Zamkati
- 1. Lumikizanani nawo tsiku lililonse
- 2. Pezani nthawi yocheza nanu awiri (monga usiku wamasana)
- 3. Kambiranani zoposa zongonena chabe
- 4. Khalani omvera kuchokera pansi pamtima
- 5. Yang'anani wina ndi mnzake kuti akuthandizeni
Ngakhale sizowona zomwe timafuna kukumana nazo, pali nthawi zina pomwe tonse titha kulimbana ndi kulumikizana mbanja. Mukangolowa m'banja mumangodandaula za wina ndi mnzake ndipo moyo umangowoneka wosalira zambiri.
Popeza mwakwatirana kwanthawi yayitali, zochitika pamoyo ndiudindo zimatha kutenga. Zomwe kale zinali kulumikizana kwabwino m'banja zitha kuchitika mosavuta ndikamachita zinthu zambiri, ndikusiya nthawi yocheperana.
Ngati izi zikumveka bwino, dziwani kuti simuli nokha poyesa kumvetsetsa momwe mungasinthire kulankhulana mbanja.
Titha kukhala ndi zolinga zabwino kwambiri ndipo timasowa njira tikayamba kugwira ntchito, ana athu, ndikumangoyendetsa ntchito zapakhomo. Zimatengera kuyesetsa kuti mbali zanu zonse ziwiri zithandizire kulumikizana m'banja lanu.
Zikutanthauza kuti mumadziwanso nthawi yomwe ikayamba kuterera-ndikuti nonse mumayesetsa kuti izi zisachitike. Sizovuta nthawi zonse kuti banja lanu likhale lolumikizana komanso kulumikizana, koma ndichofunika ndipo banja lomwe limalankhulana bwino nthawi zambiri limakhala limodzi.
Chifukwa chake, ngati mukufuna njira zokuthandizani kulumikizana m'banja kapena maupangiri olumikizana bwino m'banja, ndiye kuti mwafika pamalo oyenera.
Kudzera m'nkhaniyi, tikambirana maupangiri olumikizana ndi mabanja zomwe zitha kukhala zofunikira pakupititsa patsogolo kulumikizana ndi okwatirana ndikupititsa patsogolo luso loyankhulana m'banja.
1. Lumikizanani nawo tsiku lililonse
Nthawi zambiri mumapeza kuti mwatopa kumapeto kwa tsiku mutayesetsa kukwaniritsa maudindo anu onse. Pofika nthawi yomwe mumafika kunyumba mumakhala mutatopa kwambiri kotero kuti zomwe mungaganizire ndikungocheza m'malo mwanu komanso ndi malingaliro anu.
Izi sizikusiyani nthawi yochuluka yoti inu ndi mnzanuyo mugwirizanenso kapena kucheza limodzi.
Ngakhale zingawoneke ngati ntchito poyamba, muyenera kupatula mphindi zochepa kuti mulankhulane maso ndi maso. Posachedwa mudzakondadi ndikuyamikira nthawi yapaderayi, chifukwa imakupatsani njira yabwino yolumikizirana.
Chinsinsi chomvetsetsa momwe mungasinthire ckutulutsa mawu muukwati ndikukhala mphindi zochepa ndi wina ndi mnzake, kutali ndi china chilichonse.
Ngakhale kuli koyenera musanagone usiku, onetsetsani kuti mumakambirana wina ndi mnzake za chilichonse ndi chilichonse ndikuwona momwe izi zingathandizire kutsegula zipata ndikuti nonse mulankhulenso.
2. Pezani nthawi yocheza nanu awiri (monga usiku wamasana)
Kukhala ndi nthawi imeneyo tsiku lililonse kumakuthandizani kukumbukira zomwe mumakonda wina ndi mnzake. Izi zimabweretsa kufunikira kokhala ndi nthawi yochulukirapo kwa nonse awiri.
