kukhala ndi chidaliro komanso chisangalalo chogonana. Ngati mumvetsetsa zoyenera kuchita mukamagonana koyamba komanso momwe mungasunthire, pophunzira kuchokera kwa ena, zidzakuthandizani kuti mukhale olimba mtima komanso osangalala komanso kuti mukhale olimba pakugonana. Tengani nthawi kuti mufufuze zosunthika ngati izi, ndipo mudzakhala odziwika kale panthawi yogonana koyamba chifukwa anthu ambiri samafufuza.
- Phunzirani njira zamtsogolo ndikuwerenga malangizo ogonana kuti musangalatse mnzanu ochepa nthawi imodzi, kuti musafooke, ndipo mupeza kuti mupeza njira zambiri zosangalatsa zogonana mtsogolo.
- Kukhala wachangu komanso kusangalala panthawi yogonana koyamba kungasangalatse inu ndi mnzanu, chifukwa chake ngati zina zonse zikuyenda molakwika - khalani okangalika, ndipo musangalala.
- Phunzirani za zomwe mumakonda; kudzera mu kugonana, kufufuza, ndi kudzipeza nokha, ndi njira yabwino kwambiri yotsimikiziranso za moyo wanu wogonana mtsogolo.
- Mukayamba kukhala odziwa zambiri zakugonana, kafukufukuyu komanso kudzoza sikudzatha nthawi zonse pamakhala zokoma zatsopano zogonana, mayendedwe atsopano, maluso, ndi zina zambiri.
- Khalani pamwamba pakuphunzira momwe mungakulitsire gawo lanu logonana, komanso momwe mungakhalire bwenzi lapamtima ndi mnzanu, ndipo mudzakhala ndi nthawi yabwino yogonana mtsogolo.
- Ganizirani pazomverera zomwe mukumva mukamagonana koyamba ndikuganizira kwambiri zothandiza mnzanu kumva zoterezi, nazonso - zingakuthandizeni kuti musamangoganizira zomwe mwakumana nazo.
Kumbukirani malire anu
Malire ndi omwe amatilola kukhala otetezeka panthawi yogonana. Malangizo oyamba azakugonana awa akugogomezera kufunikira kotsimikizira malire musanachite zogonana ndi wokondedwa wanu.
- Ndikofunika kugonana mosatetezeka - choncho ngakhale atadandaula kuti akugwiritsa ntchito kondomu, ndizovomerezeka kuti muumirire.
- Ngati simukufuna kuchita zinazake, nenani choncho.
- Sankhani ngati mukufuna kumuuza mnzanuyo ngati ndi nthawi yanu yoyamba. Simukukakamizidwa kutero, koma mungafune kutero. Mwanjira imeneyi, wokondedwa wanu akuyenera kukhala womvetsetsa - koma ngati sakutero - ndiye kuti ndikofunika kwambiri kuti simukukhala ndi bwenzi loyenera loti mugonane naye!
Khalani ndi chidziwitso cholimba chogonana
Upangiri wina wofunikira pakugonana koyamba ndikutsimikiza mukamafotokozera zomwe mumakonda.
- Phunzirani momwe mungachitire zogonana mosatekeseka ndikufotokozera zofuna zanu ndi mnzanu yemwe mumagonana naye, kuyambira koyamba kugonana. Ndikofunika kuti mukhale olimba mtima kuti mutha kulankhula pakafunika kutero, ndipo ndichikhalidwe kutero.
- Kumbukirani kuti kugonana sikuyenera kuvulaza, chifukwa chake ndibwino kuyimitsa china chake ngati chapweteka. Kudziwa izi panthawi yoyamba kugonana kudzakuthandizani kuzindikira malire omwe mumakhala nawo. Ingokufunsani mnzanu kuti akhale wofatsa ngati njira yoyamba.
- Ngati mwasangalala china chake, uzani mnzanu. Mnzanuyo amafunika kuyankha mafunso kuti aphunzire zogonana nanu m'njira yosangalatsa nonse.
- Fotokozerani mnzanu chidwi chomwe mumakhala nacho mukamakondwera ndi zinthu zogonana koyamba, ziwathandiza kuphunzira zambiri pazomwe mungasangalale nazo ndikuthandizani kulumikizana ndi mnzanu yemwe mukusangalala naye.
Khalani ndi thupi lanu
- Osachita manyazi ndi thupi lanu; Kugonana koyamba kudzakhala kosangalatsa kwa nonse ngati muli olimba mtima.
- Dzikonzekeretse pokonzekera. Zidzakupangitsani kumva bwino komanso kufunikira ukhondo. Onetsetsani kuti mwatsopano ndi oyera, ometedwa moyenera, komanso osanunkhira bwino kwambiri kuti musasangalale kwambiri.
- Sankhani zovala zamkati zomwe zimakupangitsani kudzisamalira nokha ndikusamalira mawanga omwe simukufuna kudzionetsera. Njirayi ikuthandizani kuti mukhale olimba mtima mukamayamba kugonana.