Zamkati
- Chidziwitso cha kulera
- Helikopita
- Kuleredwa
- Kukhazikitsa chitsanzo
- Kunena zofunikira
- Tanthauzo la bwenzi lamoyo
- Momwe mungasinthire chikondi chanu?
Kodi mumakonda kwambiri ndani, ana anu, kapena mnzanu? Kapena ndani amene amabwera woyamba 'wokwatirana naye kapena ana'? Osadandaula kuti muyankhe. M'malingaliro ndi mumtima mwanu, mumadziwa kuti ndi ndani.
Nkhaniyi siyofuna kupeza zabwino kapena zoyipa kuti mupeze yankho lolondola kufunso lomwe laperekedwa pamwambapa. M'malo mwake ndikufotokozera yankho lolondola la chifukwa chomwe muyenera kulingalirira kuyika mnzanu patsogolo, mothandizidwa ndi akatswiri ndi maphunziro padziko lonse lapansi.
Ndiye, ndani amene muyenera kumukonda koposa?
Kuti muyankhe mwamphamvu, ayenera kukhala wokondedwa wanu yemwe akukukondani osati mwana wanu.
Chifukwa chiyani mnzanu ayenera kukhala woyamba? Tiyeni tidutse chimodzi mwaziganizo.
Chidziwitso cha kulera
David Code, mphunzitsi wabanja komanso wolemba "Kuti Tilere Ana Osangalala, Ikani Ukwati Wanu Pamalo Oyamba," akuti china chake chomwe chingasokoneze malingaliro anu opereka chikondi chopanda malire kwa ana anu.
Kuswa zikhulupiriro zakulera M'munsimu muli mfundo zina zomwe zingagwirizane ndi mfundo yakuti "kukonda kwambiri mnzako".
Helikopita
Chisamaliro chowonjezera chomwe chimaperekedwa kwa ana poyerekeza ndi wokwatirana sichingatenge nthawi kukhala helikopita. Mukamapereka malo m'moyo wa mnzanu, payenera kukhala malo mu moyo wa ana anu.
Mukamachita zambiri ndi mnzanuyo zochitika za tsiku ndi tsiku, m'pamenenso ana anu ayamba kuyang'ana momwe alili.
Kuleredwa
Chikhulupiriro nchakuti, ana amafunikira mawonekedwe ambiri kumapeto kwanu kuti akhale anthu achimwemwe komanso abwinoko. Pomwe vuto lakukhumudwa kwamaganizidwe likugunda, zikuwonekeratu kuti nthano iyi ikutsogolera mwana wanu kukhala wosauka komanso wodalira m'malo mokhala wosangalala.
Kuchitira ana anu ngati chisankho chachiwiri ndizopanda lingaliro lodzikonda; ndi chifukwa cha thanzi lawo komanso thanzi lawo.
Kukhazikitsa chitsanzo
Ana amatsatira zomwe amawona, kaya ndi mafashoni, malankhulidwe, kapena ulemu. Ichi ndichifukwa chake makolo ena amapita amapasa ndi ana awo, kuti agawane ubale ndikuphunzitsanso mawonekedwe ena ndikupanga chizindikiro cha ubale wawo.
Kukhazikitsa chitsanzo cha moyo wachikondi kapena kulumikizana ndi mnzanu ndi zomwe adzatsatire nthawi ina m'moyo.
Sayenera kuwona maukwati osweka komanso kuwonongeka kwa mabanja. Kulemekeza, kukonda ndi kuyika mnzanu patsogolo ndiye chomwe chingakhale chitsanzo chabwino cha ubwenzi.
Kunena zofunikira
Mukamauza ana anu zinthu zofunika kuchita mofuula, ana amamva kuti banja lomwe ali nawo silimasweka.
Ambiri mwa Mabanja omwe akutsogolera kusudzulana samafotokoza momwe akumvera ndi kuyika ntchito iliyonse yosafunikira pamwamba paukwati wawo wosweka.
Kupatula ana, mukafotokozera zomwe mumakonda ndi manja ang'onoang'ono okonda mnzanu, pamakhala lingaliro lokwanira m'banja.
