Zamkati
- Kodi Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) ndi chiyani?
- Munthu amene ali ndi BPD amatembenukira ku mantha komanso kusakhulupirirana
- Kodi mungathandize bwanji mnzanu?
- Khalidwe lokhazikika limayamba
- Muli ndi njira ziwiri
Nthawi yaukwati yatha. Maski achotsedwa. Inu ndi mnzanu mwasiya zonyenga zonse. Zina mwazikhalidwe zomwe mwapeza zokondana ndi mnzanu kumayambiliro abwenzi anu zidafukulidwa ndikuwonetsedwa kuti ndi Borderline Personality Disorder.
Kodi Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) ndi chiyani?
Mosiyana ndi Bipolar Disorder yomwe nthawi zambiri imadziwika kuti BPD, chifukwa cha malingaliro olakwika akuti chizindikiro chachikulu cha Bipolar ndimasinthidwe osasinthika. Bipolar ndi organic kapena yachilengedwe ndipo ndi zotsatira za kusalinganika kwamankhwala muubongo.
Bi mu Bi-polar amakhudzana ndi kukhumudwa komanso kukhumudwa.
Borderline Personality Disorder ndi zovuta zina zaumunthu zimapangidwa ndimikhalidwe yambiri kapena m'malo mwake zimachitika chifukwa cha zoopsa kapena zingapo zosautsa. Posachedwa pakhala kafukufuku yemwe akuwonetsa kuti Borderline Personality Disorder idaperekedwa kuchokera m'badwo wakale.
Pakatikati pa BPD ndikulephera kuwongolera momwe akumvera, mantha komanso kulephera kudalira.
Zizindikiro zake zimakhala zovuta. Mwinamwake mwangowona wokondedwa wanu ali ndi mkwiyo wokwanira womwe ukanakhala kuti wachita mwana wazaka ziwiri, chifukwa choti simunayankhe meseji ndipo munabwera kuchokera kuntchito mochedwa. Mwinamwake mwaima kuti mugule zinthu, munakumana ndi mnzanu kuti mumwe kapena galimoto yanu inawonongeka. Yankho lake ndi lowopsa.
Munthu wopanda BPD atha kukhumudwa koma angaganize zofunikira zonse poyamba.Kodi foni idafa? Kodi mnzanga adandilembera mameseji ndipo sindinapeze? Kodi mnzanga adakakamira pantchito? Kodi zadzidzidzi zidachitika ndipo mnzanga adzandiimbira ngati kuli koyenera?
Munthu amene ali ndi BPD amatembenukira ku mantha komanso kusakhulupirirana
Palibe kusinthidwa kwa zomwe zikadachitika.
Mwinamwake amakumbukira chochitika choyambirira chomwe chinatsogolera ku kulingalira kumeneku. Ali ndi zaka 10, abambo ake adamuwuza, akubwera kudzamutenga koma sanachitepo ndipo sanamuyimbire konse kumuuza kuti sabwera. Iye sanabwere konse. Mwina izi zidachitika kangapo kapena mwina zidachitika nthawi imodzi ndipo bambowo adamwalira. Mosasamala kanthu, mantha ake adapangidwa.
Kodi mungathandize bwanji mnzanu?
Khalidwe ili siliyenera kuwongolera mayendedwe anu, limachotsedwa chifukwa cha mantha.
Dzifunseni nokha, kodi zikundipweteka kuti mnzanga adziwe kuti ndili bwino komanso kuti ndasiya ntchito kapena kulikonse komwe uli? Ngati zingamuthandize mnzanu kuti asamakhale ndi nkhawa zambiri mungamunyengerere ndi kumuuza kuti mulibwino komanso kuti muchedwa? Bwanji ngati mnzanuyo akuchita zomwe mumachita mantha ndipo simungathe kuwagwira?
Kukhala ndi munthu yemwe ali ndi Borderline Personality Disorder kuli ngati kukhala mumkhalidwe wosasamala nthawi zonse.
Mutha kuyankhula tsiku lomwelo ndipo mnzanuyo akuseka. Ngati mutalankhula mawu omwewo tsiku lotsatira, mutha kukumana ndiukali. Zimakupangitsani kukhala kovuta kudziwa momwe mungathandizire tsiku lina mukadzakhala ndi mankhwala oyenera ndipo tsiku lotsatira silikugwira ntchito.
Khalidwe lokhazikika limayamba
Monga munthu wokhala ndi BPD, machitidwe amawonetsera m'njira zomwe zimafuna kutsimikizika, chidwi ndi kulimbikitsidwa kuti mumve kukondedwa. Akapanda kuchipeza kapena samadzimva kuti akuchipeza, machitidwe okakamiza amatenga gawo ndikukonzekera kumayambira. Izi zitha kuwoneka ngati zikulankhula ndi amuna kapena akazi ena, kudula, kuwopseza kudzipha kapena kudzipha, kuthetsa chibwenzicho, ndi zina zambiri.
Kukhala ndi munthu yemwe ali ndi Borderline Personality Disorder ndikumangika mwamalingaliro, m'maganizo komanso mwakuthupi.
Mukamayesetsa kuthandiza mnzanu, yang'anani zosowa zomwe sizikugwirizana. Ngati mukumangolankhula mwakachetechete kapena kuuzidwa, "muyenera kungodziwa", zonsezi zomwe ndimakhalidwe a BPD, ganizirani.
Zikuwoneka kuti mwamvapo mawu oti "simunayambe" kapena "sitinakhalepo" m'masabata apitawa. Inde, mnzanu wa BPD amakhulupirira kuti mumachita zamatsenga ndipo akuyembekezerani kuti mudziwe.
Monga mnzanu wa munthu yemwe ali ndi vutoli, mwina mwatopa ndikuyesera kuti mumudziwe mnzanuyo. Ndinene chiyani? Kodi ndinganene bwanji m'njira yomwe singawakhumudwitse? Ndingakhale bwanji moyo wanga osayenera kuvutika chifukwa cha iwo?
Muli ndi njira ziwiri
Mutha kuthetsa chibwenzicho, kapena mutha kumvetsetsa kuti pali yankho ngati muli omasuka komanso odzipereka. Anthu omwe ali ndi vuto la BPD amafunikira kuwonetsetsa komanso kuwona mtima.
Ngati simungathe kapena simukuchita izi. Imani tsopano.
Ayenera kudziwa kuti simudzawasiya ochuluka musanatero. Inde, izi zikutanthauza kuti atha kukulemberani mameseji mobwerezabwereza kapena kukuyimbirani foni kuti mulowemo ndikuyembekezera yankho. Amatha kufunsa mafunso odabwitsa kapena amachita zomwe mukuwona kuti zikuwongolera.
Ngati mukufuna kupitiriza kukhala pachibwenzi funani thandizo lanu. Ndikosavuta kugwera mumsampha woyankha molakwika ndikukulitsa mkhalidwewo.
Pali magulu ambiri pa intaneti omwe amapezeka. Wothandizira angalimbikitsidwe kuti akuthandizeni kumvetsetsa zomwe zimachitika ndikumvetsera m'malo osakondera.
Kwa anthu ambiri omwe ali ndi BPD, sakudziwa kuti ali nawo.
Kuyankha kwake ndikuti "Nthawi zonse ndakhala chonchi". Ngati simumatha kulankhula bwino, ndi nthawi yoti muphunzire maluso ena. Lankhulani ndi mnzanu, athandizeni kumvetsetsa zosowa zanu ndikuwadziwitsa kuti ndinu okonzeka kuwathandiza.