Zamkati
- Chifukwa chiyani kuli kovuta kuthana ndi wakale?
- Njira 25 zothetsera wakale wanu
- 1. Onjezerani nyimbo zochepa zomvetsa chisoni patsamba lanu
- 2. Dzipatseni nthawi yolira chibwenzi
- 3. Chokani m'malo ochezera
- 4. Yeretsani nyumba yanu
- 5. Dziyeseni ndi chatsopano
- 6. Ganizirani zamkhutu zonse zomwe simukuyenera kuzipirira tsopano
- 7. Ganizirani za mtundu wanji wa ubale womwe mukufuna
- 8. Yambani kusinkhasinkha
- 9. Unikani malire anu
- 10. Sinthani mawonekedwe a nyumba yanu
- 11.Pezani mphunzitsi wopumira
- 12. Ganizirani za tsogolo lanu popanda iwo
- 13. Osalumikizana nawo
- 14. Yambirani za kudzikonda
- 15. Dziwani kuti kukwiya ndi gawo chabe
- 16. Musatengere ulemu wanu pachinthu chomwe chatayika
- 17. Sungani thanzi lanu lamaganizidwe
- 18. Osadalira ubale womwe wabwerera
- 19. Lekani kudikira kuti mumalize mkazi wanu wakale
- 20. Siyani kulakwa
- 21. Osachita ulesi
- 22. Khazikitsani chizolowezi chokhazikika
- 23. Lekani kulankhula za ubale wanu ndi aliyense
- 24. Kutsekedwa mwina kungakhale yankho
- 25. Kulandila kuyenera kukhala mutu wanu
- Mapeto
“Mwina sanakuswetseni mtima wanu
Mwina siomwe adakusiyani
Mwina sangakhale omaliza
Mwina sangakhale okondedwa anu
Koma munkawakonda, motero anali ofunika. ”
Nthawi zambiri, maubale amaperekedwa kukhala amtengo wapatali pokhapokha ngati ali 'AMODZI' m'moyo wanu. Chodabwitsa ichi sicholondola.
Ziribe kanthu momwe mumagawana ubale, mfundo ndiyakuti munthuyo anali wofunika chifukwa mumawakonda. Ndipo kusunthira kutali ndi munthu amene mumamukonda, munthu amene mumaganiza kuti ndi dziko kwa inu, tsopano sali yemweyo; kuzindikira kumeneko kumapweteka.
Ngati mwatuluka kumene pachibwenzi ndipo mukuganiza mukukumana ndi chisoni, kodi mungatani kuti muthane naye wakale? Kenako dziwani kuti muyenera kuzindikira ndikuvomereza kuti chibwenzi chanu chatha.
Ziribe kanthu ngati mumaziwona zikubwera kuchokera mtunda mtsogolo, kapena zimangokhala zidebe zamadzi ozizira otayidwa pamutu panu, zidachitika. Simulinso limodzi.
Tsopano, mwina mungadzipezere nokha kungoyenda, 'kodi mungathane naye bwanji wakale?' Choyamba, zonse zidzakhala bwino, osati pano, osati sabata limodzi kapena mwina mwezi kapena chaka, koma pamapeto pake.
Kudziwa bwino kuti zimapweteka kupitilira wakale, kumbukirani, palibe njira yachidule ndipo palibe njira yoti mupezere yankho la 'momwe mungakwaniritsire wakale wanu?' pa Ukonde Wadziko Lonse.
Zotsatirazi ndizo zochepa zomwe muyenera kuchita ndi zomwe simuyenera kuchita mutakhala ndi mwayi woti mutha.
Chifukwa chiyani kuli kovuta kuthana ndi wakale?
Mukadziphatika kwa wina, zimakhudza moyo wanu komanso malingaliro anu. Ngati mwakhala muubwenzi wanthawi yayitali, kuchoka pa wakale kumakhala kovuta.
Mumagawana zinthu zambiri zofananira, ndipo pakapita nthawi mumayamba kukonda nyimbo zawo, chakudya, mafashoni, ndi zina zambiri.
Mukadziphatika kwa winawake ndikulimbitsa mgwirizano, zimatenga nthawi kuti mumve chisoni ndikusiya.
Kaya anthu akufuna kuvomereza kapena ayi, kufunafuna momwe mungapezere mnyamata kapena momwe mungapezere msungwana kapena kufunafuna momwe mungaganizire za bwenzi lanu lakale sizingapangitse chilichonse kukhala chabwino.
