Zamkati
- 1. Kubwezeretsanso umunthu wanu
- 2. Uphungu kwa ana
- 3. Landirani ndi kupitiriza ndi moyo wanu
- 4. Pewani mikangano yosafunikira
- 5. Chitani nawo zinthu zomwe zimakulimbikitsani
- 6. Pezani thandizo ndikucheza ndi abale komanso abwenzi
Kupatukana kwa okwatirana pambuyo paubwenzi wa nthawi yayitali ndi nthawi yovuta m'moyo wanu, ndipo zimangowonjezereka pamene ana akutengapo gawo. Zowawa za kusudzulana ndi kupatukana zimakupangitsani kukhala wopanikizika kwambiri.
Kaya akhale kupatukana m'banja kapena chisudzulo chothana ndi zovuta zakulekana kungakhale kovuta kwambiri. Zomwe mukufuna ndimakhalidwe abwino ndi dongosolo lokuthandizirani kuti muchiritse msanga mopanikizika pang'ono.
Chiyembekezo chodzitchinjiriza cha nthawi zambiri zosangalatsa zomwe mumafuna kukhala limodzi mpaka ukalamba pamodzi ndi ziyembekezo ndi malingaliro ndi ndalama zomwe mudapanga kale zitha kukupangitsani kukhala amisala.
Komabe, polimbana ndi kupatukana m'banja, muyenera kulisamalira molimba mtima, ndipo pamapeto pake, mudzatuluka bwino komanso mwamphamvu.
Kusudzulana kapena kupatukana muukwati ndi njira yabwinoko kuposa kukhala m'banja losasangalala.
Gawo lotere lingawoneke kukhala lalikulu, koma limakupatsani mwayi wopeza bwenzi loyenera ndikuchita chibwenzi chopindulitsa.
Ngakhale tsogolo likuwoneka ngati losatsimikizika, koma pamapeto pake, pali kuunika kumapeto kwa mumphangayo.
Pali maanja omwe adakumana ndi zovuta zopatukana ndi chisudzulo ndipo apeza chilimbikitso mwa iwo okha kapena kudzera mu ubale wokhutiritsa.
Chifukwa chake, muyenera kuchita chiyani ngati mukukumana ndi kupatukana ndi mnzanu? Kodi ndi njira ziti zabwino kwambiri za 'momwe mungasamalire kupatukana kwa banja?' ndi kupewa kusokonezeka maganizo banja likatha.
Nkhaniyi ikufotokoza za njira zisanu ndi imodzi zabwino kwambiri zothetsera kupatukana komanso kupewa kusokonezeka m'maganizo banja litatha.
1. Kubwezeretsanso umunthu wanu
Gawo loyambilira lakubwera pambuyo poti kupatukana kungakhale kuyang'ana patsogolo ndikudandaula zomwe mudali nazo.
Yambani ndi kuthana ndi malingaliro olakwika ndi zizindikilo zakudziimba mlandu, zomwe zimachepetsa kudzidalira kwanu. Inde, zatha, ndipo mwachita zonse zotheka kuti mupulumutse izi ngakhale zizindikilo zonse zosonyeza kuti sizoyenera.
Gawo lovuta kwambiri latha, ndipo ino si nthawi yoti mudzichitire chifundo.
Dzipukuseni ndipo nyamulani zidutswazo. Ino si nthawi yoti mungadzipweteketse nokha, koma, nthawi yoti mudzimangenso nokha ndikubwezeretsanso dzina lanu lotayika chifukwa cha mavuto am'banja.
Onani zomwe mungathe komanso mwayi womwe simukanatha kutsatira chifukwa chakulemedwa ndi kulemera kwa banja lanu.
Yesetsani kukulitsa umunthu wanu ndikukula kwamakhalidwe. Pezani maluso atsopano omwe amakupatsani mpata wowonetsera talente yanu monga chitsimikizo cha kufunika kwanu.
2. Uphungu kwa ana
Ana amalumikizana ndi makolo onse m'makonzedwe apabanja ogwirizana. Nthawi zina, sanakuwone mukukangana, mwadzidzidzi, pamakhala kusintha kwakukulu kovuta kuvomereza.
