Zamkati
- 1. Osamenyana
- 2. Musathamange kumbuyo kwa chitsamba
- 3. Perekani yankho
- 4. Kusankha bwino mawu
- 5. Osachipanga kukhala chizolowezi
- 6. Osakakamiza, pemphani
- 7. Osati wobweretsa mavuto
Palibe ubale womwe umadzaza ndi chisangalalo. Pali zokwera ndi zotsika muubwenzi uliwonse. Nthawi zina pamakhala mapangano ndipo nthawi zina pamakhala kusagwirizana. Ndizotheka kovuta kufotokoza kusagwirizana kapena kudandaula.
Nthawi zina kudandaula kosavuta kumawonjezera vutoli ndipo kumatha kukulitsa mikangano kapena ngakhale nkhondo yoyipitsitsa.
M'munsimu muli ena mwa malingaliro abwino momwe mungachitire kudandaula mu chibwenzi osamuyika mnzanu pansi. Malingaliro awa akupangitsani momwe mungasungire ubale wolimba ngakhale mukufotokozera kusagwirizana kwanu ndi mnzanu kapena mnzanu.
1. Osamenyana
Kudandaula ndiko sonyezani cholakwa cha wina. Ngakhale mutayandikira bwanji, mukangoyamba kudandaula, a munthu wina adzitchinjiriza.
Kwa iwo, mawu anu akudandaula amveka ngati mukuwaukira. Ichi ndichifukwa chake ambiri amamaliza kunena izi mkazi samvera kapena mwamuna osamvera kwa akazi awo.
Njira yabwino yowonetsetsa kuti wokondedwa wanu akumverani ndi kuyamba kucheza m'malo mowaukira.
Yambani kunena zabwino za iwo kapena momwe mumawamvetsetsa. Kenako, mochenjera ikani mfundo yanu patsogolo ndi zomwe simunakonde za iwo munthawi ina kapena munthawiyo.
Mwanjira iyi, inu onse akuchita nawo zokambirana koposa kungowonetsana zolakwa za wina ndi mnzake.
2. Musathamange kumbuyo kwa chitsamba
Palibe amene angakhale wosangalala ngati akwatiwa ndi a kudandaula mwamuna kapena mkazi. Zimakhala zokhumudwitsa pomwe wanu mkazi amanyalanyaza inu kapena mwamuna yemwe amangodzitchinjiriza nthawi zonse ndikusiya kukumverani.
Izi nthawi zina zimachitika ngati simukuwongoka kapena simukukambirana nawo nkhaniyi.
Zimamveka kuti kufotokoza zolakwa za mkazi kapena mwamuna wako ndizovuta. Simukufuna kuwakhumudwitsanso. Komabe, posanena zinthu kutsogolo, inu pamapeto pake zimawakwiyitsa kwambiri.
Chifukwa chake, pomwe mukuyamba kukambirana ndi mawu olimbikitsa, nenani zinthu mosazengereza. Izi zitha kupewa mikangano.
3. Perekani yankho
Perekani yankho kuposa kungoloza vutolo.
Ngati ndinu m'modzi mwa mabanja omwe akuti 'mkazi wanga samandimvera'kapena' amuna anga amadandaula nthawi zonse ', ndiye kuti muyenera kuyambiranso zokambirana zomwe mudakhala nazo.
Momwe mungadandaule muubwenzi, ndikofunikira kuti inu tcherani khutu ku vutoli, koma nthawi yomweyo, muyenera kupereka yankho.
Chifukwa chomwe mukudandaula ndi chifukwa chakuti inu adapeza cholakwika mwa iwo. Popeza mwapeza cholakwika, ndikofunikira kuti muperekenso yankho lake. Popanda yankho, zikuwoneka ngati mukuwadzudzula chifukwa cha zomwe adachita.
M'malo mwake, mukapereka yankho, mukuyesera kuwapanga kukhala munthu wabwino.
