Zamkati
- 1. Gwiritsani ntchito ndodo
- 2. Kufunsana mafunso
- 3. Muziyeseza kuyeselana mawu a wina ndi mnzake
- 4. Zimitsani foni yanu
- 5. Kulemberana kalata
Mavuto olankhulana m'banja amatha kukhalapo ngakhale m'mabanja olimba kwambiri. Kupatula apo, tonsefe ndife anthu, ndipo palibe aliyense wa ife amene amawerenga malingaliro.
Kusamvana, kukhumudwitsidwa, komanso kusowa nawo gawo ndi gawo limodzi la ubale wamunthu, ndipo ukwati ndiosiyana.
Kuthana ndi kulumikizana mbanja zikangotuluka ndi luso lofunikira m banja lanu komanso tsogolo lanu limodzi.
Ndiosavuta kuti mavuto azamalumikizidwe m'banja azikula ndikusandukirana, ndipo omwe akuyamwitsa kwa nthawi yayitali amapweteka.
Mukudziwa mukakumana ndi vuto lolumikizana ndi abale, pamakhala kumangika komanso zinthu zina zosakhutiritsa.
Mwina mukumenya nkhondo kuposa masiku onse, kapena osalankhula kwambiri. Mumangosoweka tanthauzo la wina ndi mnzake. Zopempha zimasowa, kusamvana kumafala, ndipo posakhalitsa, nonse mumakhumudwa.
Mwinanso mungakhale mukuganiza ngati yakwana nthawi yopatukana kapena kusudzulana.
Nthawi zina njira yabwino kwambiri yothetsera vuto lolumikizana m'banja ndikutenga njira yatsopano. Mwinanso mwayesapo malangizo oti “muzilankhulana” kapena “muziyesetsa kuti muone maganizo a mnzanuyo.”
Palibe cholakwika ndi izi - pambuyo pake, kuyankhula ndi kumvetsera ndi njira zoyankhulirana zogwirira ntchito komanso maziko a kulumikizana kwabwino muukwati- koma nthawi zina, zinthu zimafunikira china.
Onerani kanemayu kuti mudziwe njira zitatu zosavuta zosinthira kulumikizana mbanja lanu.
Ngati mukulimbana ndi kusayankhulana m'banja kapena kulumikizana mbanja, yesani chimodzi kapena zingapo mwanjira zisanu zoyankhulirana zosayembekezereka zomwe maanja angathetse mavuto olumikizana m'banja.
1. Gwiritsani ntchito ndodo
Izi zikumveka pang'ono ndipo zitha kukumbutsa zithunzi zovina mozungulira moto wamoto wokhala ndi nthenga mutavala siketi ya boho koma nkupilira nafe kwakanthawi.
Ndodo yolankhulira imatanthauza kuti ndi yekhayo amene wagwira ndodoyo amene angathe kuyankhula. Zachidziwikire, sikuyenera kukhala ndodo yeniyeni, ndipo simuyenera kumenya hippie emporium yapafupi (pokhapokha ngati ndichinthu chanu, choncho).
Sankhani chinthu ndikuvomera kuti aliyense amene wagwira, ndi amene amalankhula, ndipo winayo akumvetsera.
Ndikofunika kuti musatengeke ndikusandutsa ndodo yolankhulira. Nenani chidutswa chanu, kenako mupatseni mwachisangalalo kuti mnzanu akhale ndi mwayi.
Njira ina ya njirayi ingakhale kukhazikitsa nthawi yovomerezana (itha kukhala mphindi 5 kapena 10), ndipo aliyense wa inu apeza mwayi wonena chidutswa chake pomwe wina akumvetsera mwachidwi.
2. Kufunsana mafunso
Kuyankhulana ndikofunikira muubwenzi, ndipo akusankhana mafunso ndi njira yabwino kwambiri yolankhulirana m'banja. Ndikosavuta kuganiza zomwe mnzathu akuganiza ndikukhazikitsa malingaliro athu ndi zisankho zathu.
