Zamkati
- Chithandizo mwakachetechete motsutsana ndi machesi ofuula
- 1. Onetsetsani kuti akudziwanso za vutoli
- 2. Vomerezani kuti ndinu wolakwa
- 3. Gwiritsani ntchito lilime lanu ndikunena
- 4. Onetsetsani kuti sakumvetsani
- 5. Tengani nthawi
- 6. Funsani akatswiri kuti akuthandizeni
- 7. Kondani mavuto anu
- Chibwenzi sichikwaniritsa zosowa zanu
“Sindikulankhula nanu”
- "Zomwe zachitika?"
- / chete /
- “Ndachita chiyani?”
- / chete /
- “Kodi ungafotokoze zomwe zakukhumudwitsa?”
- / chete /
“Sindilankhulanso ndi iwe, umalangidwa, uli ndi mlandu, wandikhumudwitsa, ndipo ndizosasangalatsa komanso zopweteka kwa ine kotero kuti ndimatseka kwa iwe njira zonse zakukhululukirana!
“Chifukwa chiyani ndimayesetsa kukonza chibwenzi chathu pomwe iwo satero?
Kodi ndichifukwa chiyani ndimapita patsogolo pomwe amangokhala pamwamba pa mfundo zawo ndikukwiya, kunyalanyaza zosowa zaubwenzi? ”
Pomwe kuthekera kwa mnzanu kutsekedwa, pomwe sakulowetsaninso mwa inu, akangokunyalanyazani ndi vuto lomwelo, mumakhala osowa chochita, osungulumwa, osiyidwa, komanso okanidwa ndi mnzanu wosamuthandiza.
Mutha kumva kunyalanyazidwa ndikukwiya, ndikukumana ndi kulephera kufotokoza mwachindunji, kudzimva wopanda pake, komanso wopanda ulemu.
Ndipo ngati makolo anu nawonso ankangokhala chete pakakhala kusamvana komanso kukangana, kukhala mnzake wosathandizana wina ndi mnzake m'malo mothetsa chibwenzi mudakali mwana, mutha kusokonezeka, kuda nkhawa, komanso kuchita mantha .
Chithandizo mwakachetechete motsutsana ndi machesi ofuula
Sindilankhula nanu → Ndimangokunyalanyazani → Simuliko.
Ndimakuwa ndikufuula → Ndine wokwiya → ndikukuwonani ndipo ndimakuchitirani → Mulipo.
Kachitidwe kameneka sikutanthauza kuti muyenera m'malo mwakachetechete ndi kulira kwachinyengo ndikuziwona ngati zothandiza maubale anu.
Komabe, zikutanthauza kuti Kulankhula mosalankhula nthawi zambiri kumakhala koipitsitsa kuposa kupsa mtima, kufuula, mikangano, ndi mikangano.
Malingana ngati mungasinthanitse malingaliro - ngakhale atakhala abwino kapena olakwika - mwanjira inayake mumalumikizana ndi mnzanu.
Malingana ngati mupitiliza kuyankhula - ngakhale zokambirana zanu zili zokhazokha kapena kutsatira malamulo ochokera m'mabuku azamaganizidwe - mulimonse kulumikizana.
Chifukwa chake, ndikofunikira kutengapo gawo limodzi pamavuto. Nanga bwanji ngati wokondedwa wanu sakugwirizana ndi chibwenzi chanu? Bwanji ngati muli ndi mnzanu wosathandizira - mkazi kapena mwamuna yemwe akukana kulankhulana.
Ndiye, mungakonze bwanji ubale wanu?
Nazi njira 7 zomwe mungachite kuti mulimbikitse mnzanu yemwe sakuthandizani kuti agwiritse ntchito nthawi yawo ndi khama lanu muubwenzi wanu:
Mwamuna akakana kulankhulana zamavuto
1. Onetsetsani kuti akudziwanso za vutoli
Zingamveke zosamveka koma wokondedwa wanu sangadziwe za vuto lomwe mumawona pachibwenzi.