4. Kusankha bwino mawu
Nthawi zambiri pomwe akazi amafunsa kuti 'bwanji mamuna wanga samandimvera'kapena amuna amadandaula kuti mkazi samvera kwa iwo akusowa chofunikira kwambiri - kusankha mawu. Zowonadi, ndi yankho lofunikira momwe mungachitire kudandaula mu chibwenzi. Simukufuna kukhumudwitsa mnzanu kapena mnzanu ndipo mukufuna kuti akumvereni mwachidwi.
Ndi kusankha mawu koyenera nthawi zonse mumatha kupanga mnzanu kuti akumvereni ndikulandila malingaliro anu. Mwachitsanzo, osalankhula za zomwe ena akumva kapena kunena, m'malo mwake lankhulani zomwe mukumva. Yambani ndi zomwe mumamva pankhani inayake komanso momwe mukukhulupirira kuti akanayenera kuyankhira nthawiyo. Mwanjira imeneyi, simudzakhala mukuwadzudzula, koma mudzawathandiza kuti awunikire nkhaniyi mosiyana.
5. Osachipanga kukhala chizolowezi
'Chibwenzi changa chimati ndimadandaula kwambiri'. Timamva azimayi akuyankhula za izi nthawi zambiri.
Mukakhala pachibwenzi, mumalonjeza kuti mulandireni munthuyo momwe iwo aliri. Komabe, mukayamba kudandaula kwambiri, mumayika chithunzi chomwe 'kudandaula' ndichizolowezi chanu.
Ndizomveka kuti pali zinthu zina zomwe simukuzikonda nazo ndipo mungafune kuti akhale munthu wabwino.
Komabe, kungodandaula tsiku lililonse ndikukhala chizolowezi sichothetsera vuto. Kamodzi mnzanu azindikira kuti ndichizolowezi, amatero siyani kumvera inu.
6. Osakakamiza, pemphani
Choipa kwambiri chomwe chingachitike mukamadandaula ndikuti mungafune kuti zinthu zichitike mwanjira inayake.
Izi sizoyenera kuchita mukafuna mayankho momwe mungadandaule moyenera.
M'malo mokakamiza zinthu ndikufunsa mnzanu kuti angovomereza zolakwa zawo ndikuyenda m'njira yanu, kupotoza pang'ono. Osazipangitsa kuwoneka ngati mukuwadandaulira. M'malo mwake, ziwonetseni ngati mukuyesetsa kuwongolera payekha.
Munthu aliyense ali ndi gawo labwino komanso loyipa.
Simungayembekezere kuti ataya mbali zawo zoyipa ndikutsatira malamulo anu, monga choncho. Khalani anzeru komanso anzeru.
7. Osati wobweretsa mavuto
Ndikofunikira kuti mumvetsetse ngati mukufuna mayankho amomwe mungadandaule muubwenzi. Simuyenera kuyika wokondedwa wanu pamalo pomwe angayambe kukhulupirira kuti ndiye amayambitsa mavuto.
Ndizolakwika kwathunthu ndipo zidzatsogolera ku chinthu choyipitsitsa chomwe mungaganizire; komwe ndiko kutha kwa chibwenzicho.
Liti mkazi osamvera mwamuna kapena mkazi akanena kuti Mwamuna amanyalanyaza zosowa zanga, tenga ngati lingaliro kuti atha kumvera madandaulo. Amakhulupirira kuti ndichizolowezi chanu kudandaula kapena mwayamba kuwawona ngati omwe amachititsa mavuto m'banjamo.
Mulimonsemo, kupitilizabe kukangana zingayambitse kutha kwa chibwenzicho.
Palibe amene akufuna kukhala ndi mnzake yemwe amangokhalira kudandaula yemwe amakhala ndi zovuta ndi chilichonse chomwe amachita. Komabe, pamakhala zochitika zina zomwe muyenera kugawana nawo momwe mukumvera popeza mwazindikira china chake cholakwika chomwe mnzanu wachita.
Zikatero, mfundo zomwe tatchulazi zidzakutsogolerani ndipo ndi mayankho abwino momwe mungachitire kudandaula mu chibwenzi.