Koma bwanji ngati angaganizire za chinthu china palimodzi? Bwanji ngati mutaganiza kuti sakutulutsa zinyalala chifukwa anali aulesi pomwe chowonadi ndichakuti anali atatopa? Njira yokhayo yodziwira ndi kuwafunsa.
Khalani pansi ndi mnzanu ndikusinthana kuti mufunsane mafunso ndikumvetsera mayankho. Mutha kufunsa pazinthu zomwe muli nazo, kapena ingofunsani mafunso ena kuti mukhale ndi chizolowezi chomvera.
3. Muziyeseza kuyeselana mawu a wina ndi mnzake
Khalani owona mtima, kodi mudangoyimitsapo mnzanu akamalankhula? Kapena munapezeka kuti mukuyembekezera mwachidwi nthawi yanu yolankhula?
Tonse tapanga mndandanda wazomwe timachita mwachangu pomwe anzathu nthawi zina amalankhula.
Si chinthu choyipa kuchita - zimangowonetsa kuti malingaliro athu ndi otanganidwa ndipo tili ndi zambiri zoti tichite - koma sizothandiza momwe tingalankhulire bwino muubwenzi.
M'malo molola malingaliro anu kuyendayenda, yesani 'Mirroring' ngati a kulankhulana kwaukwati kulumikizana ndi mnzanu.
Pazochitikazi, aliyense wa inu amasinthana kumvera mnzake, kenako pomwe wokamba nkhaniyo akamaliza, womverayo amawonetsera mawu awo.
Mwachitsanzo, ngati mnzanu akufuna kuyankhula za chisamaliro cha ana, mutha kumamvetsera mwatcheru ndikudziyankhanso "Kuchokera pazomwe ndikumvazi, ndikumva kuti mumakhala ngati muli ndiudindo waukulu wosamalira ana, ndipo izi zikukuvutitsani tituluka? ”
Chitani izi mopanda chiweruzo. Ingomverani ndikudziwonetsera. Nonsenu mudzamva kutsimikizika ndikumamvetsetsa bwino za wina ndi mnzake.
4. Zimitsani foni yanu
Mafoni athu ali ponseponse masiku ano kotero kuti kudutsamo kapena kuyankha "ding" lililonse lomwe mumamva limakhala lachiwiri.
Komabe, chizolowezi chathu chogwiritsa ntchito mafoni chimatha kusokoneza maubale athu ndikupangitsa kusayankhulana m'banja.
Ngati nthawi zonse mumakhala pa foni yanu, kapena mumasokoneza zokambirana kuti "mungowona" mukamva zidziwitso, ndizovuta kupezeka kwathunthu ndi mnzanu.
Kusokonezedwa kumakhala njira yamoyo, ndipo izi zimabweretsa mavuto pakulankhulana m'banja.
Yesetsani kuzimitsa mafoni anu kwa nthawi yomwe mwagwirizana, monga ola limodzi usiku uliwonse, kapena Lamlungu lililonse masana.
5. Kulemberana kalata
Mukuganiza momwe mungayankhulirane muubwenzi kapena momwe mungalumikizirane ndi mnzanu?
Nthawi zina zimakhala zovuta kunena zomwe mukufuna kunena, kapena kuyang'ana kwambiri zomwe mnzanuyo akufuna kukuuzani.
Kulemba kalata ndi njira yabwino kwambiri yoganizira malingaliro anu ndi momwe mumamvera, ndipo mutha kulingalira momwe mungafotokozere, motero mumakhala achilungamo komanso owona mtima osakhala ankhanza kapena okwiya.
Kuwerenga kalata kumafunikira kuyika chidwi ndi chidwi ndikukulimbikitsani kumvera zonena za mnzanu. Basi kumbukirani kusunga makalata anu mwaulemu komanso mofatsa - si galimoto yotulutsa zokhumudwitsa.
Mavuto olankhulana m'banja samatanthauza chiwonongeko cha banja, makamaka banja. Yesani njira zosiyanasiyana osati posakhalitsa, muphunzira kulumikizana momveka bwino ndikukambirana nkhani zanu limodzi.