Zamkati
- Kuphunzira zaukwati kuchokera kwa a Gottamans
- Ukwati umafuna kuyesayesa kosasintha
- Sankhani ubale wanu
M'zaka zisanu ndi chimodzi zapitazi ndikupereka chithandizo cha maanja ndawona momwe anthu omwe ndimagwira nawo ntchito amadabwa kuti "chifukwa chiyani ubale wanga ndiwovuta chonchi?" Kukula ndimalingaliro akuti "mosangalala kuyambira kale" palibe amene adatiuzapo kuti ubale umafunikira kugwira ntchito molimbika tsiku lililonse. Palibe amene adada nkhawa kuti aphatikizanso mikangano, zokhumudwitsa, ndewu, misozi, ndi kuwawa.
M'zipembedzo zosiyanasiyana, zimalimbikitsidwa, ndipo nthawi zina kuvomerezedwa kuti muchite maphunziro amodzi kapena angapo musanalandire "chilolezo" chokwatirana. Ku United States, mumalandira chiphaso chokwatirana koma mulibe magawo ovomerezeka aukwati, monga momwe ndikudziwira. Zingatheke bwanji kuti tikakamizike kuphunzira ndikuphunzira mitu yambiri pasukulu, koma sitinaphunzitsidwe momwe tingakhalire bwenzi labwino pakudzipereka kwathu kwamuyaya? Kodi tingakhale okonzekera kudzipereka kumeneku komwe kumaphatikizapo magawo osiyanasiyana ndikusintha kwazaka zambiri? Kodi lero ndingakuphunzitsenji chiyani chokhudza kukhala ndi ubale wabwino ndi wokondedwa wanu?
Kuphunzira zaukwati kuchokera kwa a Gottamans
Gawo la maphunziro omwe ndidalandira anali a Dr. Gottmans (mwamuna ndi mkazi). Zinandipangitsa chidwi kudziwa zakamagawo osiyanasiyana pazomwe adapeza pofufuza ngati zofunika kuti banja liziyenda bwino. Amalankhula zakuti tifunika kukhala ndi tanthauzo limodzi, kukondana komanso kuyamikiridwa ndipo tidziwa momwe tingagwiritsire ntchito mikangano, chidaliro, kudzipereka, ndi zina zochepa. Kuwayang'ana iwo papulatifomu ya masiku atatu kunalinso kuphunzira. Kuwona kusiyana pakati pawo ndi momwe amathandizirana zinali zosangalatsa kwambiri. Ndinaphunzira zambiri za ubale wanga ndi amuna anga nawonso. Ndinamvetsetsa kuti nthawi zina timakangana ndipo zimatha kukhala zazikulu, koma sizitanthauza kuti sitigwirizana. Zimangotanthauza kuti timenya nkhanza chifukwa ndizomwe tidazolowera ndipo tonsefe timatha kuzisiya mosavuta.
Ukwati umafuna kuyesayesa kosasintha
Pamapeto pa tsikulo, zomwe ndikufuna ndikuphunzitseni lero ndikuti ngati mukuganiza kuti muli pachibwenzi zikhala zosavuta - izi zikhala zovuta kwambiri kwa inu. Komabe, ngati muzindikira kuti ubalewo ndi ntchito yolimbikira tsiku ndi tsiku, mudzatha. Zingakupangitseni kuzindikira kuti muyenera kuyesetsa tsiku lililonse kupanga ubale womwe mukufuna, osangotenga ngati mwayi. Zingakupangitseni kukhala ndiudindo woti mudziphunzitse nokha ndikugwira ntchito yodzisintha nokha kuti mukhale munthu wabwino komanso mnzake wabwino.
Mutha kukhala m'modzi mwa omwe sali pabanja koma osangalala m'banja. Kudzera mukugwira ntchito mwakhama komanso kuphunzira, mudzayamikiranso nthawi zomwe munkalira komanso kumenyana kwambiri chifukwa nthawi izi zimakupangitsani kukhala olimba ngati banja. Momwe ndimaziwonera pakadali pano ndikuti bola ndikakhala masiku anga ndikuonetsetsa kuti wokondedwa wanga ali wokondwa komanso amandichitira zomwezo - tonse tikhala achimwemwe. Nthawi zambiri, kudzera muntchito za tsiku ndi tsiku ndi maudindo timangokhala odzikonda ndipo timayang'ana pa zomwe tikufuna muubwenzi, m'malo momvera zomwe mnzathu akusowa. Timalephera kumvera anzathu ndikuwona pomwe akuvutika chifukwa ifenso. Mukawonjezera ana kusakaniza, zimapangitsa kuti zikhale zovuta kwambiri. Pali maudindo ambiri ndi zinthu zoti muchite, kuwonjezera pa moyo wanu wantchito watsiku ndi tsiku kuti ndizosavuta kutayika pakuchita izi.
Sankhani ubale wanu
Upangiri wanga kwa inu ndikuonetsetsa kuti muike patsogolo ubale wanu makamaka zinthu zikawoneka zovuta kwambiri. Muzipeza nthawi yocheza ndi wina ndi mnzake. Pezani mphindi zazing'ono zachimwemwe kuti muwonane wina ndi mnzake ndikukumbutsana momwe mumakondana. Itha kukhala mawu ofulumira a emoji yamtima masana omwe amatha kusintha tsiku la anzanu kwathunthu. Sangalalani ndi nthawi zazing'ono zokumbatirana, kuseka, kusangalala ndi moyo ndi kuvina ngati palibe amene akuwonera. Yendani pagombe, pitani kumalo odyera omwe mumawakonda kapena malo omwe mudapitako tsiku lanu loyamba. Pangani chizolowezi chakuyendera limodzi ndikudzipereka kwa nonse awiri, ngakhale zitakhala kwa mphindi zisanu zokha. Zindikirani kupezeka kwa aliyense, ndipo mverani zisonyezo zakupempha thandizo. Kumbukirani kuti pamene mudasankha kukwatira munthu ameneyo, kapena kupatula moyo wanu kuti mukhale nawo, munali ndi chifukwa chomveka chochitira izi - ndipo musaiwale zimenezo!
Ngati muli pachibwenzi pakadali pano ndipo simukudziwa ngati mukufuna kuchita zina ndikulemba mumtima mwanu - kodi ndingathe kusiya zina zonse pamoyo wanga ndizomwe mnzanga ali nazo? Ndili okonzeka kusiya zina zazing'ono zomwe timamenyana ndikuzindikira kukongola kwa ubale wathu chifukwa chake? Ngati mutha kusiya zinthu zomwe zimakusowetsani mtendere kwa moyo wanu wonse mosangalala ndipo mutha kuthana nazo ngakhale zitakhala zovuta ndizofunikira.