Zamkati
- Kuyamwitsa
- Tulo
- Kukonzanso kwamaganizidwe / maudindo atsopano
- Mavuto muubwenzi
- Kusintha moyo wanu wogonana mukabereka
Posachedwa ndimamvera podcast yokhudza amayi ndi abambo ndi tchuthi cha umayi / kholo ndi moyo wogonana. Inali nkhani yowonetsa momwe kugonana kumakhala kovuta atabereka.
Mabanja ambiri amabwerera m'mbuyo mwana wawo asanatembenuke kamodzi, koma kwa ena, zimatha kutenga kanthawi pang'ono.
Nthawi zina chifukwa chogonana kapena wopanda chikhumbo chofuna kukondana ndikulephera kupeza mphamvu zake - zamaganizidwe ndi zathupi.
Choyambirira komanso chofunikira kwambiri, muyenera kudziwa kuti moyo wogonana pambuyo pobereka ungakhale chinthu chovuta. Zomwe zidakugwirirani ntchito chaka chatha sizigwira ntchito pano. Ndipo zomwe zimagwirira ntchito amuna anu sizikugwirani ntchito. Kugonana ndikosiyana, ndipo kumakhala ndi moyo wakewake.
Ine, ndekha, ndakhala ndimasamba atatu oyembekezera, ndipo zondichitikira zogonana zakhala zosiyana nthawi zonse.
Ndikamayankhula ndi amayi ena, nthawi zambiri amagawana nawo zomwe adapeza kuti zomwe akumana nazo zisintha.
Izi ndichifukwa choti kugonana kwathu kumakhudzidwa ndi zinthu zosiyanasiyana m'moyo wathu wonse, ndipo ndizabwino kwambiri ndipo sizingayikidwe bwino m'mabokosi mosatengera kuchuluka kwa zomwe tikufuna.
Ndalemba zifukwa zinayi zodziwika bwino zogonera amuna ndi akazi, zomwe zimayambitsa kusowa kwaubwenzi mwana akabadwa, koma pali zinthu zina zomwe zingakhudze moyo wanu wogonana.
Chonde dziwani kuti ndidati "angathe kusintha ”; mwina chilakolako chanu kapena kugonana kwanu sikukukhudzidwa, kapena mwina zotsatirapo zake ndi zabwino!
Onaninso:
Kuyamwitsa
Mukamayamwitsa mwana wanu, milingo yanu ya prolactin imakula kwambiri. Mulingo uwu udayesedwa kuti ukhale wokwera kwambiri mwa amuna omwe ali patchuthi cha abambo.
Komanso, imapezeka mwa amuna atangomaliza kukodzera / kumaliseche ndipo amakhulupirira kuti ndiomwe amamupangitsa kuti apume pang'ono asanakhale okonzekera zambiri.
Prolactin imachepetsa chilakolako chogonana, ndikupangitsa kuti amuna anu azigonana mosavomerezeka. Inde, Amayi Achilengedwe ndiopusa!
Kuyamba kubereka mwana ukangobereka mwina sichingakhale chinthu chanzeru kwambiri kuchita ngati mukukhala mu Stone Age, kotero eya, pankhaniyi, malingaliro azachilengedwe sangatsutsidwe.
Tulo
Pamene mausiku ogona osandulika amasintha kukhala miyezi yakugona - kapena kusowa tulo - izi zimayamba kukupatsani.
Zili ngati akaunti yanu yakubanki yomwe mudali nayo yochulukirapo, ndipo mwadzidzidzi yadzaza ndi manambala ofiira, ndipo mlangizi wanu wazachuma akukuyang'anirani, ali ndi nkhawa kwambiri.
Ndiroleni ndingonena: inde, china chake chidzachitika ku chilakolako chanu komanso moyo wanu wogonana. Mphamvu ndizochepa, ndipo moona mtima, mungakonde kugona.
Maganizo anu akuthamanga; maluso anu ozindikira amayamba 'kuchepa mphamvu,' zimakhala zovuta kuti mukhale okhazikika, ndipo zomwe mumangofunadi kwenikweni ndikugona.
Mukungofuna kuti mutseke mwana wanu asanadzukenso ndikuyamba kukufunsani zinthu.
Kugona ndikofunikira mwamisala kukhala ndi thanzi labwino komanso thanzi la anthu. Ndipo tikudziwa kale kuti kukhala ndi thanzi labwino ndikofunikira ngati mukufuna kukhala ndi moyo wogonana wabwino komanso wokhutiritsa.
Chifukwa chake - ngati mungakonde kugona ndipo mulibe mphamvu yakuchita, ngakhale ili lingaliro labwino: Takulandilani ku kalabu ya makolo otopa, izi ndi zabwinobwino.
Kukonzanso kwamaganizidwe / maudindo atsopano
Mukadzakhala makolo (kachiwiri, mwina), china chake chimakuchitikirani monga munthu. Zachidziwikire, ngati ali mwana wanu wachisanu, mudzamva kuti simusintha poyerekeza ndi mwana wanu woyamba.
Komabe, kunena izi: kukhala kholo (kachiwiri) kumakhala kwatsopano nthawi zonse, ndipo kumasintha maubale ndi magulu am'banja nthawi zonse. Nanunso.
Chifukwa chake, Kubwezeretsanso malingaliro kumayenera kuchitika, ndipo mwina kukutopetsani, ndikupangitsa kuti mukhale ndi chilakolako chogonana.
Makamaka, ngati mukupeza zovuta monga mayi kapena bambo zovuta, zimayamba kukhudza malingaliro anu.
