Zamkati
- Kodi ndichifukwa chiyani kugonana pambuyo pobereka kuli kovuta kwambiri?
- Kodi kugonana kumakhala bwanji ukakhala ndi mwana?
- Akazi: malingaliro anu ogonana mutabereka
- Chatsopano mchipinda chogona ndi chani?
- Maganizo anu ndi momwe mnzanu amaganizira zogonana
- Kulera pambuyo pa mwana
- Kutaya kwa libido atabadwa
- Kodi mungagone liti mwana mutatha?
- Kugonana mutabadwa: Mafunso omwe mungadzifunse
- Kodi ndine wokonzeka kugonana nditabadwa?
- Kodi ndikudzipanikiza chifukwa choti wokondedwa wanga akufuna kugonana?
- Kodi kudula kwanga (episiotomy) kudzasintha moyo wanga wogonana?
- Kodi ndikufunika kulera nditabereka?
- Kodi kugonana pambuyo pobadwa kungapweteke?
- Malangizo okuthandizani kukhalabe ndi moyo wogonana mukakhala ndi ana
- 1) Konzani masiku ogonana
- 2) Sungani cheke pamakomo
- 3) Siyani zolemba zodabwitsa
- 4) Aloleni anawo agone
- 5) Konzekerani tsiku la mwana wanu
- Mfundo yofunika
Amayi oyembekezera ambiri amadandaula za momwe moyo wawo wogonana ungawoneke mwana akabwera.
Ndikhungu lonse la m'mimba lotayirira, mabere okulitsidwa, zotambasula, zipsera, ndi kunenepa kwambiri, sizosadabwitsa kuti amayi apakati ndi amayi atsopano ali ndi vuto lodziyerekeza kuti akulumpha m'thumba ndi chikhumbo komanso kudzidalira monga kale.
Popeza masiku opatulira mpaka nthawi yayitali, kupita kudziko latsopano ndikudziwitsidwa masiku awiri ali kumbuyo kwanu, ndizachilengedwe kuti pantchito yatsopanoyi, mumadzipeza mukudandaula za zinthu ziwiri- libido yanu ndipo kukhutiritsa chilakolako cha kugonana cha mnzanu pamene miyoyo yanu yasokonekera.
Upangiri wa banja lathu umapereka chidziwitso pakusintha komwe inu ndi mnzanuyo mungayembekezere mchaka choyamba mwana wanu akangobwera, komanso maupangiri othandiza amomwe mungathetsere zovuta zomwe zikuwonekerazo ndikusangalala wina ndi mnzake ngakhale zili zambiri tsopano zosiyana.
Kodi ndichifukwa chiyani kugonana pambuyo pobereka kuli kovuta kwambiri?
Ngakhale zili bwino kuti zinthu zizizire kwakanthawi mwana akabadwa, musaganize kuti gawo lokhala ndi pakati ndiloyambira kumapeto kwa moyo wanu wogonana.
Pali kusintha kwama mahomoni komanso kutopa komwe mungaganizire. Tengani nthawi kuti muchepetse zinthuzi, kenako nkubwerera kuzolowera momwe mumakhalira ndi mnzanu.
Osapitilira kuda nkhawa zakanthawi komwe ungagonane ndi mwana.
Kodi kugonana kumakhala bwanji ukakhala ndi mwana?
Makolo oyamba kukhala oyenera kukumana ndi kusintha kwamphamvu kwambiri ndipo samakonzekereratu. Kubwera kwa mwana wakhanda kapena kulandiridwa kwa mwana wololedwa nthawi zonse kumapereka kufunikira kwakukulu pamphamvu ya kholo kuposa momwe zimayembekezeredwa.
Pachikhalidwe chilichonse padziko lapansi, kulera ndikulimbikitsidwa ndi zomwe banja limayang'ana, ndipo omwe angokwatirana kumene amakonzekera ana. Ngakhale maanja ambiri amatha kudikira nthawi yayitali kuposa momwe zimakhalira zaka makumi zapitazo, zovuta za moyo wabanja sizikusintha.
Ndiye, kodi ungagonane utabereka?
