Zamkati
- Zomwe maphunziro ndi zowonera zikunena za chifukwa chomwe maubale amalephera
- Maubale amuna kapena akazi okhaokha akadali bwino kuposa omwe amagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha
- 1. Bweretsani nthabwala muzitsutsana
- 2. Kugawana mphamvu
- 3. Musatengere zinthu zambiri panokha
- 4. Mphamvu ya ndemanga zabwino komanso zoyipa
- Maubale a Lesibiyani - Zifukwa zopambana ndi kulephera kwawo
- 1. Achiheberi amafotokoza momveka bwino
- 2. Sankhani zosamukira limodzi
- Kusunga chibwenzicho: Kupangitsa maubale kuti azitha
- 1. Lekani kuyembekezera zosowa zanu nthawi zonse kuti zikwaniritsidwe
- 2. Ganizirani zosowa za mnzanu nthawi zonse
- 3. Khalani ndi nthawi yokha
Zolemba pazokhudzana ndi ubale ndiubwenzi zimayang'aniridwa ndi maubwenzi apabanja ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.
Ngakhale pali mabuku ambiri omwe amapereka upangiri kwa maubwenzi ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, palibe zambiri komanso upangiri wambiri pa maubwenzi apabanja.
Chifukwa chake, tinaganiza zowunika zina mwa maphunziro omwe amafotokoza zifukwa zomwe zimapangitsa kuti maubale azilephera komanso zomwe mungachite kuti ubale wanu ukhalebe.
Zomwe maphunziro ndi zowonera zikunena za chifukwa chomwe maubale amalephera
Kafukufuku apeza kuti ngakhale pali zifukwa zosiyanasiyana zakuti maubwenzi a amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amalephera, zifukwa zambiri ndizofanana ndi zomwe zimapangitsa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kulephera.
Dr. A John ndi a Julie Gottman adachita kafukufuku wazaka 12 yemwe adatsata maubwenzi 21 azigonana ndi 21 akugwiritsa ntchito njira zomwezo momwe amaphunzirira maubwenzi ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha powona mikangano ya maanja.
Zotsatira zakufufuza kwawo zidagwirizana ndi zonena kuti ngakhale maubale omwe amagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amalimbana ndi zomwezo ngati maanja owongoka.
M'mawu a Dr. Gottman "Amuna ndi akazi ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, monga maanja owongoka, amalimbana ndi zovuta za tsiku ndi tsiku zaubwenzi wapamtima. Koma, tikudziwa kuti zina mwazovuta izi zimatha kupezeka pagulu loti anthu azikhala kutali ndi mabanja awo, kusankhana pantchito, komanso zolepheretsa zina zomwe zimangokhudza mabanja omwe amagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. ”
Maubale amuna kapena akazi okhaokha akadali bwino kuposa omwe amagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha
Pali zinthu zochepa zomwe zimawoneka kuti zimapangitsa ubale wa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kupatula ubale wa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.
1. Bweretsani nthabwala muzitsutsana
Okwatirana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amakonda kubweretsa kuseketsa komanso kukangana ndipo amakonda kukhala otsimikiza pambuyo pa mkangano poyerekeza ndi kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.
2. Kugawana mphamvu
Palinso kugawana mphamvu pakati pa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha poyerekeza ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha
3. Musatengere zinthu zambiri panokha
Polimbana ndi mikangano, maubwenzi ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amakonda kuchititsa zinthu kukhala zosagwirizana ndi anzawo.
4. Mphamvu ya ndemanga zabwino komanso zoyipa
M'magonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, ndemanga zoyipa sizimakhala zopweteketsa pomwe ndemanga zabwino zimakhala ndi zotsatirapo zabwino.
Izi zimasinthanso poyerekeza ndi maanja owongoka pomwe ndemanga zoyipa zimapweteketsa anzawo, ndipo ndemanga zabwino ndizovuta kuthana ndi mnzake.
