Zamkati
- Phunzirani kulankhulana mosiyana
- Phunzirani kupepesa
- Kumbukirani zabwino za wokondedwa wanu
- Pezani china chake chomwe mumakonda ndipo chitani
Anthu ambiri okwatirana amabwera kudzaonana ndi aphungu kuti awafunse kuti: “Kodi ndingatani kuti banja langa likhale labwino?” Ndipo ambiri, mwatsoka, amabwera mochedwa, pambuyo poti ubalewo wawonongeka kale ndi mkwiyo wosatha, mikangano, ndi mkwiyo. Ichi ndichifukwa chake muyenera kuyesetsa kupewa zinthu kuti zipite patali ndikukhazikitsa zina zosavuta koma zofunika zomwe zingapangitse banja lanu kukhala labwino nthawi yomweyo.
Phunzirani kulankhulana mosiyana
Ambiri mwa anthu omwe sanakwatirane m'banja amakhala ndi zofooka zina - samadziwa kuyankhulana bwino. Izi sizitanthauza kuti ndinu wolankhula momasuka nthawi zonse. Mutha kukhala chinthu chokoma kwambiri ndi anzanu, ana, abale, anzanu akuntchito. Koma nthawi zambiri pamakhala china chake chomwe chimayambitsa mkangano womwewo pakati pa amuna ndi akazi mobwerezabwereza.
Ichi ndichifukwa chake ndikofunikira kuti muphunzire kuyankhula mosiyana ndi wokondedwa wanu. Zomwe zikutanthawuza ndikuti muyenera kufewetsa mawu anu oyamba (tikudziwa kuti pali amodzi, monga "Simunatero ..."). Muyenera kupewa kudzitchinjiriza kapena kuchita ndewu. Ingolankhulani ngati akulu awiri. Nthawi zonse pewani kuimba mlandu; yesetsani kupereka malingaliro anu m'malo mwanu, ndipo koposa zonse - yesetsani kumvetsetsa malingaliro a mnzanu.
Yambani poona momwe mumalankhulira. Ndani wopambana? Nchiyani chimayambitsa kukalipa? Nchiyani chimasinthira zokambirana zachizolowezi kumenyana kwanthawi yayitali? Tsopano, ndi chiyani chomwe mungachite mosiyana? Kodi mungadzitulutse bwanji nokha ndi mnzanuyo pansi ndi kuyamba kuyankhula ngati anthu awiri omwe amakondana?
Phunzirani kupepesa
Chimodzi mwazotheka zomwe zikugwirizana ndi malangizo am'mbuyomu ndikuphunzira kupepesa. Tsoka ilo, ambiri aife sitingathe kupepesa moona mtima. Nthawi zina timangoyankhula chimodzi, koma nthawi zambiri sitimaganizira zomwe tikupepesa. Ngakhale kupepesa mokakamizidwa kuli bwino kuposa palibe, kuyenera kupitilira mawu okha.
Chifukwa chomwe timavutika kupepesa ndi chifukwa cha malingaliro athu. ena akhoza kunena kuti timasangalala kukhumudwitsidwa ndi kukhumudwitsa ena chifukwa timapeza kena kake kuchokera pamenepo. Koma, ngakhale sitili osuliza kwambiri, tonse titha kuvomereza kuti kunena kuti "Pepani" mukawona kuti ufulu wanu wapwetekedwa ndi chinthu chovuta kwambiri padziko lapansi.
Komabe, mu mikangano yambiri ya m'banja, onse awiri ayenera kupepesa, popeza onsewa amapwetekedwa ndipo onse amakonda kupweteketsa mnzake. Ndinu othandizana nawo moyo, gulu, osati adani. Ngati mupepesa ndi kumvetsetsa komanso kumvetsetsa momwe zochita zanu zakhumudwitsira winayo, chomwe chidzachitike ndikuti mnzanuyo atha kudumpha kuti adzagwetse manja awo ndikubwerera kwa achikondi komanso osamala.
Kumbukirani zabwino za wokondedwa wanu
Nthawi zambiri, tikakhala pachibwenzi kwa nthawi yayitali timaiwala momwe zonse zimawonekera koyambirira. Kapenanso timasokoneza malingaliro athu oyamba okhudzana ndi mnzathu ndipo timangokhumudwitsidwa: "Amakhala otere, sindinaziwonepo". Ngakhale ndizowona, zotsalazo zitha kukhala zowona - tidawona zabwino ndi zokongola mwa mnzathu, ndipo tidaziiwala popita. Timalola mkwiyo utenge.
Kapenanso, titha kukhala muukwati womwe udangotayika. Sitimva kukwiya kapena kukhumudwa, koma sitimvanso chidwi ndi kutengeka. Ngati mukufuna kuti banja lanu liziyenda bwino komanso kuti banja lanu likhale losangalala, yambani kukumbukira. Kumbukirani chifukwa chomwe mudakondera mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu poyamba. Inde, zinthu zina zitha kusintha, kapena mumayembekeza panthawiyo, koma mbali inayi, padzakhala zinthu zambiri zabwino zomwe mwaiwala.
Pezani china chake chomwe mumakonda ndipo chitani
Chimodzi mwazinthu zotsutsana ndi maubale ndikuti momwe timakwanitsira kusunga zambiri, tidzakhala othandizana bwino. Izi sizitanthauza kusunga zinsinsi kapena kukhala osakhulupirika komanso osanama, ayi! Koma izi zikutanthauza kuti muyenera kupeza njira zodziyimira panokha komanso zowona.
Ambiri a ife timayesetsa kukhala okwatirana abwino koposa momwe angasinthire ndikusintha njira zawo ndikupereka mphamvu zawo zonse kuukwati. Ngakhale izi ndizabwino pamlingo winawake, pali pomwe mungadzitayire nokha komanso mnzanuyo nawonso atayika. Chifukwa chake, pezani zinthu zomwe mumakonda kuchita, chitani zomwe mumakonda, gwiritsani ntchito maloto anu ndikugawana zomwe mwakumana nazo ndi mnzanu. Kumbukirani, mnzanuyo amakukondani, choncho pitirizani kukhala nokha!