Mpaka mutapulumuka ku chisoni chaubwenzi wanu wakale, mupitiliza kulingalira - momwe mungapezere munthu amene mumamukonda?
Njira 25 zothetsera wakale wanu
Palibe mndandanda wa nthawi yomwe ungatanthauze nthawi yochuluka yomwe ingatengere kuti musiye kukonda wokondedwa wanu ndikupitabe patsogolo, koma nazi njira zina zabwino zofananira ndi wakale.
1. Onjezerani nyimbo zochepa zomvetsa chisoni patsamba lanu
Monga momwe zimamvekera, kumvera nyimbo zachisoni kumatha kukhala kuchiritsa kwambiri.
Tsopano mutha kufunsa, 'zingandithandize bwanji kupitirira wakale wanga?' Chomwe tikudziwa ndichakuti, monga anthufe, timakhala ndi zotengera zomwe zimadutsa mthupi lathu, koma ndi ochepa chabe mwa ife omwe amatha kufotokoza. Oyimba ndi olemba nyimbo ndi ena mwa ochepawa.
Tikamamvera nyimbozi, zimakhala ngati akulankhula nafe. Akupereka mawu ku zowawa zilizonse zomwe sitikunena, ndipo timasangalala. Tikuwona ngati kuti ena adutsapo zomwe tikukumana nazo, ndipo sitili tokha m'phompho.
Kupatula apo, Shakespeare adalemba -
'Ngati nyimbo ndi chakudya chachikondi, sewerani.'
2. Dzipatseni nthawi yolira chibwenzi
Ziribe kanthu momwe nonse mudasiyana, ngakhale atakhala otayika bwanji. Ziribe kanthu momwe inu nonse munafika poti simungathe kukhala pamodzi, ndipo ngakhale mutamunyoza bwanji munthuyo pakadali pano, chowonadi ndichakuti mumamukonda munthuyo nthawi imodzi.
Monga momwe munthu amafunikira kulira wokondedwa wake atamwalira, kutha kwa banja kuli ngati kuchotsa tsogolo, tsogolo lomwe mumaganizira kuti mudzakhala nalo.
Kulira ndi gawo lotsatira pokhudzana ndi momwe mungapitirirere wakale. Dzitsekeni m'nyumba mwanu, idyani zidebe za ayisikilimu, lirani kuti mugone, khalani pabedi sabata yonse, penyani zithunzi ndi makanema anu akale, khalani okwiya. Chitani zonsezi ndi zina ngati mukufuna.
Chonde musasamale za nthawi yayitali kuti mumalize wakale. Ingotulutsa mkwiyo wanu, kukhumudwa, ululu, ndikukhala okonzekera gawo lotsatira.
3. Chokani m'malo ochezera
Kutsata kukondana kwanu kapena kuwonerera mabanja ena onse okondana sikungakuthandizeni kuyankha funso lanu, 'mungatani kuti muthane ndi mkazi wakale?'
Pumulani moyenera pama TV, ndikupumula. Instagram ndi Facebook atha kukhala malo opitilira zaka zikwizikwi zikafika pakadutsa nthawi kapena zosangalatsa zokha; komabe, ikhoza kukhala gehena yamoyo ngati mwangobwera kumene kuchokera pachibwenzi ndipo simunavomerezebe pano.
4. Yeretsani nyumba yanu
Ili ndi gawo lina lofunika pankhani ya momwe mungapitirirere wakale.
Kumbukirani! Palibe chabwino chilichonse chomwe chingabwere chifukwa chodzikundikira zovala za wakale, mphatso, zithunzi, kapena zikumbukiro zina. Mungawafune kuti alire chifukwa cha kutayika kwanu, koma tsopano gawoli latha, sonkhanitsani zonse (zikhale zanu, koma zimakukumbutsani za wakale) ndikuwapatsa zabwino.
Kuwotcha kapena kuwataya si kwabwino.
Muyenera kuthana ndi chisoni chanu pochitapo kanthu, osati powononga zinthu zomwe mumakonda komanso zomwe mumakonda. Ingoganizirani izi motere; zinakusangalatsani kamodzi; tsopano, zibweretsa chisangalalo kwa wina.
5. Dziyeseni ndi chatsopano
Ngati mwakhala mukukondana kwakanthawi, mumakhala bwino ndi momwe mumaonekera, mumayamba kuchepa, ndipo simumadzionanso.
Zikatero, kulekana ndikumadzuka.
