Zamkati
- Chikondi sichofanana ndi kugonana
- Ndiye kodi ubwenzi ndi chiyani?
- Kodi kugonana ndiye chiani?
- Nkhani zakukondana komanso kugonana
“Kugonana kumatha kukhala njira yosonyezerana chikondi komanso yosangalatsa kwambiri, koma timangodzinamiza tokha tikamachita ngati kuti kugonana ndi umboni wa chikondi. Amuna ambiri amafuna kugonana monga umboni wa chikondi; azimayi ambiri agonana poganiza zokondedwa. Tikukhala m'dziko la ogwiritsa ntchito komwe timachitirana nkhanza wina ndi mnzake kuti muchepetse ululu wokhala nokha. Tonsefe timafuna kukondana, ndipo kukhudza thupi kumawoneka ngati kwaubwenzi, kapena kwakanthawi. ” (McManus, Erwin; Mzimu Wokhumba, 2008)
Ambiri azigwiritsa ntchito polemba izi. Sindingayese kunyoza kuchuluka kwa zolemba (zopeka komanso zopeka) pamutu wachikondi, kukondana kapena kugonana. Chokwanira kunena, nkhaniyi yalembedwa kuti ikuthandizeni kumvetsetsa bwino mawuwa mwa iwo okha. Ndiyesera kutanthauzira mwachidule za chikondi, kukondana, komanso kugonana. Ndikusiyani kuti mupange malingaliro anu pazomwe mukufunikira. Koma choyamba, kuwunika kwakanthawi! Simuyenera kukonda winawake kuti mugonane nawo komanso simukuyenera kukhala pachibwenzi ndi munthu musanagone nawo. Zomwe muyenera kufotokoza momveka bwino ndizomwe mukufuna kapena mukufuna pachibwenzi. Muyenera kukhala oganiza bwino ndikupita kuubwenzi wapamtima. Ndimakhulupirira maubale omwe amayendetsedwa ndi cholinga.
Chikondi sichofanana ndi kugonana
Chikondi, mosiyana ndi zomwe anthu ambiri amakhulupirira, sichimatanthauza kugonana ndi chikondi. Izi zikusocheretsa m'njira zonse zotheka. Chikondi chimangokhala kudzipereka komwe mumapereka chifukwa cha munthu wina. Pazolemba, sitikulankhula za erotica (mtundu waku Hollywood) wachikondi. Tikulankhula za chisamaliro, kulera, kupereka ndi kulandira zomwe anthu akhala akupatsana kwa zaka zambiri.
Ndiye kodi ubwenzi ndi chiyani?
Pazolinga zathu, tiyeni tifotokozere zaubwenzi ngati mkhalidwe wokhala 'pachibwenzi. Mukuwona, kukondana ndi verebu (china chake timachita): ndiko "kudziwitsa". Chifukwa chake, kukondana ndikumangirira pang'onopang'ono komwe anthu awiri amadzipereka mwadala mwadala. Amathandizana kupezeka kuzinthu zosazindikirika komanso zogwira mtima zomwe zikadakhala zobisika kwa ena. Kupita kwanthawi, anthuwa amagawana ndikudziwitsana wina ndi mnzake kudzera muzokambirana ndi zokambirana maloto, mantha, ziyembekezo, ndi zokhumba zawo. Ndi munthu aliyense muubwenzi wobwezeretsana potero kupanga chinsinsi ndikupanga ubale wapamtima wina ndi mnzake. Amakhala oyandikana ndipo amagawana kukhala omasuka. Iwo adapanga ndikumanga bwalo pomwe aliyense wa iwo amadzimva kukhala wotetezeka mokwanira kuti adziulule, kupereka ndi kulandira, kudalira komanso kumva kuti ndi ovomerezeka. Ubwenzi ndi njira yomwe imachitika ndikumangirira pakapita nthawi. Ndimadzimadzi osati wokhazikika.
Kodi kugonana ndiye chiani?
Kugonana? Kugonana, mbali inayi, kumawoneka kokongola osadulidwa komanso kowuma. Koma kodi ndi choncho? Pofatsa kwambiri, kugonana ndi njira yokhayo yosowa zosowa zathu zokhutiritsa zofuna zathu ndi cholinga chokwaniritsa chilakolako mwa amuna ndi akazi. Ngakhale anthu ambiri amayerekezera kuti kugonana ndi anthu awiri ogona limodzi, zogonana zitha kuchitidwa ndi munthu m'modzi monga kuseweretsa maliseche. Ndikofunikira kusiyanitsa kugonana kwaumunthu ndi zoyendetsa nyama zokha kuti mulumphane wina ndi mnzake kuchokera pakupanga chikondi, chinthu chofunikira komanso chosakhwima chokhala ndi mwayi wogonana wina ndi mnzake. Inemwini, ngati mwamuna, ndikuganiza kuti ndi mwayi waukulu ngati mnzanu akulolani kulowa mthupi lawo. Ndimazindikiranso kuti anthu ambiri amagonana, zogonana. Kunena zowona, izi zimakusiyani osakhutitsidwa komanso osakhutitsidwa.
Nkhani zakukondana komanso kugonana
M'zaka zanga zonse zaubusa komanso momwe ndimagwirira ntchito ngati othandizira, imodzi mwazinthu zazikulu zomwe amakumana nawo makasitomala anga ndizokhudza kukondana komanso kugonana. Mwambiri, maanja ambiri amasokoneza wina ndi mnzake ndipo iyi ndi imodzi mwazovuta kwambiri kumasulira iwo. Mafundo chifukwa bola ngati zonse zoyambira za ubale watanthauzo komanso wodzipereka sizinafotokozedwe bwino, banjali limakumana ndi zovuta. Zotsatira zake nthawi zambiri zimakhala kusakhulupirika.
Pozindikira kuti zimatenga nthawi komanso kuyesetsa kukhulupirira wina ndi anthu athu onse, zimakhala zovuta tikazindikira kuti zoyesayesa zathu sizinabwezeredwe mokwanira ndipo chiyembekezo chathu chalephera. Chifukwa chake, kupweteka kwam'malingaliro ndi kupsinjika komwe kumakhala kusakhulupirika. Kusakhulupirika, kungoyikidwa ndipamene phwando limachoka kapena kuchoka panjira yaubwenzi wokondwa komanso wosasunthika. Ambiri aife tazindikira chizolowezi chosakhulupirika ndi nkhani yogonana kunja kwa chibwenzi chomwe chikuwoneka ngati chodzipereka. Ndi zomwezonso, kugonana; ndizosangalatsa kuti nthawi zambiri sitimayang'ana chomwe chimayambitsa kusakhulupirika m'malo mongodzipweteketsa nthawi zonse zikachitika.