Zamkati
- Kodi amabisa kukhala ndi chibwenzi?
- Momwe mungagwirire ndi vuto la mwana?
- Ali ndi umunthu komanso mbiri ya moyo wake
- Amayi okhwima komanso kugonana
- Kakumana nawo?
Anthu masiku ano ali otanganidwa kwambiri ndi ntchito zawo komanso moyo wawo waluso, nthawi zambiri amasankha zokambirana akadali achichepere ndikuyamba kuganiza zokwatirana atadutsa zaka 30. Pofika 40+, anthu amakwatirana mochedwa pazifukwa ziwiri: amakhala atagwira ntchito kapena asudzulana kale.
Pali magulu ambiri azimayi okhwima, nanga mungakumane nawo bwanji kuti mukwatirane?
Kodi amabisa kukhala ndi chibwenzi?
Choyambirira, ndizovuta kudziwa ngati mkazi wachikulire ali wokwatiwa kapena ayi. Amatha kukhala ndi ambiri omwe amawakondera kapena othandizana naye m'moyo weniweni ndiye akungofuna zatsopano.
Momwe mungatanthauzire izi?
Ingoyang'anirani nthawi yochuluka yomwe amathera polumikizana komanso kuti amakhala wotanganidwa kangati. Ngati mwadzidzidzi amatanganidwa nthawi zonse ndipo sagawana nawo zifukwa zake, mwina ndi bambo pafupi.
Mphindi ina yofunika ndikuti, kodi akuwonetsa chilichonse kuti akuyembekeza kuti muchitepo kanthu?
Amatha kukhala wokonda zaukwati pakuleredwa kapena kungofunafuna kuti apeze wina mwachangu chifukwa cha msinkhu wake, komanso amatha kukhala osazindikira za mutu waukwati kapena modabwitsa komanso wokakamira.
Dziwani zifukwa zake. Ngati mumakhala ndi malingaliro osiyana, zitha kubweretsa malingaliro osiyanasiyana paukwati.
Momwe mungagwirire ndi vuto la mwana?
Amayi okhwima atha kukhala ndi mwana kale. Ambiri amanyalanyaza izi, koma ndiye gawo lofunikira kwambiri m'moyo wake.
Sikofunikira kokha kuti mupeze chilankhulo chofanana ndi mwana, koma kuwalingalira kuyenera kukhala njira yanu kuyambira pachiyambi. Funsani za msinkhu wawo, zokonda zawo, komanso maluso awo onse, itanani zithunzi zawo zonse zokongola - ndipo mudzamusangalatsa.
Mukakumana zenizeni, bweretsani kena kake pang'ono kwa iye, osati maluwa ake okha. Ngati tsiku lobadwa lake lili pafupi, ndibwino kuti mupereke china chosangalatsa. Ambiri amaiwala kuchita izi ndipo ndi kulakwitsa kwawo.
Ngati cholinga chanu ndikukwatira ndipo simukungobwera kudzangosangalala, onetsani kuyamikira kwanu onse am'banja, osati chidwi chanu chachimuna chaching'ono.
Ali ndi umunthu komanso mbiri ya moyo wake
Ngati alibe ana azaka 40, fufuzani ngati akufuna. Ngati ndi choncho, konzekerani bwino! Kupanga mwana mu 40+ sikophweka konse, ndipo akuyembekezerani kuti muwonetse zakukhosi kwakukulu.
Chakudya chopatsa thanzi, kuyesa zamankhwala, kumuperekeza ndikumuthandiza panthawi yonseyi, komanso kuleza mtima kwambiri - ndizomwe zikukuyembekezerani posachedwa. Angakhalenso wotopetsa kukufunsani za chibadwa chanu komanso thanzi lanu lonse, lomwe silachikondi konse. Koma ndiwo moyo wa makolo "achichepere" okhwima!
Mtundu wachitatu ndikuti sakufuna ana konse.
Zachidziwikire, azimayi ambiri opanda ana amakhala ochepera zaka 30. Amayenda, kusangalala ndi moyo, komanso kuwunika zinthu. Koma azimayi amalonda okonda ntchito okalamba atha kukhala otanganidwa kwambiri komanso odzikonda kuti nawonso akhale ndi ana.
Poterepa, amangofuna mnzake wokhala naye moyo yemwe angakhale wofanana kapena mwana wamasewera wachinyamata. Onetsetsani kuyambira pachiyambi zomwe zosowa zake zili komanso ngati mukufanana nawo.
Amayi okhwima komanso kugonana
Kuchita zibwenzi ndi mkazi wokonda kukwatira wazaka za 40 kumatanthauza kugonana kwambiri.
Ena mwa iwo atha kukhala achikale ndipo amafuna kuti akhale pachibwenzi poyamba, koma ambiri okhwima safuna kutaya nthawi yawo pamasewera. Amapanga zogonana ngati tsiku lomaliza la moyo wawo! Kuphatikiza apo, amafuna kuyesa luso laumunthu asanakwatirane kapena kukwatiwa. Amatha kukhala oyesa okhwima kotero ndizosavuta kulephera!
Amasanthula zonsezi: momwe munthu amadyera, wowolowa manja, zovala zake, ndi zina zambiri! Komabe, ngati wina angathe kuwasangalatsa komanso osayang'ana atsikana aang'ono pomwe alipo, zolakwa zambiri zimakhululukidwa.
Kakumana nawo?
Masiku ano anthu amakhala moyo wawo wonse ndi mafoni a m'manja ndi ma iPads, ndipo mibadwo yakale siinanso zosiyana. Amayi okhwima ali pachimake pa ntchito zawo komanso njira zodzifotokozera kotero kuti zibwenzi ndizosankha zawo. Pali mapulogalamu ambiri okhwima omwe amakhala othandiza komanso osakondera.
Ena mwa iwo, anena kuyambira pachiyambi kuti cholinga chawo chachikulu ndikupangitsa anthu kuti akwatire kotero kuti palibe amene akumva kuwawa kapena kusokonezeka.
Ndikosavuta kusankha pulogalamu yabwino:
- Sankhani yomwe ikuyang'ana komwe mukukhala kapena yomwe ili ndi nkhokwe yapadziko lonse lapansi
- Pitani pazomwe zimapangidwa mwaluso ndipo pewani omwe ali ndi zolaula
- Werengani ndemanga poyamba. Yesetsani kupeza nkhani zopambana zokhudzana ndi pulogalamuyi
- Unikani mkati mwa milungu yoyamba ngati ndi yamalonda kapena yoona
- Msonkhano wa nthawi yeniyeni ukakonzedwa, chitani monga tafotokozera pamwambapa
Ndikosavuta kukumana ndi amayi okhwima kuti akwatire ngati mutsatira malangizo onse ndikugwiritsa ntchito nzeru. Ukwati ndichisankho chofunikira ndiye chilichonse chomwe chitsogolere, chiyenera kukonzekera ndikukonzekera bwino.