Mukamaliza ndi masitepe 2 ndi 3, yambani kugwira nokha. Sinthani zinthu zingapo m'chipinda chanu cha zovala, dulani tsitsi, yambani kutuluka, ndikusangalala ndiusiku.
Njira yabwino yodziwira wina ndi kuchita zinthu zomwe mumachita mantha mukakhala ndi wakale wanu.
Kupita kutchuthi, kusintha kwa mawonekedwe kungakhale kothandiza kwambiri, ndipo simudziwa zinsinsi zomwe dziko lapansi zakusungirani. Zitha kukupangitsani kuiwala wakale.
6. Ganizirani zamkhutu zonse zomwe simukuyenera kuzipirira tsopano
Ngati ndi kulekana msanga, mwina mukukumbukira za bwenzi lanu lakale komanso nthawi yosangalatsa yomwe nonse mudali limodzi.
Koma ngati mukufuna kuiwala wakale wanu, tengani cholembera ndi kope ndikulemba zamkhutu zonse zomwe mumakumana nazo.
Lembani zomwe zakukhumudwitsani, zinthu zomwe sizinali zolondola pakati pa inu nonse, ndipo koposa zonse, lembani zinthu zonse (ngakhale zazing'ono) zomwe zakupusitsani.
Mutha kuyamba kukhulupirira kuti kuchoka pa wakale ndikosavuta.
7. Ganizirani za mtundu wanji wa ubale womwe mukufuna
Anthu ambiri amakopa anthu chifukwa chongoganiza zabodza ndipo pamapeto pake amawononga ubale wawo. Khalani omveka pamutu panu pazomwe mukufuna kuchokera pachibwenzi m'moyo wanu.
Chitani zofuna zonse za moyo zomwe mungathe ndikuphunzira zonse za inu nokha kuti mukope mtundu wa munthu yemwe muyenera kukhala naye komanso wina amene akuyenera.
Yesani: Mtundu Wotani Ubale Ndikufuna Mafunso
8. Yambani kusinkhasinkha
Moyo wanu wachikondi wakale ungakukokereni pansi ngati simusunga malingaliro anu. Mutha kupitiliza kudana ndi wakale wanu, koma kupitilira wakale kumakhala kovuta kwambiri ngati simungathe kuwongolera malingaliro anu.
Chikondi chikakusiyirani kusungulumwa, chimakhala chachilendo komanso chowopsa. Kusunga malingaliro anu molingana ndi kuyang'ana mtsogolo kungakuthandizeni kuiwala wakale.
9. Unikani malire anu
Mukuganiza kuti anthu amakupwetekani kwambiri, kenako nkukusiyani? Kodi mwakhala wabwino kwambiri nthawi zonse, wopereka, wosamalira, wokondana naye? Funsani mafunso onsewa.
Dzifufuzeni nokha ndikupeza zomwe zikuchitika mkati mwanu. Mukamaliza, ndiye kuti mubwerere kumalo okumbukira ndikuwona malire anu.
Mukawapeza awoloka mwangozi, osadandaula. Ingowakonzekeretsani m'malingaliro anu. Nthawi zina anthu samazindikira kuti kusakhala ndi malire kumatha kuthetsa chibwenzi. Ngati mwalakwitsa m'mbuyomu, osabwereza pambuyo poti mumalize bwenzi lanu lakale.
10. Sinthani mawonekedwe a nyumba yanu
Ngati bwenzi lanu lakhala lili mnyumba mwanu nthawi yokwanira kuti kukumbukira kosangalatsa kukugwedezedwa ndi malingaliro anu nthawi ndi nthawi, konzaninso!
Kusintha mipando kapena zokongoletsera pang'ono kapena mtundu wamakomawo kungakuthandizeni. Mukakweza nyumba yanu, sizingafanane ndi komwe mudapanga zokumbukiran ndi wakale wanu, ndipo ndizomwe muyenera kusiya kuganiza za bwenzi lanu lakale.
11.Pezani mphunzitsi wopumira
Ngati kuvutika kwanu sikukuchuluka kwambiri ndipo mnzanu wapamtima kapena wina amene ali pafupi nanu akhoza kukutsogolerani pambuyo poti mwasiyana.
Ngati mukuganiza kuti mulibe wina wogawana nawo zowawa zanu ndi kusungulumwa kwanu, lembani mphunzitsi wopumira. Ikuthandizani kupeza mayankho a mafunso ozama komanso kukuthandizani kumvetsetsa chifukwa chake sizikugwira ntchito.
