Zamkati
- 1. Dzidziweni bwino
- 2. Gwiritsani ntchito katswiri
- 3. Ndi zikhalidwe ziti zomwe mnzanu womaliza anali nazo,
- 4. Khalani ndi mantha oti mukhale nokha
Yang'anani pozungulira. Aliyense ali mchikondi, kupatula kwa ife.
Kodi munaganizapo choncho?
Kodi mudamvapo nokha kukhala mdziko lachikondi, pomwe ena onse akuwoneka kuti ali nawo limodzi koma inu simuli?
Ngati ndinu wosakwatira, muyenera kudikira nthawi yayitali bwanji ... Musanapeze "ubale wabwino".
Kukhala mchikondi ndizodabwitsa.
Kukhala mchikondi, malinga ndi anthu ambiri, ndiye chifukwa chomwe tili padziko lapansi.
Koma kodi zilidi choncho?
Ndipo ndizolakwitsa ziti zomwe timapanga, ndizolakwitsa ziti zomwe timapanga titatha chibwenzi, zomwe zingatsimikizire kulephera mtsogolo?
Zaka zingapo zapitazo mayi wachichepere adandilembera ndikundilemba ntchito ngati mlangizi wake kudzera pa Skype kuchokera kudziko lina, adakhumudwa chifukwa bambo yemwe adakhala naye pachibwenzi kwa zaka zingapo anali atangomusiya masiku asanu ndi awiri asanafike, mwamantha, malinga ndi iwo zidabwera kuchokera kunja kwa buluu.
Ndipo tsopano, amafuna maupangiri angapo kuchokera kwa ine mkati mwa magawo athu, kuti abwerere mumasewera achikondi.
Gwiritsitsani, ndinamuuza.
“Kodi ndi zaka zingati zomwe munatenga m'mbuyomu, ndinakufunsani, chibwenzi chinatha ndi chibwenzi chanu choyamba?”
Anazengereza, ndipo anandiuza kuti atakhala nthawi yayitali miyezi isanu ndi umodzi. Koma nthawi zambiri, anali pachibwenzi chatsopano pasanathe miyezi itatu.
Ndipo ndizosamala. Pazaka 30 zapitazi ndikukula kwamunthu, ndawona anthu ambiri akudumpha kuchokera paubwenzi wina ndi mzake, monga chowonadi, anthu ambiri ali ndi wokondedwa wawo watsopano asanalembe kapena chibwenzi chawo ubale watha kwathunthu.
Momwe timagwirira ntchito limodzi, ndidamuuza kuti ngati apitiliza kubwereza njira zochokera paubwenzi wina ndi mzake popanda kuchita ntchito iliyonse pakati, kupambana kwake kungakhale komwe kuli pompano: zero.
Ndiye tidikire mpaka liti pakati paubwenzi wachikondi? Ndiosavuta. Masiku osachepera 365. Mapeto a mawu.
Ndipo nchifukwa ninji zili choncho?
Dziko la maubale lili pamavuto akulu, ziwerengero zimati 41-50% kapena zambiri zaubwenzi woyamba zimathera mu chisudzulo, 60-67% ya maubale achiwiri amatha chisudzulo ndipo 73-74% ya maubale achitatu amathera mu chisudzulo.
Inu mwamvetsa izo? Tili ndi chikondi ndi ubale izi zonse ndizolakwika.
Nawo maubwino otenga masiku 365 kumapeto kwa chibwenzi, musanapite ku ina:
1. Dzidziweni bwino
Nthawi zambiri timatayika pachibwenzi, kumachita zinthu zambiri zomwe wokondedwa wathu amafuna kuti tichite, ndikunyalanyaza zosowa zathu. Siyani tsopano. Dzidziweni bwino. Idzikondeni nokha mobwerezabwereza.
2. Gwiritsani ntchito katswiri
Gwirani ntchito ndi mlangizi waluso, wophunzitsa za moyo, mtumiki kuti muwone gawo lanu pakukanika komanso kufa kwa ubale wanu womaliza.
Ndikudziwa, ndikudziwa, sunakhale ndi gawo, zonse zinali zolakwa eti?
Osati zolondola konse. Mukawona gawo lomwe mudachita, mutha kudzikhululukira ndikupanga chisankho chosadzachitanso mtsogolomo.
Kodi mumamwa mowa kwambiri? Kodi mumadalira? Kodi munali okwiya? Kodi mudadzipatula nokha, ndikutseka pomwe panali mikangano?
Zinthu izi ziyenera kukhazikitsidwa, musanabweretse wina patsamba lanu loyipa.
3. Ndi zikhalidwe ziti zomwe mnzanu womaliza anali nazo,
Lembani izi. Chirichonse chomwe iwo ali. Zilembeni. Khalani omasuka ndikuti mnzanu wotsatira sayenera kukhala ndi izi ... Ndipo mudzipatsanso mwayi wachikondi.
4. Khalani ndi mantha oti mukhale nokha
Mukapita masiku 365 opanda chibwenzi, mumvetsetsa momwe kufunikira kumawonekera ... Momwe kuopa kukhala nokha kumawonekera ... Ndipo mutha kudziwa izi ziwiri musanapite ku chibwenzi china.
Nthawi zonse ndimauza makasitomala anga osakwatiwa, kuti akamatha kupita kutchuthi, masiku okumbukira kubadwa, zikondwerero, maukwati, maliro ndi osakwatira ... Ndipo khalani osangalala pochita izi ... Ali pamalo abwino kusankha munthu wina wosangalala kuti kulumikizana ndi.
Koma ngati muli osowa, osungulumwa, ndikukutsimikizirani kuti musankha anthu amwayi omwe mudachita m'mbuyomu ... ndi dzina ndi nkhope ina.
M'buku lathu logulitsidwa kwambiri laposachedwa "Angel on a surfboard: buku lachinsinsi lachikondi lomwe limafufuza mafungulo a chikondi chakuya", Sandy Tavish yemwe ndi mtsogoleri wodziwika bwino amakopeka ndi mayi wokongola uyu, ndipo amamuitanira kunyumba kwake kudzadya chakudya chamadzulo.
Pakangopita mphindi zochepa akuyenda naye panjira yopita kuchipinda kwake kukagona.
Amauza Sandy, kuti adangothetsa chibwenzi chanthawi yayitali ndipo tsopano ali wokonzeka kuchita zenizeni, ndipo adasankha Sandy ngati wotsatira wake.
Sandy, poyesedwa, adamuuza kuti amafunikira nthawi yochulukirapo, ndipo monyinyirika adavomera.
Ngakhale izi zitha kumveka ngati upangiri wankhanza, ndikukulonjezani kuti zimagwira ntchito. Dzidziwitseni nokha. Phunzirani momwe mungakhalire malire oyenera komanso zotsatirapo pamoyo wanu.
Ndipo mukatero? Mudzadzipatsa nokha mwayi wabwino wokondana kwakanthawi komwe mumalakalaka.