Zamkati
- 1. Ndi wathanzi nonsenu
- 2. Kusapezeka kumapangitsa mtima kukula
- 3. Mumapeza nthawi yobwereza m'mbuyo
- 4. Mutha kuzindikira kuti ndinu ndani
Lingaliro laubwenzi limasangalatsidwa mchikhalidwe chodziwika kwambiri kotero kuti osakwatira ayamba kukayikira kukhalapo kwawo.
Mosakayikira, ubale ndi munthu woyenera nthawi zonse umakupangitsani kuti mumve pamtambo naini.
Ngakhale zili choncho, pazifukwa ziti, mawu oti 'kupuma pachibwenzi' amatanthauziridwa molakwika ndi ambiri ngati njira yokometsera kakombo yothetsera chibwenzi.
Kwa osadziwika, kodi kupuma kumatanthauza chiyani muubwenzi?
Koma nthawi zambiri, muubwenzi wokhala ndi mikangano, Kupumula paubwenzi kumakhala kofunikira kwa maanja kuwathandiza kukhala ndi mpata wosinthira malingaliro awo ndi momwe akumvera, komanso kulingalira za tsogolo lawo.
Onaninso:
Koma, ngati nthawi yopuma iganiziridwa mozama, ipanga zipatso pamapeto pa nthawi yomwe yasankhidwa. Pali magawo osiyanasiyana a kusweka kwa ubale ndipo ngati achitika bwino, zingayambitse kudzipeza ndikukula.
Lekani kuwona 'kupuma' kuchokera kwa wokondedwa wanu ngati tchimo lowopsa koma, lingalirani ngati dalitso lalikulu.
Chifukwa chake, kodi kupumula kuchokera pachibwenzi kumathandiza? Ngakhale kupuma pachibwenzi sikungakhale chinthu chabwino nthawi zonse, kwa ena, kumatha kuthandiza kubwezera ubale womwe udasokonekera.
Pakakhala ubale woopsa mosasunthika, kupumula kumagwira ntchito ngati poyambitsa pang'ono mpaka nthawi yayitali.
Komabe, chifukwa chake kupuma pachibwenzi kuti mukonze mavuto anu ndi lingaliro labwino ngati nonse muli ofunitsitsa kugwira ntchito molimbika kuti mupulumutse ubalewo.
1. Ndi wathanzi nonsenu
Nthawi ina, maubale amakhala oyipa komanso osokonekera.
Maanja ayamba kuunjikirana wina ndi mnzake osaganizirananso. Malingaliro chabe, ndewu zosatha, kukayika kokhazikika kumangokhala paubwenzi wanu.
Pamavuto oterewa pachibwenzi, kodi ma break amathandizira maubwenzi?
M'malo mothetsa chibwenzicho chifukwa cholemetsa chomwe chingasokoneze thanzi lanu, ndibwino kusankha kupuma pachibwenzi.
Aliyense amafunika kukhala yekha nthawi imodzi. Chifukwa chake, nthawi yopuma imakupatsani mpata wodziwonetsera nokha ndipo ikuthandizani kuti mukhale odziwa zambiri.
Kudzipatula pakati panu kumakupatsani mwayi woganiza bwino popanda chilichonse chosokoneza malingaliro anu.
Nthawi zonse muzikumbukira kuti muubwenzi thanzi lanu lamaganizidwe liyenera kukhala pamtendere poyamba kenako enawo, nyengo. Kupuma kaye pachibwenzi kuti mudzipeze nokha ndi kudziteteza. Izi zikuyankhanso funso loti, "kodi zopumira m'banja ndizabwino?"
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2. Kusapezeka kumapangitsa mtima kukula
Kusiyanitsa njira ndikupita kukasaka chinthu china chofunikira sizomwe zimakhala zopumira pachibwenzi.
M'malo mwake, ndi za kuphatikiza malingaliro anu, ndikupangitsanso malingaliro anu okondedwa wanu, popuma pabanja kapena pachibwenzi.
Chifukwa chake, kodi maubale maubale amagwira ntchito?
