Zamkati
- Chifukwa chomwe upangiri waukwati sukugwira ntchito
- Njira yatsopano yothandizira mabanja
- Njira yothandizira maanja kukhala limodzi
- Ali omasuka kunena chilichonse chomwe chili mumtima mwawo
- Kodi alangizi a mabanja amatchulapo za kusudzulana?
- Chifukwa chake, kodi kuchuluka kwa upangiri waukwati ndi kotani
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Nanga ndichifukwa chiyani phungu, wophunzitsa za moyo, wodziwa bwino za maubwenzi, omwe amaphatikizapo kuwongolera mabanja, kuthandiza maanja kupulumutsa maukwati, komanso kuthandiza anthu kudziwa momwe angakhalire ndi zibwenzi moyenera, kuuza anthu kuti asadzapite kukalandira uphungu wachikwati kapena chithandizo chokwatirana ndi wothandizira, phungu kapena mphunzitsi wa moyo?
Chifukwa chomwe upangiri waukwati sukugwira ntchito
Kwa zaka 30 zapitazi, wolemba, wogulitsa komanso wophunzitsa wamkulu kwambiri David Essel wakhala akuthandiza anthu mdziko lachikondi, chibwenzi, ukwati, maubale, komabe ali ndi malingaliro olimba pazosakwanira miyambo okwatirana komanso, upangiri wa maanja kapena chithandizo chaukwati.
Pansipa, David akuyitanitsa ntchito yake ndipo amapereka upangiri wamomwe mungapezere thandizo labwino kwambiri padziko lonse lapansi pakulangizidwa.
“Mpaka 1996, pomwe angapo amabwera kwa ine ali pamavuto akusudzulana, kapena kumangokhalira kukangana, kumwa mowa mwauchidakwa, kapena kuzunza anzawo, ndimagwirira ntchito limodzi ndi banjali kaya m'maso kapena pafoni.
Koma mchaka chomwecho, ndidamvetsetsa bwino izi: upangiri waukwati, upangiri wazamaubale pomwe akatswiri amagwira ntchito ndi anthu onse nthawi yomweyo ndikungowononga nthawi, ndalama komanso khama!
Zomwe zidachitika mchaka chimenecho zidandidabwitsa: Ndidakhala pagawo, mwamuna ndi mkazi adakhala moyang'anizana nane, mphindi 55 zadutsa ndipo onse awiri akadali kukuwa ndikufuula, akusinthana, kumene, LOL, koma akufuula ndi kukuwa gawo lonse lamankhwala okwatirana.
Zomwe, mwatsoka, ndizabwinobwino.
Kumapeto kwake, babu yoyaka inandigwira m'mutu ndipo ndinawauza kuti: "Hei, anyamata mutha kukangana ndikufuula ndikufuula kunyumba kwaulere. Chifukwa chiyani tikukhala mchipinda chino, momwe mumandilipira ndalama zokwatirana, kuti tichite zomwe mungathe kunyumba kwaulere? "
Ndinazindikira kuti ndikungowononga nthawi yanga, koma koposa zonse, ndimangowononga nthawi ya makasitomala anga komanso ndalama zawo zamtengo wapatali poganiza zothandizidwa m'banja.
Njira yatsopano yothandizira mabanja
Chifukwa chake mchaka chimenecho, ndidasintha kwambiri njira yanga yothandizira maukwati ndi upangiri wa maubale, ndipo zotsatira zake sizodabwitsa.
Masiku 30 okha apitawa, banja lina lidandilumikizana nditagwiritsa ntchito othandizira anayi kuti ayesetse kusunga ubale wawo, ndipo nditakumana nawo nthawi imodzi limodzi, womwe ndi malire anga, ndinawauza kuti ndizingogwira nawo ntchito nthawi imodzi limodzi koma kuyambira pamenepo ndikadakhala ndikugwira ntchito ndi aliyense wa iwo m'modzi kuti titha kudziwa zovuta zawo, ndipo monga ndidawawuza banjali mu 1996, ndikutha kukuthandizani kusamalira zolakwa zanu, mantha ndi kusakhazikika nthawi yomweyo zimalimbitsa nyonga zanu m'banja.
Banja laposachedwa kwambiri linandiyang'ana nati “zikomo Mulungu! Phungu aliyense kapena wothandizira yemwe timagwiritsa ntchito popanga maukwati achita zomwezo, atatiuza kuti tikhale muofesi yawo, pomwe ine ndi amuna anga timachita sewerolo, timangokhalira kulumikizana pagawo lonse. Tinkadziwa kuti ndikungotaya nthawi, koma sitinadziwe kuti wina aliyense apanga upangiri waukwati mosiyanasiyana mpaka titamupeza David.
Ndi dalitsolo lalikulu, tawona m'masiku 30 kutukuka kowonjezereka muubwenzi wathu kuposa momwe takhala tikugwirira ntchito yolangiza mabanja okwatirana m'zaka zisanu ndi chimodzi. "
Njira yothandizira maanja kukhala limodzi
Ndiye nayi njira yomwe ndidapanga mu 1996, ndipo ndikugawana izi poyera lero ndi othandizira ndi alangizi ena, kuti atha kubwereka ndikugwiritsa ntchito ngati akufuna kukhala othandiza kwambiri pothandiza maanja kukhala limodzi kapena kupatukana mwamtendere ndikutha ubale.
Gawo loyamba, ngati onse akufuna kuchita uphungu, ndimayesetsa kuchitira limodzi. Pa foni, Skype kapena ku ofesi yanga ku Florida. Koma ngati m'modzi mwa awiriwa akufuna kugwira nane ntchito, ndiye kuti ndikungoyamba ndi m'modzi.
