Maukwati 40% adayamba ngati maubwenzi enieni. Awiriwo mwina adakumana pasukulu, kuntchito, kapena kungokhala pagulu la anzawo omwewo. Iwo analibe kukondana pakati pawo koyambirira, koma pomwe amakhala nthawi yayitali limodzi, nthawi ina muubwenzi mmodzi kapena onse awiri adazindikira kuti pakhoza kukhala china chowonjezera, chomwe chimamveka ngati chikondi chaubwenzi, kuubwenzi uwu.
Mabanja odziwika bwino omwe adayamba kukhala mabwenzi
Simukuyenera kuyang'ana patali kuti mupeze kuti pali mabanja angapo otchuka omwe anali "abwenzi chabe" Cupid asanawakanthe ndi muvi wake:
- Sheryl Sandberg, COO wa Facebook, anali paubwenzi ndi malemu mwamuna wake Dave kwa zaka zisanu ndi chimodzi zinthu zisanakhale zachikondi.
- Mila Kunis ndi Ashton Kutcher anali abwenzi pa sitcom "That 70s Show" zaka khumi ndi zinayi asanakumane ndikumanga mfundo.
- Blake Lively ndi Ryan Reynolds poyamba adayambitsa chibwenzi pagulu la kanema "The Green Lantern". Pafupifupi chaka chimodzi pambuyo pake adakhala pachibwenzi, aliyense ali ndi mnzake, ndipo adazindikira kuti akuyenera kukhala limodzi.
- Beyonce ndi Jay Z anali ndiubwenzi wapamtima kwa chaka chimodzi asanazindikire zoyambitsa zomwe zinali zokonzeka kuyambika pakati pawo.
- Kate Middleton ndi Prince William anali mgulu lomwelo la abwenzi, adapita ku yunivesite limodzi, ndipo amangocheza kwa zaka zambiri asanayambe kukondana ndikukwatirana.
Mukazindikira kuti maubwenzi anu atha kusunganso zina
Mwakhala anzanu ndi anzanu-otsutsana-sikisi kwanthawi yayitali. Mwina mwamudziwa kuyambira kusekondale. Mwinanso ndi munthu wina amene munagwira naye ntchito limodzi pantchito yanu yoyamba ndipo mudakali anzanu, zaka pambuyo pake. Nonse mwadutsa maubwenzi angapo ndipo mumagwirana ntchito ngati bolodi lolira mukakhala ndi zibwenzi. Tsopano nonse simuli pabanja. Ndipo mukuzindikira kuti mwadzidzidzi mukuyang'ana bwenzi lanu ndi maso atsopano.
- Amawoneka wokhwima komanso wowona mtima kuposa anyamata omwe mwakhala mukukhala nawo pachibwenzi
- Inu simunawonepo momwe iye aliri wokongola mpaka posachedwapa
- Mumakonda momwe mungangolankhulirana za chilichonse
- Mumakonda momwe mungakhalire achilengedwe momuzungulira. Palibe chifukwa chodziwitsira zonse; Mutha kubwera kumalo ake mutavala thukuta ndi T-sheti yanu yaku koleji ndipo samadzudzula chovala chanu
- Inu mumamuyang'ana ndipo zimakuchitikirani kuti ndi munthu wabwino kwambiri amene mumamudziwa
- Mumakhala ngati mukuchita nsanje mukamuwona akupanga chibwenzi ndi mtsikana wina; mungatsutse mochenjera atsikana omwe amawafuna
- Mumamuganizira kwambiri, ndipo mumamusowa mukakhala limodzi
- Mukusangalala mukadziwa kuti mudzamuwona
- Mukamuganizira mumapeza agulugufe m'mimba mwanu
Pokhala ndi zokambirana - kodi akumveranso chimodzimodzi za iwe?
Muli ndi kulowa kosavuta: inu ndi iye mumalankhula mosavuta. Ngakhale kuti zingakuchititseni mantha kuti mutchule nkhaniyo, dziwitseni kuti zotsatira zake — ngati akumvanso chimodzimodzi — zidzakhala zabwino. Konzani zotsegulira zokambirana nonse muli omasuka. Khalani pamalo omwe nonse mumakonda, monga malo omwe mumakonda kwambiri khofi kapena paki yomwe nonse mumakonda kulowerera.
Zatsimikizika! Akumva chimodzimodzi ndi iwe!
Mukupita kuubwenzi wabwino. Akatswiri omwe amaphunzira za nthawi yayitali komanso chisangalalo m'mabanja amatiuza kuti ndiubwenzi wabwino komanso wowona womwe umapereka maziko olimba kwa maanja omwe amayamba kukhala mabwenzi ndikumatha kukhala okondana.
Ubwenzi wapamtima - nchiyani chimapangitsa maanjawa kuti azikhalaponso ndalama?
Mukayamba kukhala abwenzi, zimakupatsani mpata wowona mkhalidwe weniweni wa mnzanu, popanda kugonana komwe nthawi zambiri kumakuchititsani khungu kuzinthu zina zosasangalatsa za munthuyu. Kuyamba kukhala anzanu kumakupatsaninso mwayi chifukwa "simunamizire" mutha kukhala china chomwe simuli, kuti mungopatsa chidwi cha mnzanu. Tonsefe timadziwa mnzake amene amachita chidwi ndi chidwi cha chibwenzi chomwe angakhale nacho pa mpira kuti amusangalatse, sichoncho? Izi sizimachitika banja likayamba kukhala abwenzi chifukwa sikofunikira. Wina sakufuna “kugwira” mnzake. Zomverera pakati pawo ndizachilengedwe komanso zowona.
Chifukwa chiyani maubwenzi ndi okonda nthawi zambiri amatha?
Anthu omwe anali mabwenzi asanayambe kugonana amakhala nthawi yayitali ndipo amakhala ndiubwenzi wozama kuposa omwe amayamba chibwenzi. Chifukwa cha izi ndichachidziwikire: Kuti ubale upite patsogolo, uyenera kukhala ndiubwenzi wabwino komanso kuyanjana, osangotengera kukopeka ndi kugonana. Ichi ndichifukwa chake maanja omwe amangodumphadumpha pabedi pomwe amasonkhana samakhalapo nthawi zambiri- pomwe chilakolakocho chatha ngati palibe maziko oyanjana pamenepo, kunyong'onyeka kumayamba.
Ngati mukusuntha ubale wanu kunja kwa malo amzanu ndikupita kumalo okondana, zabwino zonse! Moyo ndi waufupi, ndipo chikondi chabwino, chopatsa thanzi ndiyofunika kuyika pachiwopsezo.