Zotsatira zakusintha komwe ana amabweretsa, makolo nthawi zambiri amakumana ndi kuchepa kwa chikondi chawo pambuyo pa ana. Chifukwa chake mutha kuganiza kuti moyo wogonana pambuyo pa ana udzasankhidwa payekha, koma zimatenga awiri kuti apange tango ndikupanga chikondi, mukukumbukira?
Kukonzekera nthawi yogonana atabadwa kapena kutenga nthawi yocheza mwana atha kuwoneka kovuta komanso ngati kugwira ntchito molimbika poyamba, koma mukadzakhalako, mudzaganiza, "Hei, bwanji sitinachite izi kale?"
Akazi: malingaliro anu ogonana mutabereka
Nthawi zambiri, mwana akabadwa, mutha kumva kuti mwatopa ndi kugonana. Muthanso kufunsa kuti, "Kodi ndidzakwanitsanso kugonana?" Dziwani kuti kusafuna kugonana mutakhala ndi mwana ndizabwinobwino.
Pali zinthu zambiri zomwe zimapangitsa kuti munthu asakhale ndi chilakolako chogonana atabadwa. Ena mwa iwo ndi awa:
- Vuto lakumaliseche
- Kutopa
- Kupsinjika
- Nkhawa yokhudzana ndi mawonekedwe amthupi
- Kuyamwitsa
- Zizolowezi za mwana kugona
Khazikani mtima pansi. Mudzachira.
Pamapeto pake, kukhala mayi kudzakuthandizani kuzindikira zosowa zanu ndi zokhumba zanu mozama. Mudzafuna kukondana ndi mnzanuyo, ndipo zinthu zibwerera mwakale. Komanso, kudzisamalira ndiko kiyi.
Chatsopano mchipinda chogona ndi chani?
Kugonana ndikukhala pachibwenzi ndi wokondedwa wanu ndizovuta mwana akabwera. Mosakayikira, maanja amakhala ndi nthawi yocheperako komanso otopa kwambiri, kuphatikiza kwama mahomoni onse omwe akuthamangabe ndipo mafunso okhudzana ndi kubereka atha msanga.
Ngati inu ndi mnzanu mulibe chidwi chogonana, palibe vuto, koma ngati zilakolako zogonana zosiyana, ubalewo ukhoza kukhala wopanikizika.
Ndiye, kodi kugonana kumasintha pambuyo pokhala ndi mwana?
Kwa anthu ambiri okwatirana, zinthu zimabwerera mwakale, koma kuzolowera zinthu zatsopano kumatenga nthawi komanso kuleza mtima.
Ponena za zachilendo, banja lililonse ndi losiyana, ndipo zizolowezi zawo zogonana atabadwa zimadalira pazinthu zosiyanasiyana, nthawi ndikutsogola kumakhala patsogolo.
Malinga ndi kafukufuku wopangidwa ndi gulu la akonzi ochokera ku WhatToExpect.com omwe amaphatikiza amayi 1,200 atsopano, zotsatirazi zikuwonetsa kuti maanja azaka zilizonse amagonana kamodzi kapena kawiri pa sabata pafupifupi chaka choyamba mwana akangobwera, mosasamala kanthu kuti ndi mwana wawo woyamba kapena wachiwiri.
Oposa theka la azimayi omwe adafunsidwa akuti amayambiranso kaye miyezi iwiri kapena kupitilira apo mwana wawo atabadwa, ndipo ena amayerekezera kugonana pambuyo pa khanda ndikubwezeretsanso mawonekedwe - gawo lovuta kwambiri ndikuti 'atulutse kumbuyo kwawo pakama. '
Ngati mukuwona kuti chibwenzi chanu chakhala chikuvutika kuposa momwe amayembekezera, palibe chifukwa chomwe simuyenera kuyankhulira ndi a GP kapena azachipatala anu.
Maganizo anu ndi momwe mnzanu amaganizira zogonana
M'chaka choyamba, maanja ambiri akuti yankho ndikutanganidwa mwanayo ali mchipinda.