Wophunzitsira kutha ndiye njira yabwino yopezera wina.
12. Ganizirani za tsogolo lanu popanda iwo
Pambuyo pake, maanja amayamba kuganiza za chilichonse ngati "ife," ndipo mukamachita izi ndikumatha kugwa, zimakuvutani kuthana ndi kusintha kwa moyo ndi malingaliro anu.
Zitha kuwoneka zosatheka koma kuganizira za tsogolo lanu popanda mnzanu wakale ndi imodzi mwazabwino zokuthandizani kuthana ndi wakale.
13. Osalumikizana nawo
Liyenera kukhala lamulo loyamba komanso lofunikira kwambiri pamene mukufuna yankho la momwe mungapitirire wakale - osalumikizananso nawo.
Mukachita izi, mukukumba manda anu. Mukamayimbira wokondedwa wanu, mumatsegula zenera kuti mubwererenso ndikupwetekanso. Ngati mukuganiza zakuiwala wakale, musawaimbire foni kapena kuwatumizira uthenga.
Kuvomereza kuti zinthu zatha bwino ndi momwe mumatha kuthana ndi wakale wanu.
14. Yambirani za kudzikonda
Payenera kukhala zinthu zambiri zomwe simukanakhoza kuchita muli pachibwenzi. Tsopano popeza simuli pabanja ndipo muli ndi nthawi yokwanira, bwanji osagwiritsa ntchito kuti mukhale osangalala.
Phikani keke, phunzirani luso latsopano, pitani kokacheza ndi tsiku, kusambira thovu, kudzipezera tsiku la spa, kupita kukadya ku malo odyera omwe mumawakonda, ndi zina zambiri.
Pali zinthu zambiri zomwe mungachite kuti musiye kuganizira za wakale.
Nayi kanema yodzikonda:
15. Dziwani kuti kukwiya ndi gawo chabe
Mwazindikira kuti bwenzi lanu lakale silinali loyenera kwa inu, ndipo tsopano mwapsa mtima. Zikhala zothandiza ngati mumvetsetsa kuti kukwiyira mnzanu wakale sikungakuthandizeni.
Mutha kumva kufunikira kowakhumudwitsa ndi kuwauza kuti zomwe adachita sizabwino. Mukudziwa tsopano kuti mukuyenera kuchita bwino. Ngakhale mutafunsira anthu kangati kuti muthane naye wakale mpaka mutadutsa mkwiyo, mumangokhalira kuwaganizira.
16. Musatengere ulemu wanu pachinthu chomwe chatayika
Ngati mukuyesera kupitiliza, lekani kubwerera komwe mukupeza kuti mukuyembekezeranso kukumananso. Ngati mukuganiza kuti zonse sizitayika pakatha miyezi ingapo mutasudzulana, mukutsutsa.
Chonde mvetsetsani kuti chaputala ndi ex wanu chatha, ndipo muyenera kusiya kukhala mu "what if."
Kupitilira wakale ndizovuta kwambiri. Osadzipweteka nokha mobwerezabwereza poyesera kusunga china chomwe chatayika kale.
17. Sungani thanzi lanu lamaganizidwe
Mukamayesa kuthana ndi wokondedwa wakale, chisoni ndikumva kodziwika. Kulola kuti muzimverera za munthu amene mumamukonda ndi kovuta.
Mutha kukhala osungulumwa ndipo zimawavuta kukhala ndi chimwemwe chochepa chabe. Anthu ambiri samazindikira akamadutsa ming'alu ndikukhala ozungulira ndi kukhumudwa.
Onetsetsani kuti mukusamalira maganizidwe anu ngati mukuganiza kuti mulibe nkhawa kapena muli ndi zizindikilo zakukhumudwa. Funsani katswiri.
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18. Osadalira ubale womwe wabwerera
Simukudziwa kale za momwe mungagonjetse wakale wanu. Kufunafuna ubale womwe ungabwerenso sikubweretsa mtendere m'maganizo mwanu.
Mukapanda kumaliza zaka zanu zakale, kubwereranso kumatha kuwononga thanzi lanu lam'maganizo mpaka kufika poti simungathe kuwongolera momwe mumamvera.
Njira yothetsera vuto lakale sikutenga mbali ndi bwenzi lina. Tengani nthawi yanu ndikuchiritsa mtima wanu.
