Zamkati
- Sankhani ngati mukufunadi kukhalabe
- Tumizani aliyense wachitatu
- Muzitsogolera mwaulemu komanso mokoma mtima
- Phunzirani pa zolakwa zakale
- Sangalalani wina ndi mnzake
Ambiri a ife talingalirapo kapena tayesapo zosiyana njira zotsitsimutsira chikondi muubwenzi. Pali kulumikizana kwachikondi koyenera mwayi wachiwiri. Mukakhala otsimikiza kuchita izi moyenera, kudziwa momwe mungayambitsire chikondi pachibwenzi sikumapweteka.
Mukuganiza momwe mungayambitsirenso chibwenzi ndi wokondedwa wanu ndikuchita bwino zinthu ziwiri zosiyana. Ndikosavuta kunena kuti, "Tiona komwe zipita" koma simukuganiza kuti kulumikizana koona kuyenera kuyesetsa pang'ono?
Ngati ndi choncho, pitirizani kuwerenga kuti muphunzire njira zina zabwino zobwezeretsanso chikondi mbanja kapena muubwenzi.
Sankhani ngati mukufunadi kukhalabe
Musanayang'ane pa momwe mungabweretsere chikondi muubwenzi kapena momwe mungayambitsire chikondi muukwati, choyamba sankhani ngati mukufunadi kukhalabe. Khalani owona mtima kwa inu nokha ndi kumvetsetsa zomwe mukuchita.
'Momwe mungabwezeretsere chikondi muubwenzi' ndi njira yodzaza ndi zachikondi komanso nthawi zabwino koma maanja akuyeneranso kuwunikiranso mitu yayikulu. Kuthetsa zovuta zam'mbuyomu kungakhale kovuta ndipo ndi kwa inu kusankha ngati ili ntchito yomwe mukufuna.
Kupatula apo, pali funso loti ngati mukuganiza kuti munthuyu ndi wanu pakati pazinthu zina. Mndandanda wazomwe zatchulidwazi ndizotalikirapo koma dzichitireni zabwino ndikukwaniritsa mosamala chilichonse. Ngati mtima ndi malingaliro anu akuti inde, mukufuna kukonza zinthu.
Mukatsimikiza kuti munthu amene mukumuthamangitsayo ndiye kuti ndi amene mukufuna kukhala naye moyo wonse, njira yobwezeretsanso banja lanu kapena ubale wanu zidzakhala zosavuta.
Tumizani aliyense wachitatu
Pulogalamu ya kukonzanso njira ziyenera kukhudza anthu awiri okha. Pamene ena amatenga nawo mbali (monga abwenzi apamtima ndi abale), kupanikizika kwambiri kumayikidwa paubwenzi. Musanadziwe mumakhala ndi nkhawa ndi zomwe anthu ena akufuna osati zomwe mukufuna.
Zinthu zilizonse mumtima zimasungidwa mwachinsinsi. Iwo omwe ali muubwenzi wodabwitsa ali ndi chinthu chimodzi chofanana, amalepheretsa ena kutuluka.
Komabe, izi sizitanthauza kuti zinthu zikayamba kuyambika simungapemphe thandizo kuchokera kwa akatswiri monga mlangizi wa maubwenzi kapena okwatirana. Kupeza mlangizi kungakuthandizeni inu ndi mnzanu kuti mukhale ndi malingaliro atsopano pamaganizidwe a wina ndi mnzake.
Kukhalapo kopanda tsankho komanso kosaweruza kwa phungu ndi komwe kumawasiyanitsa ndi gulu lina lililonse. Angokuthandizani kuti muwone chowonadi momwe chiriri, sikuti zimangobweretsa kuwonekera poyera m'moyo wanu komanso ubale wanu.
Muzitsogolera mwaulemu komanso mokoma mtima
Mukafuna kuti zinthu zizigwira ntchito, muyenera kuyambiranso bwino. Njira yabwino yochitira izi ndi zikhazikitso za ubale zomwe zitha kuchitidwa muubwenzi wonse.
Imodzi mwa iyo ndiyo ulemu. Vuto nlakuti, tonse timadziwa momwe tingawonetsere ulemu koma ena sadziwa tanthauzo lake pachibwenzi.
