Zamkati
- Kodi kudziwononga kumeneku kumakhudza bwanji maubwenzi athu?
- 1. Mutha kutsiriza kukankhira anthu kutali
- 2. Mudzakhala opanda nzeru komanso otsutsa chilichonse
- 3. Simulinso achifundo
- 4. Mumakhala ndi nkhawa zambiri m'moyo wanu
- Kodi kudzikonda ndi koipa?
Ego amadziwika kuti amatenga gawo lalikulu pakuwononga maubwenzi ambiri okondana komanso osakondana. Mukayang'ana m'mbuyo, mukumbukiranso, mudzakhala ndiubwenzi umodzi kapena ubale womwe wasokonekera. Kaya chinali chifukwa chakugwa kapena kusabwerera, ego nthawi zonse amakhala pamenepo. Kubisalira m'makona amdima, kudumphira mkati, kukulepheretsani kubwerera ndi munthu yemwe kale amatanthauza dziko kwa inu.
Ngati pali zomwe mungachite kuti mupange chisankho, pomwe sizachilendo kuganiza kuti winayo angakhalenso ndi lingaliro lomweli, sizigwira ntchito mwanjira imeneyi. Kusiyana kwa malingaliro ndi komwe ego nthawi zambiri amayamba kuyenda molakwika.
Ngati atayendetsedwa bwino posunga malingaliro pambali, kusiyana kwamaganizidwe kumatha kubweretsa ubale wabwino ndikumvetsetsa bwino ndikuwunika zenizeni.
Ndipo cheke ichi sichiyenera kukhala choyipa. Uwu ukhoza kukhala mwayi watsopano wophunzira, muphunzira zatsopano za wokondedwa wanu.
Ngakhale mutha kuchotsera zinthu, simungathe kukhala nazo pamalingaliro ndi momwe mukumvera. Ndicho chifukwa chake kuyankhulana mu chibwenzi ndikofunikira kwambiri
Mawu oti 'Ego' nthawi zambiri amagwiritsidwa ntchito ndimikhalidwe, malingaliro, ndi machitidwe ambiri mosiyanasiyana. Mwachitsanzo, chizolowezi nthawi zambiri chimasokonezedwa ndi kudzikuza, kudalira ndi zina zambiri. Ngakhale kudzikuza ndi gawo lodzitamandira, sizofanana.
Ndizotsatira zake zokha ndipo kudalanso ndi gawo labwino.
Kudziona kuti ndi wolakwika kumangodzipangitsa kudzinyenga nokha- malingaliro, malingaliro, ndi kutengeka kumeneku zimayamba chifukwa cha mantha, nsanje, chidani, mkwiyo mpaka kuweruza, kusakhululuka, ziyembekezo, ndi malire.
Chifukwa chake ndikofunikira kuti nthawi zonse tizitha kuyang'anira egos yathu chifukwa, pamapeto pake, izikhala zopanda phindu.
Cholakwitsa chachikulu chomwe timachita nthawi zambiri ndikusunga malingaliro athu patsogolo pa munthu amene timamukonda ndipo nthawi zina ngakhale tokha komanso chisangalalo chathu.
Timalola kudzidalira kudzikayikira ndikuwononga china chake chabwino. Anthu amalephera kumvetsetsa kuti kukhala ndi chidaliro ndichinthu chimodzi komanso kukhala wodzikuza komanso kudzitamandira ndikudziwononga nokha.
Kodi kudziwononga kumeneku kumakhudza bwanji maubwenzi athu?
Ndilemba njira zosiyanasiyana zomwe zimakhudzira maubwenzi anu komanso moyo wanu. Chifukwa cha ego-
1. Mutha kutsiriza kukankhira anthu kutali
Inde, izi zikuyenera kuchitika. Ngati mumangoyenda modzitama, osapepesa, ngakhale kukhala opanda ulemu kwa ena, izi zikuyenera kukankhira anthu oyenera kutali.
Mwambiri, anthu amakonda kukhala ndi anthu owazungulira omwe amawakweza, osayika pambali.
Ngati wina amangokhalira kunyoza mnzake, kumadzudzula kapena kuwawuza kuti ndiwe wabwino kuposa iwo. Iyi si nkhani yabwino komanso motsimikiza osati pachibwenzi.
2. Mudzakhala opanda nzeru komanso otsutsa chilichonse
Mukakhala ndi kudzidalira, mumakhala mukuyesera kutsimikizira zomwe mukunena, zivute zitani ngakhale mutakhala kuti mulakwitsa, mutha kukana, kungakhale kusazindikira.
Pochita izi, muyamba kukhala opanda nzeru kwambiri ndipo sipadzakhala chinthu chofanana kapena pakati pa inu ndi mnzanu.
Kodi chibwenzi chitha kupitilira bwanji kukondera mnzake? Kenako pakubwera kudzudzulidwa, 'Sindikonda momwe mumachitira izi' .... 'Simunali momwe mumakhalira' ... 'Mwasintha' ndi mawu onse pamizereyo. Ndipo kukhala wotsutsa pazinthu zonse sichizindikiro cha ubale wathanzi komanso wokhalitsa.
3. Simulinso achifundo
Mukukumbukira chifukwa chomwe wokondedwa wanu adakukondani? Kodi muli ndi khalidweli?
Nthawi zonse kumangoganizira zoyipa za mnzanu ndikudzitchinjiriza za inu nokha ndi zomwe mumachita pokambirana chilichonse kuiwala zokangana ndikumenya nkhondo sichizindikiro chabwino.
Kodi chinachitika nchiyani poyang'ana chithunzi chachikulu? Kodi chinachitika nchiyani kukhala wachifundo? Ndipo ndi liti pamene nkhondoyo inakhala iwe ndi mnzako? Si nonse a inu vs vuto?
4. Mumakhala ndi nkhawa zambiri m'moyo wanu
Tsiku ndi tsiku, mumakumana ndi zovuta zambiri, milu ndi malire ake. Kaya ndi yokhudzana ndi ntchito kapena kulipira ngongole kapena nthawi zina ngakhale kupeza ndalama.
Mukawonjezera zochita zodzitchinjiriza zomwe zimangowonjezera kudzidalira kwanu pakusakanikirana, mudzakhala ndi nthawi zambiri zopanikiza komanso kusowa tulo. Kodi mwakonzeka kutero?
Kodi kudzikonda ndi koipa?
Chilichonse chovuta kwambiri ndichabwino. Ngakhale ego imagwiritsidwa ntchito moipa kwambiri ngati kuwongolera kumatha kubweretsa moyo wathanzi komanso ubale.
Kwenikweni, cholinga chimakhala ndi cholinga m'moyo ndipo ndikuti tizigwiritsa ntchito malingaliro athu okhudza tokha ndipo ngati ali ndi chithunzi cholakwika amatembenukira kumphamvu zakunja.
Ngati mukuwona mwabwino, kudzidalira ndichinthu chomwe chingadzipangitse kudzipeza nokha. Inde, pamakhala nthawi zina pamene mumafuna kutsimikizira wokondedwa wanu, mumatsimikiza kuti ukunena zowona kapena mwina pali china chake chalakwika kwambiri koma munthawi imeneyi, ndikofunikira kuti mupewe chidwi chodzionetsera kapena kudzitchinjiriza .
Chophweka chomwe ndikupepesa chimapita kutali pazinthu zotere. Ndipo mulimonse momwe zingakhalire, musalole kuti malingaliro azisokoneza chikondi chomwe muli nacho kwa wina ndi mnzake.