Kumbukirani, kuti tonse ndife osiyana ndipo zinthu zina sizingakhale zovomerezeka kwa m'modzi koma zabwinobwino kwa wina.
Kumbukirani dongosolo lawo lazikhalidwe, malingaliro, ndi malingaliro am'malingaliro ndikupita ku gawo 2.
2. Vomerezani kuti ndinu wolakwa
Zimatengera awiri ku tango - nonse ndinu omwe mumayambitsa vuto lomwe lidabuka.
Chifukwa chake, musanayambe kupereka mndandanda wazodandaula zanu, vomerezaninso kuti ndinu wolakwa.
Auzeni kuti: “Ndikudziwa kuti ndine wopanda ungwiro. Ndikuvomereza kuti nthawi zina ndimakhala wodzikonda / wamwano / wokonda ntchito. Mungandiuzeko zinthu zina zomwe zimakupweteketsani? Kodi ungandilembere zolakwa zanga? ”
Ili ndiye gawo loyamba laubwenzi, kuzindikira, ndi kudalira maubale anu.
Mukangoyamba kukonza zolakwitsa zanu ndipo mnzanu atazindikira izi, mungawafunse kuti akonze zolakwazo khalidwe nawonso ndipo lembani mndandanda wa nkhawa zanu.
Onaninso:
3. Gwiritsani ntchito lilime lanu ndikunena
Anthu ambiri sangathe kufunsa ndikuyankhula. Iwo ali odzaza ndi malingaliro oti wokondedwa wawo akhoza kulingalira malingaliro awo ndi zosintha zawo mwachidziwitso.
Komabe, kusewera masewera olosera ndi njira yoyipitsitsa yothetsera kusamvana kapena kuwathandiza. Nthawi zambiri zimatha kumapangitsa munthu kudzimva kuti ali ndi mnzake wosamuthandiza.
Sikokwanira kugawana vuto lanu. Ndikofunikanso kunena zomwe mnzanu angachite kuti akuthandizeni:
OSAKHALA: “Ndikumva chisoni” (kulira)
Ndiye nditani?
Chitani: “Ndine wachisoni. Kodi mungandikumbatire? ”
OSAKHALA: "Kugonana kwathu kumakhala kotopetsa"
Chitani: “Kugonana kwathu kumakhala kotopetsa nthawi zina. Tiyeni tichite kena kake kuti tizinunkhize? Mwachitsanzo, ndinawona ... ”
4. Onetsetsani kuti sakumvetsani
Momwe ayenera kumvera ndi kumva?
Kodi mungatani kuti muwonetsetse kuti akukumvetsetsani molondola komanso momwe akumvera?
Yesani njira iyi:
- Sankhani nthawi ndi malo oyenera kukambirana. Mlengi womasuka komanso kusangalala ndi zabwino.
- Afunseni ngati ali okonzeka kulankhula.
- Uzani nkhawa zanu zonse mumtundu wa I"Ndikukhumudwa chifukwa ... Zochita zanuzi zandikumbutsa za ... Ndikufuna kuti muchite ... Zindipangitsa kumva ... ndimakukondani"
- Tsopano afunseni zomwe adamva ndikumvetsetsa. Aloleni kuti anene zomwe mwanenazo. Mutha kudabwitsidwa kudziwa kuti pakadali pano mnzanu wosamuthandiza amatha kumasulira molakwika mawu anu onse.
Inu mukuti: “Kodi ungakhale ndi nthawi yochuluka yocheza ndi ine?”
Amamva kuti: "Ndakhumudwa ndipo ndikukunenezani kuti mumathera nthawi yochuluka kuntchito"
Koma simunanene ndipo simunatanthauze!
5. Tengani nthawi
Pambuyo pa kukangana kapena mutakambirana za vuto lanu, khalani ndi nthawi yochepa, pansi, kuganizira mozama, osanena china chokhumudwitsa.
Yankho nthawi zambiri limachokera ku lingaliro losavuta.