Kulemekeza ubale kumatanthauza kulemekeza malire, kukhala otseguka kuti musinthe, kukhala woganizira ena, womvetsetsa, komanso koposa zonse, kusankha mawu anu mwanzeru. Nthawi zambiri mawu athu amatibweretsera mavuto ndipo ndi momwe timalemekezera kwambiri.
Ponena za kukoma mtima, gawolo ndi losavuta. Palibe amene akufuna kukhala pachibwenzi chomwe sichikuphatikizapo kukoma mtima. Malingaliro abwino ndi zoyambirira zimapangitsa chikondi kukhala chokhazikika. Osayesetsa kukhumudwitsa anzanu kapena kuwonetsa kuti walakwa. M'malo mwake, yang'anani kukulitsa chisangalalo ndi chikondi.
Musalole kuti chibwenzi chanu chikhale pakati pomwe aliyense amafunsira wina ndi mnzake zinthu, monga ulemu ndi kukoma mtima kwinaku mukuzengereza kukhala woyamba kuzipereka. Nthawi zonse kumbukirani kuti chuma nthawi zonse chimakonda olimba mtima.
Chifukwa chomwe chikondi chimaganiziridwa kuti ndichabwino kwambiri ndikuti zoopsa za chikondi ndizowopsa komanso zowopsa.
Phunzirani pa zolakwa zakale
Ena amati maanja akuyang'ana kuti amvetsetse momwe ayambitsenso chibwenzi ayenera kudziloleza kuti adutse zakale. Zachidziwikire, onse awiri ayenera kuthana ndi zakale koma akuyeneranso kuphunzira kuchokera pazolakwitsa zawo. Zolakwitsa ndizofunikira kwenikweni.
Onani zolakwitsa zomwe mudapanga pomwe chikondi chidayamba kutsikira. Kodi mukadakhala owona mtima kapena osabisa? Mwina mukuyenera kuyesetsa kuti muzitha kulankhulana bwino.
Kodi mudatulutsa thukuta zazing'ono ndikupangitsa kusamvana kosafunikira? Chilichonse chomwe mwalakwitsa, gwiritsani ntchito zolakwa zanu kuti muzikonza bwino ndikusintha machitidwewo. Uwu tsopano ndi mwayi wanu wachiwiri.
Pa gawo ili mu kukonzanso ubale, onse ayenera kuganizira za iwo okha ndi makhalidwe awo. Onse awiri ayenera kuyesetsa kuti akule. Ino si nthawi yoti mudzauze mnzanu zomwe adalakwitsa koma muchitepo kanthu kuti mukhale bwenzi labwino.
Anthu awiri akatha kukula ndikuphunzira kuchokera m'mbuyomu m'malo mowakumbatira, mwayi wobwezeretsanso ubalewo umakula kwambiri.
Kudziimba mlandu ndi mdani wa chikondi chenicheni ndipo ngati mukuganiza mozama zobwererana ndi mnzanuyo ndiye muyenera kuyesetsa kukhululuka ndikuyiwalako zolakwa zomwe aliyense wa inu adachita.
Sangalalani wina ndi mnzake
Kubwezeretsanso ubale ndi nthawi yosangalala kwa anthu awiri omwe akutenga nawo mbali. Onsewa ali ndi mwayi wolumikizanso pamalingaliro, malingaliro ndi thupi.
Kuti mupange kulumikizanaku, pitani pamasiku, pitani kwakanthawi, finyani nthawi yabwino nthawi iliyonse yomwe mungakwanitse ndikupanga zina mwazomwe mumachita tsiku lililonse.
Mwanjira ina, mulandireni mmoyo wanu kachiwiri.
Chiyanjano chilichonse chimafuna nthawi ndi nthawi ndikofunikira kwambiri pamene Kubwezeretsanso chibwenzi. Kukhala ndi munthu amene mukugwirizananso naye kumakupatsani mwayi wodziwa.
Muyenera kutenga zinthu zazing'ono zomwe zimawapangitsa kukhala odabwitsa monga luntha lawo, nthabwala komanso momwe maso awo amawalira akakhala ndi chidwi ndi china chake. Nthawi yoti wina ndi mnzake ndiyo njira yokhayo yosangalalira.