Lankhulani ndi anawo kuti mumvetsetse kuti silinali vuto lawo. Limbikitsani mzimu wawo wotsika powatsimikizira za chikondi chanu chopanda malire ndikusintha pang'ono.
Zachidziwikire, pakhoza kukhala zosintha zazikulu, mosalekeza, adziwitse ndikuzitenga bwino. Zikachitika kwambiri ngati muli ndi vuto lakukhumudwa, funsani mlangizi kuti athane ndi nkhawa.
Onetsetsani kuti ana anu ali ndi chizolowezi chabwino chomwe sichiphatikizapo kukokedwa mumakangano anu ndi wakale, ndipo koposa zonse, osalankhula zoyipa za mnzanu pamaso pawo.
3. Landirani ndi kupitiriza ndi moyo wanu
Dziwonetseni nokha, lekani kukhala osadzikana, ndipo mulole kuti kukudziwitseni kuti sizabizinesi monga mwachizolowezi. Pitirizani ndi moyo wanu; khalani ndi nthawi yochira mpumulo wamalingaliro kuti gawo liyambenso kukondana.
Musasokoneze moyo wake pofufuza kapena kuwopseza wokondedwa wawo watsopano.
Zachidziwikire, zimapweteka, koma tsopano sizingatheke. Sanjani nzeru ndikuika patsogolo moyo wanu komanso wa ana.
Alangizi a mabanja akukulangizani kuti mupume kaye pachibwenzi mpaka mutatsimikiza kuti mwakonzeka. Osadzipanikiza, yang'anani mkati, ndikuwonetsetsa zomwe mukufuna.
Nsanje ndi kutengeka zimangokupangitsani kuti zikhale zovuta kuti mupite patsogolo m'moyo wanu.
Yakwana nthawi yakusintha umunthu wanu pakupeza maluso ena omwe mwina mudazengereza chifukwa cha maudindo abanja; izi zitha kuteteza malingaliro anu kutali ndi malingaliro olakwika.
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4. Pewani mikangano yosafunikira
Mukuganiza momwe mungachitire ndi kupatukana m'banja?
Mukamaliza ndi rigamarole ya kupatukana kwanu kapena chisudzulo, ndiye dzipatseni mpata wokhala mosiyana mukamayang'anira malire a udindo wanu wachuma komanso kulera ana.
Zitha kuwerengedwa kuti ndizachilengedwe kukalipira mnzanu chifukwa chowawa ndi mkwiyo; komabe, sikulangizidwa chifukwa zimangoyambitsa mphamvu zoyipa zomwe zimachedwetsa kupita patsogolo kwanu mu "kuvomereza ndikusunthira patsogolo".
Lankhulanani wina ndi mnzake pakafunika kutero pamalire a chisudzulo kapena mgwirizano wopatukana.
5. Chitani nawo zinthu zomwe zimakulimbikitsani
Muli ndi nthawi yambiri yomwe muli nayo; ngati simukugwiritsa ntchito bwino, ndiye gwero la malingaliro olakwika. Gwiritsani ntchito bwino nthawi ino kuti muphunzire kapena kuwerenga buku lolimbikitsa kapena kulembetsa nawo gulu lolimbitsa thupi kapena kutsatira zomwe mumalakalaka maluso.
6. Pezani thandizo ndikucheza ndi abale komanso abwenzi
Osadzichitira chifundo mwakudzipatula.
Ngati simungathe kuthana ndi vutoli, pezani aphungu azamabanja kuti akuthandizeni kuti musinthe mosakwatiwa.
Kusangalala ndi anzanu omwe sakukuweruzani kapena kukuimbani mlandu ndizothandizanso. M'malo mwake, ngati zingatheke, kambiranani zina zomwe sizikugwirizana ndi banja lanu pokhapokha mukakhala uphungu.
Kulekana ndi gawo loyamba kusudzulana. Ndi nthawi yofufuzira kuti mupeze yankho lomveka bwino m'banja lanu.
Sankhani chisudzulo mukatsimikiza kuti ndiye njira yabwino komanso yokhayo nonsenu. Tengani gawo limodzi panthawi imodzi kuti mupewe misampha yopatukana ndi kusudzulana.