6. Funsani akatswiri kuti akuthandizeni
Kuti muwone momwe zinthu zilili mbali inayo, phunzirani kudzimvetsetsa, kukhala tcheru pamalingaliro amzanu, kupeza njira ndi zomwe zimayambitsa vuto.
Funsani akatswiri kuti akuthandizeni kuthana ndi chibwenzi chanu, ngakhale nonse, kapena nonse a inu mukumva kuti muli ndi mnzanu yemwe sakuthandizani.
7. Kondani mavuto anu
Musaope kuvomereza kuti muli ndi mavuto m'banja lanu. Palibe chifukwa chonamizira kuti zonse zili bwino.
Vuto lililonse ndi chizindikiro kuti banja lanu likukwera mulingo wina - ndipo ndi nthawi yoti muchitepo kanthu, ndi nthawi yoti muyankhe funso lofulumira ndikutuluka kumalo anu abwino.
Kukhala ndi vuto sikumakupangitsani kukhala oyipa - kumakupangitsani kusintha ngati banja.
Mkazi akukana kugwira ntchito paukwati
Nawa maupangiri ena amomwe mungapangire kuti ubale wanu ugwire ntchito ndikuphatikizani nonse ku tango:
- Osangodumphira kuti mumalize. Bwino muwafunse mosalowerera ndale kuti: "Mukutanthauza chiyani ...? Kodi mukufuna kunena kuti ...? Tiyeni tikambirane ... ”
- Osachotsera mnzako. Palibe chifukwa chowapondereza ndi dothi. Kupweteka komwe mumayambitsa kumatsuka pang'ono pang'onoubwenzi wachikondi.
- Kulankhula. Mukamamwa tiyi, pabedi, posamba pansi, mutagonana. Kambiranani zonse zomwe zimakusowetsani mtendere.
- Osathamangiranso mumtsinje wa maubwenzi anu. Lemekezani malo anu achinsinsi ndikupatsa ufulu mnzanu. Bizinesi yapadera, kapena zosangalatsa, kapena anzanu ndi njira yabwino yopewera kudalira kosavomerezeka.
- Osamenyetsa chitseko ndikufuula "Ndikunyamuka". Zitha kumuthandiza mnzanuyo kangapo.
Chibwenzi sichikwaniritsa zosowa zanu
Kodi nthawi zonse kumakhala koyenera kuyanjana ndi chibwenzi?
Zizindikiro ziti kuti ndi nthawi yoti muchoke mnzanu atakwaniritsa zosowa zanu?
Nthawi zina, sikofunika kuchita chibwenzi ngakhale mukamakondanabe.
Ngati mukumvetsetsa kuti ma vectors a chitukuko chanu amatsatira njira zosiyanasiyana, mutha kupanga chisankho chovomerezeka chimodzi kupatsana mpata wosangalala, koma ndi anthu ena komanso m'malo ena
Nthawi zina, zitha kudziwikiratu kuti mulibe mphamvu yakumenyera izi. Kapena osafunanso kukhala ndi mnzanu wosamuthandiza. Kapena palibe chomwe chatsala kuti chimenyedwe.
Kodi zili bwino ngati:
- samakusamalirani?
- kukufuulirani kapena kukutukwanani?
- kucheza nthawi yochuluka ndi "zibwenzi" za amuna kapena akazi okhaokha?
- samakumva ndipo salankhula nawe?
- osayankha mafunso anu?
- kusowa kwa masiku angapo ndikunena kuti anali otanganidwa?
- kunena kuti "sindingakhale popanda iwe" ndipo patapita kanthawi "sindikukusowa"?
- kucheza, kucheza, ndi kugona nanu koma osalankhula za chibwenzi chanu?
- fotokozerani za mawonekedwe anu, momwe mumamvera, momwe mumakondera, zosankha zanu mokhumudwitsa?
M'malo mofunsa mafunso awa, yankhani lina.
Ngati zili bwino kwa inu - tsatirani malangizo athu ndikumenyera ubale wanu. Ngati sizili bwino kwa inu - ingochokani.