Mu Chaka Chatsopano, maanja ambiri akupitilizabe kulakwitsa zomwezo muubwenzi wawo monga adapangira chaka chatha. Ambiri mwa mabanjawa ali kumapeto kwa chisudzulo, afika pamalo pomwe sakondananso, ndipo agawa nyumba zawo ziwiri, kutanthauza kuti, munthu m'modzi amakhala mbali imodzi ya nyumbayo ndipo winayo amakhala mbali inayo.
Komabe, pali maanja ena omwe asankha kuti ngakhale akupanga zolakwa zomwezi, avomereza udindo wawo ndipo ali okonzeka kupita patsogolo ndikupangitsa ubale wawo kukhala wabwinoko ndikukhala oyandikira.
Ndiye chomwe chimapangitsa maanjawa kukhala osiyana ndi maanja omwe ali okonzeka kusiya, kusiya, ndikuchoka paubale wawo kapena ukwati wawo. Ndikuganiza kuti ndi awo:
- Kukondana wina ndi mnzake
- Kutha kwawo kuganizira zovuta osati wina ndi mnzake
- Kutha kulankhulana bwino
- Matchulidwe awo ndi kusankha kwamawu polankhula
- Kutha kwawo kupewa kuukilana pokambirana
- Kutha kwawo kuvomereza kuti china chake chalakwika
- Kutha kwawo kuti asalole malingaliro awo kutsogolera zochita zawo ndi machitidwe awo
- Kudzipereka kwawo kwa Mulungu, malumbiro awo aukwati, komanso kwa wina ndi mnzake
- Kufunitsitsa kwawo kusintha
- Kufunitsitsa kwawo kuyika nthawi ndi khama zomwe zimatengera kuti ubale wawo ugwire ntchito
- Ndi kufunitsitsa kwawo kuyika ndalama wina ndi mnzake komanso ubale wawo
Koma ndikukhulupiliranso, kuti pali zinthu zina zomwe maanja amachita kuti banja lawo likhale lolimba komanso kuti azikhala ogwirizana, zomwe maanja ena amalephera kuchita. Mwachitsanzo, maanja omwe akufuna kuti ubale wawo ukhale:
- Osanyalanyazana: Osamagwidwa ndi kukonza ena onse, kuti anyalanyaza ubale wawo kapena ukwati wawo. Amamvetsetsa kuti maubale amatenga ntchito, ndipo asanayese kuthandiza ena, amadzifunira okha.
- Osamangotenga wina ndi mnzake mopepuka: Ndipo ngati atero, amapepesa ndikusintha zina kuti asadzachitenso.
- Kugwa mchikondi wina ndi mnzake tsiku lililonse: Amalimbikitsana ndi kuthandizana; samangoyang'ana mbali zoyipa, ndipo amayang'ana kwambiri zinthu zabwino za wina ndi mnzake komanso ubale. Amapeza njira zowonanirana kuchokera kuzinthu zatsopano komanso zosiyana tsiku lililonse.
- Yamikirani: Amayamikira zinthu zazing'ono za wina ndi mzake komanso ubale wawo.
- Vomerezani: Amauzana ndikuwonetserana momwe amayamikirira mikhalidwe kapena zochita zina.
- Osasokoneza: Samapusitsana wina ndi mnzake kuti apeze zomwe akufuna, ndipo amamvetsetsa kuti sangathe kukakamizana kuchita zinthu zina, chifukwa chake samayesa.
- Muzikhululukirana: Amakhululuka ngakhale atakhala kuti sakufuna kutero, ndikumvetsetsa kuti kugona mokwiya kumabweretsa mavuto pakati pawo kapena banja lawo. Amakhulupirira kupsompsonana kwenikweni ndikupanga asanagone. Mosasamala yemwe ali wolondola kapena wolakwa, amakhululukirana nthawi zonse chifukwa amvetsetsa kuti kukhala wolondola sikofunikira, koma kukhululuka ndikofunikira.
- Landirani ndi kulemekeza zosiyana za wina ndi mnzake: Iwo samayesera kuti asinthe wina ndi mzake. Mwina sangakonde za wina ndi mnzake, koma AMALEMEKEZANA. Samayesetsa kukakamizana kuti asinthe kukhala zomwe sali, kapena kukakamizana wina ndi mnzake kuti achite zomwe sizili bwino.
- Kusagwirizana popanda kufuula kapena kufuula: Amayika malingaliro awo pambali pokambirana. Mabanja okhwima mwauzimu amamvetsetsa kuti kuukirana wina ndi mnzake pokambirana kapena pokambirana sikuthetsa vutolo.
- Lolani wina ndi mnzake mwayi wolankhula: Amachita izi osadukiza. Samvera kuti ayankhe; amamvetsera kuti amvetse. Mabanja omwe amapanga mayankho pamutu pawo pomwe mnzake akulankhula, samamvetsetsa zomwe mnzake akunena kapena wanena.
- Musaganize kuti: Iwo samaganiza kuti akudziwa zomwe wina ndi mnzake akuganiza, amafunsa mafunso kuti amve bwino ndikumvetsetsa. Amavomereza ndikumvetsetsa kuti sakonda kuwerenga.
- Osayesa: Samayesa kupambana kwa ubale wawo ndi maubwenzi ena, ndipo samayerekezera anzawo ndi mabanja ena. Samanena kuti "Ndikulakalaka mukadakhala ngati____________. Awa ndi mawu # 1 omwe amawononga maubale ndi maukwati.
- Musalole zolakwa zakale: Samalola zolakwa zakale ndi zokumana nazo kuti zilamulire tsogolo lawo kapena chisangalalo limodzi. Amamvetsetsa zakale ndizakale ndipo kupitabe patsogolo ndikofunikira kuposa kubweretsa zomwe zidachitika kapena zomwe sizinachitike.
- Mvetsetsani kufunikira kokhala omasuka: Ndiowona mtima, ndipo amagwirizana nthawi zonse. Amamvetsetsa kuti izi ndizofunika kwambiri kuti ubale wawo ukhale wopambana.
- Nenani chonde, zikomo: Amagwiritsa ntchito mawu ngati 'Ndimakukondani', komanso 'Ndimakukondani nthawi zambiri'. Amamvetsetsa kuti awa ndi mawu ofunikira komanso kuti ndi ofunikira bwanji kuti ubale wawo ukhale wabwino.
- Pomaliza, amakumbukira nthawi zonse chifukwa chomwe adakondera: Amakumbukira chifukwa chomwe amati ndimatero, komanso chifukwa chomwe anasankha kudzipereka kwa wina ndi mnzake.
Maubwenzi amatha kukhala ovuta nthawi zina, koma mukakhala ndi anthu awiri omwe ali ofunitsitsa kuyesetsa kuti ubale wawo ukhale wolimba, omwe akufuna kukonza ubale wawo, komanso omwe akufuna kuti azikondana kwambiri, zimagwira ntchito ubale wosavuta komanso wosangalatsa. Tengani nthawi ndikugwiritsa ntchito izi muubwenzi wanu, ndipo muwone ukukula ndikuwonani inu ndi mnzanu mukuyandikira.