Zamkati
- 1. Kusamvana kwa mahomoni komanso kusinthasintha kwamaganizidwe
- 2. Amuna anu amadzimva kuti asiyidwa
- 3. Kuchepetsa moyo wogonana
- Kukulunga
Mimba imasintha chilichonse chokhudza inu; thupi lanu, momwe ubongo wanu umagwirira ntchito, yemwe inu muli monga munthu, ndi zomwe mukufuna kukhala. Zimabweretsanso zosintha zambiri padziko lapansi, nyumba yanu komanso koposa zonse, ubale wanu ndi ena ofunika. Ngakhale kutenga pakati akuti kumabweretsa banja limodzi ndikuwapangitsa kukhala olimba, nthawi zina amakumana ndi zovuta zomwe zimatha kusokoneza banja lawo.
Zakhala zikuwoneka kuti ngakhale maanja omwe anali ataponderezana amapenga wina ndi mnzake, adasokonekera ali ndi mwana kapena atangobadwa kumene. Pali zokhumudwitsa zambiri m'banja mukakhala ndi pakati; nthawi ina, simukanatha kukhala kutali ndi amuna anu koma enawo, mungakhale mukukhumba kuti kulibeko! Ndikofunika kudziwitsidwa bwino zamavuto onse am'banja mukakhala ndi pakati kuti mudziwe momwe mungapitirire popanda kuwononga chibwenzi chanu nthawiyo ikafika.
1. Kusamvana kwa mahomoni komanso kusinthasintha kwamaganizidwe
Kusintha kwa mahomoni kwa mayi woyembekezera kumamupangitsa kukhala wosintha kwambiri. Ndiwonyongoka komanso wokhumudwa ndipo nthawi zambiri amakhala wosowa kwambiri kuposa masiku onse. Zikuwoneka kuti azimayi amakhala ndi mantha owopsa osiyidwa panthawi yapakati. Amakhalanso odziyesa okha, osakonda momwe amawonekera atangoyamba kugundana. Nthawi imeneyi, amawona ngati wokondedwa wawo ataya nawo chidwi ndipo sadzawakondanso chimodzimodzi. Pazifukwa izi, azimayi amakonda kukhala okakamira ndipo amafuna kuti amuna awo aziwasamalira.
Nthawi yomweyo, kusinthasintha kwa zinthu kumayamba mwadzidzidzi, amakwiya popanda chifukwa. Amayamba kukangana ndi kumangokhalira kukangana pazinthu zazing'ono. Pakadali pano, amuna samadziwa choti achite. Kukhumudwa pamapeto pake kumachitika chifukwa cholephera kukonza zinthu ndikudzipereka. M'malo mochita ndi malingaliro, amasankha kuti azipewa kucheza. Izi sizimachita kanthu kalikonse koma kuwononga zinthu, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti pakhale kusiyana pakati pa awiriwa.
2. Amuna anu amadzimva kuti asiyidwa
Pakati pa mimba, amayi omwe ali ndi pakati amakhala akukumana ndi zovuta monga kutupa mapazi ndi akakolo, mimba yayitali, kuvuta kugona, kudzimbidwa, komanso kusapeza bwino. Komabe, kutenga mimba kumabwera ndi zinthu zingapo monga momwe akazi amasangalalira ndi kutchuka ndikutamandidwa. Ndi aliyense akuthokoza mkaziyo pamtolo wachimwemwe womwe ukubwerawo, nthawi zambiri amaiwala mwamunayo pafupi naye, akukweza zinthu zolemera ndikunyamula matumba onse, motero, kulephera kumulakalaka. Zotsatira zake, amayamba kupita patali ndipo amalephera kulumikizana ndi mwana yemwe akukula kapena ngakhale kwa mkazi wake wapakati. Atha kuyamba kupewa kupezeka pagulu pomwe chisangalalo chonse chokhala ndi pakati chimazungulira chachikazi, kumusiya pambali.
Ndikofunikira kuti azimayi agwirizanitse amuna awo ndi mwana wawo yemwe akukula ndikuwonetsetsa kuti amasamaliranso amuna awo munthawi yosangalatsayi. Kuphatikiza apo, banja limasanduka mgwirizano wokhala ndi pakati pa nthawi yomwe mayi ali ndi pakati pomwe azimayi akunena zinthu monga 'Ndimagwira ntchito yonseyi.' Azimayi ayenera kukumbukira kuti izi zitha kupweteketsa mwamunayo ndipo zimatha kumukwiyitsa, zomwe zimayambitsa ndewu komanso mikangano.
3. Kuchepetsa moyo wogonana
Ichi ndi chimodzi mwamavuto akulu okwatirana panthawi yapakati. Amayi amayesetsa kupewa kukhudzana ndikakhala ndi pakati. Amamva kutopa komanso kunyansidwa ndi iwo eni komanso mawonekedwe awo. Amapewa kuwonedwa ndi okondedwa awo omwe akuganiza kuti sadzawakondanso ndipo nthawi zambiri amawoneka akufuna kubweza thupi lawo lakale. Kulephera kudzidalira komanso kusowa chibwenzi kumabweretsa chisokonezo pakati pa amuna. Satha kupeza njira yopezera wokondedwa wawo kuti amve bwino za iwo eni ndikuwatsimikizira kuti amawakondabe. Pambuyo pake amasiya ndipo nthawi zina amayesetsa kupeza chidwi chofananira kuchokera kwina, mwachitsanzo, chibwenzi. Uku ndikubwerera m'mbuyo muukwati ndipo kumathera mu banja lomwe likupatukana.
Kuphatikiza apo, nthawi ikamapita ndikupita kukulira, zimangovutikira kuti awiriwo azikondana. Nthawi zina, ndi amuna omwe amapewa kugonana chifukwa choopa kukhumudwitsa mwana wosabadwa. Izi zitha kupangitsa mkazi kumva ngati kuti mwamuna wake akutaya chidwi.
Kukulunga
Zokwera ndi zotsika pachibwenzi nthawi yapakati ndizosapeweka; Komabe, pogwirizana ndi kugwirira ntchito limodzi, awiriwo angawalepheretse kupeza bwino ukwati wawo. Ayenera kuganizira zothandizana wina ndi mnzake ndikuthandizana kukhala makolo abwino a mwana wawo watsopano. Awiriwa ayenera kusangalala ndiulendo wawo watsopano m'moyo ndikusangalala ndi pakati malinga ngati zikadatha.