Zamkati
- 1. Musayembekezere kukhulupiriridwa kukhothi
- 2. Woweruzayo azikugwirani mofanana ndi anzanu
- 3. Chepetsani kulankhulana
- 4. Khazikitsani malire ndikuwamamatira
- 5. Lembani zonse
Mwalakwitsa kukwatiwa ndi bambo wankhanza, mwina mukumva kuti simukukondedwa kapena simukufunidwa muubwenzi wanu. Simumalankhula bwino ndi mnzanu, mwamuna wanu wamwano samakhala ndiudindo pazomwe amachitazo, amadzimva kuti ndi wapamwamba m'banjamo, amakhala wolondola nthawi zonse ndipo samalakwitsa ndipo nthawi zonse amadziyesa kuti sali yemwe.
Mukuganiza momwe mungapulumutsire banja, koma kunena zowona, ukwati wanu sungathe. Chinthu chokhacho choyenera kuchita ndikupanga chisudzulo. Inde, ngakhale ndizodabwitsa, chisudzulo ndiye njira yabwino kwambiri kwa inu.
Anthu ambiri amamvetsetsa, atha kuchita chilichonse kuti apewe kuzenga milandu pazifukwa zosiyanasiyana, kuphatikiza ndalama, kusowa chinsinsi, kuwerengera zosagwirizana pakati pa inu ndi mnzanu, zowawa zomwe zimayambitsa ana ndi abale ena, komanso zoopsa zoyika moyo wanu wonse m'manja mwa munthu wosamudziwa, atakhala pabenchi kutsogolo kwa khothi.
Koma ziyenera kuchitika mwanjira ina, chonchi pali maupangiri ena ofunikira omwe mungafunike kuti muthe kusudzulana kwanu ndi wamtopola.
1. Musayembekezere kukhulupiriridwa kukhothi
Zachidziwikire, kukhothi, pali njira zingapo zomwe mnzanu angagwiritse ntchito kukutsutsani. Nambala imodzi ikupangitsa kuti inu ndi anzanu mukayikire zomwe mukunena.
Koma uyenera kulimba mtima ndikuyesa kufotokoza momveka bwino, ndikukulangiza kuti ukhale ndi bwenzi lomwe limakhulupirira zonse zomwe zili pambali pako. Anthu ochita zachiwerewere amasangalala kukulimbikitsani kuti muyankhe, choncho ndibwino kuti muletse kubwezera kapena kuchitapo kanthu mopanda chidwi pazomwe wanena komanso kuchita.
2. Woweruzayo azikugwirani mofanana ndi anzanu
Khothi ndiloti chilungamo ndi chilungamo.
Woweruzayo azikugwirani ntchito limodzi ndi omwe amakusangalatsani, woweruzayo sadzawona zoyipa za narcissist. Woweruzayo sangaganizire zakuti wakhala akukuzunzani kwa miyezi ingapo kapena zaka, woweruzayo sadzawona mabodza omwe wanena kapena momwe wakhala akukuchitira m'mbuyomu. Chinthu chabwino kwambiri kuchita ndikukhala okonzekera zadzidzidzi zilizonse. Khalani ndi zowona komanso zambiri.
Musaganize, woweruzayo akukonderani pa chifukwa china kapena chimzake. Khalani okonzeka.
3. Chepetsani kulankhulana
Zachidziwikire, mnzanu adzafuna kuchita chilichonse kuti asinthe njira yothetsera banja. Izi zikuphatikiza kukumana nanu ndikuyesera "kukunyengererani" kuti musapitilize chisudzulocho. Akhoza kuyamba "kukulonjezani" kuti asintha.
Koma zonse ndizachinyengo.
Kulimbana ndi anzanu tsiku ndi tsiku kumathetsa mphamvu zanu ndipo kudzakuthandizani kuti musapite patsogolo pazinthu zomwe zimakukhudzani. Kuti mupambane nkhondoyi, muyenera kusiya njira iliyonse yolumikizirana naye. Muyenera kuchotsa kulumikizana kwake, kumuletsa kumaakaunti anu onse azama TV.
Izi ndichifukwa choti kumuletsa kumachotsa mikangano yonse nthawi zonse mukawona mnzanu.
4. Khazikitsani malire ndikuwamamatira
Kuti muthe kusudzulana kwamtundu uliwonse, kukhazikitsa malire kapena malire ndikofunikira. Pali zinthu zomwe muyenera kudziletsa kuti musachite ndipo pali zomwe muyenera kuchita ngati malire awoloka.
Njira yabwino yopewera kukhala masewera pamasewera ake ndikukhazikitsa malire.
Komanso, tsatirani malire, "Ayi" wanu akhale "Ayi". Kuti muthane ndi chisudzulocho ndi mwamuna wanu wankhanza, muyenera kuchita zoposa kungokhazikitsa miyezo koma mukumamatira.
5. Lembani zonse
Monga ndidanenera koyambirira, ma narcissist ndiwo abwino pamasewera amisala. Adzachita zinthu zomwe zingakupangitseni kukayikira kulimba mtima kwanu. Amatha kusintha zomwe muli nazo pomutsutsa. Njira yabwino yolimbirana ndi luso lake lakuwonetsetsa ndikuwonetsetsa kuti mwalemba zonse zomwe zikuchitika ndi amuna anu a narcissist.
Kumbukirani, simudzakumana ndi china chilichonse koma chipwirikiti ndi mavuto mukakwatirana ndi bambo wankhanza. Mwamuna wanu wankhanza sakufuna kutaya mlandu wa chisudzulo kwa inu. Tsatirani malangizo othandizawa momwe mungapambanitsire mukasudzulana ndi mwamuna wankhanza ndikumaliza mavuto anu, kuti muyambirenso.