19. Lekani kudikira kuti mumalize mkazi wanu wakale
Anthu ena amapitilizabe kukumbukira zomwe akukumbukira mobwerezabwereza ndipo amadandaula kuti sangathe kuthana ndi akazi awo akale. Amangokhalira kudandaula za nthawi yayitali kuti muthe kuchoka pa wakale.
Muyenera kumvetsetsa kuti ngati mupitiliza kuyang'ana nthawi, nthawiyo imadutsa pang'onopang'ono. Mukamayesetsa kupita patsogolo, yesetsani kuiwala za mnzanu wakale m'malo mowaganizira.
20. Siyani kulakwa
Ndi imodzi mwazinthu zofunikira kwambiri kuti muthane ndi wakale wanu. Yesani ndikumvetsetsa ngati akadapanda kuchita zomwe adalakwitsa, mukadakhala mu ubale woopsawo.
Chilichonse chomwe adachita chidakupatsani kumveka bwino m'moyo ndikuwulula kuti sanali iwowo. Chifukwa chake, lekani kuwadzudzula ndikuyamba kuganizira za momwe moyo wanu ungakhalire wodabwitsa popanda iwo.
21. Osachita ulesi
Anthu samayesa kuyiwala anzawo akale mwachangu. Anthu ena amakhulupirira kuti amamva zowawa zonse asanapite patali ndi wakale. Tengani nthawi yanu koma osachedwa. Osakhala aulesi ndikumira mu dziwe lachisoni.
Mukachoka pa ex, onetsetsani kuti mukukhala otanganidwa. Ulesi umachulukitsa kumverera kwachisoni ndi kukhumudwa, ndipo simuyenera kulola malingaliro aliwonse pafupi nanu.
22. Khazikitsani chizolowezi chokhazikika
Kugona usiku kwambiri kapena kudzuka pakati masana kumatha kukulitsa nthawi yopitilira wakale. Ndikwabwino kutsatira chizolowezi ndikugawa nthawi yanu mokhazikika kuti mukhale otanganidwa ndi china chake.
Chizoloŵezi chokondwerera chingakhudze thanzi lanu. Kutsata chizolowezi kumakupatsani thanzi lamaganizidwe ndi thupi.
23. Lekani kulankhula za ubale wanu ndi aliyense
Mukakwiya, mumakhala wokhumudwa ndipo muyenera kutulutsa nthawi ndi nthawi.
Ingokumbukirani kuti mukamayankhula zaubwenzi wanu ndikukhumudwitsidwa kwakukulu, mumakonda kukambirana za zoyipa zomwe mwakumana nazo ndi bwenzi lanu lakale.
Kukumbukiranso nthawi zoyipa izi kumatha kukupangitsani kulingalira za bwenzi lanu lakale. Ngati simusiya kulankhula za chibwenzi chanu chakale kapena wakale, simudzasiya kuganizira za wakale.
24. Kutsekedwa mwina kungakhale yankho
Anthu ena amakumana ndi zovuta akamayesa kupeza njira yopitilira pa ex chifukwa sanatsekedwe.
Chonde mvetsetsani kuti kutseka kapena kusatsekedwa, ulendowu kuchokera pakulira maliro mpaka osadandaula, ndi wanu wonse.
Njira yabwino yothanirana ndi munthu ndi kuyiwala za kutseka ndikulingalira za moyo wanu. Ngati mukuyembekezerabe kuti mutseke, pakhoza kukhala mwayi woti muyesere kukhala bwenzi ndi wakale wanu, ndipo sizitha bwino.
25. Kulandila kuyenera kukhala mutu wanu
Mutha kusaka njira zambiri zopezera bwenzi lanu lakale, koma palibe chomwe chingachitike kufikira mutasankha gawo lino ndikutuluka ngati wopambana.
Zingakuthandizeni ngati mutapanga mtendere ndikuti pali china chake, ndipo tsopano sichoncho. Tsiku lomwe simudzasokonezedwa ndi malingaliro a wokondedwa wanu lidzakhala tsiku lomwe pamapeto pake mudzachoka kwa bwenzi lanu lakale.
Mapeto
Kupitilira wakale kungakhale kutenga nthawi komanso kutopetsa. Chonde onetsetsani kuti mutenga nthawi yanu ndikumvetsetsa kuti palibe woyenera kulira pamoyo wanu wonse.
Mukasintha malingaliro anu opatukana kukhala chinthu chabwino, mudzadziwa msanga momwe mungagonjere wakale.