Zamkati
- 1. Dziwani zizindikilo zofala zamatenda amisala
- 2. Khalani omasukirana ndi oona mtima
- 3. Osadukiza kukambirana.
- 4. Bwerani okonzeka ndi mafunso
- 5. Atsimikizireni kuti mumawakonda ndipo mumasamala za iwo
- 6. Lankhulani ndi katswiri wazachipatala kuti mupeze chithandizo
- 7. Dziwani kuti zimatenga nthawi kuti mukhale bwino
- 8. Pitirizani kukambirana
Chimodzi mwazinthu zomwe zimapangitsa kuti zovuta zaumoyo zikhale zovuta ndikuti nthawi zambiri zimawoneka.
Pamene inu kapena wokondedwa wanu muli ndi matenda amisala, sipangakhale zizindikilo zowoneka. M'malo mwake, zizindikirazo ndizamkati komanso zobisika pansi.
Pachifukwa ichi, nthawi zambiri zimakhala zovuta kuti abwenzi kapena abale amvetsetse mtundu wa matendawa kapena chifukwa chake atha kufooketsa.
Zotsatira zake, sizingakhale zovuta kapena kukhala omasuka kukambirana zaumoyo wamaganizidwe, ngakhale ndi mnzanu. Komabe, simuli nokha.
Matenda amisala ndiofala kuposa momwe anthu ambiri angaganizire. Malinga ndi National Institute of Mental Health, m'modzi mwa achikulire asanu aku US amadwala matenda amisala mchaka chapadera, zomwe zimakhala zofala kwambiri, ndikutsatiridwa ndi kukhumudwa.
Kaya mukukhala ndi mnzanu yemwe ali ndi matenda amisala, kapena inu nokha mukuvutika, ndikofunikira kukambirana zaumoyo. Mwina zingawoneke ngati zovuta poyamba, kufotokoza komanso kumvetsetsa.
Ndiye, momwe mungathandizire munthu wodwala matenda amisala? Momwe mungalankhulire zamatenda amisala kapena thanzi lam'mutu?
Nawa maupangiri angapo okuthandizani kuti muyambe kukambirana zamaganizidwe ndi mnzanu.
1. Dziwani zizindikilo zofala zamatenda amisala
Poyamba, mnzanuyo sangakuuzeni mwachindunji za matenda awo amisala. Nthawi zina, sangadziwe kuti thanzi lawo likuvutika.
Mukayamba kuwona kusintha kwamakhalidwe awo ndikuganiza kuti mwina akulimbana ndi matenda amisala, yesetsani kuzindikira zizindikiro zotsatirazi:
- Kusintha kwakanthawi
- Kulira pafupipafupi
- Kuda nkhawa mopitirira muyeso komanso zosatheka popanda kufotokozera pang'ono kapena kopanda tanthauzo
- Kulephera kukhazikitsa kapena kumaliza ntchito kuntchito kapena kusukulu
- Kulimbikira kusowa mphamvu
- Kulephera kusangalala ndi zinthu m'moyo
- Kusintha kosadziwika kwamachitidwe ogona kapena kutopa
Ngakhale zizindikilo za matenda amisala zimasiyana, izi ndi zizindikilo zofala za nkhawa, kukhumudwa, ndi matenda ena amisala.
Ngati wokondedwa wanu akuwonetsa zizindikiro zingapo m'masiku angapo kapena milungu, itha kukhala nthawi yoti mukambirane nkhaniyi ndikukambirana zaumoyo wawo.
2. Khalani omasukirana ndi oona mtima
Kaya mukukamba za thanzi lanu kapena la mnzanu, kuwona mtima ndikofunikira.
Kungakhale kosasangalatsa komanso kovuta kutsegula, koma kubisalira wokondedwa wanu kumabweretsa mavuto m'kupita kwanthawi.
Muyenera kulola wina ndi mnzake kuyankhula momasuka ndikukhala osaweruzana.
Mukamalankhulana momasuka, mudzatha kumvetsetsa bwino. Kukhala ndi kumvetsetsa bwino, kumathandizanso nonse kuthana ndi matenda amisala ndikuchepetsa mavuto pachibwenzi chanu.
3. Osadukiza kukambirana.
Muzilemekezana ndipo muzimupatsa nthawi yokwanira yoti akambirane. Uku ndikulankhulana kopindulitsa, kovuta.
Chimodzi mwazinthu zoyambirira zomwe muyenera kuchita mukamayankhula zaumoyo wamaganizidwe ndi, khalani ndi nthawi yokwanira yokambirana mokwanira.
Nonse mufunika nthawi kuti mumvetsetse momwe akumvera komanso kuti mufotokozere momwe thanzi lanu limakhudzira banja lanu.
Ngakhale pali zopumira kapena mphindi zakukhala chete pokambirana, musawone kufunika koti mukhale chete. Muzipatsana nthawi yoti musinkhesinkhe malingaliro.
Ngati mnzanu akuvutika ndi thanzi lam'mutu, mutha kukakamizidwa kukanikiza mfundoyo, kupeza mayankho, kapena "kukonza" momwemo nthawi yomweyo.
Komabe, zimatenga nthawi kuti mukhale bwino, ndipo kukankhira zokambirana kungakhale kopanda phindu. M'malo mwake, mverani mnzanu, khalani oleza mtima, ndipo apatseni nthawi yomwe akufunikira.