Ngakhale mutangogona usiku umodzi wokha kamodzi pamwezi, pitani apo - izi ndi zomwe zingathandize banja lanu komanso kuti kulumikizana kukhale koyenera.
Kukhala ndi nthawi yotalikirana ndi ana, yopanda maudindo, komanso kuyang'ana kwa inu monga banja kumakupangitsani kukhala olimba. Izi zimakupatsani mwayi wabwino wokambirana bwino ndikulumikizananso, zomwe ndizolumikizana bwino pamapeto pake.
3. Kambiranani zoposa zongonena chabe
Ndikosavuta kutengeka ndikulankhula za kuyeretsa nyumba kapena kunyamula ana tsiku lililonse. Izi zitanthauza kuti kulumikizana kwanu kumangokhudza zaumbanda komanso zocheperako pazokambirana zabwino zomwe zimakupangitsani kulumikizana limodzi.
Onetsetsani kuti mukukambirana pazinthu zomwe mumakonda, zosangalatsa, zosangalatsa, zochitika zaposachedwa, kapena china chilichonse kupatula momwe zingagwiritsire ntchito zomwe zimapangitsa kuti chisangalalo chikhale ndi moyo ndikuwonetsetsa kuti mumakondana polankhulana.
Kupititsa patsogolo kulumikizana m'banja muukwati pamafunika kuti inu ndi mnzanuyo muyesere mitu ndi njira zosiyanasiyana kuti zinthu zisangalatse komanso zisakhale zovuta komanso zopanda pake.
4. Khalani omvera kuchokera pansi pamtima
Chimodzi mwazofunikira njira zokuthandizani kulankhulana ndi mnzanu ndikuyika pambali malingaliro anu ndikutenga gawo loyamba kukhala lotseguka kuti mumvetsere. Kukhala womvera modzichepetsa kumayitananso chizolowezi chimodzimodzi mwa anzanu.
Kuti mukhale womvera wabwino mutha kutsatira izi:
- Chotsani zosokoneza zilizonse, monga mafoni anu kapena ma laputopu.
- Yang'anani pazinthu zopanda mawu, ndi manja.
- Onetsani chidwi, chisoni, kapena kumvera chisoni pakufunika kutero.
- Osasokoneza nthawi zambiri koma mufunseni mafunso.
- Chofunika kwambiri, ganizirani musanalankhule.
Onani vidiyo yosangalatsayi ya katswiri wamaphunziro a Julian Treasure akuyankhula za njira zisanu zabwino kwambiri zomvera bwino:
Nthawi zonse kumbukirani - ngakhale zitakhala zovuta motani koma kukhala ndi chidwi chenicheni ndi mnzanuyo ndiye chisankho chanu.
5. Yang'anani wina ndi mnzake kuti akuthandizeni
Mukufuna kuthandizana ndipo mukufuna kukhala munthu m'modzi yemwe mnzanu angatembenukire kwa iye. Njira yokhayo yofikira kumeneko ndi kudzera kulumikizana kwabwino muukwati, chifukwa chake mungafunikire kuyambiranso tanthauzo la kuthandizana.
Musanathamange kwa mnzanu yemwe ali ndi vuto kapena lingaliro, yesani kutembenuzirana m'malo mwake.
Dziwani kuti banja labwino limadalira kwambiri chikondi ndi kuthandizana, ndipo mukamasukirana motere mumathandizana kulimbikitsa chimodzi mwazinthu zofunika kwambiri kuti mukhale banja lokondana-omwe amathandizana amakhala nthawi zonse !
Banja lililonse limasintha pakapita nthawi ndipo momwemonso momwe awiriwo amalankhulirana muukwati wawo. Kulephera kulumikizana moyenera kumatha kubweretsa, kupsinjika, mikangano, ngakhale kukakamiza banja kuti lithe kusudzulana.
Gwiritsani ntchito malangizo ochokera m'nkhaniyi m'banja lanu, posakhalitsa, kwa kukonza kulankhulana m'banja.