Zamkati
- 1. Sichikuchepa kuchuluka kwake komanso kuchuluka kwake
- 2. Nkhondo zabwino ndi ndewu zachilungamo
- 3. Maanja athanzi amasunga maakaunti achidule
- 4. Ndewu zabwino zimatha ndewu
- 5. Nkhondo zoyenera sizikhala zachiwawa
Ngakhale mutakhala kuti mumakondana kwambiri, ndizosatheka kukhala ndiubwenzi wokhalitsa popanda kusamvana kamodzi kapena kanthawi.
Mabanja ena amawoneka kuti amakangana kapena kulimbana kwambiri, pomwe ena amawoneka ngati samatero konse.
Ngati munakulira m'banja lomwe makolo anu ankamenya nkhondo kwambiri, mwina sizingakhale bwino kuti mukhale pachibwenzi chomwe sichimagwirizana kwenikweni.
Kumbali inayi, iwo omwe anakulira m'mabanja omwe simakhala mikangano yambiri atha kupeza zovuta ngati ali pachibwenzi chomwe chimakhala chovuta kwambiri.
Onjezerani mikangano yosiyana siyana komanso kusamvana komwe tonse timafotokoza, ndipo zingakhale zovuta kudziwa kuti kulimbana kuli koyenera bwanji pachibwenzi komanso nthawi yomwe muyenera kuda nkhawa - kapena kuchoka. Ngakhale palibe nambala yamatsenga yomwe ndi "yolondola" kumenya nkhondo pachibwenzi, pali zinthu zina zofunika kuziganizira.
Nazi zinthu 5 zoti muziwone ngati kuchuluka kwa kumenyera ubale wanu kuli kwabwino kapena ayi.
1. Sichikuchepa kuchuluka kwake komanso kuchuluka kwake
Palibe ndewu zingapo kapena mikangano yambiri yomwe imapangitsa kuti ubale ukhale "wathanzi."
M'malo mwake ndi mtundu wankhondo zanu zomwe zimakupatsani chidziwitso cha ubale wanu.
Mabanja athanzi sikuti ndi mabanja omwe samamenya nkhondo - koma ndi mabanja omwe kumenya kwawo nkhondo kumakhala kopindulitsa, koyenera, komanso kutha.
Izi zikutanthauza kuti amalimbana pamutu umodzi kamodzi, amafunafuna mayankho, amamenya nkhondo mwachilungamo, ndipo amaliza kumenyanako ndi yankho kapena mgwirizano kuti abwererenso.
2. Nkhondo zabwino ndi ndewu zachilungamo
Kulimbana mwachilungamo kumatha kukhala kovuta tikakhumudwitsidwa, kukwiya, kapena kupsa mtima kwina. Koma kuti nkhondoyi ichititse kuti pakhale ubale wathanzi, ziyenera kukhala zachilungamo.
Kodi kumenya nkhondo kotani?
Kulimbana mwachilungamo ndi komwe inu nonse mumaganizira kwambiri za nkhaniyi, m'malo mongobweretsa zonse zomwe zakukwiyitsani paubwenzi.
Kulimbana mwachilungamo ndi komwe kumapewa kutchulana mayina, kukumenyani, kuthana ndi mantha a mnzanu kapena zoopsa zomwe zidachitika kale, kapena "kugunda pansi pa lamba."
3. Maanja athanzi amasunga maakaunti achidule
Gawo la kuphunzira kulimbana ndi kuphunzira mwachilungamo kuti muzisunga maakaunti achidule. Izi zikutanthauza kuti mutha kubweretsa china pomwe chimachitika (kapena posakhalitsa pambuyo pake) ngati chikukuvutitsani, kapena mumachisiya.
Simusunga mndandanda wazinthu zonse zomwe mnzanu amachita zomwe zimakukwiyitsani kenako nkuzisiya zonse mkangano miyezi isanu ndi umodzi kutsika.
Kusunga maakaunti achidule kumatanthauzanso kusabweretsa nkhani zam'mbuyomu zomwe zidasinthidwa kukhala zotsutsana pambuyo pake ngati zipolopolo. Kungakhale kovuta kusiya kukwiya komanso kusungirana chakukhosi m'mbuyomu, koma kuti muthane ndi chilungamo ndikusunga ubale wanu, ndikofunikira kuyesetsa.
4. Ndewu zabwino zimatha ndewu
Njira yayikulu yolimbanirana kuti mulimbane muubwenzi wanu ndikuwonetsetsa kuti mwamaliza ndewu zikachitika. Izi zikutanthauza kuti muyenera kukonza vutoli kuti muthe kukhazikitsa mgwirizano.
(Ngati mumalimbana pafupipafupi pavuto lomwelo lomwe silingathetsedwe, imeneyo ndi mbendera yofiira - mwina simukumenyera nkhondoyi ndipo muyenera kugwa pansi, kapena muli ndi kusiyana kwakukulu komwe sikungakhale gwirizanani.)
Mgwirizanowu, kunyengerera, kapena yankho lina litakwaniritsidwa, chofunikira ndikukhazikitsanso mgwirizano pobwezeretsanso ubale, kupanga zoyesayesa zofunikira, ndikuvomereza kuti nkhaniyi siyidzabweranso ndewu zamtsogolo pazinthu zosagwirizana.
5. Nkhondo zoyenera sizikhala zachiwawa
Anthu amasiyanasiyana ngakhale akufuula kapena kukweza mawu awo pomenya nkhondo, ndipo palibe mtundu umodzi wathanzi pano.
Koma ndewu zabwino ziliosakhala achiwawa kapena odzazidwa ndi ziwopsezo.
Kumva kuti mukuwopsezedwa kapena kukhala osatetezeka pankhondo ndiye kuti china chake chalakwika kwambiri.
Ngakhale munthu yemwe anali wankhanza apepesa pambuyo pake ndikulonjeza kuti sadzachitanso zoterezi, nkhondo ikasanduka yachiwawa imasinthiratu chibwenzicho.
Mukumva malingaliro osiyanasiyana pankhondoyi, koma musamachite mantha kapena ngati mukufuna kuopseza kapena kuvulaza mnzanu.
Chifukwa chake ngakhale zingakhale zovuta kudziwa kuchuluka kwa anthu kuti tiyankhe funso loti 'Kodi maanja amamenya kangati', ndikosavuta kudziwa kuti kulimbana koyenera ndikulimbana kotani.
Ndipo ngati ndewu zanu zimachitika pafupipafupi koma zathanzi kuposa banja lomwe limamenya nkhondo pafupipafupi - koma ndewu zawo zili ndi poizoni, mwina ndi nthawi yoti muzindikire kuti ubale wanu ndiwopatsa thanzi komanso wokonda m'malo modziyesa nokha ngati mumamenya nkhondo pafupipafupi?