Zamkati
- Kodi ubwenzi ndi chiyani?
- Kodi kukhala paubwenzi wabwino ndi chiyani?
- 1. Kusamvetsetsa
- 2. Kuzunzidwa kapena kukhudzana msanga ndi kugonana
- 3. Kugonana
- 4. Kukondana Kwambiri
- Kuchita ndi vutoli
Ndi Kasupe - ndipo nyengo yaukwati yatifikira! Anthu osangalala omwe ali pachibwenzi apeza chikondi chawo chenicheni, ndipo ali ndi chidwi chokhala paubwenzi wapamtima. Komabe, nthawi yokondwerera ukwati itatha, okwatirana ambiri amapeza kuti chibwenzi chimathawa.
Ngakhale kukondana ndikofunikira m'banja lachimwemwe, ambiri aife zimawavuta kufotokoza ndikulingalira. Kukondana kumatanthauza zinthu zosiyanasiyana kwa anthu osiyanasiyana, ndipo si mawu omwe timagwiritsa ntchito pafupipafupi.
Kodi ubwenzi ndi chiyani?
Kukondana kumatanthauzidwa ngati: ubale wapamtima, wodziwika, wachikondi komanso wachikondi; chidziwitso chatsatanetsatane kapena kumvetsetsa kwakuya kwa china chake; Kukhala womasuka, wofunda, kapena wodziwa wina.
Ubwenzi wapabanja umaphatikizapo kudziwika pamagulu onse: thupi, malingaliro, malingaliro, chikhalidwe, zauzimu komanso zogonana. Kukondana kumabweretsa ndipo kumafuna kukhulupirirana ndi kuvomerezana. Imeneyi ndi njira yothandiza kuti mukhale ndi “umodzi” m'banja lanu.
Kodi izi sizikumveka ngati zomwe banja lililonse limayembekezera kumayambiriro kwa ulendo wawo limodzi? Zowonadi, chimodzi mwa zisangalalo zaukwati ndi mwayi wokulitsa ndi kusamalira ubale wabwino.
Nanga ndichifukwa chiyani ambiri a ife timavutika kupeza mtundu waubwenzi womwe timafuna?
Kodi kukhala paubwenzi wabwino ndi chiyani?
Ndawona zoyipa zinayi zoyambira kukhazikitsa ubale wapabanja. Akadziwika, maanja amatha kuthana nawo.
Nazi zinthu zina zomwe zingakulepheretseni kusangalala kwambiri ndi mnzanu.
1. Kusamvetsetsa
“Kukondana” nthawi zambiri amagwiritsidwa ntchito molakwika mofananamo ndi liwu loti "kugonana," ndipo kutero kumapangitsa kuti okwatirana azinyalanyaza zomwe sizogonana, koma zofunikira mofanana.
Ubwenzi wathanzi umakhazikitsidwa kudzera muubwenzi wolimbitsa thupi, wamalingaliro, wauzimu komanso wamaganizidwe.
Kusazindikira komanso kufotokozera zabodza zakukondana kumakulitsidwanso ndi ziwonetsero zosayenera za chibale chawayilesi pazanema.
Kumapeto kwake kwa media yolimbikitsidwa ndi chilakolako ndikumverera kwazomwe zimazungulira kugonana. Ambiri aife tinalibe makolo omwe amadziwa kuyankhula nafe za kugonana, osatinso zaubwenzi. Kapenanso, mwina tangokhala kuti sitinatengere anthu oyenera maubwenzi apabanja athu kuchokera kwa makolo athu.
2. Kuzunzidwa kapena kukhudzana msanga ndi kugonana
Pafupifupi, mwana m'modzi mwa anyamata asanu ndi awiri amagwiriridwa ali ana. Kwa atsikana, chiwerengerocho chimakhala pafupifupi 1 mpaka 4 mwa ana. Ana omwe nthawi yoyamba kugonana amakakamizidwa, kukakamizidwa kapena kukakamizidwa nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi malingaliro opotoka ndi malingaliro otetezeka, athanzi.
Ana omwe adachitidwapo nkhanza nawonso amavutikira kukhazikitsa chikondi, kudalira ubale wawo.
Zotsatira zofananazi zitha kuchitika kwa ana omwe adadziwitsidwa zakugonana panthawi yosayenera, kudzera pazowonera zolaula, makanema odziwika ndi R, komanso mawu onyansa ndi oyipa.