Tanthauzo la bwenzi lamoyo
Zomwe alangizi a mabanja ndi ophunzitsa za moyo akhala akulangiza ndikulimbikitsa kwa zaka zambiri kuti "Pezani cholinga, cholinga kapena chochita chomwe chimapangitsa banja lanu kukhala lofunika."
Musanawerenge mafunso enanso, muyenera kubweretsa kutsogolo kwanu. Bwanji osaganizira za mwana ngati chifukwa choti azikhalira limodzi?
Nchifukwa chiyani mumapanga chinthu chokhacho chofunikira pamoyo wanu? Bwanji osakhala gulu limodzi? Kupatula apo, wadutsa zaka zanu zapakati, wokondedwa wanu ndiye yekhayo amene adzakuthandizani.
Kodi sizikumveka zosangalatsa? Chabwino, tiyeni titenge lingaliro lina.
Karl Pillemer, wochokera ku Yunivesite ya Cornell, adafunsa mabanja 700 za "Maphunziro 30 Okonda Kukonda".
Iye anati m'buku lake, "Zinali zodabwitsa kuti ndi ochepa chabe mwa iwo omwe amakumbukira nthawi yomwe amakhala okha ndi wokondedwa wawo - ndi zomwe adataya.
Mobwerezabwereza, anthu amabwerera ku chikumbumtima ali ndi zaka 50 kapena 55 ndipo sangathe kupita kumalo odyera ndikukakambirana ".
Tsopano, izi zitha kumveka zowopsa mukamawerenga, koma zimamva kuwawa kwambiri m'moyo wamtsogolo, wosungulumwa, komanso wopanda pake.
Chifukwa chake Chinsinsi cha banja losangalala ndikuika mnzanu patsogolo. Ngati mutha kusungitsa ubale wabwino ndi mnzanu, kulera ana kumakhala kosavuta ngati mgwirizano wamagulu onse awiri.
Ndikanena kuti gulu, zimandibweretsa ku nkhani ina yomwe iyenera kuyankhidwa. Okwatirana samangokhala mamembala amtimu paulendo wanu wamoyo; ndi okondedwa anu komanso anzanu omwe mwasankha kukhala nawo moyo wanu wonse.
Ana ndi zotsatira za chisankhochi, chifukwa chake, muyenera kuumiriza kuyika mnzanu patsogolo pa ana anu.
Momwe mungasinthire chikondi chanu?
Ngati mukuvutikirabe kusanja chikondi chanu pakati pa mwana ndi mnzanu, mutha kuyenda ndi magawo aana.
Kuika mnzanu pamalo oyamba n'kosavuta. Zomwe mukufunikira ndikuwachitira monga momwe mumawachitira ali pachibwenzi / bwenzi lanu.
Ana anu adzawona ubale wathanzi ukuuluka maluwa m'nyumba zawo, ndikupangitsa kuti akhale ndi moyo wabwino.
Moyo ndi wotanganidwa masiku ano, makamaka ngati muli ndi ana, kotero ngakhale zodabwitsa zazing'ono ndi manja zingapangitse banja lanu kuyenda bwino.
Simukuyenera kuganiza za mutu womwe mungakambirane ngati mukugawana kale malingaliro anu pazomwe mukukumana nazo.
Ukwati ndikukhala ndi ana sizitanthauza kuti muyenera kusiya kuthandizana wina ndi mnzake.
Poganizira gawo la chikondi la ana. Ayeneradi kupeza chisamaliro mwachangu, chifukwa tsiku lililonse ali achichepere ndilofunikira pamoyo wawo wamtsogolo.
Chidwi ndi chikondi chomwe tidakambirana pano chili ngati zoyeserera zazitali, zokhazikika komanso zopitilira muyeso zomwe muyenera kupereka ku banja lanu, koma zomwe ana amafuna ndizofupikitsa, kungothana ndi mavuto omwe amakhala nawo nthawi yomweyo.
Landirani chisankho chovuta choyika mnzanu pamaso pa mwana wanu potengera chikondi ndi chidwi chanu. Njira yake, imagwira ntchito!