Zamkati
- 1. Yesetsani kukonzanso malingaliro anu
- 2. Yesetsani kulingalira bwino
- 3. Yesetsani kulankhulana kwanu
Zingakhale zovuta kukhulupirira kuti chisangalalo ndi chisankho chomwe mungapange. Anthu ena ali ndi malingaliro akuti momwe timakhudzidwira ndi momwe zinthu ziliri ndi zachilengedwe ndipo popeza nthawi zambiri sitisankha momwe zinthu zilili, zomwe timachita zimangokhala kuyankha pamikhalidwe.
Moyo umadzaza ndi zokumana nazo, zina zomwe zimatha kupereka chisangalalo chosaneneka pomwe zina zimakhala zachisoni. Ngakhale kuti nthawi zina simungasinthe momwe zinthu zilili, mutha kusintha momwe mungayankhire. Malingaliro omwe mumakhudza mwachindunji momwe mumamvera. Kuti musinthe malingaliro anu pazinthu zina muyenera kuganizira momwe mumaganizira. Ichi ndichinthu chomwe chimafunika kuchita, nthawi ndi khama. Kuphatikiza apo, ndi luso lomwe mumapanga lomwe limatanthauza kuti mumatha kuligwiritsa bwino ntchito. Ubwino wa mchitidwewu umaposa ntchito yomwe ikupezeka pakusintha momwe mukuganizira kuti mumve mosiyana. Zinthu zina zothandiza kudziwa momwe mungasankhire chisangalalo chanu komanso pamapeto pake ubale wanu.
1. Yesetsani kukonzanso malingaliro anu
Momwe timaganizira zazinthu zimakhudza momwe timamvera. Ubongo umathandizira kupweteka kwam'maganizo ndi kuthupi mofananamo. Izi zikutanthauza kuti ngakhale ululu utachoka, kukumbukira ululu kumakhalapobe. Muubongo, kupweteka kwa mwendo wosweka ndi kuwawa kwa mtima wosweka kumagawana gawo lomwelo. Ngakhale zokumana nazo zina (kapena anthu) zitha kupewedwa zina sizimapewa mosavuta.
Tengani nthawi kuti muwunike ndikusinthanso momwe mumaganizira zazomwe mwakumana nazo komanso ubale wabwino pamoyo wanu. Kusinthanso kumatanthauza kuzindikira malingaliro anu osathandiza ndikuwasintha ndi ena abwino kapena osinthika. Zochitikazo sizikusintha koma momwe mumaganizira ndi momwe mumamvera za iwo zingasinthe. Kodi muli ndi malingaliro oyenera komanso osinthika? Kapena kodi malingaliro anu amadzikongoletsa okha, opanda nzeru kapena owoneka ndi mkwiyo? Mukayamba kuganiza mosiyana, mudzamva mosiyana. Poganiza mwanjira zathanzi komanso zaphindu mukusankhadi chisangalalo ndi mtendere.
2. Yesetsani kulingalira bwino
Pakati paubwenzi wanu, pakhoza kukhala zinthu zina zomwe wokondedwa wanu amachita kapena kunena zomwe mumaona kuti ndizovuta kapena mwakhala nazo zovuta pachibwenzi chanu. Mutha kukhala oganiza bwino munthawizi kuti muongolere malingaliro anu. Kulingalira ndi mkhalidwe wachidwi komanso wachidwi pakadali pano. Kukhazikika kwa malingaliro kumatha kukulolani kuti muchepetse zomwe mungachite mukakwiya kapena kukhumudwitsa mnzanu. Mabanja omwe amakhala oganiza bwino amakhala ndi maubwenzi okhutira pamene samenyera nkhondo pang'ono, samadzitchinjiriza ndipo amakhala moyandikana.
3. Yesetsani kulankhulana kwanu
Kukhala ndi kulankhulana momasuka komanso moona mtima kumabweretsa mwayi wocheperana, kumvetsetsa zosowa za wina ndi mnzake komanso kulumikizana kwakukulu. Kulephera kulumikizana ndi chifukwa chodziwika cha kulephera kwa maubwenzi komanso kusakhutira.
Nthawi zambiri atakhala pachibwenzi ndi wina kwa nthawi yayitali, maanja amakonda kupanga lingaliro loti momwe akumvera ndi zosowa zawo ziyenera kumvetsedwa wina ndi mnzake ndipo sizifunikira kufotokozedwa. Ngakhale izi zitha kukhala choncho kwa maanja ena kapena nthawi zina, wokondedwa wanu samatha kuwerenga malingaliro kapena amayenera kudziwa zinthu zonse nthawi zonse. Chimenecho si chiyembekezo chanzeru ndipo chifukwa chotere kukhumudwitsidwa ndi zosowa zosakwaniritsidwa kumatha kuchitika. Khalani olankhulana momasuka omwe alibe chiweruzo komanso othandizira. Zosowa zanu ndi malingaliro anu amatha kusintha ndipo sizimachitika pakapita nthawi.
Mwa kuphatikiza njira zitatu izi, mutha kuwonjezera mwayi wanu wolumikizana bwino ndi mnzanuyo mwakukulitsa kukondana kwanu kwakuthupi ndi kwakuthupi. Chimwemwe chanu chimadalira kwambiri malingaliro anu kuposa momwe zimakhalira kunja.
Apa ndikupanga chisangalalo chanu kukhala patsogolo komanso udindo wanu!