Kunena mwasayansi, mwana wakhanda m'chipinda chodyera sayenera kuda nkhawa. Kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti ana ochepera zaka zitatu samakumbukira m'kupita kwanthawi, ndipo ana ambiri amakumbukira bwino zomwe zimachitika asanakwanitse zaka zisanu ndi ziwiri zakubadwa.
Mwanjira ina, inu ndi mnzanu mulibe chodandaula pankhani yokhudza kuwonetsa mwanayo mmoyo wanu wogonana.
Ndikofunika kuzindikira kuti kuchuluka kwa nthawi yogonana sikudalira zaka, koma amayi achichepere komanso achikulire sagwirizana ngati angachite ndi mwana pakumva.
Onse awiri atha kumatha kutopa, kutopa, komanso kutopa ndi mwana ndikusintha malinga ndi chizolowezi chake, koma kupanga maluso ndikofunikira, ndipo monga makolo atsopano, muyenera kupeza njira zatsopano zophatikizira zogonana mukabadwa tsiku lililonse kapena sabata iliyonse.
Kulera pambuyo pa mwana
Monga makolo atsopano, mwina simungakonzekere kukhala ndi mwana wina pakadali pano, ndichifukwa chake ndibwino kuti mulankhule ndi dokotala za zakulera zoyenera amayi atsopano.
Dokotala wanu akhoza kubweretsa izi pamene inu ndi mwana mudzabwere kukayendera milungu isanu ndi umodzi pazifukwa zingapo, zifukwa ziwiri zofunika kwambiri ndikuti ndibwino kuyambiranso kugonana patatha miyezi 1.5 mwana wanu atabadwa, ndi si njira zonse zolerera zomwe zili zoyenera kuyamwitsa amayi.
Mwinamwake mudamvapo kuti sizingatheke kuti mutenge mimba ngati mukuyamwitsa usana ndi usiku, musapatse mwana wanu chakudya china chilichonse, mwanayo sanakwanitse miyezi isanu ndi umodzi, ndipo nthawi yanu siinabwererenso.
Komabe, palibe chitsimikizo, ndipo ngati mukugonana, ndiye kuti mutha kutenga pakati.
Kutaya kwa libido atabadwa
Ngati funso ili likuvutitsa malingaliro anu ngati banja, tikumvetsetsa. Musadzimve wamlandu chifukwa chosagonana pafupipafupi momwe mumakhalira kale. Chofunikira apa ndikuti mukhale olumikizidwa. Ganizirani izi motere.
Ngakhale mutenga gawo la wolera kusamalira ana anu, yesetsani kusamalirana mwachikondi.
Pali kutayika kwakukulu kwa libido mutabadwa, koma kutengera moyo wanu, pamapeto pake, kuchuluka kwakugonana kwa okwatirana kumawonjezeka kuchokera kamodzi pa sabata kwa makolo atsopano mpaka 3-4 pa sabata pakadutsa zaka zochepa. Chifukwa chake, musadandaule.
Komanso, ngati mukuganiza kuti mungakhale bwanji ndi moyo wathanzi pambuyo poti ana omwe ali ndi ana akuthamanga ndikotheka, dziwani kuti ngati mutayika malingaliro anu ndi matupi anu.
Kusungabe moyo wogonana pambuyo pa ana kapena kuyambiranso moyo wogonana si ntchito yoti muchite. Tengani izi ngati kufunikira kopitilira kulumikizana ndi mnzanu.
Kanemayo pansipa akufotokoza zifukwa zotayika pa libido atabadwa komanso momwe zingasinthire:
Kodi mungagone liti mwana mutatha?
Kuchita zachiwerewere ukabadwa kungakhale kodabwitsa kwambiri. M'malo mwake, azimayi ambiri amati amamva kumva kutengeka, amakhala ndi ziwalo zabwinobwino ndipo amakhala omasuka ndi matupi awo kuposa kale.
Chifukwa chake, mutha kugona nthawi yayitali bwanji mutabadwa? Kukhala ndi mavuto ena m'banja mutakhala ndi mwana ndizofala (kanema wa 2013 wa Sex After Kids udalinso womwewo!), Koma ndichinthu chomwe nonse muyenera kudziwa ndikuchisamalira.
