Zamkati
Imodzi mwatsoka lofala kwambiri masiku ano ndi m'masiku apita - chikondi. Khalani osafunsidwa kapena ogwirizana; chikondi ndi chimodzi mwazomverera zochepa - ngati sichomverera - zomwe zimakupweteketsani kumapeto.
Tonse tidaziwona m'makanema ndipo tidazimva mu nyimbo; chikondi ndimotani chikhumbo choyaka moto chomwe chimang'amba mtima wako, chowira magazi, ndipo changotsala pang'ono kulowa kuphompho ndipo dziko lapansi lidzagwa litizungulira.
Pomwe aliyense amene watizungulira amakhala wosangalala pang'ono, nyimbo zimamvekanso, dziko lowala komanso lokongola; pomwe zina zofunika kwambiri zitha kuneneratu komwe muli kapena zomwe mukufuna, kapena mutha kuwerenga malingaliro anu pazomwe mukufuna kuti achite.
Mwachidule, chilichonse ndi chithunzi changwiro; ndipo tisaiwale mawu omwe adatchulidwa kale, 'ndipo onse amakhala mosangalala mpaka pano.'
Zoona ndizosiyana kwambiri
Vuto mdziko lamasiku ano ndilakuti mbalame zachinyamata zachinyamata zatengera makanema ndi nthano pang'ono pamtima, ndipo amakhulupirira kapena akuyembekezera kudzimva kosokoneza kwa dziko lapansi kuti kubwere padziko lapansi.
Mbalame zamakono zachikondi zimaganiza kuti mwina atha kufika pamtendere kapena mwaubwenzi monga momwe amawonera mabanja otsogola m'makanema akuchita kwakanthawi kochepa.
Zomwe sakudziwa ndikuti nkhani zachikondi m'makanema adapangidwa kuti azikhala mkati mwa malire a nthawi yoyerekeza, mwachitsanzo maola awiri kapena awiri ndi theka. Chifukwa chake, mbalame zachikondi zamakono sizimachedwa kuchitapo kanthu ndipo nthawi yomweyo zimataya chikondi, ndipo zimachita chinthu chotsatira, zimatumiza mawu opweteka pama media azama TV ndikuyesera kupitiliza.
Ndiye, pamtengo wa zonsezi, chikondi chenicheni ndi chiyani? Kodi zonsezi ndi zabodza? Kodi sitingamvekenso kukhala ndi chikondi chenicheni? Kodi ndi za makanema okha? Kapena kodi tiyenera kuima pamzere wa onse kusiya chikondi ndi kuchita chimodzimodzi? Kodi tiyenera kunena adieu ndikutsatira omwe akufuna kusiya zibwenzi komanso maubale?
Kumvetsetsa chikondi chenicheni
Chimodzi mwazinthu zomwe zimawonetsedwa ndikuwonetsedwa bwino ndizolakwika za chikondi.
M'mafilimu, awiriwo atayamba kukondana, amakondana, amayimba nyimbo, amapita kokayenda, amakwatirana, samangokhalira kukangana kapena kutsutsana, kenako mawu oti, 'ndipo amakhala mosangalala nthawi zonse' . Komabe, monga tanenera kale, ubale weniweni ndiwopambana.
Zimatengera kugwira ntchito, kukoma mtima, kuleza mtima, kudzipereka, kunyengerera, ndikuwongolera mozama; kusiya chikondi sichinthu chofunikira. Nthawi zina mumayenera kupirira mphepo yamkuntho ndikukhala munthu woyipa pomwe simunachite cholakwika chilichonse chifukwa chofunikira kwambiri; kukhala wolondola kapena kukhala ndi amene wagwira mtima wako?
Kukhala mchikondi ndikumverera konse, inde, koma kuchitapo kanthu kwakukulu kumaphatikizidwanso momwemo.
Mukudziwa kuti muyenera kukhala odalirika, omvera, omvera bwino, okhoza kukamba zokambirana. Pali zambiri zomwe zimafunikira kwa inu mukafuna kukhala pachibwenzi.
Ndipo kuyesa kwenikweni kwa ubale kapena kukondana kumabwera pakakhala kusagwirizana. Ndewu zitha kupanga kapena kuswa chibwenzi.
Kudalira, chikondi, ndi chithandizo ndiwo matabwa atatu omwe amakhala maziko a tsogolo lanu lonse.
Chifukwa chake yesetsani kukhala pachibwenzi chanu ndipo yesetsani kukhala munthu amene mnzanuyo akumufuna, ndipo musataye nthawi polemba zikwangwani zosalimbikitsa kutaya chikondi pazanema kapena mavesi aku bible osataya chikondi.
Sizovuta konse
Ntchito yomwe chiyanjano chimafunikira sizitanthauza kuti simukuyenera kukhala; Ndizovuta kapena zovuta, kapena zowononga zonse chifukwa ndizofunika. Ndewu, mikangano, kusagwirizana, zimakuphunzitsani zomwe wokondedwa wanu ali.
Amakuphunzitsani zamalingaliro awo, momwe akumvera, zokhumba zawo, ndi mtima wawo. Mwachidule, mphindi iliyonse yomwe mumagwiritsa ntchito ndi chidwi chanu ndikuphunzitsani kena kake za iwo - amadzitsanulira kuti muwone ndikutenganso, muyenera kudziwa komwe mungayang'ane.
Tinthu tating'ono tomwe titha kukuthandizani kuti mukhale ndi malingaliro abwinoko pokhudzana ndi kukondana ndi dziko lenileni, chifukwa chake simuyenera kuganiza zongosiya posachedwa kukonda bambo:
- Ntchito yopambana sikutanthauza kuti mutha kungotenga mwayi wanu wina waukulu.
- Chilichonse chomwe mungachite, musaganize. Moyo ndiwofupikitsa, kotero kuti sungatsogolere ndikukhala kunyumba ndikuganiza kuti ngati.
- Lekani kukayikira nokha, ena ofunika, ndi chikondi chanu. Mwafika patali pano; mufika pamapeto choncho kanikizani malingaliro onse oti mupewe chikondi.
- Wina akayamba kukondana, amakhala ali pachiwopsezo chachikulu. Thandizani wina ndi mnzake kukula ndikumvetsetsa kupezeka kwa wina ndi mnzake ndi zosowa m'malo motaya chikondi nthawi yomweyo.
Osataya chikondi
Pambuyo pa mayesero ndi masautso onse, chinthu chimodzi ndichotsimikizika; palibe kumverera kwabwino kuposa kukondedwa.
Kukondedwa ndi winawake ndikumverera kokongola kwambiri padziko lapansi. Muli ndi mnzanu muupandu, wina amene angakuthandizeni, kukusamalirani, kukhala phewa lanu kulira, ndi chilichonse chomwe mungafune kuti akhale. Mgwirizano wamtunduwu, ngakhale ndizovuta kupanga, koma ndiyofunika kudikirira ndikugwira ntchito.
Chifukwa chake, mbalame zachikondi zazing'ono, musaganize zosiya kusiya kupeza chikondi pachiyambi; ndikungoyima chabe.