4. Bwerani okonzeka ndi mafunso
Zitha kuthandizira kulowa muzokambirana kukonzekera ndi mafunso. Kufunsa mafunso kungakuthandizeni kumvetsetsa bwino momwe mnzanu akumvera.
Kuphatikiza apo, Mafunso angakuwonetseni kuti mumawaganizira kwambiri ndikukhudzidwa ndi thanzi lawo lamaganizidwe. Ngati mnzanu akuvutika kulankhulana, mafunso amathanso kuthandizira kutsogolera zokambirana.
Zitsanzo za mafunso omwe mungafunse ndi awa:
- Kodi mungafotokoze momwe mukumvera?
- Kodi mwakhala mukumva izi mpaka liti?
- Kodi china chake chinachitika musanayambe kumva motere?
- Ndingakuthandizeni bwanji?
Mupatseni nthawi yokwanira yoganizira mnzanuyo. Momwemonso, ngati mnzanu akukufunsani mafunso, kumbukirani kuti simuyenera kuyankha funso lililonse.
Nthawi zina mwina simudziwa momwe mungayankhire, kapena mwina simungakhale ndi yankho.
5. Atsimikizireni kuti mumawakonda ndipo mumasamala za iwo
Mukakhala ndi matenda amisala, zimatha kukhala zosavuta kumva kuti ndinu cholemetsa kwa ena m'moyo wanu, makamaka mnzanu.
Ngati mnzanu ayamba kukambirana zaumoyo wawo, chimodzi mwazinthu zoyambirira zomwe mungachite ndikuwatsimikizira kuti mumawakonda ndipo mulipo athandizireni.
Kumutsimikizira komanso kumuthandiza kumathandizira kwambiri mnzanuyo kuti akhale omasuka kulumikizana momasuka komanso moona mtima mtsogolo.
Kuphatikiza apo, kuwonetsa chikondi chanu ndi kuwathandiza kumatha kuwathandiza kuthana ndi nkhawa zomwe anali nazo poyamba kapena kusafuna kupeza chithandizo chamankhwala.
6. Lankhulani ndi katswiri wazachipatala kuti mupeze chithandizo
Kusamalira thanzi lanu lamaganizidwe kumatha kukhala kovuta, koma kumakhala kovuta kwambiri mukamakhala ndi matenda amisala. Mwamwayi, inu ndi mnzanu simuli nokha.
Pali njira zingapo zamankhwala zomwe mungapeze, kuphatikiza mankhwala, mankhwala, kapena kuphatikiza zonse ziwiri.
Kufunafuna thandizo kumawoneka ngati ntchito yovuta, koma kupeza chithandizo kwa inu kapena mnzanu ndiye gawo loyamba kuti mukhale bwino. Khalani ndi nthawi yokambirana limodzi za chithandizo komanso momwe mungathandizire mnzanu nthawi yonseyi.
Kungakhale kothandiza kupita kuchipatala ndi wokondedwa wanu, makamaka ngati matenda amisala akusokoneza ubale wanu. Nthawi zina, zimakhala zofunikira kufunafuna maanja kapena chithandizo chokwatirana.
Onerani kanemayu kuti mumvetsetse kufunikira kokambirana zaumoyo.
7. Dziwani kuti zimatenga nthawi kuti mukhale bwino
Kulankhula zaumoyo wamaganizidwe sikophweka monga zikuwonekera. Matenda amisala angayambitse zifukwa zingapo, ndipo zingakutengereni nthawi kuti mudziwe chifukwa chake.
Nthawi zina zimakhala zochitika, monga kusintha kwakukulu kwa moyo kapena kutayika kwa wokondedwa. Nthawi zina, pamakhala mbiri yabanja yamadwala amisala, ndipo chomwe chimayambitsa chimakhala chibadwa.
Mosasamala chifukwa chake, zimatenga nthawi kuti uchite bwino. Ngati inu kapena mnzanu mukufuna chithandizo, zimatenga nthawi kuti mupeze mankhwala oyenera.
Ngakhale zingakhale zosavuta kukhumudwa, muyenera kukhala oleza mtima komanso othandizira.
Kupeza chithandizo choyenera nthawi zambiri kumatenga nthawi limodzi ndi kuyeserera pang'ono. Ndikofunika kuti musayese kuthamangitsa njira yochira.
Ngati mnzanu akuchiritsidwa popanda chithandizo choyambirira, sizitanthauza kuti mukulephera m'njira iliyonse. Pitilizani kuwathandiza ndikuwayang'anira pafupipafupi.
8. Pitirizani kukambirana
Kuyankhulana kwanu koyamba ndi mnzanu ndikofunikira kuti mukhale ndi chidaliro komanso kuthandizana, koma zokambiranazo zikuyenera kupitilira ngati njira yothandizira.
Osasiya kuyankhula zamaganizidwe ndi mnzanu. Nthawi zonse muzifunsa mnzanuyo zaumoyo wawo ndi chithandizo chake.
Ngakhale ndikofunikira kuwapatsa malo omwe angafunikire, kudziphatikizira nokha pazithandizo zawo kumathandizira kuwonetsa thandizo lanu.
Ndikofunikanso kudziwa kuti mnzanuyo akhoza kubwera kwa inu nomwe kudzakambirana zaumoyo.
Chitani zonse zomwe mungathe kuti mukhale omasuka ku izi ndikupeza. Zitha kuthandizanso kukonzekera nthawi yoti mudzalankhule mtsogolo.