Zamkati
- Nanga bwanji za chisangalalo chake?
- Sanayembekezere kusungunuka kwa ubalewo
- Tonsefe tinathandizira kuthetsa ubale
- Chofunikira pakuwona ndi mikhalidwe yaumunthu
- Musanathetse vutoli, muyenera kuzindikira
- Kumapeto kwa tsikulo, zomwe anthu amagawana ndizo zomwe zimawerengedwa kwambiri
- Chilichonse chomwe mumakhulupirira kuti ndichowona m'moyo wanu chimakhala chenicheni
Pambuyo pamavuto andisokoneza m'masabata, ndidapeza kulimba mtima kuti ndithetse chibwenzi changa cha milungu itatu, ubale wazaka 8.
Ndikukumbukira tsiku lomwe ndinatcha kuti lasiya, zinali pomwe Sandy adagunda New York City ndikuwononga nyumba za ambiri, kuphatikiza banja langa.
Ndimakumbukira ndikudzuka m'mawa ndipo china chake mkati mwanga chimasuntha, ndipo zonse zomwe ndidamva zinali "Inna, sungapitilize kukhala motere, sipadzakhala nthawi yoyenera, uli ndi ngongole kuti ukhale wosangalala, ingochita."
Nanga bwanji za chisangalalo chake?
Chimwemwe chake chinali chofunikira kwa ine koma kuzindikira kuti chisangalalo changa chinali chofunikira kwambiri, ndipo sindiyenera kudzipereka changa chifukwa cha zomwe adadza atakhala zaka zambiri tili limodzi.
Kumutsogolera kuganiza kuti padzakhala chisangalalo mpaka kale kunali kutali kwambiri
zoyipa kuposa china chilichonse.
Ndinaganiza motalikirapo ndipo ndinazindikira kuti ndikuchitira tonsefe zabwino zazikulu poswa chibwenzicho.
Zikanatha kuchitika posachedwa. Zomwe ndimangoganiza kuti "ndibwino kuti tisiye zinthu, zili bwino ... ndipo mudzakhala bwino, ingokhalani pamenepo" Ndipo tidakumana ndipo mawu oti "sindine wokondwa, sindingathe izi panonso ”anangotchula kuti.
Ndinkadana ndi munthu amene ndakhala koma chitonthozo cha kuzolowerana ndikuopa kusintha kunandichokera
ndimatha kunamizira ena komanso kwa ine ndekha kuti ndinali wokhutira.
Mumtima mwanga komanso m'maganizo ndinali "nditasudzula" chibwenzi changa zaka zambiri zapitazo koma mphamvu kutero
onani zotsatira za machitidwe anga zidangotuluka tsiku lomwe ndidachita chinkhoswe.
Zinali ngati china chake chasintha mthupi langa ndikundikakamiza kuti ndiyang'anenso moyo wanga.
Kuvomereza kuti ndinali womvetsa chisoni komanso wosasangalala ndili ndi zaka 28 kudayamba kuwawa ndipo
chotopetsa tsiku ndi tsiku.
Gawo limodzi lomwe ndimasungidwa ndikuwerenga mawu kuchokera m'nkhani yomwe ndidayiwerenga mu Business Insider pazinthu 5 Zomwe Anthu Amadandaula Pamafa Awo. "Ndikulakalaka ndikadakhala ndi kulimba mtima kuti ndikhale moyo wowona kwa ine ndekha," ndikulakalaka ndikadakhala ndi kulimba mtima kufotokoza malingaliro anga "" Chimwemwe ndichisankho nthawi zonse. " gawo lina la ine limangoganiza "Kodi banja langa liganiza chiyani ndikasiya pangano?" “Kodi aliyense angaganize zotani za ine?”
Ndinali mtsikana wokongola, wophunzira kwambiri “Ndinafika bwanji kuno?”
Sanayembekezere kusungunuka kwa ubalewo
Ankaganiza kuti ntchito yake yolimba ndiyabwino ndipo sanazindikire kutentha kwa mkwiyo mwa ine kapena kutalika komwe kumatilekanitsa.
Tonse tidanyalanyaza zizindikilo (zomwe zidalipo koyambirira kwa chibwenzi) ndipo
amakhulupirira kuti mphatso zitha kusintha kupezeka.
Koma, kungonena zochepa, ndinali wokhutitsidwa ndi zifukwa zake. Ndidakhala wosungulumwa komanso wokwiya kwanthawi yayitali ndipo mkwiyo udakula zaka zingapo ndikutsogolera ku moyo wofanana.
Nthawi zina ndimadabwa kuti "kodi amazindikira kuti ndabwera?" Kulumikizana pakati pathu kudakhala kosapiririka.
Onaninso:
Tonsefe tinathandizira kuthetsa ubale
Aliyense wa ife anali wotchera ndikudzipereka ku gawo limodzi la moyo; kwa Alex kunali kumanga ntchito yake ndipo kwa ine kunali kuyang'ana mphamvu zochuluka pa Alex osati zokwanira pazosowa zanga.
Tonsefe sitinapeze ndalama zofunikira kuti tithetse ubale. Ndinayesa kuletsa
iye, koma njira yanga yoyimbira idamupangitsa kuti abwerere kumalo ake ogwira ntchito.
Adapewa mkangano ndipo adasankha kugwira ntchito maola ambiri ngati njira ina yolankhulirana
za kusamvana kwathu.
Tikamalankhulana, zomwe sizinali kawirikawiri, tinkangonena zakukhosi kwathu
m'njira zopweteketsa ndikunenezana wina ndi mnzake.