Ndipo zonsezi zimayamba ndi kulumikizana kwabwino komanso kukondana kwambiri kuphatikiza kugonana!
- Choyamba, yambani kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi a Kegel kuti musinthe minofu ya m'chiuno mwanu
- Lankhulani ndi mnzanu za kufunika kolumikizana
- Yesetsani kudzidetsa nkhawa nokha komanso kukondera kwanu pochita zinthu zomwe nonse mumakonda
- Gwiritsani ntchito nthawi yopumira ya mwana wanu kuti azichita zachiwerewere
- Gawani ntchito zapakhomo ndi zosamalira ana kuti muchepetse kusamvana
- Valani madiresi achiwerewere achiwerewere. Ndani akunena kuti uyenera kuvala thumba nthawi zonse?
Kusungitsa ukwati wanu mutakhala ndi ana ndizotheka. Zitha kutenga miyezi itatu kuti maanja achiritse gawoli koma osayamba kuda nkhawa zikapitilira miyezi ingapo. Kusintha moyo wakugonana mutakhala ndi mwana si ntchito ya tsiku limodzi.
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Kugonana mutabadwa: Mafunso omwe mungadzifunse
Moyo pambuyo paukwati uli ngati kubadwanso thupi. Ngati izi zikuchitika posachedwa, muyenera kukumbukira nthawi zosangalatsa zam'mbuyomu ndikuyesera kudzipumira.
Nayi mafunso angapo omwe muyenera kudzifunsa pazakugonana mutabadwa kapena nkhawa zakugonana mukamabereka kuti mubweretse mgwirizano muubwenzi:
Muyenera kudzifunsa ngati ndinu okonzeka kugonana, mwakuthupi komanso mwamalingaliro. Kunena zowona, pali kusintha kosiyanasiyana kwa mahomoni mukatha kubereka komwe kumatha kusintha zomwe mumakonda. Chifukwa chake, khalani oona mtima kwa inu nokha pankhani yololera komanso kuthekera kwanu kugonana.
Nthawi zina, mungamve kuti ndinu okonzeka kutumizira mwanayo koma yesani kuyeza momwe zinthu ziliri. Kodi ndi inu amene mukufuna, kapena ndi chifukwa chakuti mnzanu akufuna, ndipo mukuti inde chifukwa choopa kutaya chibwenzi ndi mnzanu?
Kukhazikika kwanu kumatenga masiku pafupifupi 10 kuti muchiritse, koma pankhani ya misozi yachitatu kapena yachinayi, itha kutenga mwezi kapena kupitilira apo.
Chifukwa chake, tengani kanthawi musanayambe kugonana. Komanso, yesani malo ocheperako ogonana omwe amalola kulowa pang'ono kuti muwone zomwe zikukuyenererani.
Mutha kutenga pakati ngakhale nthawi yanu isanakwane mutabereka. Chifukwa chake, yang'anani njira zolerera zomwe zingakutsatireni mukafunsira kwa adotolo.
Pali kusintha kwa mahomoni mutabadwa komwe kumatha kupangitsa kuti nyini yanu iume, ndikupweteketsa nthawi yogonana. Chifukwa chake, ngati mukukumana ndi vuto, mutha kufunafuna njira zothanirana ndi ululu, gwiritsani ntchito mafuta, kapena mukafunse dokotala.
Malangizo okuthandizani kukhalabe ndi moyo wogonana mukakhala ndi ana
Momwe mungagonane ndi mwana?
Mutha kusokonezeka ngati simukufuna kugonana, ndipo mnzanuyo atha kumva ngati wopereka umuna yemwe wakwaniritsa cholinga chake. Izi zonse ndizabwinobwino, ndipo mutha kuyamba kugwira ntchito yokonzanso ubale wanu musanagonane mutaberekanso.
Kuti tipeze zowawa zakulephera kusamalira ana ndi zokometsera zogonana pambuyo pobereka, tili ndi njira zina zokhalira pachibwenzi pambuyo pokhala ndi mwana. Tiyeni tiwonetse nthawi yogona m'chipinda chanu kukhala yosalala.
1) Konzani masiku ogonana
Inde. Konzani.
