Zamkati
Ndimakhala ndi funso ili nthawi zonse - ndamukhululukira mobwerezabwereza, komanso pazinthu zomwezo, ndipo sindingathe kuzitenganso. Ndi nthawi yanji kuti ayitaye ndikungopereka chisudzulo kapena nthawi yotcha kuti yatha muukwati wanu?
Yankho lalifupi silikhala konse. Sizingakhale bwino kuzitcha kuti zasiya mnzanuyo kapena zofunikira zina kuposa momwe zimakhalira kuti kuyitanitsa mwana kapena mwana.
Ndiye ngati mukulimbana ndi lingaliro loti muthe chibwenzi? nthawi yoti tisiyane ndi nthawi yanji? kapena nthawi yabwino kuyitchula kuti yatha mu chibwenzi? Tiyeni tikuthandizeni kukonza malingaliro oterewa ndi momwe mungathanirane ndi zizindikiro zosalemekeza m'banja.
Sibwino kutaya mtima ndi mnzanu
Ana athu akasokoneza, kodi timangowapatsa mwayi umodzi woti azichita zinthu mosalakwitsanso kapena tidzawapereka kuti atengeredwe? Ayi, sichoncho! Kodi timangopatsa ana athu aubweya kamodzi kuti tisakumbe mabowo kumbuyo kwathu tisanawataye?
Ayi, sichoncho! Nanga ndichifukwa chiyani, monga gulu, timaganiza kuti ndibwino kusiya munthu amene tamusankha, komanso kwa ena, omwe Mulungu wamusankha kuti atipange naye mgwirizano, osatinso kumenyetsa eyelosi?
Kodi ndi nthawi yokhutira yomwe tikukhalamkukulitsa lingaliro lakuti ngati sindimakonda china chake m'moyo wanga, zomwe ndikuyenera kuchita ndikungochotsa ndikupeza chatsopano?
Kapena kodi ndi chifukwa cha mapulogalamu ena mwa ife omwe amatiuza kuti munthuyu wawonongeka ndipo ndikakhala nawo, ndiye kuti ndawonongeka, inenso? Kapena mwina ndichikhulupiriro kuti sasintha ndipo chifukwa chake tiyenera kuchoka kuti tidzipulumutse tokha kapena ana athu?
Chowonadi cha nkhaniyi timakonda kuwona ena, makamaka omwe ali pafupi nafe, mikhalidwe ndi mikhalidwe yomwe sitimakonda mwa ife tokha.
Sikuti ndikunena kuti wokwatirana naye kapena mnzake wabodza nayenso amabera mayeso, koma zomwe zimachitika ndikuti amene akumunamizirayo akufuna kusiya chibwenzi chifukwa amamuwona mnzakeyo atawonongeka ndikuganiza kuti sangakhale mtundu wa munthu amene amafunitsitsadi kukhala naye, chifukwa chake ayenera kuchoka.
Akuwona mwa wokondedwa wawo zomwe amawona mwa iwo eni, amangosankha kubisa kapena kunyalanyaza kapena kukana ndikuimba mlandu wokondedwa wawo.
Chifukwa chake ngati mukumva ngati zili choncho Nthawi yoyitanira kuti ikutha muukwati ndiye dziyang'anitseni nokha ndikuwona chomwe chimakupangitsani kukayikira kulimba kwa banja lanu.
Kumvetsetsa vuto lenileni
"Ndinali ndi chibwenzi, ndipo tsopano akufuna kutha." Akuganiza kuti chibwenzicho ndichizindikiro cha nthawi yomwe tingachitchule kuti chitha muukwati wanu pomwe sichoncho.
Ndagwira ntchito ndi maanja ambiri omwe akukumana ndi kusakhulupirika komanso mabodza onse ndi chinyengo zomwe zimadza ndi izi, ndipo nditha kunena mosapita m'mbali kuti pamene vuto likuyankhidwa, kusakhulupirika kumasiya, kunama kumasiya; chilakolako chimabwerera ndipo pambuyo pa ntchito, kudaliranako kwabweranso.
Kodi mudaswapo fupa? Sayansi ya zamankhwala imatiwonetsa kuti njira yochiritsira kuphwanya fupa limenelo imapangitsa kuti nthawi yopuma ilimbe kwambiri! Zilinso chimodzimodzi ndi ubale wapamtima. Kodi ndizosavuta? Ayi. Koma kodi kuli koyenera? PAMODZI!
Chimodzi mwazinthu zoyambirira zomwe timagwirira ntchito banjali likandibwera ndi nkhani zakukhulupilirana ndikuzindikira komwe mzu wa nkhaniyi unachokera - adapanga chisankho chanji m'mbuyomu, ndipo tingasinthe bwanji chisankhochi kukhala chabwino kuwatumikira?
Tikamaliza maphunziro omwe agwiritsidwa ntchito kuthana ndi vutoli, banjali liyamba kubwerera ku maudindo omwe ali pachibwenzi ndipo amangokhalira kukwaniritsa zosowa za wina ndi mnzake munjira zabwino ndi zachimwemwe mmalo mochita zopweteka ndi zowononga.
Musanathamange kuti mudziwe momwe mungadziwire nthawi yosiya chibwenzi kapena nthawi yomwe munganene kuti ikutha muukwati, muyenera kupeza chomwe chimayambitsa vutoli, ndiyeno pezani momwe mungathanirane ndi vutoli.
Kusintha machitidwe osafunikira limodzi
Monga momwe makolo amagwirira ntchito ndi ana kusintha machitidwe osafunikira, ifenso monga othandizana nawo tiyenera kuthandizana kuti tisinthe machitidwe osafunikira pomanga zina mwazomwe amafuna. Ngati wokwatirana akubera, nthawi zambiri zimakhala chifukwa samadzimva kuti ndiwofunika kwa mnzake.
Izi zitha kukhala pazifukwa zambiri monga apongozi ndi mayanjano apabanja, ana aang'ono, ntchito, abwenzi, china chosachita chidwi kapena chochita zosangalatsa, kapena zifukwa zina zambiri.
Mukayamba kukhala zenizeni ndi inu nokha ndikuzindikira kuti muzu wavuto uli mwa inu, mumakhala okonzeka kudziwa komanso mphamvu zotembenuza zinthu ndikubwerera kumalo abwinoko kuposa kale (kumbukirani fupa losweka).
Kuimba mlandu wina chifukwa cha vuto lanu, ngakhale mutakhala mnzanu wapamtima, kuli ngati kumwa poizoni ndikuyembekezera kuti winayo afe.
Sichimakupatsani mphamvu ndipo mutha kungodzetsa chisokonezo, kukambirana, komanso kudumphadumpha chifukwa mukupatsa wina mphamvu yakudziwitsa chisangalalo chanu, ndipo sizingagwire ntchito.
Muyenera kukhala ndi gawo lanu muubwenzi, m'mavuto, ndikukonzanso, ndipo pamene wokondedwa aliyense achita izi, ndiye kuti kuchira koona kumayamba!
Ngati m'modzi kapena onse awiri akana kutenga nawo mbali pazochitikazo, atha kusudzulana, koma sangakhale pachibwenzi chosangalala, chodzipereka chifukwa sanachitepo kanthu zenizeni ... Iwowo!
Abwereza machitidwe omwewo, kukopa nkhani zomwezo, ndikukhala momwemonso, ndi anzawo osiyana. Kumbukirani kuti kudziwa momwe mungasinthire chibwenzi ndikofunikira kuposa kudziwa nthawi yoti muchoke kapena nthawi yoyitanira kuti ikutha paukwati.
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