Zamkati
- Nthawi zonse zimakhudzana ndi maubale
- Kodi chikuchitika ndi chiyani mzimayi ngati samasamalira zosowa za mwana wake?
- Amakhala ndi ululu wamkati
- Timalimbikitsa nkhanza tikamangozichita
- Katundu wabanja ali ngati kupita ku eyapoti
- Timakopeka kuti tipeze anzathu omwe amaimira zoyipa za makolo athu
- Kusamvana kwa zosowa zosakwaniritsidwa ndi mantha zimawonekera kuyambira tili ana
- Pewani kukulitsa lilime la othamanga
- Pangani kulimba mtima komanso kulumikizana bwino kuti mupange malire
Ubale umawonongeka chifukwa cha zopweteka komanso zopweteka mobwerezabwereza.
Kuchokera ku zowawa zazikulu zakumenyedwa mpaka kufa ndimapepala zikwi chikwi kuchokera kumanenedwe amwano, malingaliro ndi malingaliro. Anthu omwe akufuna uphungu safunafuna chithandizo chifukwa miyoyo yawo ikuyenda bwino komanso kusangalala kunyumba ndi kuntchito.
Nthawi zonse zimakhudzana ndi maubale
Palibe amene amamangidwa chifukwa choti “nawonso” amakhala osangalala pokhapokha atangomaliza kumene- ndipo sindimawawona akuchita kwanga.
Freud ndi omwe amatsutsana naye pazinthu zomwe akunena ndizolondola.
Zonsezi zimadza chifukwa cha ubale wa kholo ndi mwana. Achibale ndi anzawo amaponyedwamo momwemonso.
Anthu ndi zolengedwa zam'maganizo ndipo timalakalaka kuti tizisamalidwa ndikusamalidwa pakukula kwathu pang'onopang'ono.
Timadalira omwe amatisamalira kuti atisamalire, atiteteze, ndi kutitonthoza kuphatikizapo kusamalira zosowa zathu zaumunthu- ganizirani za Maslelow Hierarchy of zosowa. Gawo loyamba ndizofunikira pa physiologic pazakudya, ludzu, kutopa, ndi ukhondo.
Dzifunseni nokha, "ndi malo otani kapena osamalira omwe sangathe kukwaniritsa zosowa izi?" Zachidziwikire, cholinga chachikulu ndikuti amayi azisamalira mwanayo kwa nthawi yayitali kwa abambo ndi abambo zimakhudza kwambiri amayi, chilengedwe, ndi mwanayo.
Kodi chikuchitika ndi chiyani mzimayi ngati samasamalira zosowa za mwana wake?
Kodi ali wokhumudwa pamibadwo yopanda mankhwala? Kodi ali ndi nkhawa chifukwa cha ubale wake ndi abambo ake? Kodi akuchitiridwa nkhanza komanso kupsinjika? Kodi ndi wopanikizika kwambiri kotero kuti sangasamalire zosowa za mwanayo? Nyumba? etc.
Kodi wayamba kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo kapena kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo kuti athetse ululu wazomwe adakumana nazo? Kodi bambo ali ndi udindo wotani m'maganizo ndi m'maganizo? Udindo wake ndi chiyani ngati zizolowezi zina zili gawo limodzi? Mafunso satha. Mayankho amafotokoza katundu wopita patsogolo. Gawo lachiwiri la zosowa ndizofunikira zachitetezo, monga kufunika kokhala otetezeka komanso kutha kupewa zopweteka komanso nkhawa.
Gawo lachitatu ndikukhala ndi zosowa zachikondi. Ambiri mwa makasitomala anga amafotokoza zaubwana wawo "mwachizolowezi" ndikulanga mwankhanza komanso mwachilango, monga malamba, zopalasa, "chilichonse chomwe chilipo."
Amakhala ndi ululu wamkati
Makolowo, okhala ndi machitidwe ovuta, osayankha, komanso osasintha makolo, amapweteka kuti aphunzitse ana awo kusiyanitsa choyipa ndikukhulupirira chilango cha "sukulu yakale". Ngakhale kuti ana ena sangavomereze zimenezi, ambiri satero.
Amakhala ndi ululu waukulu ndi "F- you!" nthawi yomweyo. Nthawi zambiri, makolo oterewa amakhala osagwirizana, amatumiza uthenga wosakanikirana wachikondi ndi chidani, kapena choyipa, kukanidwa kokha.
Kusudzulana pazifukwa zilizonse sizabwino kwenikweni ndipo kumadzetsa zopweteka, zopweteka, ndi mantha. Mantha ndi omwe amatilimbikitsa kwambiri.