Kuchiritsidwa pazomwe zachitikazi ndikofunikira kukonza njira yoti mukhale ndiubwenzi wathanzi ngati wamkulu.
3. Kugonana
Ubwenzi wathanzi umasokonezedwa ndi chizolowezi chogonana, matenda opita patsogolo omwe amakhala ndi malingaliro okakamiza pakugonana komanso zomwe zimapweteka munthu komanso okondedwa ake.
Zizindikiro zakugonana zitha kubisa zikhalidwe zingapo zokhudzana ndi kugonana: zolaula, maliseche, kugonana pafoni kapena pakompyuta, zogonana, zogonana, zoseweretsa komanso voyeurism. Izi zikhalidwe zakugonana kunja kwa banja zimawononga banja. Chibwenzi chathanzi chimatha kuphunzidwanso ndikusintha machitidwe omwe ali ndi chizolowezi, ngati munthuyo akufuna ndikupeza chithandizo chamankhwala.
4. Kukondana Kwambiri
Chikondi, chikondi, matamando, matamando, kugonana, malingaliro ndi kulumikizana kwauzimu ndi zomwe zimawonetsa kuti munthu ali ndi vuto lodana ndi chakudya. Anorexia wokondana ndi mtundu wamtundu wa chizolowezi chaubwenzi (momwe munthu amafunikira chikondi koma amalowererapo kapena kupanga zibwenzi zosagwirizana), ndipo nthawi zambiri zimalumikizidwa ndi zizolowezi zakugonana. Cholinga chake ndikudzitchinjiriza ndikuwerengera zovuta zomwe zimafunikira kuti apange chibwenzi.
Ndi chizolowezi chogonana, munthu "amachita" zoyipa zogonana. Ndi anorexia wapamtima, munthu "amachitapo kanthu" poletsa kulumikizana ndi mnzake m'njira zosiyanasiyana. Kuletsa mwachangu kukondana kumabweretsa zowawa zazikulu kwa wokondedwa ndi kukhumudwa kwa woledzera. Zimalepheretsa ubalewo kukula ndipo, pamapeto pake, banja limamwalira.
Nthawi zambiri, banja likatha chifukwa cha kusowa chakudya, anthu akunja komanso ana amatha kudabwitsidwa. Chibwenzi cha anorexia nthawi zambiri chimakhala chomwe maanja amabisala.
Kuchita ndi vutoli
Mabanja omwe ali ndi zibwenzi zosavomerezeka si okhawo pamavuto awo. Mabanja ambiri amapirira mavuto ofananawo. Kukula kwakanthawi kosafunikira ndikokwanira, koma kaya ululu wanu ndiwowopsa kapena wofatsa, mukumva kuwawa mtima komabe. Muzu wa zowawa uyenera kuthetsedwa chibwenzi chanu chisanapite patsogolo kukhala malo athanzi, achimwemwe, komanso ochezeka.
Kulankhula pazoyipa zinayi zoyambilira kukhala pachibwenzi kwatsimikiziridwa kuti kumathandizira kuchiritsa kwa banja lililonse pamtundu wosagwirizana - ngati banjali likufuna kusintha. Pa maziko olimbana ndi zibwenzi zosayenera ndi chikhumbo cha banjali kusunga banja ndi banja. Ngati m'modzi kapena awiriwo ataya chiyembekezo, kuchira kumakhala kovuta. Komabe, maanja omwe ali ndi chidwi chaching'ono chofuna kuchira atha kuyamba kuchira. Ndawona maanja akuyamba kulandira chithandizo ali ndi chiyembekezo chochepa kwambiri, komabe akuchita izi, ndikukonzanso banja lawo. Zitha kukuchitikirani, inunso.
Gawo loyamba lakuchira ndilokumana ndi njira zoyipa zamaganizidwe ndi machitidwe, ndikuzisintha ndi njira zabwino. Sakani zofunikira, zotsimikizika zamaganizidwe ophunzitsira monga mabuku, makanema, ndi zokambirana za mabanja.
Kukula ndi kukhazikitsa ubale wathanzi ndiulendo wosintha kwa banja lililonse. Ngakhale ndizovuta komanso zopweteka kwa ambiri, kuli koyenera kuyesetsa kuti mupeze tsogolo lowala, lokonda kwambiri ndikusiya zopotoza, nkhanza ndi mbiri yabodza.