Zamkati
- 1. Pezani uphungu
- 2. Gwiritsani ntchito nthawi ya "ine"
- 3. Pangani malire
- 4. Dzipatseni nokha nthawi
- 5. Ktsopano zomwe mukutsutsana nazo
Kodi chimachitika ndi chiyani mpaka "mpaka imfa itatilekanitse" sizikuyenda monga momwe timafunira?
Aliyense ali wodzipereka ku mawu amenewo patsiku laukwati wawo, koma nthawi zina moyo umasokonekera.
Kusakhulupirika, mavuto azachuma, zoopsa, kapena kungopatukana; Pali zifukwa zambiri zomwe banja lobala zipatso lingasinthe pakapita nthawi.
Izi zikachitika, banjali liyenera kupanga chisankho. Mutha kuyesetsa kukonza ubale wanu ndikuyesera kusunga banja lanu, kapena mutha kupita kunjira zosiyana.
Ndi chisankho chomwe chimalemetsa mabanja ambiri omwe akukumana ndi zovuta kapena ziwiri. Ngati angasankhe kupatukana, kumatha kukhala kusintha kochititsa mantha kuchokera m'moyo womwe adadziwa.
Mosasamala kanthu za mavuto aukwati, miyoyo ya okwatirana omwe akukhudzidwa ndi yolukanalukana kwambiri; ndi kovuta kumasula mfundo ndikupeza zomwe zikubwera.
Ena safuna kudumpha kuchokera m'banja lomwe linali losangalala mpaka kusudzulana monyinyirika. Monga banja lenilenilo, chisudzulo ndichinthu chachikulu muubwenzi ndi moyo. Iyenera kuganiziridwa mozama ndikuwunikidwa mbali zonse.
M'malo mongothamangira kusankha kosudzulana, mwina ndi bwino kupatukana kwakanthawi ndikuwona ngati mungagwiritse ntchito kupatukako kupulumutsa banja lanu.
Kutenga njira yobwerera kuchokera ku vutoli ndikupeza malo wina ndi mnzake kungakhale yankho lomwe banja likufunikira.
Kupita patsogolo, tibweza nsalu yotchinga ndikuwona zinthu 5 zomwe muyenera kudziwa momwe mungapulumutsire banja lanu nthawi yopatukana. Itha kukhala chida chothandiza kupulumutsa ukwati ngati wachitidwa moyenera.
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1. Pezani uphungu
Ngati mukufuna kugwiritsa ntchito mwayi wopatukana kuti mukonze ukwati wanu ndikuwongolera banja lanu kwa nthawi yayitali, ndiye kuti wothandizira kapena mlangizi akufunika tsopano kuposa kale.
Atha kuthana ndi mavuto am'mabanja onse, koma amatha kuzindikira zovuta zambiri bwino chifukwa chakuchita bwino.
Komanso, ndi malo oti mukhale omasuka komanso owona mtima momwe mumamvera. Ngati mwasankha kupatukana, mulibe chilichonse choti mutaye. Ndi "mary wa matalala" m'banja lanu.
Gwiritsani ntchito malo otetezeka a ofesi yothandizira kuyika zonse patebulo ndikuwona ngati mungapeze njira yobwererana.
2. Gwiritsani ntchito nthawi ya "ine"
Chimodzi mwazifukwa zomwe mwina inu ndi mnzanu mungasiyane ndichakuti nonsenu simunalumikizane zomwe zimakupangitsani kukhala osangalala payekhapayekha.
Pali chisangalalo chofanana muukwati, komabe pakufunika kukhala matumba achimwemwe.
Ngati mumakonda mabuku azithunzithunzi musanakwatirane, koma simunatolepo kanthu kuyambira mabelu achikwati alira, fumbi kamodzi ndikuwone.
Ngati mumakonda kuchita zisudzo mdera lanu, koma mwakukankhira kumbali chifukwa chaukwati wanu, onani ngati ali ndi mayeso omwe akubwera.
Chifukwa chake, if mukusiyana kuti mupulumutse banja lanu, kambiranani ndi zomwe zidakupatsani moyo musanagawane moyo wanu ndi mnzanu.