Pafupifupi 80% ya makasitomala anga omwe ndimagwira nawo kudzera pafoni ndi Skype chifukwa tili ndi makasitomala ochokera konsekonse ku USA, Canada makamaka ochokera pafupifupi mayiko onse padziko lapansi.
Mu gawo loyambali ndimakhala ndi mwayi wowona momwe amalumikizirana, ngati ali aulemu kapena ngati salemekezana koma ndizokhazo zomwe ndimafunikira, gawo limodzi ndipo nditha kufika kumapeto kwa nkhani zambiri, ndikungoziwona zikuyenda , koma kupitiliza kukumana nawo onse sabata iliyonse pafoni kapena pa Skype kapena pamasom'pamaso ndikungowononga nthawi.
Ndipo chifukwa? Monga ndanenera pamwambapa, maanja atha kukangana mwaulere kunyumba, osalipira mlangizi wamkulu kapena wothandizira kuti muchite zomwe mungathe kunyumba kwaulere.
Pambuyo pa gawo loyambirira la chithandizo chokwatirana komwe ndimagwira nawo ntchito limodzi, kenako ndimawapatula ndikugwira nawo ntchito payekhapayekha kwa masabata osachepera 4 mpaka 8, kamodzi pa sabata kwa ola limodzi, kuti ndiwathandize kumvetsetsa bwino za zomwe Mavuto omwe ali nawo ali pachibwenzi.
Momwe ndimagawana ndi aliyense, ngati ndingathe kuthandiza munthu aliyense kuti athetse mavuto awo, kusowa chitetezo, ndi mkwiyo, banja kapena ubale uyambiranso kubwerera.
Pamapeto pa magawo anayi kapena asanu ndi atatu, ngati banja lili ndi chidwi ndipo ngati ndikuganiza kuti zingakhale zopindulitsa konse, nditha kuwabwezeretsanso gawo limodzi, pomwe tonse atatu titha kulumikizana mu ola limodzi.
Koma izi ndizochepa. Ndikuvomereza, ndizochepa kuti ndibweretsanso maanja pamodzi.
Ndapeza kuyambira 1996, kuti maanja ambiri amatha kuchira osakhala nane limodzi, ndipo amatha kuchira mwachangu kuposa momwe timapwetekera kuwalola kuti azikangana ndi kumenyana mkati mwa gawoli. Kuwononga nthawi kwathunthu. Misala yoyera.
Ali omasuka kunena chilichonse chomwe chili mumtima mwawo
Phindu lina lofunika kwambiri logwira ntchito ndi maanja payekha ndikuti ali ndi ufulu wonena chilichonse chomwe chili mumtima mwawo, ali omasuka, kunena zowona, osatetezeka, ndikundiuza zambiri zomwe sangakhale omasuka kugawana nawo Mnzanu, chifukwa zingangotsogolera kunkhondo ina.
Izi ndi zomwe ndikupangira:
Kwa othandizira maukwati ndi alangizi.Siyani njira yakale yomwe tidaphunzitsidwa kusukulu, nthawi yomweyo! Siyani kuwononga nthawi yanu ndi makasitomala anu nthawi ndi ndalama powakakamiza kuti azikhala limodzi banja likakhala pachisokonezo ndi zisudzo.
Kwa aliyense amene angakhale kasitomala akuwerenga nkhaniyi, mukamasankha mlangizi komanso / kapena wothandizira onetsetsani kuti mwasankha amene amagwiritsa ntchito pulogalamu yomwe tidapanga mu 1996, ndipo ngati sawafunsa ngati angatero.
Mutha kungowafotokozera, kuti simukufuna kuwalipira ndalama zokhala muofesi yawo ndikukangana pomwe mutha kuchita izi kunyumba kwaulere.
Ndipo ngati phungu wanu kapena wothandizira sagwirizana nanu? Yankho lake ndi losavuta. Asiyeni nthawi yomweyo, ndikupitiliza kusaka mpaka mutapeza munthu amene akufuna kugwira ntchito ndi zatsopano, zatsopano, ndi pulogalamu yatsopano yothandizira maanja kuchira.
Tsopano si mabanja onse omwe ndimagwira nawo ntchito omwe amachiritsa, koma ndimagwiritsabe ntchito zomwe ndidapanga zaka zapitazo, ngakhale ndikuwathandiza kupatukana ndi ulemu.
Kodi alangizi a mabanja amatchulapo za kusudzulana?
Alangizi a mabanja amatsogolera kuti mubweretse zinthu patsogolo, zomwe zingakuthandizeni kupanga chisankho choyenera. Sakutengera zomwe akuchita.
M'malingaliro mwanga, chithandizo chokwatirana kapena upangiri waubwenzi sikuti nthawi zonse zimayenera kuchitidwa kuti tisunge maubale, moona mtima, maubwenzi ena sayenera kupulumutsidwa. Izi nthawi zonse zimafunikira funso loti, "Kodi umafunikira uphungu asanakwatirane?" Chabwino, kwa okwatirana omwe ali kumapeto kwa kupatukana kapena kusudzulana, upangiri waukwati ukhoza kukhala njira yabwino yodziwira ngati ali ndi mwayi wopulumutsa banja kapena ngati latsala pang'ono kutha.
Chifukwa chake, kodi kuchuluka kwa upangiri waukwati ndi kotani
Ndine wokondwa kugawana njira yatsopanoyi yothandizira maukwati munkhaniyi, chifukwa kupambana kwathu kuyambira 1996 mpaka lero kwakhala kwamphamvu kwambiri pamene tidasintha ndikusiya njira zopusa zoperekera maukwati zomwe tidaphunzira zaka zapitazo, kulowa china chatsopano, chofunikira komanso chomveka.