Zamkati
- Kodi muyenera kuthana nawo bwanji?
- Malamulo awiri osavuta akhoza kukhala oyenera:
- Kumanga chibwenzi chenicheni
“Chikondi chenicheni chimadziwika ndi mmene timamvera. Chikondi chimayenera kumva bwino. Pali mkhalidwe wamtendere wazowona za chikondi zomwe zimalowa mkati mwathu, ndikukhudza gawo lathu lomwe limakhalapo. Chikondi chenicheni chimatsegula umunthu wamkati, ndikutipatsa kutentha ndi kuwala. ” -Mawu achikwati
M'mitima mwathu, izi ndi zomwe timafuna muubwenzi. Izi ndizomwe zimatitanira ife, zomwe zimatisamalira, zomwe zimatilimbikitsa.
Ngakhale titha kudziwa nthawi zamtengo wapatali muubwenzi-atha kukhala omwe adayambitsa chibwenzi poyamba - titha kudziwa nthawi zina pomwe china chake mkati mwathu chimayamba kusokonekera. Moto wa kuyandikira ndi kukondana umayamba kugwetsa zopinga zomwe zili mumitima yathu ndipo mthunzi wathu umatuluka.
Apa ndipomwe maanja amakumana ndi zovuta zogwirira ntchito limodzi ndi zoopsa zomwe zimatha kubisala, kuyembekezera kutseguka, ndikuyembekezera kumasulidwa. Iyi ndi nthawi yomwe maanja akuyenera kupanga chisankho chotenga chibwenzicho ngati chotengera ndi chithu chokulira chauzimu ndi chauzimu. Ndi mphindi yabwino. Ndi mphindi yomwe imakhazikitsa njira yamomwe maanja amagwirira ntchito limodzi mzinthu zakuya zamoyo.
Kodi muyenera kuthana nawo bwanji?
Gawo loyamba ndikuzindikira kuti china chake chayambika, kuti zina mwazomwe zimaponderezedwa ndikumverera mthupi, ndikubweretsa kuzindikira, chikondi ndi kuleza mtima pazomwe zikubwerazi. Nthawi zambiri, maanja amathamangira mwayiwo ndikuyamba kudzitchinjiriza kuti mavuto ena asachitike. Tikhoza kukwiya ndi munthu wina; onetsani zolakwa zawo, ndikuchotsa chidwi chathu kuchokera kuzinthu zathu kupita kuzolakwa.
Malamulo awiri osavuta akhoza kukhala oyenera:
1. “Aliyense amakhala wopenga pachibwenzi. Muyenera kusinthana basi! ” (kuchokera ku Terrence Real)
2. Yang'anirani kumverera ndikumverera m'matupi mwanu.
Kuyesera kukhala paubwenzi wapafupi ndi munthu wina yemwe akuvutika ndi zoopsa (ambiri aife) - makamaka kupsinjika kophatikizika - ndikuwotcha malire athu ndizovuta kwambiri.
A Peter Levine, m'modzi mwa akatswiri odziwa zamisala, akuti, "Kwa anthu ambiri ovulala, thupi lawo lakhala mdani. Kukumana kwadzidzidzi pafupifupi kulikonse kumatanthauzidwa ngati chisonyezero chosadziwika cha mantha atsopano komanso kusowa thandizo. ”
Ngati tikufuna ubale weniweni pomwe tonse tidzawonekere, posakhalitsa tidzayenera kugawana gawo lathu lovulalali ndi anzathu apamtima. Kupanda kutero, chibwenzicho chimawoneka bwino komanso chokhazikika panja koma sichingakakamize. Ndipo zidzamva ngati china chake chosowa chikusowa.
Mnzathu akuyenera kupirira kusinthasintha kwamtchire pakati pa kudzisintha kwathu bwino ndi kudzipweteketsa kwathu-ndi kulephera kwake, mantha komanso ukali. Mnzathu akuyenera kuthana ndi phanga lathu komanso ngozi zomwe zimabwera chifukwa chake - osati munthu wokoma mtima yekha, wokonda zosangalatsa. Pakapita nthawi ndikuzolowera, banja limatha kuphunzira "kulowa kuphanga" limodzi.
Kuti muchite izi, yambani pang'ono. Patulani nthawi yoti mulowe muzochitika zowopsa ndikumverera ndi mnzanuyo. Pewani zinthu. Funsani mnzanuyo ngati akufuna kukhala ndi nthawi yomva zinthu pang'ono pang'ono. Ngakhale titha kuchita izi pochiritsa, tiyeneranso kuphunzira kuchita izi ndi ena-onse ngati njira yopezera chidziwitso komanso njira yakukhalira muubwenzi wokhulupirika. Nthawi zambiri, bala lopweteka limakhala lachibale ndipo kuchira kumayenera kukhala kwachibale. Phunzirani limodzi momwe mungapezere njira yolowera.
Mnzanu waluso amadziwa momwe angakhalire ndi izi zomwe zayambitsidwa. Pezani njira zokhala pafupi koma osayandikira kwambiri, kuti mulankhule koma osachulukirapo. Funsani mnzanuyo kuti alumeko pang'ono za ululu ndikubweranso kudzapereka chidziwitso chakumva mthupi mwawo atakhala pakama. Phunzirani momwe mungadzikonzere nokha ngati simumvetsetsa bwino. Mnzanu, nayenso, akhoza kunena zomwe zikufunika komanso zomwe zimamugwirira ntchito kuti alowe kuphanga kwawo.
Kumanga chibwenzi chenicheni
Kusankha kuphatikiza ululu osati kungosangalala ndi chibwenzi ndikovuta, koma kumatha kukhala kopindulitsa kwambiri ndipo kumatha kupanga ubale weniweni komanso wowona.
Mutha kufunsa, "Chifukwa chiyani padzikoli timachita izi?" Mwachidule, timazichita chifukwa cha chikondi-komanso kudzipereka kwakukulu pakukula. Muthanso kupeza nzeru pazonsezi ndikukhala mzamba pakusintha kosintha.
Komabe mwasankha kuzichita, onetsetsani kuti mwayamba pang'ono ndikusinthana. Tonse tili ndi zinthu zoti tigwire. Ngakhale mutapuma pachibwenzi, mumangobwererana. Nonse awiri mutha kuphunzira momwe mungapezere zomwe mukufuna. Nonse a inu mutha kuwona malo ozama modabwitsa omwe angapangitse ubale wanu kukhala wolimba, olimba mtima komanso ozama m'njira zomwe simunaganizire.
Ndi zomwe ena amatcha njira yachikondi chodziwitsa.