Onetsetsani zomwe mumakonda kuchita. Ngati mukufuna kuti mudzidziwitsenso nokha, mutha kuzindikira kuti kusowa kwa zomwe mumachita ndi zomwe zimapangitsa banja lanu kukhala lopweteka.
Anthu awiri amatha kukhala limodzi muukwati wokondana komanso kukhala ndi zokonda zawo komanso zokonda zawo. Ngati munaika zokonda zanu kalekale, gwiritsani ntchito nthawi ino yopatukana kuti mupezenso. "Ine" wabwino amapanga "ife" abwinoko. Nthawi zonse.
3. Pangani malire
Kodi mungapulumutse bwanji banja langa nthawi yopatukana?
Ngati inu ndi mnzanu mwaganiza kuti kupatukana ndi njira yabwino kwambiri kwa inu, chitani moona mtima.
Pangani malire omwe angawonetse kupatukana kwenikweni wina ndi mnzake. Mupatsane chipinda choyenera chopumira chomwe kupatukana kumafunikira.
Pangani zisankho zokhudzana ndi omwe ati akakhale. Onetsani momveka bwino zomwe mudzachite nonse za ndalama zanu komanso maakaunti anu akubanki.
Ndikulangiza kuti ndiwatseke kapena kuwaziziritsa; kulekana kodzaza ndi zotsutsana kumatha kukhetsa akaunti yakubanki mwachangu. Ngati muli ndi ana, sankhani komwe azidzakhala komanso nthawi yomwe azikhala ndi kholo lililonse.
Mfundo ndi iyi: ngati mungasankhe kupatukana kuti mupulumutse banja lanu, chitani zomwezo. Mukayang'ana uku ndi uku, simudziwa ngati zingagwire ntchito. Payenera kukhala kusiyana ndi momwe mumagwirira ntchito.
Ngati simulemekeza kusintha komwe mukuyesa kuyambitsa m'banja lanu, sipadzakhala zosintha pazotsatira zaukwatiwo.
4. Dzipatseni nokha nthawi
Kodi kupatukana kungapulumutse banja?
Mukasankha kupatukana ndi mnzanu, kaya mwalamulo kapena mwamwayi, perekani tsiku lomaliza lomaliza.
M'malo mongonena kuti, "Ndikuganiza kuti tisiyane," nenani, "Ndikuganiza kuti tiyenera kupatukana kwa miyezi isanu ndi umodzi kenako ndikusankha komwe banja ili likupita."
Popanda mzere mu malingaliro, mutha kupita zaka zambiri musanayang'anenso nkhani zaukwati. Udindo wa "olekanitsidwa" ukhoza kukhala kwa miyezi kapena zaka.
Pakapita kanthawi, chimakhala chikhalidwe chaubwenzi wanu, ndikupangitsa kukhala kovuta kuyanjananso. Patsani kulekana komanso tsiku lomaliza kupatukana kwanu kuti inu ndi mnzanu muchitepo kanthu mozama komanso mwachangu.
Onaninso: Kodi kulekana ndi mnzanu kungathandize kupulumutsa banja lanu.
5. Ktsopano zomwe mukutsutsana nazo
Ngati mukugwiritsa ntchito kupatukana ngati chida chothandizira kupulumutsa banja lanu ndipo mwachiyembekezo ndikukonza ukwati wanu, dziwani za chiwerengerochi: malinga ndi kafukufuku yemwe adachitika ku Ohio State University, 79% ya magawano amathetsa banja.
Izi sizitanthauza kuti ndizosatheka kugwiritsa ntchito kupatukana kwanu kukonza ndi kupulumutsa banja lanu; zimangotanthauza kuti mwadulidwa ntchito.
Onetsetsani kuti mukuchita khama mukasankha kupatukana. Pitani ku ofesi yothandizira. Ikani malire amenewo. Sangalalani ndi nthawi yanu "ine". Patulani nthawi yopatukana kwanu.
Musatenge nthawi ino m'moyo wanu mopepuka. Anthu ena amalekanitsidwa kwa zaka zambiri osagwiritsa ntchito nthawiyo kuyesa kukonza zomwe achokapo.
Ngati ndichifukwa chake mukuchoka kaye, khalani osamala za nthawi yomwe mumasiyana. Gwiritsani ntchito kuti mumange maziko olimba pamene inu ndi chikondi cha moyo wanu mudzapeza njira yobwererana.