Zamkati
- Yesetsani kukumana ndi anthu m'zochitika zenizeni
- Khalani anzanu poyamba
- Musalole kuti malingaliro "osweka" asokoneze malingaliro anu
- Mukayamba kuda nkhawa kwambiri, ganizirani chinthu chotsatira
Intaneti yasintha mawonekedwe azibwenzi, ndipo chibwenzi lero chikuwoneka chosiyana kwambiri ndi chibwenzi zaka 15 zapitazo. Funsani aliyense yemwe sanakwatirane zaka 15 zapitazo kuti adakumana bwanji ndi anzawo, ndipo afotokoza malo okhala monga ntchito, sukulu, tchalitchi kapena kudzera mwa anzawo. Yerekezerani izi ndi chiwerengerochi kuyambira 2017, pomwe akwatibwi 19% amawauza kuti amakumana ndi akazi awo kudzera pa pulogalamu ya zibwenzi pa intaneti.
Masamba azibwenzi pano amakhala, ndipo nthawi zambiri amakhala poyambira koyamba kwa anthu osakwatira akamalowa (kapena kulowa) mdziko lachikondi. Pali zabwino zambiri pamasamba awa, makamaka kuti amapereka kusankha kosiyanasiyana kwa anthu osiyanasiyana omwe mungakumane nawo. Chosowa chofunikira pamasamba awa, komabe, ndikuti atha kutsogolera ogwiritsa ntchito kukhulupirira kuti pali "nthawi zonse wina wabwino woti akomane naye swipe yotsatira", kulimbikitsa maubale azanthawi yayitali, chiwerewere komanso kusakhulupirika.
Kukhazikika kwa ubale-kotero kumangopitilira, chifukwa lingaliro la ubale wokhazikika komanso wolimba limawoneka ngati losavuta pomwe ndikosavuta kutulutsa foni ndikuwona zithunzi zokongola za anthu ena, kungoyembekezera kuti tinene kuti "Ndine chidwi ”ndikumasambira moyenerera.
Ngati mukufuna kupewa kukhala mgulu lazokambirana zomwe zingachitike, yesani malangizo awa:
Yesetsani kukumana ndi anthu m'zochitika zenizeni
Mutha kusungabe mbiri yanu kukhala yogwira nawo masamba omwe mumawakonda, koma onjezerani izi ndi machitidwe apadziko lonse lapansi. Khalani otenga nawo mbali pamoyo wanu, kupita kumisonkhano, kuchita ntchito zongodzipereka, kuthandiza anzawo kapena anthu ena omwe akusowa thandizo, ndikukhalanso mdziko lapansi.
Mwayi wanu wowoloka njira ndi omwe mungakondane naye wakula, ndipo mudzakhala ndi chidwi chodziwika kale mukakumana ndikuchita zomwe nonse mumakonda kuchita, osati mwachisawawa pa intaneti. Chifukwa mudzakhala ndi mwayi wowonera munthuyu zenizeni, m'malo mokhala ndi intaneti pomwe pali zocheperako momwe mungawamasulire, mudzakhala ndi mwayi wabwino wodziwa momwe alili, momwe kucheza ndi ena, ndipo ngati zikuwoneka zosangalatsa, zazikulu, zoyenera pamakhalidwe komanso zokhazikika. Mukakhala pachibwenzi pamsonkhano wanu, pamakhala mizu yolimba yomwe imachepetsa mwayi wowona kuyambika kwa chibwenzi kumayamba ndi munthuyu.
Khalani anzanu poyamba
Mabanja ambiri olimba, ngakhale omwe adakumana kudzera pa intaneti, angakuwuzeni kuti gawo limodzi lolimba ndikuti adayamba kucheza asanakwatirane mpaka pachibwenzi. Maubwenzi apanthawi yayitali amachokera kuimidwe ya usiku umodzi; amenewo amakhala oti nthawi zambiri amakumana ndi mavuto — kutha kwa chibwenzi. Chifukwa chake tengani nthawi yanu kumudziwa bwenzi lanu latsopano.
Chitirani zinthu limodzi zakunja, kuti musayesedwe kukangogona nthawi yoyamba. Munthawi yoyambira kukudziwani, mudzakhala ndi mwayi wowonera. Mukuyang'ana mawonekedwe, umunthu monga kumvera ena chisoni, maluso olumikizirana komanso ngati ali osangalala. Ganizirani pakupanga maziko abwino aubwenzi. Izi zithandizira ubalewo chifukwa kumakhala kovuta kutha ndi munthu amene mumakondana naye ngati mnzanu, ndipo kukomoka kumapeto kwake kumakhala kwabwino mukangokhala thupi, muzichita ndi munthu amene mumamuyamikira komanso mukudziwa.
Musalole kuti malingaliro "osweka" asokoneze malingaliro anu
Tikakhala m'masiku oyamba abwenzi, timakonda kupembedza zomwe timakonda ndikuziwona ngati munthu wabwino kwambiri kuposa wina aliyense amene adakhalapo padziko lapansi. Chilichonse chimayang'ana mokongola komanso mokongola; alibe zizolowezi zoipa, zopsa mtima pakadali pano. Yesetsani kubwerera ndikugwiritsa ntchito malingaliro anu anzeru pamene mukuyandikira kwa munthuyu kuti muwone momwe alili: munthu wofanana ndi inu, ndi zolakwa zonse, zofooka komanso kusakhazikika komwe tonse timagawana.
Ngati munganyalanyaze gawo lawo, mutha kulowa pachibwenzi popanda kugwiritsa ntchito mutu wanu, ndipo izi zitha kupititsa patsogolo njira yolumikizira yomwe mukufuna kupewa.
Mukayamba kuda nkhawa kwambiri, ganizirani chinthu chotsatira
Tsopano mwafika povuta kwambiri muubwenzi wanu, pomwe mungadzichepetse kapena kupita chitsogolo: kukula. Ngati panthawi yopangaubwenzi mutha kuwona zomwe mukudziwa kuti simungatenge mwa munthu ameneyu, ino ndiye nthawi yoti mupatukane. Ngati, komabe, mumakonda zomwe mumawona mwa iwo, ino ndiyo nthawi yolimbitsa kulumikizana kwanu ndi munthuyu.
Iyi ndiye gawo pomwe maanja ambiri amayambitsanso zogonana mbanja. Ngati mukuganiza izi, dzifunseni ngati mwakhala ndi chibwenzi chokwanira kuti mupewe kutha kwa banja. Zonsezi zimabweretsa ubale wodzipereka. Apa ndipomwe inu ndi mnzanu mudzakhazikitse, kudzera pa luso lanu loyankhulana bwino, zokambirana zabwino komanso zokambirana zapakatikati, zomwe mukufuna kuti mukhale limodzi muubwenzi wokhazikika, wokhazikika. Mumachitapo kanthu ndikuchotsa mapulogalamu azibwenzi, ndipo mumakhazikitsa gawo laubwenzi wanu wonse.
Chifukwa mwatenga nthawi yanu, mukuyenda pang'onopang'ono koma pang'onopang'ono, mukudziwa kuti uyu ndiye: munthu yemwe simudzayanjananso ndi vuto lokhalanso ndi chibwenzi.