Kukhala ndi mayankho pakubadwa sichinthu chachilendo. Kwenikweni, ndizofala kuposa zomwe makolo ambiri amakonda kukhulupirira, komanso ndizomwe ndimakumana nazo ndikamakamba zokambirana za makolo atsopano m'magulu a makolo (opangidwa ndi tawuni yomwe ndimakhala).
Pomwe psyche 'ikugwira ntchito mopitilira nthawi,' moyo wogonana nthawi zambiri umakhala wofunika kwambiri.
Mavuto muubwenzi
"Ngati mukufuna kukhala otsimikiza kuti mudzasudzulana, ingokhalani ndi mwana" ndizomwe ananenapo othandizira awiri omwe ndinapitako. Ndipo ngakhale izi zitha kukhala zowona, ndizachisoni pang'ono.
Komabe, tikayang'ana ziwerengero za anthu osudzulana, zikuwonetsa kuti ubale umatha pomwe ana amabwera padziko lapansi.
Kukhala ndi kulera ana ndizovuta, ndipo ndi ntchito yowonjezera. Ndipo ngakhale zili zosangalatsa, si maanja onse - akutali - omwe amapangitsa kuti zizigwira ntchito.
Ndipo apa ndipomwe zovuta muubwenzi - ndi zovuta zina zilizonse - ziyamba kuwonekera.
Zingakhale kuti wokondedwa wanu sali wabwino kwambiri kugwirira ntchito mopanikizika komanso akagona tulo? Kapena mwina kutsutsako ndikumveka kwambiri?
Kapena mwina mukupeza kuti mukugona ndi mfundo m'mimba mwanu pang'ono pafupipafupi? Mwinamwake zinthu zimangokhala chipale chofewa ndipo zimakhala zovuta kuzinena? Mwina ...?
Mavuto muubwenzi ndiomwe amakhumudwitsa pankhani yakugonana.
Ndi zachilendo kukumana ndi zovuta - zokhumudwitsa momwe ziliri - koma kumbukirani kuti pali zinthu zambiri zomwe mungachite kuti mupange kulumikizana bwino wina ndi mnzake ngakhale kuli kovuta. Ngati, zachidziwikire, ndi zomwe mukufuna.
Kusintha moyo wanu wogonana mukabereka
Nazi zinthu zitatu zomwe mungachite kuti muthane ndi vuto lanu logonana mukabereka:
1. Landirani kuti kwakanthawi, izi ndi momwe zinthu ziliri
Kumbukirani kuti ndizabwinobwino komanso zomveka bwino. Ngati mungapeze zifukwa - mwachitsanzo, ngati mukudziwa kuti ndizovuta kugona, mwina inu ndi mnzanu titha kukugwirirani ntchito kuti mupumule zambiri kuti mugwire ntchito masana.
Kwenikweni, malingaliro ovomerezeka ndi chidwi ndi lingaliro labwino Pano.
Sitingathe kusintha zomwe tikufuna kulandira. Chifukwa chake, ngati mukufuna kuti kugonana kwanu kotsika kusintha, yambani kuvomera momwe zinthu ziliri kenako, kuchokera pano, gwirani ntchito ndi mnzanu pakupanga kusintha.
2. Konzani chibwenzi ndikudzithandizira
Ngati muli kusowa chibwenzi chakuthupi, kenako konzani zokambirana - mukudziwa bwino kuti izi zitha kusokonezedwa ndi mwana wanu, koma mungokonzekera msonkhano watsopano.
Ngati mumafuna, mutha kusisita (oh okondedwa, ndichidule bwanji koma o-changa, zimamveka bwino ndipo zimakhudzanso zogonana pang'ono) kapena mutha kungoyambira kukhala pafupi komanso osavala kama ndipo pangani kwa nthawi yonse yomwe mukufuna.
Izi zitha kukhala zochuluka kwa inu anyamata, kapena mwina mungafune kupitanso patsogolo.
Ngati mukukhala olimba mtima, mutha kutikita ku kugonana kapena kukondweretsana - ngati ndi zomwe mumakonda. Mwinanso mungaonere filimu yolaula kapena kumvetsera nkhani yokhudza kugonana limodzi kapena mwina mungachite masewera ena ogonana.
3. Pezani thandizo lokonzekera zomwe zikufunika kukonza
Ngati muli otsimikiza kale kuti "china chake" chikufunikira chisamaliro chowonjezera ndipo mwina mungafunenso kuthandizidwa ndi vuto lanu lachiwerewere, ndiye chitanipo kanthu.
Ngati uku ndikubereka pambuyo pobereka, thandizirani. Ngati mukulimbana ndi mavuto abwenzi, yang'anani omwe angakuthandizeni.
Musaiwale kuti sizimachitika kawirikawiri kuti izi zizichitika, ndichifukwa chake mukudzisowetsa mtendere osachitapo kanthu mwachangu.
Ngakhale masitepe oyamba akumva kukhala ovuta komanso osakhazikika, mukutsimikizika kuti, mwina miyezi 3-6, muthokoze chifukwa chochitapo kanthu. Ngati mudakali pa tchuthi cha amayi oyembekezera, namwino nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi zinthu zambiri komanso malingaliro amomwe mungalandire thandizo lomwe mungafune pakukonda kugonana.
Upangiri wa Maj: Ngati moyo wanu wogonana ukusewera nthawi yopuma, chonde dziwani kuti izi sizachilendo, ndipo maanja ambiri mwachibadwa amakhala 'obwerera' mchaka choyamba cha mwanayo.