Mwinamwake mudamvapo kuti kukondana kumabwera ndi kutuluka, kuti munthu sangangokonzekera masiku azakugonana. Koma mukakhala ndi ana ena, ndibwino kukonzekera. Onetsetsani nthawi yomwe ana kulibe ndipo mulibe bizinesi ina yoti mumalize.
Konzani nthawi yomwe simudzakhala ndi udindo uliwonse wabanja. Kuti mukhale ndi moyo wabwino wogonana mutabereka mwana, musasunge chibwenzi chanu pansi pazomwe mukufuna.
2) Sungani cheke pamakomo
Ana samamvetsetsa zachinsinsi (ambiri aiwo samadziwa). Iwo sanazolowere kugogoda pazitseko asanalowe. Chifukwa chake ndibwino kutseka chitseko chogona. Pakhoza kukhala nthawi zina pamene ana anu akugona, ndipo palibe mwayi woti anyamuke. Komabe. Samalani. Simudziwa.
Tiyeni tingokhalabe otsekeka kuti titetezeke ku maulendo odabwitsa.
Komanso, izi ziwonetsetsa kuti muli ndi nthawi yobwereranso ku umunthu wanu. Simukufuna kukhala chete mutamva mapazi a ana omwe amalowa mchipinda. Awo adzakhala owopsa / owopsya pamaso pa ana anu.
3) Siyani zolemba zodabwitsa
Zolemba zodabwitsa kapena zikumbutso zabwino ndizofunikira kutero sungani moto monga kale ndikukhala ndi moyo wathanzi wogonana. Kumbukirani momwe m'masiku azibwenzi, mudatumiza mauthenga okongola okhala ndi zizindikiro zobisika za kuyandikana. Muyenera kutsitsimutsa izi.
Ikani cholembera patebulo la kompyuta yake kapena musunge pa thaulo. Nthawi zina, sungani mu chikwama kapena lembani uthenga wokongola wokhala ndi mawonekedwe owonekera, * wink *
Izi zibweretsa kumwetulira, kutenga nkhope zawo ndikuwalimbikitsa kuti amalize ntchitoyo mwachangu.
4) Aloleni anawo agone
Onetsetsani kuti ana anu amagona munthawi yake kapena nthawi zina asanagone.
Werengani nkhaniyi ndikuwapangitsa kuti agone m'chipinda chawo. Akatha kugona, mutha kuchitapo kanthu. Mutha kukhala ndi nthawi yanu ndi wokondedwa wanu osadandaula za ana. Ndipo, kugona msanga ndibwino kwa iwo, chabwino!
5) Konzekerani tsiku la mwana wanu
Mukufuna kupumula komanso kukhala nokha ndi mnzanu pomwe nonse mutha kukhala ndi ufulu wosangalala ndi kugonana, muli nokha kunyumba. Mungathe kuchita izi mwa kulemba ntchito munthu woyang'anira ana (wokhala ndi ndemanga zabwino komanso mbiri yachitetezo) kapena potumiza anawo kwa makolo anu kapena bwenzi labwino..
Izi zithandizanso kutuluka kwa ana anu. Onetsetsani kuti mukukonzekera izi ndipo sizimangochitika zokha. Kupanda kutero, zitha kubweretsa chisokonezo m'dongosolo la aliyense.
Konzekerani bwino ndikupangitsa ana anu kukhala osangalala nawonso. Ngati akumva chisoni, mwina samakhala bwino ndi anthu motero, nthawi zonse konzekerani ndi kuyankhula kaye, kenako pangani.
Mfundo yofunika
Kusungabe kugonana pambuyo pobadwa ndikofunikira chifukwa chibwenzi ndikofunikira kuti ubale uliwonse ugwire ntchito. Ndiye bwanji osatenga maupangiri ndikukhala akatswiri pa izo?
Chifukwa chake, musayike banja lanu kumbuyo chifukwa chobereka ana. Pitirizani kukhala ndi zibwenzi zapambuyo pobereka pambuyo poyesetsa. Tsatirani malangizo awa pa zogonana mutabadwa ndikuwona kusiyana kwake!