Maubale a Lesibiyani - Zifukwa zopambana ndi kulephera kwawo
1. Achiheberi amafotokoza momveka bwino
Anthu okwatirana omwe ali pachibwenzi amakhala omasuka poyerekeza ndi omwe ali pachibwenzi.
Izi zimachitika chifukwa choti gulu limalola kuti amayi azitha kufotokoza bwino kuposa amuna.
2. Sankhani zosamukira limodzi
Kuwonanso kwina muubwenzi wapa zibwenzi ndikofunikira pakupanga chisankho posachedwa kuti mupite limodzi ngakhale koyambirira kwaubwenzi. Izi zimatchedwa U-Hauling.
Zachisoni, ngakhale amuna kapena akazi okhaokha akusunthira limodzi, ichi ndi chifukwa china chomwe maubwenzi ena amalephera. Izi zikugwirizana ndi kafukufuku wa Lawrence Kurnek mu 1998, yemwe amayang'ana pakukhalira limodzi kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha komanso ubale wawo.
Zonsezi zimabweretsa funso - ngati kukhala pachibwenzi cha amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndibwino kutengera Dr. Zomwe Gottman adawona, bwanji zikulephera?
Pali kusagwirizana pakati pa ubale womwe Dr. Gottman adawona ndikuwonongeka mwachangu kwa maubale ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha potengera kuphunzira kwa Lawrence Kurnek.
Zitha kukhala zanzeru kuganiza kuti zifukwa zotsatirazi zitipatsa mbiri yabwino yazifukwa zomwe zibwenzi zimalephera.
- Mofulumira kuchita, monga tawonera mukamakoka.
- Kupanda kugonana. Kukhutira kwakugonana komanso pafupipafupi kumawoneka kukhala kwakukulu pamayanjano azigonana. Komabe, ngati onse awiri sali oyambitsa, sipadzakhala kugonana komwe kungachitike.
- Kupanda chithandizo chamagulu.
Ngakhale zili choncho, ndikuganiza ndikofunikira kwambiri kuyang'ana pakugwirira ntchito chibwenzi chomwe onse awiri adzapambana ndikupitilira limodzi.
Kusunga chibwenzicho: Kupangitsa maubale kuti azitha
Abwenzi atha kuchita izi kuti athetse chibwenzi chawo. Izi zitha kudziwika ngati mudakhalapo pachibwenzi kale (amuna kapena akazi okhaokha).
Tiyeni titenge kutsitsimula -
1. Lekani kuyembekezera zosowa zanu nthawi zonse kuti zikwaniritsidwe
Ichi ndi chimodzi mwazinthu zomwe maubwenzi amtundu uliwonse amawoneka kuti amaiwala. Kuyerekeza kuti zosowa zanu zidzakwaniritsidwa nthawi zonse, kumabweretsa zokhumudwitsa zambiri.
M'malo mochita izi, vomerezani zabwino ndi zoyipa za mnzanuyo.
Malinga ndi Dr. Gottman, kukhala ndi machitidwe abwino motsutsana ndi zoyipa kumatsimikizira kuti nonse mudzakhala ndi china chobwereranso munthawi yamavuto.
2. Ganizirani zosowa za mnzanu nthawi zonse
Monga ma lesibiyani, chisamaliro cha amayi chimapezekabe.
Komabe, moyo umachitika, ndipo nthawi zina moyo umayika kupsinjika kwambiri kwa okwatirana. Munthawi izi, khalani tcheru nthawi zonse ndikukhala achifundo. Mvetserani zofuna za mnzanu.
Pakukangana, mutha kugwiritsa ntchito njira zodzithandizira kuti mukhale chete.
3. Khalani ndi nthawi yokha
Pangani ndi kusunga kudzidalira kwanu ndi zokonda zanu.
Kukhala ndi nthawi yokha kudzakuthandizani kukulitsa zokonda izi zomwe zimawonjezera zomwe nonse mungakambirane mukadzabweranso.