Tonse tidayamba chibwenzi tili ndi ziyembekezo zosatheka, zomwe zidatipangitsa tonse kukhumudwitsidwa ndi zotsatirazo.
Zimandibweretsa ku funso langa loyamba, nanga bwanji amuna ndi akazi opambana kwambiri ali nawo
zovuta zotere zolimbikitsira ubale wabwino?
Kuti mumvetsetse zovuta zakubwenzi za kukhala ndi chibwenzi ndi munthu wopambana, kapena kuzindikira zovuta zakubwenzi ndi mkazi waluso, ndikofunikira kuti muwone komwe adachokera.
Ambiri "opititsa patsogolo" anakulira m'mabanja momwe machitidwe ogwira ntchito mwamphamvu amalimbikitsidwa komanso amtengo wapatali kuposa china chilichonse.
"Ngati mungakwanitse kuchita bwino, mumachita bwino m'moyo" adapangidwa kuyambira ali mwana, ndikupangitsa kuti munthuyo akhulupirire kuti kudzera pakupambana kumabwera kuvomerezedwa m'moyo.
Chofunikira pakuwona ndi mikhalidwe yaumunthu
Opambana ambiri adzatsanulira mphamvu zawo zonse kuzilakalaka zawo, ndikuyika pachiwopsezo osataya mtima.
Kukhazikika kwawo komwe kumamangidwa chifukwa chokhala ndi malingaliro abwino, ziribe kanthu zopinga zomwe zingawabweretse.
Mwachibadwa amakhala ndi kudzidalira ndipo ndi atsogoleri.
Chachiwiri, bwanji amuna ndi akazi omwe akuchita bwino kwambiri omwe angathe
kuthana ndi vuto lililonse kuntchito kuthetsa vutoli m'mabanja awo?
Chifukwa chiyani maubale kapena ukwati ndi ntchito bwino zimangofanana kwa iwo?
Musanathetse vutoli, muyenera kuzindikira
Amuna ndi akazi ambiri opambana amathera nthawi yawo yonse ndi anthu amalingaliro otere motero samawona zovuta.
Chimodzi mwamavuto omwe umunthu wofuna kutchuka umakumana nawo ndikuti amakhala ndi nthawi yovuta kwambiri kusiyanitsa mwachangu ndi zofunika.
Kwa opeza izi, chilichonse ndichachangu, ndipo zonse ndizofunikira zokhudzana ndi ntchito.
Izi zikachitika, anthuwa nthawi zambiri amayang'ana kwambiri ntchitoyi, ndipo amaiwala za
ubale. Koma chinthu chimodzi chomwe sitingatsutsane ndichakuti maubwenzi onse amafuna chisamaliro,
kudzipereka, kudekha mtima, ndikukhalabe ndi mphamvu kuti muchite bwino.
Kusintha sikuti kumangofunika kuzindikira kokha komanso ndondomeko ya momwe mungasinthire.
Ndikofunikira kuti mudzidziwe nokha musanapange chisankho cholowa pachibwenzi.
Mikhalidwe yanu, zosowa zanu zam'malingaliro, ndi machitidwe achikondi zikawonetsedwa ndiye ntchitoyo
kupeza chikondi chenicheni kumakhala kotheka.
Kumapeto kwa tsikulo, zomwe anthu amagawana ndizo zomwe zimawerengedwa kwambiri
Mosasamala za mwamuna amene akufunafuna maupangiri a momwe angakhalire ndi mkazi wodziyimira pawokha, mwamuna yemwe ali pachibwenzi ndi mkazi wopambana yemwe akulimbana ndi mavuto aubwenzi, kapena mkazi yemwe ali pachibwenzi ndi munthu wopambana ndipo akuvutika kuti amve kuti ndiwotsimikizika - zonsezi zimafikira pamikhalidwe yofanana ndikudzivomereza .
Ndaphunzira kuti tonse tidabadwa ndi mphatso ndipo ntchito yathu yokha ndikuvomereza chowonadi ichi,
khulupirirani ndikukhulupirira kuti tidzapeza moyo wachikondi womwe timafuna.
Landirani ma quirks anu, zolakwika zanu komanso kuti nthawi zina moyo umakhala wosasinthasintha.
Chilichonse chomwe mumakhulupirira kuti ndichowona m'moyo wanu chimakhala chenicheni
Ngati zomwe mumakhulupirira sizikuthandizani, mutha kuzisintha.
Mukudabwa bwanji. Mwa kubwereza malingaliro anu.
Tengani nthawi yoganizira momwe mungadziperekere nokha, kubweretsa chisangalalo m'moyo wanu komanso kwa anthu ozungulira.
Ndikofunika kutenga nthawi kuti tidziyang'ane tokha chifukwa zenizeni, timawopa
tokha.
Kuti tisonyeze zofooka zathu, tifotokozere momwe timamvera, zomwe tikufunadi, zonse kuwopa kukanidwa.
Mpaka titadziyang'ana kuti ndife ndani, moyo sudzasintha, ndipo chisangalalo chomwe timafunafuna sichidzabwera.
Pamapeto pake, palibe amene angakhumudwe kuposa inu ngati simukukhala moyo wabwino kwambiri womwe mungakhale. Osati makolo anu, osati anzanu. Ngati chibwenzi cham'mbuyomu sichinali chomwe mumayembekezera, tengani zomwe mwaphunzirazi ndikupita patsogolo.