Kukhala motalikirana wina ndi mnzake kwakanthawi kumapangitsa mtima wanu kukonda wokondedwa wanu.
Posakhalitsa, nonse awiri mudzazindikira kuti simungakhale popanda wina ndi mnzake chifukwa azitenga nthawi yayitali bwanji osasinthana nkhani pakapu ya tiyi kumapeto kwa tsiku, akusewera ndi tsitsi lake, akusewera ndi nthabwala kapena kuphika chakudya cham'mawa pamodzi Lamlungu Lamlungu.
Sungani mphindi ndikuganiza za anthu achikulire akunena kuti 'Munthu samazindikira kufunika kwa chinthu / wina pokhapokha atachokapo.
3. Mumapeza nthawi yobwereza m'mbuyo
Nthawi yopuma imapatsa maanja malo okwanira kuti athetse mkwiyo komanso kusokonezeka. Chifukwa chake, yankho la funsoli ndikupuma bwino muubwenzi, lagona.
Kukulitsa kukwiya ndikulola kusamvana kumayambika pamene muli pachibwenzi sikungapindulitse aliyense wa awiriwa.
Akakhala kutali wina ndi mnzake, maanja athe kumayang'ana pa zinthu zomwe zalakwika m'malo mongothamangira kumapeto.
Izi zikupempha funso, momwe mungapangire ubale wolimba pambuyo pa kutha?
Kulankhula ndichinsinsi chothanirana zopinga.
Chifukwa chake, mtunda, danga ndi nthawi, popumula muubwenzi, zithandizira kukondana ndi kukoma mtima maphwando onsewo, zomwe zimawalola kuti azilankhula zonse modekha komanso modekha.
Kukhala omvera abwino, kumvetsetsa bwino zina zofunika ndikupanga zokambirana zolimbikitsa kudzakhalanso gawo laubwenzi, chifukwa chachikondi, chomwe chatsitsimutsidwa.
4. Mutha kuzindikira kuti ndinu ndani
Pomwe mbali ziwirizi zidasiya kulumikizana; pali kuyimilira kwakanthawi pogawana wina ndi mnzake pamakalata, kuyimbirana wina ndi mnzake chilichonse chikachitika kapena kuyembekezera chakudya chamakandulo.
Ndiye muyenera kuchita chiyani panthawi yopuma? Dziwani kuti ndinu ndani, osasiyana ndi omwe muli nawo pachibwenzi. Tsatirani zokonda zanu, fufuzani zosangalatsa zatsopano ndikuyendera anzanu ndi abale.
Kuphatikiza pa izi, yesetsani kupatula nthawi kuti mulimbitse ubalewo pozindikira ngati mavuto anu abwenzi angathere.
Chofunika koposa, pangani maubwenzi angapo kuti aswe malamulo ndi kuwatsatira.
Kupuma kaye muukwati pamene akukhala limodzi kapena kukhala paubwenzi wapamtima kwa nthawi yayitali kumafuna kuti anthu awiri agwirizane ndi malamulo omwe angagwirizane momwe angapumulire paubwenzi.
Kaya ndi kulumikizana panthawi yopuma, kugonana, kapena ndalama kutsatira malangizo omwe angakambilane mokha atha kuphunzitsa maanja kuyesa kukhala limodzi powapatsa mwayi wosankha njira ina.
Mukupumula muubwenzi, nthawi yoyenera ndi mtunda zidzakupangitsani kuzindikira zomwe mukufuna.
- Kodi kukhala paubwenzi ndi thanzi lanu labwino kuli ndi thanzi kwa inu?
- Kodi ndi munthu amene mukufuna kukhala naye moyo wanu wonse?
- Kodi mukuyika malo okwera kwambiri kwa wokondedwa wanu?
- Kodi ubalewo ukukupangitsani kukhala opanikizika m'malo mozizunza?
Zipani ziwirizi zidzagwirizana ndipo zidzafufuza zamkati mwawo panthawi yopuma.
Pumulani kuti musasewere ndikuyembekezera kugona ndi anthu ena koma m'malo mwake, dzifufuzeni bwino.