Zamkati
- "Kuthawa"
- Mikangano yomwe imachitika poteteza "kudzikonda"
- Zidangochitika kumene?
- Kodi izi zikadakhala zosiyana motani?
- Khalani ndi zolakwitsa zanu poyamba
Ndagwira ntchito ndi mabanja kwazaka zopitilira 30 ndipo ndakhala m'banja pafupifupi nthawi yayitali. Nthawi imeneyo, ndazindikira chimodzi mwazinthu zofunika kwambiri kuti banja liziyenda bwino. Izi ndizofunikira kuti banja likhale lopambana komanso kuti likule. Ndikufuna kugawana nanu, osati chifukwa ndi vumbulutso lalikulu koma chifukwa timayenera kukumbutsidwa za "izi" nthawi zambiri. Mukuwona, "amygdala" athu omwe ali mkati mwaubongo wamkati (aka limbic system) nthawi zonse amatipangitsa kuiwala mfundo yosavuta koma yozama kwambiri. Mfundo yake: Mukhale ndi Zinthu Zanu.
"Kuthawa"
Pali magawo atatu amdziko laubwenzi: Mphamvu, mtima ndi kudziwa. Mwa mawonetseredwe olakwika amitundu itatuyi, timapeza lingaliro lakale lachilengedwe loti zamoyo zimadziteteza m'njira imodzi mwanjira zitatu izi: Limbani, Ndege ndi Kuundana / Kuseka. Pazochitika zilizonse, amygdala wokangalika ayamba kulowa. Ngakhale titha kunena zambiri pokhudzana ndi mayendedwe a Flight ndi Freeze muukwati, ndikufuna lero ndikuyang'ana pa zomwe "Limbani". Awa ndi machitidwe amanyazi-komanso-olakwika. Zimachitika chifukwa nthawi zambiri timangozichita zokha — osaganizira — ndipo popanda chikondi kapena kumvera chisoni anzathu. Awa ndi machitidwe osowa mtima komanso achizolowezi oteteza "kudzimva" osaganizira njira zowona, zowona mtima komanso zofunikira pakati pa anthu.
Mikangano yomwe imachitika poteteza "kudzikonda"
Ndiloleni ndipereke chitsanzo chophweka. Pobwerera kuchokera kuphwando, Trina amauza mwamuna wake kuti anachita manyazi ndi zomwe ananena pamaso pa anthu onse. Terry akuyankha mwachangu: Monga katswiri wankhonya ananenanso motere: “Monga momwe mumachitira chilichonse nthawi zonse. Kuphatikiza apo, ndikunena zowona, umakhala wankhanza pankhani ya amayi anga. ” Pomwepo Trina "adatseka nkhonya," ndikufotokozera (kamodzinso) chifukwa chomwe adachedwa. Amatha kuponyera mnzake za momwe iye alili ndi vuto ndi amayi ake opusa. Lolani masewera olimbitsa thupi a limbic ayambe. Kutsutsanako kumakulirakulira pomwe amasinthana nkhonya mpaka atatopa komanso kukhala ndi mkwiyo (khansa pachibwenzi chilichonse).
Zidangochitika kumene?
Pankhaniyi, Terry adamva zomwe amamuwuza ngati chiwopsezo - mwina kudzikuza kwake, kapena mwina zidapangitsa mayi wovuta yemwe amamunyamula mutu. Mwachilengedwe adachitapo kanthu pomumenya ngati kuti akumenyedwa (nanga bwanji akanakhala?). Tina amamuyankha ndipo zimayenderana kwambiri. Ngati kulumikizana kwamtunduwu kumachitika pafupipafupi, ukwatiwo umakhala wowonongeka kwambiri.
Kodi izi zikadakhala zosiyana motani?
Ngati kakhosi koyambirira ka Terry kangofika pamalopo panthawi yake, akadatha "kutsekera" amygdala wake atadzuka kuti amufunse zambiri. Ndipo ngati amamvetsera mosamala, mwina adazindikira kuti adalankhuladi zopweteka. Akadakhala kuti adadzichepetsa (komanso kulimba mtima) panthawiyo kuvomereza kuti adalakwitsa kukambirana nkhani zawo pagulu ndikupepesa. Trina akanamverera kuti amamvetsetsa komanso amamukonda. Kapenanso, mwina Tina akanatha kukhala woyamba kuyambitsa zokambiranazo mosamala. Sankafunika kudzitchinjiriza koma m'malo mwake anayenera kuzindikira kuti Terry anali kuchitapo kanthu chifukwa chakuzindikira. Zotsatira zakulumikizana mosamalitsa kwambiri (zochepa) zitha kukhala zosiyana kwambiri ndi zomwe zidachitika m'mbuyomu.
Khalani ndi zolakwitsa zanu poyamba
Lamuloli ndi losavuta (koma lovuta kwambiri pomwe amygdala ndi / kapena Ego awukitsidwa). Khalani ndi zinthu zanu zanu. Kuyambira koyambirira kwa zokambirana ngati mungathe, koma mwachangu momwe zingathere. Mwa njira, izi sizikutanthauza kuulula milandu yomwe simunachite. M'malo mwake, ingokhalani omasuka kuti mutenge nawo gawo pazovuta zilizonse-ndipo nthawi zambiri zimatenga awiri kuti akhale tango. Ukwati womwe uli ndi anthu awiri omwe amachita izi mosalekeza amakhala ndi mwayi (wosakhala) womenyera banja lomwe likukula komanso lokwaniritsa. Komabe, ngati banja lili ndi munthu m'modzi yemwe samazindikira gawo lawo pavuto lililonse, mnzake wanzeruyo ayenera kupanga zisankho zovuta pankhaniyi. Ndipo ngati palibe aliyense mwa awiriwo amene angathe "kukhala ndi zinthu zawo,". . . chabwino, mwayi wabwino wopanga izi konse.