Mkwiyo umakhala pakati pa anthu kudzera pamaganizidwe apamwamba komanso kuphunzira pagulu kudzera pakuwunika kuphatikiza ndi zochitika zenizeni. Akuphunzitsidwa kukhumudwitsa winawake kuti awaphunzitse kuti adachita china chake cholakwika. Akuphunzitsidwa kukhumudwitsa wina akamaphwanya zomwe mukuyembekezera. Timaphunzitsa anthu momwe angatichitire.
Timalimbikitsa nkhanza tikamangozichita
Timalimbikitsa kuchitiridwa nkhanza tikangotenga zopanda malire popanda kukhazikitsa malire ndi zotulukapo zoyenera. Timayitanitsa chiwawa tikamagwiritsa ntchito nkhanza chifukwa padzakhala ena omwe adaganiza kuti, "Sinditenganso izi" ndipo adasankha kudziteteza mwaukali.
Chifukwa chake, zikhulupiriro zathu ndi malingaliro azidziwitso amapangidwa kudzera muzochitikazi komanso kulumikizana.
Zowawa zathu ndi zopweteketsa ndi zoyambitsa zimakhazikitsidwa kale tisanakhale pachibwenzi.
Ndipo zokumana nazo zopweteka kwambiri zaubwana za anthu ambiri, zimakulitsanso mabala ndi zowawa. Ndipo kufunitsitsa kwawo kukhala ndiubwenzi wapamtima kumathetsa mavuto awo. Palibe kasitomala m'modzi yemwe adazindikira ulusi wamphamvu zamabanja awo pakulephera kwaubwenzi mpaka atakakamizidwa kuchipatala mwanjira ina.
Monga wondiphunzitsa, Dr. Walsh adati sabata yoyamba yophunzirira maphunziro anga kusukulu, "Palibe amene amabwera kuchipatala mwaufulu. Amalamulidwa kukhothi kapena okwatirana. ” M'machitidwe anga okhazikika pamaubwenzi omwe ali pamavuto (modzifunira & khothi), osachepera 5% mwa makasitomala anga akhala akudzipereka.
Ndipo zovuta zawo ndi zovuta sizosiyana konse ndi zomwe zikuyesedwa chifukwa cha mikangano yawo yodutsa malire kuti akwaniritse zamalamulo.
Katundu wabanja ali ngati kupita ku eyapoti
Otsatsa amaphunzira kuchipatala kuti katundu wawo wabanja ali ngati kupita ku eyapoti. Simungokhala pansi katundu wanu ndikuchokapo. Imakulungidwa m'miyendo yanu ndi zingwe zachitsulo ndipo imamangiriridwa ndi anzathu - nthawi zina ngati mphamvu yamafuta a Velcro - yopindika kwathunthu komanso yodalira ena.
Makamaka aliyense amene ali ndi nyumba yowawa amatembenukira kuubwenzi wapamtima kuti akwaniritse zosowa zawo zachikondi, kuvomerezedwa, kufunika ndi kusamalidwa. Ndipo kawirikawiri, sinthani mowa ndi mankhwala osokoneza bongo kuti muchepetse ululu ndikusangalala m'malo omwe asintha.
Dr.Harville Hendricks, wothandizira kwa nthawi yayitali komanso wolemba mabuku, Get the Love You Want, akukambirana za IMAGO, kutanthauza galasi. Imago yathu ndiyo mawonekedwe amkati mwa otisamalira omwe ali ndi mikhalidwe yabwino komanso yoyipa.
Timakopeka kuti tipeze anzathu omwe amaimira zoyipa za makolo athu
Lingaliro lake, lomwe limakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi makasitomala anga, ndikuti timakopeka kuti tipeze anzathu omwe amaimira zoyipa ndi machitidwe a makolo athu. Moyo wanga womwe wanenetsa momveka bwino kusazindikira kwakusankha kwaomwe timakwatirana nawo komanso zokopa.
Mwamwayi, pamlingo wofatsa komanso wololera womwe umaloleza kufufuzira kwa nkhanizi ndikufunika kwakukula ndi kusintha.
Malinga ndi chiphunzitsochi, ngati timadzimva kuti ndife osafunika komanso osafunikira muubwana (mwachitsanzo, matenda apakati apakati, kholo lomwe chidakwa kapena pambuyo pa chisudzulo), tidzapeza wina yemwe amatipangitsa kumva chimodzimodzi m'moyo. Mwina mnzakeyo ndi wokonda ntchito kapena amayenda kwambiri kukagwira ntchito.
