Zamkati
Tonsefe titha kuzimva tikakhala paubwenzi wabwino, koma nthawi zambiri timalephera kuzindikira chomwe chimatipangitsa kumva choncho.
Nchiyani chimapangitsa kulumikizana kwamphamvu kotere ndi mnzathu? Kukhulupirira? Ulemu? Ubwenzi? Pali zina zambiri. Chifukwa chomwe timamvera motero ndikuti ubale wabwino umabweretsa moyo wathanzi kwambiri.
Koma kukulitsa ubale wabwino ndichinthu chomwe chimafunika kusamalidwa. Kuti likhale lolimba komanso lokhazikika limafunika kuchuluka kwa ntchito.
Ubale wathanzi sikofunikira kokha kwa ife Kukhala mwamtendere komanso kwamaganizidwe koma ali pachimake pa kupulumuka kwathu. Kulakalaka kwathu kulumikizana ndi ena ndi gawo lofunikira pazomwe zimatipangitsa kukhala momwe ife tilili.
Kafukufuku wambiri pazinthu zachilengedwe apeza kulumikizana kwamphamvu pakati pa thanzi lathu ndi maubwenzi omwe timasunga, koma tatsala pang'ono kulowa pansi kupitilira zotsatira za kafukufuku.
Chifukwa chake ngati mwakhala mukuganiza kuti kufunikira kokhala maubwenzi abwino ndikutani komanso kukhala ndi ubale wabwino?
Tatsala pang'ono kufotokoza momveka bwino chifukwa chomwe timakhalira ndi ubale wabwino ngati momwe zimakhalira komanso momwe tingasungire momwemo.
Utopia wanu wanu
Monga anthu, timakhala tikufunafuna "malo athu padzuwa," malo omwe titha kudzitcha athu, malo omwe angatipatse tanthauzo lenileni la cholinga.
Malo osowa, omwe nthawi zambiri amadziwika ndi mawu oti "utopia", amadziwikanso kuti sanapezekepo kapena amangoganiza.
Komabe, ma utopias alipo, koma osati ngati malo. M'malo mwake, amadziwika ndi kukongola kwa munthu wina, wokonda moyo.
Pamene timva kuti tikufunikiradi, timakhala gawo lazinthu zazikulu. Ngati pali winawake wofunikira yemwe angakhale wachimwemwe, kuyesera kukonza dziko mwanjira ina kumakhala kopitilira muyeso.
Lingaliro la cholinga ichi ndichinthu chofunikira chomwe chimatipangitsa kuti tizipita m'moyo, kupita mtsogolo. Zing'onozing'ono zonse za anzathu zimapangitsa kuti dziko lathu likhale labwino, ndipo izi zimakhala zinthu zomwe zimakonda kwambiri.
Zachidziwikire, ndege yakuthupi ndiyofunikira mofanananso ndi yamaganizidwe. Zolemba zambiri zapangitsa matupi athu kukhala achitetezo chokhoma, ndikusandutsa moyo wathu wogonana kukhala njira zodalirika.
Koma lero tadutsa izi, takhala omasuka ndi njira zatsopano ndi zothandizira zathupi zomwe zingalimbikitse magawo athu onse oopsa.
Pambuyo poyesa kugonana komwe kumakhudzana ndi ziwalo zamkati kapena S & M pamakhala chidaliro chonse mwa anzathu - kudalirana komwe kumatha kusandutsa matupi athu kukhala akachisi ngati malo opembedzera koona.
Ngati tili okonzeka kuwafufuza mwachikondi, aliyense wa iwo atha kukhala mwayi wathu - malo omwe tili ndi cholinga chokwaniritsira.
Chifukwa chake chomwe chimapanga ubale wabwino ndikamakhala ndikumverera kwakukulu kuti mwapeza utopia.
Kuswa khoma lamkati
Chimbale chodziwika bwino cha Pink Floyd "Khoma," makamaka nyimbo "Amayi," chimatiwonetsa bwino momwe tonsefe timapangira makoma amkati kuyambira tili ana.
Choyamba, nthawi zambiri timatetezedwa mopitirira muyeso ndi makolo athu; ndiye tikupitilizabe kukweza makoma awa patokha, osadziwa kuti tikuphwanya kudzidalira kwathu komanso kudzilemekeza nthawi yomweyo.
Ulemu umakhala mtundu wa olowezana, ndipo timayamba kuvulaza mkati, kutalikirana ndi zenizeni zathu.
Ubwino wa ubale wathanzi ndikuti umatha kukhazikitsanso ulemu mu mawonekedwe ake enieni - monga kuzindikira za munthu wina, ndikuyamikira chilichonse chomwe chimapangitsa munthu kukhala wapadera.