Izi zitha kumverera chimodzimodzi (mwachitsanzo, wosungulumwa, wosiyidwa, wosafunikira) monga wokwatiwa ndi chidakwa, munthu amene amakhala nthawi yake yonse akusaka, kuwedza nsomba, kuchita gofu kapena kupindika pagalimoto yake ndikukusiyani kunyumba.
Ngati tinalemedwa ndi maudindo (mwachitsanzo, kuleredwa ndi makolo) pazifukwa zomwezo, ndiye kuti udindo ndiudindo zidzamvanso chimodzimodzi, ngakhale tikufuna kukhala kunyumba monga kholo mwakufuna kwathu. M'kupita kwanthawi, zokumana nazozo zingakulemetseni chifukwa chosamva kuti mukuthandizidwa komanso kuti simukuyenera kuchita ntchito zina zapakhomo.
Kusamvana kwa zosowa zosakwaniritsidwa ndi mantha zimawonekera kuyambira tili ana
Ngati ali ndi mfundo zachikhalidwe, atha kukhulupirira kuti akukwaniritsa udindo wake wopezera nyama yankhumba ndikuti ntchito zapakhomo ndi "akazi". Chifukwa chake, kusamvana kwa zosowa zosakwaniritsidwa ndi mantha & malingaliro zikuwonekera kuyambira pansi pa ubwana wathu. Timakhala okhudzidwa kwambiri ndi zomwe takumana nazo m'mbuyomu ndipo sitifuna kumva izi tikakula.
Makiyi osinthira ndikuzindikira zomwe zimayambitsa komanso zosafunikira. Dziwani momwe mungawalankhulire bwino pogwiritsa ntchito mtundu wa "Ndikumva", ndipo phunzirani kuzindikira zomwe mumachita, monga kungokhala chete "chifukwa palibe amene amasamala za ine kapena malingaliro anga."
Kapena kufuula "onetsetsani" kuti mumveke - sizigwira ntchito.
Anthu ambiri omwe ubale wawo umawonongeka ndikulephera sanaphunzirepo maluso oyankhulirana poyambira.
Amagwidwa akumenyana, osafotokoza kapena kupempha thandizo. Kuopa kwathu pachiwopsezo kumatipangitsa kuti tizilumikizana mosalunjika, ayi, kapena ndi poizoni chifukwa choopa kuwonekera.
Zimakhala zovuta kukhulupirira ena pomwe m'mbuyomu anali osadalirika. Komabe, tiyenera kudalira zokwanira kuti tipeze ngati mungandipweteke kapena ayi. Pang'onopang'ono. Maubwenzi apamtima safuna kukhumudwitsana komanso kuyambitsa zopweteka.
Ganizirani zomwe zimatanthauza kuyambitsa mwadala zopweteka ndi zowawa zanu. Phunzirani kumenyera chilungamo.
Pewani kukulitsa lilime la othamanga
Pewani kulowetsa phazi lanu pakamwa panu ndikupanga "lilime la othamanga". Sitingathe kubweza mawu opweteka, ndipo amamatira nthiti. Ndi chifukwa chake nkhanza zam'mutu, zam'malingaliro, komanso mawu zimapweteketsa koposa thupi. Ziphuphu ndi mabala zimachiritsa, mawu akumveka m'makutu.
Pangani kulimba mtima komanso kulumikizana bwino kuti mupange malire
Zotsatira zosayenera ndi zotulukapo zake ndizizindikiro zakumverera kwakukulu komanso kusakhazikika komwe amaphunzira muubwana ndikuphulika kapena kukhazikitsa maubwenzi akuluakulu.
Ubale ndi kusinthana kwa mphamvu zam'maganizo. Mumatulukamo zomwe mumayika.
Chikondi sichilingana ndi Chaos + Drama! Lankhulani modekha komanso momveka bwino. Ndi njira yokhayo yomwe anthu angasamalire. Mverani ndi cholinga kuti muphunzire, osateteza kapena kugawanika.
Tsatirani Makhalidwe Abwino a STAHRS 7. BERRITT (Khalani "Olondola"): Kusamala, Kufanana, Kulemekeza, Udindo, Umphumphu, Kugwirira Ntchito Limodzi, Kudalirana.
Ndipo mudzakhala patsogolo pamasewera.
Chaka chabwino chatsopano. Itha kukhala nthawi yowunikanso ubale wanu. Mutha kukhala ndi mwayi komanso gawo la makumi awiri ndi asanu osangalala. Zabwino zonse ndi moyo wanu komanso maubale. Tilibe malo kapena nthawi yocheza. Maubale abwino okha ndi omwe amapangitsa miyoyo yathu kukhala yabwinoko.