Kulemekezana muubwenzi kumabweretsa kumvana, kuchotsa kufunikira kokweza makoma mkati kuti tibise malo athu ofooka, mantha, kapena zinthu zomwe timachita manyazi nazo.
Kupsinjika ndi chimodzi mwazinthu zazikulu zomangira zamkati mwamakoma awa, ndipo kuthandizira kwamomwe anthu amathandizirana ndimakhala ngati kutenga sledgehammer.
Zatsimikiziridwa kuti ubale wathanzi umamangiriridwa pakuchepetsa mahomoni opsinjika a cortisol, makamaka pankhani yakukhala pamodzi.
Zachidziwikire, kukulitsa kuwona mtima komanso kulankhulana momasuka ndikofunikira pantchitoyi. Makoma athu amkati amathyoledwa pokhapokha ngati titha kuyankhula za zomwe timamva ndikuganiza ndi anzathu momveka bwino.
Kulemekezana ndi kumvana zimachokera kuchilungamo popanda kuwopa kunyozedwa. Zinsinsi ndi mabodza zilibe malo muubale wabwino.
Kudziwa yemwe simuli
Kuswa khoma lamkati sikutanthauza kuti sitiyenera kukhala ndi malire - ndi gawo lofunikira mmoyo wathu komanso thanzi lathu.
Kuti tigwirizanenso ndi zenizeni zathu, tiyenera kuzindikira zomwe sitili.
Gawo lalikulu lolumikizana ndi anthu masiku ano sililola kuti tidziwitse ena zomwe zimatipangitsa kukhala omasuka komanso zomwe sizitero, ndipo timakhala nthawi yochuluka kumanamizira kuti ndife zomwe sitili.
Kutengera zomwe ena akuyembekezera, timavala maski pamaso pa anthu ambiri - otilemba ntchito, makolo, ngakhale anzathu.
Koma posunga ubale wabwino, timatha kutero ikani malire athu ndikuwasamalira.
Amatha kuwoneka ngati malire kapena malamulo muubwenzi, koma chowonadi ndichakuti wokondedwa nthawi zonse amafuna kudziwa momwe tikufunira.
Ichi ndichifukwa chake ndikofunikira kudziwitsa wokondedwa wanu nthawi yomwe mukufuna malo komanso mosiyana, komanso kulemekeza zosowa za wina ndi mnzake, zofuna, malingaliro, ndi malingaliro, kutha "kuvomereza kuti mukutsutsana."
Sitikudziwa bwino malire athu mpaka titakhazikitsa momveka bwino. Tikachita izi muubwenzi, sitingafunenso china chilichonse m'mbali zina za moyo wathu, podziwa kuti ndife ndani ndipo sitikufuna kukhala.
Hafu inayo
Pali chifukwa chabwino chomwe abwenzi ongoganiza nthawi zambiri amapezeka muubwana. Maubwenzi amwazi ndi chinthu chimodzi, koma tikusowa wina amene angathe kutimvetsetsa mwakuya, monga theka lachiwiri la mtima wogunda.
Ichi ndichifukwa chake abwenzi amatchedwa "theka lina" - Kafukufuku wasonyeza kuti bwenzi lachikondi lingatithandizenso kuchira pambuyo pa opaleshoni ya mtima.
Monga momwe zimakhalira ndi mnzanu wongoyerekeza, si matsenga. Ndizokhudza kukhala ndi wina pafupi nafe yemwe amatha kuchotsa malingaliro athu kupwetekedwa, kuti athe kupereka mawonekedwe enieni otonthoza.
Othandizana nawo muubwenzi wathanzi amamva ngati magawo awo otayika, pamapeto pake agwirizananso. Ichi ndichifukwa chake muubwenzi wotere, timalimbikitsidwa kuti tisinthe kukhala ndi moyo wathanzi - kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi, kusiya kusuta, kudya athanzi, ndi zina zambiri.
Ngati anzathu a miyoyo yathu apanga mayendedwe athanzi, titha kuwatsata kufikira kukumananso komwe takhala tikudikirira moyo wathu wonse. Chifukwa chake maubale abwino samangokhudza kudzindikira kuti ndife ndani, komanso omwe tingakhale.
Monga mukuwonera, ubale wathanzi uli ngati malo athu padziko lapansi. Malo opanda makoma amkati amantha ndi nkhawa, koma okhala ndi malire.
Malo okhala ndi tanthauzo lomveka komwe tingakhale akatswiri athu. Izi ndi zomwe thanzi lenileni limakhala.
Ndipo zomwe zimafunikira kuti tisunge malo oterewa ndikuyika pachiwopsezo ndikugawana zomwe zikuchitika mitu yathu ndi mitima yathu ndi ena ofunika.